Feedback from New Members

Waking up to email from people praising me, asking to hire me and reserving for Lounge events certainly does start my day with a big ass smile. I do love what I do and it feels so good to know that others can feel my passion and want to be part of it all too.

Hi Jennifer,

We would like to register us both for XXXXX on XX April XX and the Bare All Bowling on May 7th.

We'd also like to schedule a 2 hour private education session with you. The goal is to enhance our relationship & learn some techniques so that we're not complete newbies/virgins at a group event or with a new partner(s). Something about oral sex techniques, sensual play, female masturbation, a bit about group etiquette/negotiating if there's time. Still just a bit shy to attend a "Jack & Jill". Our idea might be a discussion in a private place but we are certainly open to your suggestions as to what works best.


Wanted to send you a heartfelt Thank You. Your discussion during the orientation was so enthusiastic and positive it was a catalyst for both Hanna and I. In the past few days we've had the most open, honest, real communication we've EVER had in almost 11 years of being married.

And Priape - Yes, wow, I went there after work and the guys were fantastic and helpful.

Sincerely

Glen

Scheduling

Privately I seem to be in great demand right now. Change of seasons, people seem to be ready to spark the home fires again. This means, if you want to see me I suggest making contact sooner rather than later, because I am booking weeks out right now. My calendar is almost (but not quite) booked solid through the end of the year now.

Private Sex Class

My car is all gassed up. I have entered my destination into the GPS. Many penis have been sorted by size and are ready for the adventure. My teaching bag is packed with all the goodies necessary to make this event a huge smashing success. Confirmation of my arrival time has already been sent, everything is running smoothly thus far.

I am driving out to Chilliwack to teach a private class for the evening. A night of skill development; hand job and cock sucking practice is soon to happen.

Hopefully the women are ready for me and all that I bring along. They sound like a really fun and enthusiastic group, whom I am most excited to have been hired by.

In the next couple of days I hope to post the November and December calendar on-line. My schedule is jam packed .... so, if you want to be working with me, you'll want to send me an email sooner rather than later to ensure you get me on the date of your choosing. Not only do I fill up extraordinarily fast but my references also kick ass too.

Trust

One of my more affluent clients handed me a check today at the end of our coaching session. It was blank in every line, except where it had been signed.

I raised my eyebrow inquisitively, while looking at her.

With a sly smile she said "you know Jennifer, you could put anything you want on that. In fact, you could take yourself away on a very nice extended holiday".

A sigh escaped my lips as I warmed at the sentiment. It is a powerful feeling to be trusted so very deeply, not just with my clients personal issues, but also with her families bank account.

Orgasms Inducing Labor

Every time I masturbate and pop off an orgasm, within one minute I have a huge contraction. This then sets me up for at least 2-3 more over the next short while.

The orgasms are so intense and necessary for stress reduction, yet they produce anxiety as I really do not want to go into labor until the second of week of November minimum. Especially given all the commitments that are currently before me, having the baby now would be crazy.

So should I give up orgasms and masturbating and throw caution to the wind, or should I keep having O's and praying that they do not induce actual labor? I am uncertain at this point.

This afternoon I saw a coaching client and taught him a class on the G-spot and I even brought in a model for this demo class - it was very well received and went great.

Then this evening was my class for women on Dominance in the bedroom. A great group of women gathered together to learn and become inspired and I am confident our two hours together left them feeling more confident and so desiring a chance to put their newly acquired skills to use.

Then I came home and answered email, before passing out cold. So tired. So weary. So pregnant and sore.

Nothing left to give

My morning started early, to early. I had not slept well at all last night. Once I was out of bed it was a whirlwind of activity as I readied myself for my days work.

In less than hour I had packed my teaching bag, located my class notes and refreshed myself on my coaching clients needs.

Jason drove me to The Lounge and we set the place up for what was to happen over the next seven hours.

My private coaching clients arrived on time, they are a wonderful couple whom I have had the privilege of working with before. Our appointment went smoothly and that was my first of three accomplishments to navigate.

Next was a Couples Only Interactive class, everyone who had reserved arrived promptly. The two hours went fast, with each half of the couple working over the half while I led and instructed. The main room was smoking hot, and I was overjoyed to facilitate such action.

