Special Treatment 2

On Monday January 17, I made a post about a man writing me, wishing "special treatment". In other words, this man had written me because he was seeking to become a Lounge member, without having to do the mandatory orientation class that everyone has to take.

Then low and behold, , I get yet another email. From another man. This time, this chap writes and says "thank you for writing about me on your blog, I am the man wanting special treatment that you were referencing".

I write this clueless chap back and let him know, that in fact, I was not writing about him. I even checked the mans email address and who I had been writing about, was not this guy. So I let him know this.

Then the man writes me back again (like I have nothing better to do, than to read countless emails from him) and says

"Well, on your post titled "special treatment" you said that a someone wanted to enter the lounge without having to go through orientation, and at the time, I was trying to do that by emailing you back and fourth about that.

I might be mistaken. Perhaps there is another guy."


BINGO.

Dude. You are not a special snowflake and certainly not the only man to write me asking me to make some special considerations, just-for-you.

This happens all the time. And only from men. You are not the first, nor will you be the last.

So follow along. Read my words and get a clue.

Everyone in my world is special. Because everyone enters the exact same way. Through, member orientation.

And you trying to back door the orientation process, makes me not want to know you. Show some respect not just for me but for everyone else who surrounds me who did the footwork to be where they are with the Lounge.

workload

I have been exceptionally busy this past week or so. And as such I want to apologize for my lack of entries here. Soon enough I'll find the time to sit down and really put some thought into posting again -- in the mean time, I am jotting down notes on things I want to remember to write about.

There are a number of big projects that are requiring me to invest in them at this moment, so excuse me while I go take care of business.

The Balancing Act

I am making a valiant effort to accomplish both business items and personal tasks over the next few days. It can be said that I am a wee bit behind on my responsibilities, despite my best efforts to remain on the ball.

Over the next 24 hours, I plan on completing a To-Do list that has about fifty items on it. In between napping and breastfeeding that is.

It is proving to be a challenge to get back to my over achiever routine.  Though it can be done, and it will be done.

The Game of Life

Sunday is supposedly the day of rest. Wish it was true that I feel refreshed after having spent the whole day at home in my robe after a late sleep in and now hours on the sofa.

Alas, it is not the case. I am still exhausted, edema filled and in pain. The medical issues I am currently faced with are rather daunting and personal, yet as you can likely tell are taking their toll on me.

There is much work to complete on my professional website to update it with information on our new facility, event offerings and a ton of other relevant data now that we have moved.

Perhaps this is a good time to get this underway. Or maybe I will delegate the task to a willing volunteer who would happily take this on and get it done promptly for me thus minimizing my stress level. Delegation is not my strong point, I tend to take on too much for me own good, but have been reminded lately by friends and medical professionals that this type of behavior is not serving me, and rather harming me.

Every move takes so much out of me lately, that I have had to plot my actions to ensure I have the energy levels to function doing the bare minimum of what is necessary in life. Getting this baby out of me should help alleviate much of my physical discontent thankfully.

The man is working today, rare for a Sunday. But hey it's overtime and with time off in his not so distant future, he took the opportunity to put in some extra hours. The teenager has been away all weekend doing something super cool and elite, and she is due home shortly. I can't wait to have everyone back so we can catch up together and share a meal.

Head Down and Engaged

It's madness around our house today. I had an appointment to get highlights in my hair at the unheard of hour of nine thirty in the morning. Then by eleven I was at the printers picking up my handouts for Taboo. At twelve thirty, I was over at the seamstress's house packing the oversize genitalia into my vehicle.

At one thirty I was at my Obstetricians, where he told me that the little fellow is now head down and engaged. This means, I am ready to go into labor AT-ANY-TIME-NOW. Dear god this is all happening fast.

Then by two thirty I was back home unloading the Jeeps contents into our foyer, and stuffing a sandwich into myself for some nourishment. Spent an hour on the computer, then went to the bank and the grocery store for a spice I needed for tonight's dinner.

