Are you currently involved in a polyamorous relationship? Would you be interested in a survey about your relationships?
The goal of this research is to increase our understanding of relationships with multiple partners. The online survey will take about 20 minutes to complete. This study has been approved by the Simon Fraser University Department of Research Ethics.
This survey is anonymous and you will not be asked any identifying information. You must be 19 years or older to participate.
To participate, go to: https://cgi.sfu.ca/~couples/cgi-bin/rws5.cgi?FORM=polysurvey.
Participation will be open until February 21st, 2012.
Please feel free to forward the link to your friends in polyamorous relationships!
Thank you so much!
Melissa Mitchell
Department of Psychology
Simon Fraser University
Jennifer ... Vancouver's Sex Educator, Sexuality Coach and Activist. The content of this blog is not suited for those under the age of 18. What you'll find here is a written account of my personal journey in sex positive culture both personally and professionally.
Showing posts with label Poly. Show all posts
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Thursday, February 02, 2012
Polyamory Study Needs Your Input
I met the young woman doing her thesis awhile ago and strongly encourage all poly people to take a few minutes out of your day to make a difference and to really be heard in this study.
Friday, April 09, 2010
Ethical Non Monogamy Rules
After receiving a nice request from a lovely couple recently to share with them my rules for practicing ethical non monogamy I decided to re post here what I had written.
Before reading our rules for what makes our relationship work, know that we have created these rules to compliment us as a couple and to keep us safe based on knowing ourselves well and plenty of deep honest discussions. The rules are agreed upon by each of us, together we have come up with the frame work needed to allow us the freedom to explore others sexually.
Our rules are subject to change and have shifted over the years. Currently they are .....
Before reading our rules for what makes our relationship work, know that we have created these rules to compliment us as a couple and to keep us safe based on knowing ourselves well and plenty of deep honest discussions. The rules are agreed upon by each of us, together we have come up with the frame work needed to allow us the freedom to explore others sexually.
Our rules are subject to change and have shifted over the years. Currently they are .....
- No surprises. No telling the other something after the fact. Everything is straight up from the get go. (the only surprises we like are gifts)
- No bringing anyone home for play. This is our nest, it belongs to our family and not outside relationships.
- No discussing details about our children.
- Practice safer sex at all times, no exceptions.
- Time with others happens only when our relationship has had it's needs met first.
- No missing important home events for a date.
- We do not need to meet the person our partner is dating / having sex if we don't want to.
- Emotional availability to outside play partners is slim at best.
- Having sex with someone is different than being polyamorous with them.
- No involvement with drama queens / kings.
- No dating someone who likes to talk about their conquests publicly.
- If we ask to know something about one anothers dates, the information will be made available without debate.
- Details on what one does with others is not necessarily always wanted - ask before you share.
- Before telling someone (whom your dating) that you love them, you must first come home and tell your partner. (see rule #1, no surprises)
Monday, June 22, 2009
Polyamory
This was written by my long time friend and fellow sex educator and kinkster Jack Rinella on Polyamory. Enjoy the read, I know I did.
for Issue number 24
Monday, June 08, 2009
For Brian, Since He Asked
By Jack Rinella
Brian and I have had a few predictable bumps in our relationship recently over “extracurricular activities.” As anyone can see, sooner or later the fact of a polyamorous relationship runs smack into the cultural norm for monogamy. Polyamorous behavior has to be learned, often by experience. Before I go on, let me make it clear that bumps aren’t the end of anything, only an opportunity to learn and to grow.
If you haven’t figured it out by now, let me make it clear that monogamy, for all its difficulties, is a lot easier to live than polyamory. There is nothing easy about juggling two or more sexual relationships at the same time. The fantasy of multiple partners is very difficult to translate into real life relationships. That said here are the experience-taught-me suggestions for helping polyamory to succeed.
No Surprises. I’ve learned that the only time a person likes a surprise is on their birthday and, even then, some people hate surprise birthday parties. Each of us has hopes, plans, and viewpoints based on what we think is the reality of the situation. To suddenly find that there is a different reality, plunges all of that into turmoil. Therefore avoid surprises by following the next suggestion.
Say it sooner rather than later. Get all the negatives out of the way immediately. Whenever I first encounter a prospective play partner, I tell them the caveats in my life. These include that I have a lover, a slave, a busy schedule, that I am 62 years old, and that I cruise looking for more long-term partners who are seeking inclusion into a leather family. If that doesn’t dissuade them from the get-go, then we have a chance of meeting.
That’s not to say that I don’t trick with people who don’t desire what I want. It’s just that I make certain they understand what I want so there is no confusion about my long range desires.