After the couples class ended and everyone had left, there remained just short of thirty minutes for me to clean the place. Things were everywhere and I needed to prep fast for the afternoons Member Orientation class.

As I unlocked the door, the next wave of people arrived. What a lovely group they were. Introducing them to The Lounge and our offerings brought me great joy, despite some contractions that were bothering me and feet that I could feel swelling by the minute.

Jason showed up just before six and met everyone in the class right before they were on their way out the door. We set the place back up for the next scheduled adventure and then he drove us home.

Here I sit naked in the living room, feet up, feeling fatigued beyond comprehension. I'm horny too--what a horrid contrast.

I think what next I need is a meal. It just struck me that I have yet to eat anything today.

My life in a nut shell

Yesterday was such a busy day at home, then I had to go to work. First a private coaching session with a lovely gentleman whom I have known for years, that went rather well. Then Exploratorium our BDSM sampler event, and all the volunteers and attendees to contend with.

Today is even busier. Jason wanted to go berry picking, but I had to decline. I really need to save my energy for this evening as I have two big events going on. So this afternoon was lawn mowing, driveway painting and packing for my evening.

Tonight I have a two hour private class with a dozen women for a bachelorette party; a combo class on cock sucking and how to achieve an orgasm for women. Then drive straight to the Lounge for our Naughty party which will already be well underway.

What a delicate balancing act I play with time and bookings.

By tomorrow I should be wiped right out. And yeah, we have plans for Sunday too. No rest for the wicked.

Pregancy and Sex

This morning I saw my family doctor for the first time as a pregnant woman. The same incredible man has been my GP for about thirteen years now, so it was a little celebration in his office when we talked about this new news. He calculated my due date much to my glee, and notified me that December 11 is the big day.

In the afternoon I spent a couple of hours in a coaching session with a lovely couple. We discussed electricity (E-stim) in sex play and vaginal insertion as a new type of sensation to engage in. Our few hours together just flew on by.

Then tonight I taught a class at The Lounge to a most eager group of attendees. It went really well and connecting with each of them was a real pleasure.

By the time I got home I was exhausted and was so happy to see that the man had made dinner and had some waiting hot for me.

Now to bed, the baby and I are weary beyond belief. And there is a hot man waiting in bed to cuddle me.

Overview of my day

I was up far too late last night. I know better, and should have gone to bed sooner, but I was caught up in email answering and some research work.

As you can imagine, with not enough sleep in me, the morning came much-to-soon. Normally I would have just rolled over and gone back to sleep, but I had coaching clients today. Up I got, and I was none to happy about it.

Thankfully the weather was bright and sunny so my mood leveled out fairly quickly.

I spent a lovely couple of hours discussing negotiating issues with one man along with the ins and outs of savvy dating.

The cupboard at The Lounge is soon to be renovated with new shelving and a lock installed too. This was good enough reason for me to spend forty five minutes cleaning it out. Dildo's, lubricant, massage oils, sound system, CDs, pallet wrap and plastic tarping, some lost and found items, and a few unmentionables even.

Now here I sit at home working avidly on my Calgary and Edmonton Taboo Sex show presentations. Sixteen classes in total, there is so much for me to prepare and stream line before I land on their stage. Two weekends in a row, and I am flying home in-between each work stint. I'll be needing my own bed and my family to ground me a little before heading back out again.

Taking notice

Clients today in Private Coaching, one a repeat and another a fresh face. It's true and worth saying that I believe I learn just as much from my clients as they take from their time with me. My appointments were on time and each brought a smile to my face as I easily handed over what they were seeking in an easy to understand fashion.

I've been going through some huge personal growth the last while and the effort involved has been taxing emotionally. The rewards to it all are what I am most longing for, so I continue to forge on, believing the pay off will be huge in the long run.

Some people can carry a grudge for life and others to their death beds before they let issues go. I don't have it in me to be angry or resentful for very long, I am the sort of character who releases that negative energy into the universe with the mind set that it does not belong with me. Let others rage, I'm better suited to love, empower and educate.