At four thirty I was laid out naked aside from my panties while my registered massage therapist started our forty five minute session of her working out the knots in my pregnant and stressed body.

Home by five forty five, where by I cooked dinner, then had a bath. Then for the last few hours, I have been packing my class teaching bags for tomorrow's two classes and one main stage show.

I lack the skill set necessary to do nothing and find it difficult to even slow down. This is a bad trait and one I wish I did not possess. I'm an over achiever.

Jason's mom arrives tomorrow and will be at Taboo. Her plan is simple: shop, hang out, and take in every thing that I am hosting.

The show does not open till five at night, but we need to arrive early in order to set up. Plus this is when I do so much networking, before the shoppers arrive and when it is only the business owners.

Ch-changes

Yesterday it took eleven people four hours and twenty two minutes to move Libido Lounge from it's original home, to its new home. A fair bit of work but with so many enthusiastic helpers what looked like it could have been a daunting task was for the most part ... easy. Note that I use the word "easy" as a pregnant woman who did not move a single thing, and who basically just directed.

Two years in our first place of business and now a new place to call our own for the next three years. Pretty damn impressive, wait till you check it out for yourself.

The changes are huge....

Ceiling height a few floors high, so just call the height "massive".
Dedicated carpeted office space, separate from the event space completely.
Concrete floors.
Loading bay doors
A lobby/check in area
Fully wheel chair accessible
A kitchen.
Event areas have 2 painted black walls, and another in stone concrete.
Free parking
Close to Sky Train, 1.5 blocks
A mezzanine
Heat and air conditioning
Alarm system
More than double our previous sq. footage

There will be renewals happening and due for many of our members as they first arrive to the new Lounge. Your renewal rate is $25 for 1 year and without making this payment in cash first you will not permitted inside past the lobby. This amount will be due on top off whatever event fee you will be charged for that current dates offering.

Each member will be made to sign a waiver with our new location on it and the current date, this will be valid for one year. There are a few updates to membership information for members to note:

1. there are no in and out privileges at any of our events, for any reason
2. zero tolerance for poor treatment of other members or drama
3. no (flannel) robes or boxer shorts for men at any party
4. no outside food or drinks permitted
5. no personal electronics of any variety
6. no conversations about any illegal activity
7. we reserve the right to refuse membership & guest privileges to anyone at our discretion
8. failure to be appropriately dressed will have you refused entry

Boundaries & the creation of

Without doubt, I am rather skilled at creating boundaries that keep my family life and my personal life drama free.

It is a challenge though for me to create and maintain professional boundaries due to working within such a highly charged environment of uniquely diverse people.

There always seem to be unusual circumstances, or more than meets the eye going on. This in turns means what I would not permit to be around me personally by way of issues, can at times be present at work.

The creation and maintaining of good boundaries is what keeps one safe, sane and enjoying life.

When do you draw the line and create absolutes?

How do you tell someone in a professional context that they are not welcome in your world? Do you explain why?

I want to be fair on the one hand, and I also want to be tolerant. Yet I refuse to feel taken advantage of, or as though someone is attempting to squash me. Business or not, it is my responsibility to ensure I continue enjoying my profession with out resentment towards people or situations. I certainly don't need any one persons business dollars enough to permit them to cross my boundaries.

So advice on the boundaries questions would sure be appreciated.

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A couple from yesterdays orientation wrote about the experience. Check it out.

Sex & BDSM

Any day that starts with waking up in the embrace of the one you love is a good one. After I awoke I rolled quietly out of the bed and tiptoed from the room leaving him sleeping for another two hours. Then I went back to the bedroom and roused him from his deep slumber with kisses and naked body rubbing.

Within a couple of minutes he was awake enough that his morning wood was prevalent and I climbed on board for a ride. We went at it from a few differing angles, maneuvering ourselves for optimum pleasure.