Be brutally honest. Sugar-coating facts or side-stepping issues makes for danger down the road. Make clear that no is “No.” Distinguish clearly what is negotiable and what is not. Admit to your agenda and stick to it. Compromising on what you must have in the hopes of getting it later isn’t going to work and only sets you both up for failure.
Blend actions with words. Not only do I tell people what they need to know, I show them. When a new trick comes to the house, for instance, I introduce them to Patrick as we walk downstairs to the dungeon. At other times I might give someone Brian’s handle so the prospect can look him up on a cruise site or I remind them that I’m not available on weekends because “Those nights are reserved for my lover.”
If a relationship begins to move from tricking to something more serious (and anything more than tricking twice falls into that category) then it becomes necessary to include the new person in at least some of the social life of the family. Relationships are, after all, more than just sex and to think that one can have sex without the other aspects of a human relationship means that something is going to be out of balance.
Tell them as much as they want or need to know, without shame or guilt. Too often we are afraid of hurting someone, turning them off, or confusing them with certain facts so we aren’t as forth-coming as we might need to be. Delaying the truth only delays the catastrophe. Postponing the truth with a little white lie, or just as dangerously hiding the truth by not mentioning it, only extends the falsity into a bigger and bigger lie.
Are you ready for it? Are they ready for it? Honesty is more than truth-telling to another person. It is being honest with oneself and accepting one’s own limitations. Not being able to “trick” on a Saturday night is a limit, but one that I can live with because I both love and enjoy Brian and my time with him. It is therefore necessary to accept this limit, though honestly my time with Brian makes it seem like no limit at all. Likewise by being honest up front (no surprises) then I can know that my prospective is ready as well.
Is there agreement or acquiescence? One of the more persistent difficulties in negotiating and living in a relationship is that we often agree to something while harboring hidden motives. In this case, we might agree to something with the unspoken (secret) hope that things will change and we will eventually get what we want. That is what happened when I agreed to a monogamous relationship with Steven nearly 25 years ago. I did so expecting that it would eventually become an open relationship. I was wrong.
At other times we acquiesce by doing something we’d rather not do, in order to get something that we really want. We err by thinking that we can live without what we want and then find out we can’t. This is often the case of not being authentic to ourselves. The idea that “half a loaf is better than none” may be valid but it could be the case that half a loaf will never be enough. On the other hand, no loaf now opens us up to the preferred possibility that the whole loaf will come to us in due time.
What is the pecking order? What are the rules? It’s important that we be clear on how things work in a polyamorous relationship. Prospective partners have a right to know what my priorities are, how decisions are made, and what kind of expectations I have for them. So I make it clear that they will get their turn with me and the intimacy they desire, but that others have the same kind of claim on me. They’ll know early on that loving me demands friendship with the other members of my family and that sex may or may not be part of the equation. Yes, the other members of my family are included in the decision-making process as well.
Remember that “What you have is worth more than what you’re going to get.” If that idea doesn’t seem right to you, then you had better think twice and have a serious discussion about your present relationship with your partner(s). After all, if the bird in the hand isn’t worth more than the two in the bush, then something is terribly wrong and polyamory isn’t going to solve the problem.
Have a great week. You can leave me email at mrjackr@leathermail.com or visit my website at Leather Views where you can subscribe to this column and receive it weekly. Copyright 2009 by Jack Rinella, all rights reserved.
for Issue number 24
Monday, June 08, 2009
For Brian, Since He Asked
By Jack Rinella
Brian and I have had a few predictable bumps in our relationship recently over “extracurricular activities.” As anyone can see, sooner or later the fact of a polyamorous relationship runs smack into the cultural norm for monogamy. Polyamorous behavior has to be learned, often by experience. Before I go on, let me make it clear that bumps aren’t the end of anything, only an opportunity to learn and to grow.
If you haven’t figured it out by now, let me make it clear that monogamy, for all its difficulties, is a lot easier to live than polyamory. There is nothing easy about juggling two or more sexual relationships at the same time. The fantasy of multiple partners is very difficult to translate into real life relationships. That said here are the experience-taught-me suggestions for helping polyamory to succeed.
No Surprises. I’ve learned that the only time a person likes a surprise is on their birthday and, even then, some people hate surprise birthday parties. Each of us has hopes, plans, and viewpoints based on what we think is the reality of the situation. To suddenly find that there is a different reality, plunges all of that into turmoil. Therefore avoid surprises by following the next suggestion.