Just to brag, just a little - we have *yet another* Life Time Member for sure, check is in my hand already. There is also a couple who has stated they are mailing in a check for the same. My oh my, The Lounge is growing in so many ways right now, by membership and financial rewards.

Sex Coaching Victoria BC

The next while I will be away on the island. We'll be staying and visiting with family for a long over due visit and much anticipated one too. Thankfully our retreat is quiet and the company loving and fun.

While in Victoria, on Sunday, this Sunday to be exact, I can be found teaching my Cock Sucking & Hand Job class at Kiss & Tell over on Harold Street. You have to purchase your tickets in advance so make sure you do this, like now folks!

$25 person - Advance Tickets Only " 250-380-6995 "

It turns out that I have a FEW limited spots available still to see clients. If you would like to meet while I am in Victoria for a Private Coaching session, then I encourage you to send me an email now, to book your time with me. I'm already have three sessions booked only room for a couple of more.

Tonight is Deviant Dining, and I am eager to sit back with everyone and shoot the shit for awhile. This event is so cool in that the point of dinner is (really aside from eating) to become better acquainted with the other members. And I plan on doing just that.

Wrapped in a towel writing this entry as I ponder what outfit will soon be on me. My preference of course is nude, but this is one event at the Lounge that always has everyone clothed.

RC is off to work leaving me to entertain this evening on my own. A lovely long time friend, is coming to read to everyone, I can't wait to hear her own poetry!

My life is rich, lively, productive, sex-positive and filled with passionate people and opportunities. I am so blessed and thankful to be surrounded by such goodness.

Coaching Time

The last while I have been consistently booked solid when it comes to appointment times. This makes me very happy with a huge feeling of personal accomplishment. And it is a sure sign that my career is booming and on an upward swing too. I enjoy success, though am finding it tedious many of the labor intensive necessities I have to tend to in order to maintain this excellent exposure.

I've seen three clients in the last twenty four hour period and the differences to what brought each person to me is vast. That helping each person find what they needed was relatively easy for me, speaks to how large my experience in sex culture is and how vast my knowledge surrounding sexuality.

It's homework time for me now. This is next where I send my clients a summary of our time together, allowing them to have a base to spring from next.

Finally having my own offices now has changed the face of how I do business and what I can offer to those seeking out my expertise.

Go me!

Sex Coaching in Vancouver

Since I started my Private Coaching practice in 2004, my rates have slowly increased over the years to where they sit today.

When things started, I charged a nominal rate. A very nominal rate.

The rate was set as it was, as no one really was sure what professional sex coaching would look like.

No one else was doing what I was doing. There was no precedent and so I had to create my own base rate.

Sure there were therapists and tantra workers working locally, but no sex coaches.

The accredited professionals in the field, many of whom I know, had little to no knowledge surrounding alternative sex practices and the language necessary to aid others in this journey of discovery. Their rates were exorbitant and what they offered in this niche area was next-to-nothing.

This is where I come in. Bridging that gap. Being that resource for individuals or couples hungering to further their pursuits of pleasure.

My hourly rate has gone up a couple of times over the last four years now.

I have become not only quite sought after, but also remarkably skilled at what I do.

When I started Coaching I only met people for discussion style appointments. However as time went on and my skills became honed to be what others called above proficient and inspiring, it became obvious to those in my life that I should expand upon my offerings.

It took me some time to figure out my boundaries in interactive classes with clients, but I managed to create a workable code of ethics for myself. Once I had this issue settled, I knew I had to set a new rate for this more in depth type of appointment.

I've yet to mention it, but my appointment time with clients, is always set for a minimum of 2 hours at a time. Experience has shown me that little gets completed in an hour, yet in two, we can move mountains together and relax as we figure things out.

$125 an hour for a discussion style appointment - 2 hours minimum = $250
$175 an hour for an interactive class / appointment

It's time for a change. What I am offering and what I can offer my clients is changing fast and greatly.

My offices space is awesome and meets all of my teaching needs. My skills are that in which people leave our time together, already well on there way to starting the journey they once believed was unreachable.

Rate changes are difficult as again I have no one to look to for guidance in this area.