We had a big meeting this afternoon with the powers-that-be in business. It went fairly well, though we have some serious paperwork to tend to now in order to complete this step we are on and be able to move forward with the speed we feel is necessary.

This evening is being spent at home lounging, and counting the contractions that have been plaguing me for most of this day. It seems that today the contractions have been rather overwhelming and even dare I say intense.

I commented to Jason a short while ago, that I wish I knew what was different about today, that has made my contractions so regular. His observation was perhaps the morning sex triggered this. What ever the case, I just pray that he's wrong, as I honestly don't want to think about spending more time again without being close with him like that. Plus the orgasms are oh so necessary to my sanity.

Tomorrow night is Dungeon Players, and there are some spots remaining on the guest list. If you are a Lounge and wish to come out and join us all for the evening, drop me an email and I'll get you reserved.

reservations: jennifer@libidoevents.com

Go, Go, GO

There is plenty on my plate today.

The June calendar planning is making me want to pull my hair out. We move mid month and it's hard to plot and plan events when ones entire home is boxed up being transported from point A to point B.

I have however managed to make two big decisions around Junes events. The first is that we will be offering Speed Dating For Sex Singles for the first time, and the second being that we will be hosting our last Sultry event till the Fall and it's happening on a Saturday!

The rest of the June calendar should be uploaded in the next day or two. Goddess help me.

I must make an attempt at filing some of the paper on my desk or it is going to get lost amongst all the boxes in our half packed home. There is banking that needs done today and a trip for some fruit and veggies would help restock the fridge and make me feel like I'm not slacking on domestic matters.

Later tonight is my Cock Sucking and Hand Job class at The Lounge, that should be a real riot. There is still room left for any members wishing to reserve for it.

Reservations: jennifer@libidoevents.com

Finally, I find myself in need of a little help from my women friends. Though I've managed to lose weight so far now into my pregnancy, my breasts have exploded an entire cup size and my body weight has shifted already so that none of my slacks fit any longer.

I need maternity pants and dresses. Where shall I go for such things and be able to find them attractive and trendy along with a not so hefty price tag? It's not like I'll be wearing them again, as this is my last baby. Please send me some names please of best bets in the GVRD area, with particular attention to Burnaby if possible.

Sexuality Speaker Vancouver

It has been such a busy weekend. Work, work and more work. I've been in bed for hours already with my laptop making headway into the lengthy list of To-Do items that are before me.

Blah.

I spent some time on the phone with my advertising content guru a short while ago and he is working on the completion of some seriously kick ass new pamphlets for The Lounge. We'll be launching this new campaign starting at The Taboo Sex Show next weekend in Abbotsford, where I will be for three days, teaching a bevy of classes.

My in box is at a more manageable level thanks to some dedicated time sorting then replying to many. This task makes my head hurt at the best of times. There is still a lot that needs done but the more pressing emails and queries have been tended to.

My home office is in a decent state after my spending an hour of time filing papers, writing checks, shredding confidential information and uploading the most important stuff to my computer.

Prior to going to bed, I MUST, simply MUST complete a long term professional speakers proposal for a Federal program that has head hunted me. Let me find the strength to do this before my eyes roll back in my head and I find myself lost in a deep exhausted sleep.

Business Survival

The management end of managing our business has grown exponentially, creating copious amounts of work and necessary file keeping.

It's just not about hosting events and teaching classes any more, there is a level of behind the scenes workload that is beyond comprehensible at times. It's costly and it is time consuming.

Keeping up with it all is do-able because we pay people to manage and execute many of the professional tasks that need done regularly. The rest of the items are remembered and tended to because some smart cookie in my life has time-lined everything that I need to do in order for me to care take things in an efficient and timely manner.

WCB is short for Workers Compensation Board and is where we pay into WorkSafeBC for our employees.

GST is now something that we file, because we now make XXX number of dollars and it thus has become mandatory.

This is an up-to-date list of all the support we require to make what we do happen for Libido Events, Libido Lounge, and those that come to us with a need surrounding sex-positive culture.

