Saturday, September 20, 2008

Pierced Nipples

There's way too much going on right now and tonight for me to spend any time writing about it all at length.

I mentioned yesterday in my post that RC and I were taking our good friend Deej, to be pierced for her fortieth birthday. Suffice to say, it happened and all went well. (and I even had my jewelery changed)

Deej, wrote about it all here.

Now I am off to SULTRY, our bath house event, and being joined by a shitload of people. I'm very excited.

Friday, September 19, 2008

Shining Brightly I Am

Time just disappears so fast around me. I mean really. We awoke at 9:30 this morning and were out the door by 10:00. A trip to the bank, post box and then for fruit and veggies, the usual neighborhood run.

Next stop was a shopping trip to restocked the Lounges kitchen basics: pop, water, juice, chips, cookies other staples. Some sewing notions and a few lunch ables for home.

We then went for Pho at our favorite eatery, and had a yummy lunch together RC & I. Then we drove to the Lounge, to drop off all of the shopping and refill the fridge and cupboards.

I came home and promptly had an hour long nap while my man zipped off to an appointment in New West. I awoke, and sliced strawberries for Exploratorium which was tonight.

Then I did an hour of computer work, to answer the emails that were awaiting my time and attention. A very long telephone call to a store that has hooked up with me for a big project we are working on together. We needed to work out details and managed to do so. Still much work left to do, but the rest needs to wait till next week.

Cooked my daughter some dinner and spent some time with her. Then made my way to packing up the gear necessary to fill all the booths at tonight's event.

RC came back home and we did some house chores together. And much to my delight he brought home some seriously gorgeous flowers, all in bright purples. Lillies, and damn do they ever fill the dining room with a heady scent of lusciousness.

We left at 6:15 for Exploratorium, our sampler event for play at the Lounge. Our volunteers were set to arrive at 7 and they all showed up on time. Great friends. The doors opened at 7:30 and people started arriving to the Drop-In event. Our goal is to show everyone a good time, and no one left disappointed. Amazing things happen at the Lounge, and tonight was another great example of this. I'd tell you what all I alone did to people in my booth, but quite frankly its just to damn difficult to put into words, and you'd have to have been there to believe my powers.

RC drove us home and we were in our front door by 11:15 pm and greeted by one bright teenager, happy to see us and exploding with enthusiasm on our arrival.

Now RC has the sewing machine out and is working on a pair of shorts for me at the kitchen table. My daughter and I are in the living room and I'm posting this itinerary of my day.

Should probably got to bed very soon, as early in the morning RC and I have to leave to take our volunteer extraordinaire Deej to get pierced for her big 4oth birthday. What a joy it will be to share in this huge and momentous event with her and to have the privilege of keeping her safe emotionally while it's done.

Oh yes, then tomorrow night is SULTRY, our bath house event and Sunday is Member Orientation. My goodness, no wonder I am so tired. My schedule is exhausting, and of course I can see no break from it in the near future.

Ah well .... I am loved. I am surrounded by good people, a job that pays me well and a future that is as bright as the North Star.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

The Man In My Life

I am in love with the man I live with. Head over heels in love. I mean like, my heart beats madly for him. I can barely keep my hands off of him and my thoughts are of him when we are apart.

My guy is super great, he is hard working, fun loving, generous, kind, uber smart, successful, fair, level headed and of strong character. Did I mention that he is hot, handsome and buff... like nicely cut. He works out with a vengeance.

When RC comes home from his work day, he takes off his shoes, drops his bag, and always makes his way straight-to-ME. Then I get wrapped up in his arms for some cuddle time, this even after we've spoken on the phone multiple times a day. And if you know me at all, you know I am not a phone talker, I dislike the phone, but I do want to hear from my sweetie while he is out of the house for so many hours a day. We spend our days off together and he often accompanies me to my work and classes.

We almost always go to bed at the same time, and then curl up alongside one another. Actually, I start off my sleep almost half on top of him, as his arms hold me tight and I hang on to his manliness. Even once we've fallen asleep and become detached, we still are in constant contact with one another, in some way.

I have angst and a pretty decent amount of it. There are no prescription drugs or booze to manage this, I have my rock and he keeps me level and calm, when I'm unable to do this for myself. Even when I am over come with stress, RC can keep me from becoming unglued. His calming presence and ability to move with my moods is an amazing quality. If for nothing else, he deserves a medal for this.

Our sex is passionate and lively. No one leads, we are equals in the bedroom and in our lives together. He is such a giving lover, even before attending every one of my sex classes. He can find my erotic buttons on any given day and push them, just-right. He gives me pleasure that is enough to satiate my hungers for sexual attention. Ok, he should get a Gold medal for this too.

RC cleans a good house, does dishes, tidies up after himself and our family and makes fantastic meals. Oh yes, can he ever cook well. He does laundry and grocery shops too. He drives me around, when I'm not busy driving myself to and from all of my pursuits. He can sing, and speak a number of different languages with ease. He has a university degree, went to private school and has a kick ass family that loves him and us. He can sew just about anything, and is computer literate, he has an awesome memory and is constantly challenging himself.

He treats me like a queen, and also with such respect. I'm always made to feel important, smart and safe. He buys me news shoes, listens to my ramblings about sex and work, gives me incredible massages, runs my baths with candles, incense and music, opens doors for me and flirts with me constantly. His boyish charms have me wrapped around his little finger.

The man I love, loves my teenage daughter. He cares for her greatly and does more for her than her own father. He guides her and is on her side as often as she is right. He teaches her all that he knows and took to her from the moment they first met. Hell she took to him from the get go to. It is like we've always been together the three of us. Sometimes the two of them are on their own side and I'm left on my own. They support one another, and when necessary confront me on things that need changed or challenged. They do this with such love. Together they have never had an argument or even a disagreement. We've gone on holidays together and have future plans as a family.