A perk of course of joining Libido Lounge, is that Members get the benefit of making appointments with me at a discounted rate, and for an hour minimum rather than the standard two.

I can no longer count, nor can I even remember how many people who have sought out my services over the years. What makes me feel accomplished is having these same people join Libido Lounge, buy Life Time Memberships, flock to my educational classes and support me with their legal names and letters of thanks, and of course when they return to see me again in coaching or refer friends to me.

My coaching practice is large and I serve a great number of people. Happily. I enjoy so much the chance to share with others and point them in sound directions. Allowing no one to fall between the main - stream cracks.

Being a role model is not something that I am comfortable with, yet it is something that I hear from others regularly about how they see me.

But back to money and ones worth.

Though anyone can send me an email and ask a question, nothing beats a sit down face to face Private Coaching appointment with me.

It will be money well spent, no matter what my new rates become soon.

Carpe diem if you'd like an appointment before my rates increase.

Support

My pursuit is not a lonely one.

There are many supporters surrounding me; from working professionals to students and stay at to home parents. Support and allies abound. My friendship, support and sex-positive message has transformed the lives of countless individuals and couples every week, with the numbers increasing dramatically year-by-year.

Some people walk into my life for a coaching session and 2 hours later, leave our time together feeling as though we will forever share a very unique bond. Not quite a friendship, yet we'll call ourselves friends. Because I will have heard you when no others had quite the same before, all the while giving you the support yearned for, yet had likely not even known yet. So practical and so necessary.


Others leave time spent with me, feeling strong enough to venture forth onto a personal journey now with information gained from our time and I will see them in public settings like fetish nights, dungeon parties and other community events as they "come-out" into local sex-positive culture. We acknowledge knowing one another, yet it likely doesn't even come up ever about them being clients, there is just a sudden level of comfort with one another, that hugging upon seeing one another is just so natural.

Couples come to me, naively believing that only one of them needs me, the other is just there to "make the other one comfortable" as we venture forth on our journey of finding them the answers they are seeking. They leave and the three of us are joined as a unit. I helped the one who everyone thought needed me, but I also helped the relationship and that makes the other partner, ever so pleased. I become an ally and someone these people consider a treasured friend.

Others, already self-identified as kinky who haunt local sex events as there evenings out on the town book me on the Hush-Hush to teach them new skills. Skills usually surrounding Dominance and S/m. These people learn fast. They want in and out. It is very different working with some one who already has there style and interests identified solidly yet who has a yearning to learn proficiency in some new art. I applaud those that arrive to me, saying they want more finesse to there play and those who want to create a scene, not just get someone off.
The difference is critical to a memorable experience.

People write to my email address and reveal to me very personal things about themselves and I pick through the information they've given me and try and figure out what this person needs. It takes time to answer the mail I get from people asking questions of me. Over half of these people will never, ever, show up to a party or even a workshop. Yet I give them my time and best direct these individuals to the resources or support they are in need of. These are the people who flock to me when I'm out at events, and Thank Me, for spending the time to personally answer there emails. I never know who anyone is, or what email they are referring to, the numbers are too vast. But I do know this, with support like I have, if I ran for office, I'd damn well win!

pass me the Advil

At times my fast-paced, sexy, fun and inspiring job is a bloody pain in the neck. Today of course was one of those painful days.

I've worked recently on a short term project and the person I worked alongside, turned out to be a real schmuck. Unethical, deceitful, and rude. For now, I have wiped my hands of them, because I can't be seen working with someone who is so obviously (to me now) not equipped to be doing the job they are. And I refuse to endorse with my presence or name anything this person is a part of. It is apparent that I will need to shortly let others know of the horrid indiscretions made by this weenie. Well, the wheels are in motion already.

T is 13 and almost soon to be 14, she is a fiery lovable young girl woman with a bright promising outlook on life. Today though she was a miserable teenager and as cranky as can be, not with RC though...only with me. aaahhhh!!! She is so like I was in many ways at this same age-range, yet there is an obvious youthfulness about her appropriately that I did not have at her age, at all.