1. Corporate Income Tax
2. Web Design
3. Accounts Payable
4. General Accounting
5. Legal Assistance
6. Jennifer's Ghost Assistant
   
7. Laundry Services
8. Food Services
9. Shopping (office, kitchen & facility)
10. Event Management & Planning
11. Cleaners
12. Maintenance
13. Guest Educators
14. Volunteer Coordinator
15. Conference Planner
16. Ask Me Anything (will do most anything not covered elsewhere)
    

Sex Educator Vancouver

The business woman's luncheon was just awesome yesterday. Suffice to say the woman who invited me conveniently forgot to mention that guests have to stand before the entire group and introduce themselves by full name and occupation. I learned this ten minutes before the intro's were started.

There were at least eighty, perhaps ninety woman there, and maybe a dozen of us were guests. I was the eleventh person standing to introduce myself.

Hello ladies, my name is Jennifer Skrukwa and I am a Professional Sex Educator.

Some clapped, there was a low whistle, smiles spread across their faces and many were nodding happily. Within minutes we were networking with tables of eight women. It did not take long for them to come for me. No joke. They had so many questions about what I teach, who I am and how I move in the world. It was immensely gratifying and a huge relief to have their approval. I had passed the first hurdle as I saw it.

By the time the second networking session broke out, there was a number of women I needed to get to, and spend a few minutes with. I loved it, and the woman who brought me, was so right. I do belong with those women, they are my people. Professionals, women, responsible, successful and mature. I brought a large stack of business cards and handed out every last one of them.

We ate like Queens, the food was scrumptious, as it was a massive buffet. I was asked to do a presentation for them in early 2009, and I am so eager to do this. How very encouraging. I was called an eloquent speaker, told I was bold and progressive and a number of "older" women shared with me that their group needed my energy and knowledge.

I am very happy to report that as of next month, I become a full member and shall continue on my merry path of networking and educating.

Imagine my surprise to know two other women there. One from an interactive class I taught a short while ago, and another whom I have known for a decade. Our crossing paths was amusing to say the least.

I walked out of the building with a woman who called my name, then told me that she believed touch is so very important to our happiness and survival. I agreed. She asked if she could hug me, and I said of course.

It was a wonderful experience and I am so glad that I stepped outside of my box, and again am expanding my personal community of friends, allies and supporters.

The women that I met I am eager to know better, they were all so very interesting.

Women On Top

Sad news indeed. Beauty and activist Bettie Page died yesterday. I found this statement regarding her passing, on the home page of her website...

With deep personal sadness I must announce that my dear friend and client Bettie Page passed away at 6:41pm PST this evening (Dec. 11 2008) in a Los Angeles hospital. She died peacefully but had never regained consciousness after suffering a heart attack nine days ago.

She captured the imagination of a generation of men and women with her free spirit and unabashed sensuality. She is the embodiment of beauty.

Statement by Mark Roesler, business agent for Bettie Page

Dec. 12 (Bloomberg) -- Bettie Page, the 1950s pinup girl whose natural looks and risque fetish poses triggered a cult following four decades after she turned her back on modeling. The life of Bettie Page.

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I am restless, everyone here at home is sound asleep. I find myself unable to shut down enough to get rest, and so I write.

Later this morning and into the afternoon I am lunching with a prominent group of individuals. A business woman's networking luncheon that I am about to become a member of. Kind of sexy in theory. Kind of tummy tossing in truth. I have three differing outfits chosen and dependent on the weather, I will choose the most suitable. A large group of women who own their own businesses and are successes in their chosen fields of expertise - fitting that I join them, yes.

Life has taken so many unforeseen turns these last couple of years. I have matured and learned so much, no longer the practical life skills of coasting by, now I am on the climb to mastery of business entrepreneurship. Constantly a student and always open to meeting new opportunities head on, my efforts have challenged myself constantly and though I struggle, I always, eventually come out on top.

