work & pleasure today

So what if I work both today and tomorrow from 9:30-7pm! Tonight I'm
going to finish work, drive home quickly, shower and step into some
provocative hot little number then get my tired self over to Sin City
for some fun and action!

I plan on dancing and playing up a storm tonight and would love
nothing more than to run into sexy people all night long that I know.
If you see me tonight, stop by for a hello, it would be
great to catch up a little.

Bringing some toys with me in the hopes of finding a willing er um,
victim, or two or three to play with in the dungeon. And maybe
someone in the building will be gifted at massage because I'd like
nothing more than to lay back on the pool table, a coffee
table or across someones lap tonight to be rubbed down by some
sexy person.

Time to get dressed for work - hope everyone has a good Saturday and look
forward to see you this evening at 23 West Cordova for Sin City.
*remembering that a night out like this is only what you make of it*

hugs

Jennifer

the sit down talk continued

This morning as I was driving my daughter to school I was mentally adding to yesterdays list of things that I talk with my partners about, here is the final list of the major items that spring to mind....

I can not be all things to you, nor am I interested in trying to be everything to you. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If I'm going to take a risk or do something big with a casual partner in my life, as someone I love, I will talk with you about it before hand. Honor me with the same courtesy.

When booking play time and dates with others, I will remember our life together as the priority and everything else as a bonus. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If you say Jennifer absolutely not can I accept you playing or sleeping with this person, then after we talk it over and I understand your rational feelings, I will move forward to someone else. There are enough people in this world, that I never need to put you out, in pursuit of my own pleasure. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Personal notes or gifts between myself and those I'm close to will be kept not locked away, but rather tucked away. You're welcome to see them but they will not be in your face. Honor me with the same courtesy.

The lovers pet names used between us when we're together I shall never use with another partner. Honor me with the same courtesy.

I'll never tell you that you do something just like soandso my other partner, even if paid as a compliment. You are unique and will remembered and talked to as such. Honor me with the same courtesy.

That sex toy we bought together for our use, remains ours, no one else will ever touch it unless we've talked about it before hand. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If an emergency comes up for one of your other partners, you as an ethical partner, I understand must help, in whatever way you can. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Knowing that you juggle more than one relationship, a work life, manage a home and a personal life I accept that sometimes my wants may have to go to the back burner for a short time. Honor me with the same courtesy.

I'll never push you to do something sexually with me that you have no interest in exploring. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If something changes in my life circumstances or other relationships that is "big" I will bring it you right away. Honor me with the same courtesy.

I accept that relationships need not be a life time long to be a success, so when ours is over, if ever, it'll be ok and I can be your friend. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Sometimes relationship mistakes just get made or our guidelines forgotten, I understand it's hard in the beginning and even harder sometimes when lust clouds the judgment. When you make a mistake, tell me right away, so I can forgive you and you yourself. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Jennifer
Poly & Proud

the sit down talk

came home from work tonight and had on my mind some of the things I tell to those I'm looking to date or play with or have as poly & life partners. Here is a small sampling...

After being with someone intimately I'll freshen up or shower before seeing you. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When I have a date I'll tell you with whom, general plans and when I'm returning. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When returning from a date, I'll let you know that I'm safe and if anything else happened that you should know about. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

I will do my best to not surprise you with anything from my other relationships. I'll not fall in love with someone and tell you after I've figured it out. Once I know something to be true for myself, in a relationship of mine aside from ours, I'll bring it to the table so you'll never be caught completely off guard by my stuff. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

No one will ever know of our deep private times, I will never sacrifice us and share those times with any other. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Unless I ask to know one of your casual play partners, then I have no interest in knowing them. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

There will be no romantic phone calls to my other partners in front of you during our dedicated time together. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Kissing so big in today's culture and our community, when we're out together, I will not kiss and suck face with anyone other than you, without your consent. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

After a date of mine and there is a mess left behind; the after math of an afternoon of some sex, bondage, play and passion. You are soon to arrive, I'll go full steam putting everything away before you're arrival, because you deserve a fresh start to our time together, not watching me tidy from something or someone else. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

If I do something in public with another, you will be the first to know from my lips what it was, as you will never be left to hear something third hand. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

The hour we agreed to meet at, shall find me there waiting for you on time and prompt. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

If I need something from you emotionally I'll do my best to articulate it to you directly, maturely and away from others. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Should you ever ask me a question, know that honesty will be what drives my answer. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When times are hard, I'm angry or frustrated with us, I may leave the room to catch my breath but I will never walk away and leave you behind. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

In our relationship together, know that whatever I start with you, I vow to finish. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

To keep you safe I'll not share with others the things we do that I know are hard for you. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When you have something to say, I will stop and not simply hear you, but actually stop and listen to you. Honor me with the same courtesy please.


You will be treated with respect and regard in public. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

I will not ask you to marry me. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Whomever loves you, I will keep you safe for and return you to, in good condition. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

good night one and all,

Jennifer
Libido Events

domestic bliss

I've been in a domestic state of bliss this long weekend. Spending precious time alone with my daughter with no agenda and catching up on the zillion of little things that build up and never get dealt with around home.

Sponged the border in my daughters room, hung more photo's down the long hallway, cleaned the porch off, emptied out my car trunk, did laundry, caught up on personal calls and banking, bought groceries and back to school shopped. Cleaned out daughters closet and dresser drawers, made a pot of clam chowder soup from scratch and took some to my neighbor as he'd done me a favor awhile back. Vacuumed the house and cleaned up after the cat that we're looking after right now for kara.

September is In House workshop short for me as I prepare to unveil the Libido Events Vancouver Sexuality Empowerment Conference scheduled October 14-16. My time is so needed to work on the outside classes that I've been contracted to teach for other groups and of course finalizing details for the conference endeavor that between all of that, motherhood and poly partners, I'm done.

After the conference is over I'll resume a regular teaching schedule of In House classes/events. In the short term should you wish to hire me as a personal coach or guide in sex positive culture, please drop me an email as I am available for private work.

The advertiser on the front page of the Libido Events web site has changed, go and have look and then click through to see what wonderful products they offer.

Jennifer

PS. check out the new category on the right side of this page, scroll down a bit till you find "Toys In My Box"