Not often, but now and again it happens. Late this afternoon I had a headache that made my eye balls hurt and my shoulders scrunch up into little balls of angry muscle. Noise hurt, light hurt and moving hurt. Not good considering I had an evening coaching appointment out in Port Coquitlam and needed to be able to drive myself there and make it through the session. Two Advil later and things were looking up. Not healed was the ache, but at least I felt better.

My in-box was painstakingly cleaned out last week and everything was handled, I was up to speed. Now just a few days later and of course I am inundated with responses to my responses and of course the usual flood of mail that I face daily. This behind the scenes work, is often where a large part of my admin. efforts go.

My clients from this evening in PoCo were a wonderful couple who I made an impression on two years ago in a sex ed. class I was teaching on stage at an event in-front of about 500 people and now this evening I had the pleasure of talking with them for two very powerful hours alone, they had my undivided attention as their personal sexuality coach.

There is back log of items pressing for my attention and I'll be damned if I got near any of them today.

Tomorrow is a new day, I'm going to sleep now, to make it happen even quicker. (and to relieve myself of this god awful temple pressure ache)

rest & relaxation

Last night we went to bed together, RC and I. Making love in the dark, me straddled atop him. Exhilarating orgasms, clutching one another to share the explosions. It was really hot, I came...then he came. We fell asleep quietly laying alongside one another in the black of our bedroom. It was 12:30 a.m.

I said good-bye to RC as headed off to work at 6:30 this morning, then I woke T for school a short while later. With T off to school at 7:30 I promptly put myself back to bed. And I went straight to sleep. Imagine the surprise to my sleepy eyes to see the clock read 1:10 as I awoke this afternoon.

We went for BBQ last night as a family dinner out. Going of course here and ordering a monster size platter of food. The Memphis Feast. So after I woke up, I went to the kitchen and microwaved the remains. Bringing ribs, pulled pork, sausage, brisket & bbq sauce back to bed with me along with a roll of paper towel underneath my arm. Naked and in bed surrounded by computer, two phones, and food, I have begun my day.

This day of bed rest & recovery was so needed after the weekend I had, I am feeling much better than yesterday. Tomorrow I am booking myself into a spa for later in the week. There are three personal body treatments that have caught my eye and I am eager to hand myself over for some long over due body pampering to this studio.

Soon though I will need to vacate my bed and start readying for my evening appointment. A client is taking me to dinner in Gastown. How charming.

why I am sought after

This person is drawn to knowing me as a Coach and Educator due to my passionate living as a sex-positive woman. We share a common interest as we are both Girl Guide mothers and have the ability to love both men and women. Often times I end up being a role model for women who have discovered a truth about their sexuality after they have become mothers when they are looking to share their discovery with others. My voice is loud and strong when it comes to female sexual pleasures and it pleases me to no end to inspire others to find what they need.

Dear Jennifer,

I'm interested in knowing you because you are a Girl Guide mother too! - just like me.

And because you are a parent with an alternative sexuality - just like me.

And because you are a hedonistic bohemian - truth, freedom, beauty and love.

And because you are so open and out and dynamic - not just like me.

Background - I think our paths might have crossed at XXXXXXX. My daughter's sperm donor is Patrick Cat. XXX and XXX are my children's aunts. Not that I have spent really anytime in Vancouver in the past decade, I do know part of that crowd.

More background - I came out a baby dyke in the 1970's; still in high school and easily absorbed into the lesbian feminist community and movement of XXX. Met XXXX in '84 (she was only 19) - we fell in love and mated - careers, cars, home and children - son in 85 and daughter in 1989. We broke up in 1995. Very hard but we survived well. I took that crisis to be the opportunity for me to explore my sexuality, my kink, BDSM, and men. And I did so to moderate extremes.

Now, I am partnered with a man. We live happily in a beautiful prosperous home with my 2 children and his children. Privately, very discretely, we seek to actualize ourselves and our relationship as Master and slave. It is kept secret from family and public. I admire how out you are and know how important it is that you are out.

To make a long story only one of medium length - I am a Girl Guide Mom too! So, given that we share this in common and that I have many matters to discuss with you re. sex and parenting - well, that is why I want to meet you.

cut here for privacy and length

XXXXXXX

Spring Break has arrived

With Spring Break officially underway in our home, it's confirmed that we will not live with a house hold schedule this week. Normal life will return next week, when my daughter is back to school and regular life hours will resume.