I need to remember to reward myself for a job well done and time invested to arrive here. I work hard, and lately have overlooked how much it takes a toll on my soul, my family and my friends. Rewards are good, because when I am happy and looked after, I have more energy to invest in myself, my family and friends. This is a huge lesson and one I should remember to act on with more regularity.

SALE: Memberships & Gift Certificates

Tis The Season for gift giving and with this in mind Libido Lounge and Libido Events have a few special opportunities for you to take advantage of to make your gift giving easier. These are time limited offers. We are proud to be able offer you such a great deal and savings to celebrate the holidays and want you to join all the others with the elite status, of Life Time Membership.

Any person currently holding an annual membership to Libido Lounge can upgrade it to a Life Time Membership for only $1350.00 This is a savings of $150.00 and certainly worth considering. With a Life Time Membership you may attend any future Libido Lounge party or social event for only $5 for life.

A Couples Life Time Membership is currently $3000.00 and we are also having a special deal on these, making them only $2600.00. With a Couples Life Time Membership you may attend any future Libido Lounge party, social event for only $10 per couple for life. (or $5 per
person)

Any person not holding a membership yet to Libido Lounge, may still buy the Life Time Membership/s at these special rates, though your membership will not become active until you complete the mandatory member orientation class. (you'll need to pay the $40 membership fee - this is a one time fee attached to the class)

Members and non members alike, if you have been considering private sex coaching work with Jennifer, we have had some beautiful gift certificates made up in time for the Christmas season. Excellent as stocking stuffers indeed or a treat for yourself for the long sought after appointment you've been lusting after. The gift certificates are in denominations of $100, $125, $200, $250 and $300 each.

These special rates and offerings are available until December 31 2008, after which Life Time Memberships will no longer be sold.

Starting in 2009, with the "stop sale" of Life Time Memberships, we will then start selling All Inclusive 1 year Memberships at the rate of $700.00 per person, or $1300.00 per couple. Gift certificates have a 2 year expiry date on them.

Upon sending in your payment for either Life Time Membership you will receive a lovely envelope detailing your purchase, and of course, suitable for gift giving. Your gift certificate comes in a Christmas envelope all ready for you to use yourself or to hand to that special
someone in your life whose been wanting or needing some sex positive education or support.

Checks for Private Coaching work are made out to: Jennifer Skrukwa

Checks for Life Time Memberships are made out to: LL
Our mailing address is:

PO Box 28578 4050 Hastings Street Burnaby, BC V5C 6J4, Canada

*Be sure to include your mailing address and to whom you would like the certificates addressed.

Happy Holiday Season to each of you. Know that we adore counting you among our friends, and we look forward to continuing to serve you as BC's Sex Positive Resource. You are... a valuable part of our sex positive community and for that we are grateful.

Anal Intrusion

A few things that have gotten me rather excited in the last couple of days, let me share with you...

This bit of news about a new vaccine is very promising and looong overdue. Hooray for pioneers working towards the common goal of a therapeutic vaccine to inhibit the spread of HIV. Finally.

The *new* member forums are just-about-complete and will open the beginning of January on the Libido Lounge website. A place for our members to chat with one another privately, post photos, stories and personal ads. Forums where no bias exists, tolerance is the order of the day and inclusiveness is mandatory. Forums that are well moderated, yet giving our members free reign to be themselves and pursue further knowledge and play opportunities amongst themselves.

We are now at 515 Lounge Members as of last nights orientation. An excellent number, and one that I am really damn proud of.

Our final ever sale of Life Time Memberships terminates at months end, and a number of people have stepped up to take advantage of this great offer. $1350 = events for life. (only a $5 charge per event exists for kitchen & laundry) My last couple of deposits to the bank have tickled my fancy beyond belief, we are heading in a wonderful direction and one that makes me not only proud, but our members as well.