RC is my rock. He is solid. He is a good man. RC is the man all parents want their daughters to be with. He is mine. Though I share well, hence polyamory. RC has given me peace of mind and life. RC has shown me love in a way that I had not expected. Our love came as a surprise, I thought he'd run when the reality of my worlds came to him. But no, he embraced all that I am and all that I do. He loves me so so so so so much. More than I can tell you.

My guy loves animals, hence the two birds and a cat we have. He has a green thumb and can somehow keep plants alive and thriving where I would have killed them. He can fix a car, and he can save a life. He can draw, and can be found with a sketch book in his bag. He smokes cigars now and again but hey, I can't fault him for this.

We have plans. Many of you know already, its not a shocker I'm sure, but we're going places. Together we own Libido Lounge. We have plans on a baby soon. And while I'm busy working towards my Masters Degree, he is holding me up and supporting my drive to succeed.

Life has been good to each of us, and even more so since we became a couple and family. I love RC and everyone who knows us knows why. He is such a good man.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

BC Center for Disease Control

What a grand night it was. Eighteen of us gathered round the dinner table for Deviant Dining to dine with one another, and then to listen to our special guest presenter.

Derek came in on behalf of the BCCDC and did a wonderful job of embracing our members questions. His presentation was top notch, and he covered lots of ground on the enormously heady topics of STI's, non monogamy, and safer-sex practices for those involved in sex culture.

It was refreshing to listen to an expert cite accurate sex information as opposed to the misinformation I regularly overhear and read others giving as though they are handing out factual data, when in fact they are not. Derek handled everything with such professionalism due to his being a street nurse of ten years with a plethora of experience.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Diagnostic and Statistic Manual: UPDATED

(National Coalition for Sexual Freedom)

The American Psychiatric Association has formed working committees to revise by 2011 its Diagnostic and Statistic Manual (DSM), the definitive resource on the Diagnostic Criteria for all mental disorders. Statements currently within the DSM Paraphilias criteria include things such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, SM, and others, that are contradicted by scientific evidence (for example, it says that there are 20 male masochists for every female masochist - and*no* female sadists, exhibitionists, etc.!). Therefore NCSF concluded that the interpretation of the Paraphilias criteria has been politically – not scientifically – based. This politically motivated interpretation subjects BDSM practitioners, fetishists and cross-dressers to bias, discrimination and social sanctions without any scientific basis. Thus, NCSF is calling on the American Psychiatric Association to remove or drastically restructure the Paraphilias section in the DSM.

A white paper on the DSM Revision is located here.

To help fight for this, there is a petition that has just been started. It says "We, the undersigned, support the American Psychiatric Association's (APA) own goal of making its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) a scientific document, based on empirical research and devoid of cultural bias. A diagnosis of a mental disorder can have a severe adverse impact on employment opportunities, child custody determinations, an individual's well-being, and other areas of functioning. Therefore we urge the APA to remove all diagnoses that are not based upon peer-reviewed, empirical research, demonstrating distress or dysfunction, from the DSM. The APA specifically should not promote current social norms or values as a basis for clinical judgments."

As you see, it isn't even specifically about being kinky - just about doing what is right. The PETITION. You can sign it and have your name kept anonymous except for verifying that there are no duplicates, and your contact information will not be released irregardless. After all, being kinky isn't crazy!

Monday, September 15, 2008

Debbie Does Dallas

Today I received a long overdue e-mail, which I was longing for. It came with news that was beyond promising. Now, if Wednesday goes well, I will soon to be taking off for a tour of a few provinces across Canada doing what I do best. Educating and entertaining the masses with my sex positive education series. The Libido Events Erotic Arts Curriculum.

On another note, let me me present Debbie Does Dallas, happening this Thursday evening for those of you who are not members of Libido Lounge, as our members will be at Restraining Order.

Sunday, September 14, 2008


A sweet deal for ONE COUPLE. (only valid for people who are *not* members of LL)

WIN a couples ticket to this Saturdays Couples Only event SULTRY - sex, steam & sauna.

It's a hell of a lot of fun and a night that you'll be talking about for months to come.


Send one - three paragraphs telling me how you first found me or Libido Events. Were you in a class of mine, did you attend one of our events, what do you remember from that first meeting?
OR tell me why you and yours wish to attend SULTRY as our guests.

CONTEST CLOSES: Wednesday September 17 9:30 PM
WINNER will be emailed Wednesday, late evening

For everyone else, you can still purchase tickets, by sending in your check to the address below.

September 20th Saturday
7:30pm - 11:30pm

SULTRY Steam, Sauna, Sex - Couples Only

We make a private rental of an Original Style Bath House in Vancouver.

~~~~~ SULTRY ~~~~~

An evening for the playfully adventurous.

Just you, your partner and 24 other couples, locked in for an evening of debauchery.

Fifty people sweltering in the heat of passion.
Fifty people looking sultry in the steam of the sauna.
Fifty people parched with torrid feelings of lust.

Tickets are first come, first served and can be purchased by:

sending a check made out to LL to our PO Box:

Libido Lounge
PO Box 28578
4050 Hastings Street
Burnaby BC
Canada V5C 6J4

Once payment is received, the address and other relevant party info will be sent to you. Be sure and include your email address.

*All inclusive: entrance to the event, finger foods, non alcoholic beverages, lounge room entertainment, play stations, safer-sex supplies

*You and your partner must arrive and leave together

*Social Lounge with TV & refreshments, Play Rooms (with recovery beds & massage tables), Two Large Shower Rooms, Two Large Steam Rooms

*Our own Masseuse for couples massages. (additional charge of $20 for 15 minutes) Sign Up when you arrive.