Locked away in a woman's condo in downtown Vancouver this morning, I spent three very fast moving hours alone with her doing private coaching work. G-Spot stimulation, arousal process, strap-on choices, wax & ice play, sensation seeking, communicating desires, bondage tips, orgasm building, sexual tension and a few other topics were all things we covered. Interactive, engaging, fueled by my clients interests and not my own agenda, she took so much from our time together.

I broke a sweat running through everything in such a short period of time and as I was packing to leave my client spoke of bringing me back again. My job is powerful, the chance to help people transforms their sex lives into something that is fulfilling for themselves gives me a great feeling of accomplishment professionally.

Now I'm home with my teen-ager who is on her Spring Break and I'm finally having a relax after such a busy day thus far. It takes much energy to do sex coaching, the focus is intense and emotions usually run so high. Stopped at Safeway on the way home and grabbed some groceries as RC will be here after work tonight and we've got a family night planned with a roast in the oven to enjoy along with all the fix ins'.

the types of couples I coach

(note: reprinted with full permission & blessing by author, names were of course changed)

Ever wondered who hires me and for what reason/s?

This very attractive couple lives out in Abbotsford, no children, nice home, good neighborhood and has worked with me privately before and we have plans again next week for another four hour private class together.

Hi Jennifer. Frank here, remember me, I hired you in Feb for a Dominance
empowerment private lesson for my wife and her best friend?

Well a couple of months later and I am thinking about hiring you again
for late sept (22nd or23rd) on a friday or sat night for a seminar for
my wife and some of her girlfriends before they go out for a night on
the town. I was thinking about the cocksucking class ( and dang if I do
not write you the strangest emails) again early evening starting at 6 or
7 pm. I am asking you in advance so as to go with what is convenient for
you. so let me know what is good for you.

Secondly I am curious if you would like to do some tutoring/sexpositive
advocacy with my wife and myself. Preferably together, or seperate with
my wife depending on dynamics and comfort level in order to have a
strong dialogue. I know that my wife felt extremely ovewhelmed after her
last session with you You gave her too many options :)

BUT I also know that about a month after she was feeling more
comfortable with it all and I came into the bedroom to find her dressed
ready to impress and she DOMinated and totally (no hiding her arousal)
got off on making me submit. (heh I did not mind at all totally new and
wonderfull experience for me as it showed me that even though I had done
a bit of slap and tickle I had no idea what we where missing out on
cause I was missing the mark as it were.

Betty and I have a nice strong marriage and a very nice sex life, with
heaps of openness when it comes to most all aspects. But I think that
sitting down with you as a couple and having an honest open discussion
with someone who has made a strong and sexpositive impression on both of
us. Would at the very least give us some ideas and to quote you "improve
our game" would be a bonus, cause I think we are playing the game pretty
darn amazingly now.

Anyways after she reads this (not a Bday surprise this time) she can
send it to you. Looking forward to hearing from you either by phone
604-XXX-XXXX or via email at your convenience.

Frank & Betty

client topics

after some much needed sleep (although not enough) I am now awake against my will and readying for my 10:00 appointment Coaching Session this morning. Topics for this client are "how do I enter the swinging lifestyle & attend parties" and "male masturbation techniques". Should make for an interesting morning for me and a rewarding one for my client.

This afternoon belongs to my daughter here at home, where I'll return to spend time with her, and if I'm really lucky, to get a nap in as well. Because you see this evening I have another Coaching Session, this time with a couple. I've been hired to go their home and we're going to discuss "Fantasy Role Play" and "incorporating naughtiness into ones sex life".

All of today's clients have been on the mailing list for awhile, and two of three people have met me previously as well in workshops of mine.

Working with clients privately is a privilege which affords me much. The opportunity to peek and walk around some in others sex lives is powerful & titillating; it feeds me as a sexually curious woman and as a sex-activist who passes on what she learns. It also fills up my knowledge base so I become a better lover and a more compassionate, skilled educator.

Thank you to everyone who puts their trust in me and shares of themselves freely.