Our family Christmas plans have all been sorted out and I have let go of any guilt associated with this festive season. I can only be in so many places at once, and due to this small, very real fact, we will be enjoying three different Christmases each in differing weeks. I am super excited about being home for a change and not on the road, it is an awesome feeling to know that we all won't be frazzled silly this year seeing everyone at once. Travel plans have been made and booked and the turkey is in the freezer. We are so ahead of the game this year.

And finally, what next makes me happy lately. I've had the chance this last while to really settle into my partnered relationship with RC my love, and my role as an experienced educator. Each of these gives me immense pride. I feel strong with my man, and as though we can conquer anything. We communicate so well together and it's hugely comforting to feel so safe and loved. My job affords me great friends, hours of my choosing, travel benefits, a business that is thriving, opportunities to interact and know amazing people and a paycheck that is more than I ever could have hoped for as an activist. I have created my own success and am able to enjoy it with my partner, daughter, friends and volunteers. It is liberating to have done this for myself.

Once this Sundays Exploratorium event is over, I am almost done work until New Years eve, only a couple of events left.

Kinky Pleasure

A long hot bath with bubbles in the middle of the afternoon today was justified today. I've spent thus far, five hours awake in bed, with computer on my lap and the phone next to me as I set about tending to business.

I'm involved in a bondage fetish photo shoot next week and having been lining up other models, themes and clothing. The work going in to this is a lot and I'm confident that the final outcome will be sure awesomeness.

Sunday is Exploratorium, our BDSM sampler event and working out the schedule has been relatively easy to do this time round. We've hosted the event enough times now that pulling it together is rather straight forward, thankfully.


RC's mom emailed yesterday. She reads my blog, for those of you not in the know. A brave woman indeed.

*** Hi Mom good to know you keep up with us both. ***

Anyways, her email was of a matter relating to Christmas, and then she dropped the bomb. She had (obviously) read the post the other day about RC's new PA piercing and how that all had gone down. She was a-tad-bit-concerned about his penis, and perhaps his sanity. So Mom, know that he's in great physical and emotional health and his penis though not healed yet, is most certainly happily on the mend.

With little effort on my behalf, I nailed down some major sponsorship for an upcoming project today. This is a major milestone for me, career wise. I am now working at a level that I have aspired to for so many long hard laborious years. The road now has become so much clearer, easier to navigate and rewarding. I work alongside, for and with incredible people and entities, it really is a privilege.

Dungeon Players Tonight

EDIT: RC just returned from the Post Box. We received a check for another Life Time Membership from a woman treating herself to an early Christmas present. Hot Damn am I ever pleased with The Lounge and our efforts right now. Two Life Time Memberships sold in 48 hours, the business plan is working!

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Want to come to our Dungeon Players Party tonight? Well you can as there are still spots on the guest list.

For some reason, we have more women at this event, then men.

We have a piercer on site tonight, piercing members, four of us = two men getting their nipples pierced and two women getting their clitoral hoods pierced. (I am one of the women) The party has bondage, sex, BDSM and social time. It will be much oodles of fun.

Send me an email to be included on the guest list ..... jennifer@libidoevents.com

I am readying now for a long hot bath and then some clam chowder soup.

See many of you this evening!

Promoter & Agent

I first met Jack Rinella about six years ago as we travel in some similar circles. Sex Activism & Education, the International BDSM community, and as Public Speakers.

A few years I spent some serious time with him discussing how to transform his image as a speaker to make himself more sought after professionally speaking to the general public. My voice, opinions and suggestions resonated with him deeply.

Jack first tried to "hire me" to assist him in his development about three ago. He certainly wouldn't be the first author in sex culture to come to me for such services. I was flattered greatly by his offer, but sadly unable to take him on as a contract for a variety of reasons.

We remained friends and continued to cross paths at large events where by he would ask me casually now and again if I had changed my mind, and was finally willing to be his promoter and agent. Nothing changed, I could not help him, though of course I always wished the best for him and the direction of his career.

