Gender Curious

I'm really sitting on the fence over an issue and quite frankly I do not know which way to go. It's a really tough decision and one not to be taken lately. Further it goes against what I have done in past and I want to feel good about the choice, whatever it is.

When I was pregnant the first time round, I was a young young woman, not very mature at all, though I certainly felt so at the time. I announced to my then partner that we would not seek to find out the gender of our unborn child, because a surprise would be most welcome. We waited and did not know until the birth that we had a daughter. The delight was huge and the occasion so celebratory.

Now here I am pregnant again all these years later, and I am uncertain what to do. It's not that I don't like surprises any more, it is more that I am more mature now.

As a mature adult woman, with some worldly experience, I would like to be able to plan better with this pregnancy. I think. It would be so wonderful to just have to think out the name for one gender or the other. What joy I would find in being able to shop for items appropriate for the baby. We're moving into our own home and the nursery can be painted and set up in either boy or girl fashion.

Today I was in a store meandering through the baby section and was caught up in the choices of wee clothes, it's been forever since I shopped for little people clothing. In my hand I grasped a few different items that struck my fancy and truth be told, I almost bought them but then thought better of it.

I don't know what I should be buying. Really, I think I want to know this time. Is this so wrong?

When the man got home from work this evening I shared with him my woes. He kissed me on the forehead while laughing at me and calling me "cute". He says I'm nesting.

I talked him through my thought process of the day and quite frankly he was no help with coming to a firm decision either way. His words "I'm going to love our baby no matter the gender so does it matter if we find out now or later"?

Are there other freedoms that come from knowing the gender in advance? Are there any draw backs to finding out in advance?

I think I want to know, I just do not know for sure yet.

Princess Diaries

My day has been filled with goodness.

A late morning sleep in with the man, and awaking to a beautiful sun shining day.

Dropped the daughter off at her starting point for her weekend away.

Errands completed with my man at my side.

An afternoon "eye closure". (aka nap)

Fillet Mignon on the bbq. Greek salad. Potatoes with vegetable seasoning and butter.

A newsletter sent out to the Libido Events mailing list.

Great sex and connecting with my man.

A movie on the LCD projector with popcorn, licorice and 7-Up.

Now it's time for bed.

Taking Suggestions

Currently I am writing some new classes and have a couple of ideas for additional ones which are unique and topics not generally taught all that often. This makes me excited to have new selections to make available as part of my curriculum.

I am however still looking for further ideas and topics to be included into my regular repertoire.

Here is a current list of the classes I teach, the list is actually not updated and so a few of my classes are missing. However after looking it over, do you see any holes?

It would please me to no end to receive suggestions from you my dear readers on new subjects that you think I should be offering or could offer that would interest you while meeting your needs.

Write me: jennifer@libidoevents.com


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Tonight was deviant dining and did we ever have a fantastic meal with everyone who came out, great food for sure. More couples than singles this time round, it is always different each time we host this twice monthly event.

The conversation were hot topics for certain: removal of male pubic hair, people who write anonymously on the internet, swingers rules and the evolution of sex culture. We had a riot laughing and sharing stories and perspectives, join us for the next dinner on Wednesday May 20th.

Now we are home and packing more boxes, the big move is fast approaching.

Gratitude for a blog reader

Today has been a day of many highlights.

A blog reader has contacted me with a most gracious offer of generosity, something time saving, stress reducing and utterly necessary. This gift is incredible and it includes delivery.

Here is what has made my day:

• 160 boxes
• 12 rolls of tape
• 2 tape guns
• 2 rolls of labels
• 2 boxes of packing paper
• A bunch of bubble wrap
• 1 roll of shrink wrap (large)
• 1 roll of shrink wrap (small)

Further to make my day so perfect, was great sex this evening with my man, after a most successful class on women's Dominance with an eager group of women.

My life rocks.

And B & G thanks for reading my blog, and for being so cool and open. Your generosity has made my life so much easier right now and I am feeling really blessed.

Not wanting to forget anyone .... Good night Madge.

Dinner Party

Tonight we had thirty four friends over for dinner. Our current place is not big enough to host that many people for a sit down meal, so we invited all to join us at The Lounge. Upon our move to our new house we will be able to easily accommodate everyone we would invite to such an evening.

We had a riot. It was so refreshing to spend time with our friends, at something that was not a play party or an actual work event.

The food was abundant, oh my did I ever eat a lot. The conversations filled every corner of the place. And laughter was everywhere. It was a joyous evening for certain.

Since we have the room to have so many friend over, and it was such a success, we plan on making it something we do every couple of months.

Connecting our friends together, and spending time with them without sex, play and low lighting was memorable. Who would have thought!!??!!

Breast is best

So yeah, we made it back alive from our weekend trip.

I am pretty exhausted.

Our time away was memorable beyond belief.

Let's discuss a more pressing topic.



Being pregnant is sucking the energy right out of me. The last couple of weeks, I have needed a nap every single day, despite sleeping a solid nine hours. Ok, maybe not so solid, as I am awaking every three hours to pee, it is insane.

My breasts are incredibly sore. I mean painful to be honest. My boobs are also increasingly huge. They keep growing and I'm still in my first trimester. Already they are a full cup size larger.

The issues I am facing with this time round I did not face in my early twenties when I was pregnant the first time with my daughter. I have not even mentioned the nausea, it did not hit me till about oh .... a week and a half ago .... and now, my mornings are spent trying to not barf and moving slow so as to not upset my stomach any further. And no! Eating crackers does not help.


Though I have not gained a single pound, my weight has shifted and I am already finding that many of my pants are no longer fitting, or hell, even closing. This is disheartening, as I was hoping to not need to shop for anything new to wear for another 6-8 weeks, this seems not possible at the rate things are progressing.

What has tugged at my heart strings in the last 24 hours:

1. RC on his knees, kissing my belly and professing his love to the baby after I climbed out of the shower
2. my daughter kissing my belly goodnight

I am looking to hear from women who have their nipples pierced, and who have successfully managed to breastfeed with said piercings still in. Drop me a line if this is you.

jennifer@libidoevents.com