Now for the last two days, Jack has been here with us in Vancouver teaching for Libido Events and Libido Lounge. It's been wonderful to have him on Canadian soil and in my home as our time together has before been only in the US.

Since the man arrived to me, he has asked me FOUR times to reconsider his offer. He's not joking! He wants me and what I have to offer. Jack Rinella wants me as his agent. He's seen my desk, my office, Libido Lounge, and the new website. He's met the people in my world and listened as my phone has rung non stop with work offerings. He wants me and what I can potentially do for him in the same way I've created this all for myself. I *think* I make it look easy.

It's a good feeling to be desired professionally and to have someone want you to represent them. It's a wonderful feeling to be asked to critique a person you hold in high regard and someone who was around when I first started my journey, the man has fourteen kinky years on me, yet he wants my opinions and help.

I felt bad turning him down again. I really do feel bad having to say no. It's not that I am not interested in sharing my success, it is that there is no way he could possibly pay me enough money to do what I do so well for for myself, for him.

I've freely given him much already and we have some plans on a a few future projects together but this is all that I can offer him, just brief advice at this point in my life.

With a teenager at home that needs me, two life partners to love, a home to keep up, Libido Lounge to run, a traveling and teaching schedule to maintain, a baby on the way ASAP, constantly developing new content for my projects, pondering a book written by me, being my own agent and getting a Masters Degree I can see NO POSSIBLE way to be there for any one else's journey.

You couldn't pay me enough dough and quite frankly I just can't spread myself any thinner. As it stands, most of my friends never see me, only get me in email and when I take a vacation I come home to a back log of emails that is severe and has me buried for days on end, before I can even resume my normal work schedule.

But I'll say it again. I'm flattered and tickled too, that Jack Rinella wants me and my professional skills. I feel good about this, it's a serious a pat on the back from someone I admire who also admires me and the work it has taken me to achieve this level of success.

I'd love to work with Jack on a deeper level with a contract and the pay that would come with it but I'll make do with knowing that I'm sought-after.

over the weekend

My weekend has been jam packed with productivity. The chance to complete this much only happens every short while. Thankfully I took advantage of the time and resources available to me and made use of them extensively.

A full day was spent on Saturday organizing the rest of the July and August Libido Lounge, and Libido Events. All the volunteers were secured and new dates were added to the planning schedule. With the house to my self I motored along stark naked working for about nine and a half hours with out a break.

Saturday night RC and I went out on a date, and though it ended early it was so nice to be out with him. Sunday was a sleep in day for me, and much needed too! I spent yesterday in bed again and doing yet another six hours of computer work.


We had some pictures taken of us over the weekend, but I'm too lazy right now to upload them here. I promise to download them soon, as they are so cute .... our teenager took the photo of us as we were heading out on Saturday evening to an adult event.

I am so loved by many people. Recognizing this has been hard for me. My presence and activism has had such an impact on so many others and on local sex culture and for me the reality of this is challenging. My drop in the bucket, is actually gallons upon gallons.

Happily I sleep at night as someone content with who and what I have become and with where I come from.

Off to bed I go. I suspect that if I lay out in bed with the lights on low, that RC may just come along and give me a full body rub down.

My life is charming!

lozenge anyone?

It hurts to swallow my own saliva, giving head is sadly not happening today. My throat is still store, yet I am not full-blown ill, just under-the-weather.

A couple of days ago I asked a bunch of local kinky folk on a message forum to give me some help. Here is what I wrote to them

I need to rename two of my classes due to a very strict bylaw driven rule surrounding adult materials. And the city in question can not use these two titles in there cities papers or even in their own store windows for advertising purposes.

Cock Sucking: the Hand Job, Blow Job class
Pussy Licking Good

What are some suggested new names given the criteria below?

The titles may NOT list any body part by name directly.

Be very subtle.

And together, we came up with these two new class titles for when I have a more conservative audience.

ORAL: on him
ORAL: on her

I'm really happy with these two new titles and am most grateful for there help with this. Because, being subtle is so not my forte.