Say it sooner rather than later. Get all the negatives out of the way immediately. Whenever I first encounter a prospective play partner, I tell them the caveats in my life. These include that I have a lover, a slave, a busy schedule, that I am 62 years old, and that I cruise looking for more long-term partners who are seeking inclusion into a leather family. If that doesn’t dissuade them from the get-go, then we have a chance of meeting.
That’s not to say that I don’t trick with people who don’t desire what I want. It’s just that I make certain they understand what I want so there is no confusion about my long range desires.
Be brutally honest. Sugar-coating facts or side-stepping issues makes for danger down the road. Make clear that no is “No.” Distinguish clearly what is negotiable and what is not. Admit to your agenda and stick to it. Compromising on what you must have in the hopes of getting it later isn’t going to work and only sets you both up for failure.
Blend actions with words. Not only do I tell people what they need to know, I show them. When a new trick comes to the house, for instance, I introduce them to Patrick as we walk downstairs to the dungeon. At other times I might give someone Brian’s handle so the prospect can look him up on a cruise site or I remind them that I’m not available on weekends because “Those nights are reserved for my lover.”
If a relationship begins to move from tricking to something more serious (and anything more than tricking twice falls into that category) then it becomes necessary to include the new person in at least some of the social life of the family. Relationships are, after all, more than just sex and to think that one can have sex without the other aspects of a human relationship means that something is going to be out of balance.
Tell them as much as they want or need to know, without shame or guilt. Too often we are afraid of hurting someone, turning them off, or confusing them with certain facts so we aren’t as forth-coming as we might need to be. Delaying the truth only delays the catastrophe. Postponing the truth with a little white lie, or just as dangerously hiding the truth by not mentioning it, only extends the falsity into a bigger and bigger lie.
Are you ready for it? Are they ready for it? Honesty is more than truth-telling to another person. It is being honest with oneself and accepting one’s own limitations. Not being able to “trick” on a Saturday night is a limit, but one that I can live with because I both love and enjoy Brian and my time with him. It is therefore necessary to accept this limit, though honestly my time with Brian makes it seem like no limit at all. Likewise by being honest up front (no surprises) then I can know that my prospective is ready as well.
Is there agreement or acquiescence? One of the more persistent difficulties in negotiating and living in a relationship is that we often agree to something while harboring hidden motives. In this case, we might agree to something with the unspoken (secret) hope that things will change and we will eventually get what we want. That is what happened when I agreed to a monogamous relationship with Steven nearly 25 years ago. I did so expecting that it would eventually become an open relationship. I was wrong.
At other times we acquiesce by doing something we’d rather not do, in order to get something that we really want. We err by thinking that we can live without what we want and then find out we can’t. This is often the case of not being authentic to ourselves. The idea that “half a loaf is better than none” may be valid but it could be the case that half a loaf will never be enough. On the other hand, no loaf now opens us up to the preferred possibility that the whole loaf will come to us in due time.
What is the pecking order? What are the rules? It’s important that we be clear on how things work in a polyamorous relationship. Prospective partners have a right to know what my priorities are, how decisions are made, and what kind of expectations I have for them. So I make it clear that they will get their turn with me and the intimacy they desire, but that others have the same kind of claim on me. They’ll know early on that loving me demands friendship with the other members of my family and that sex may or may not be part of the equation. Yes, the other members of my family are included in the decision-making process as well.
Remember that “What you have is worth more than what you’re going to get.” If that idea doesn’t seem right to you, then you had better think twice and have a serious discussion about your present relationship with your partner(s). After all, if the bird in the hand isn’t worth more than the two in the bush, then something is terribly wrong and polyamory isn’t going to solve the problem.
Have a great week. You can leave me email at mrjackr@leathermail.com or visit my website at Leather Views where you can subscribe to this column and receive it weekly. Copyright 2009 by Jack Rinella, all rights reserved.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Turkey Love
What a day its been. It was required that we wake up early to make this day of magic happen, but oh wow, was it ever worth it.
Allena arrived early this morning and came through the door with a smile and bringing much joy. RC and I were already in the kitchen doing prep work for the turkey dinner.
I was making home made stuffing, that is an extra special recipe that I share with no-one, then stuffed it into the dressed bird and put the whole thing into the oven, on slow roast. Our turkey gets wrapped in bacon, and I must say that the bacon does an amazingly delicious thing to ones palate.
We spent the entire afternoon chilling with each other, reminiscing on our years together in relationship and laughing at silliness. RC and Allena may have had just-a-bit of scotch. The teenager hung out with us and our energies gelled so well together, as always.
Dinner cooked beautifully, with no stress or issues, the good china was out and at an early hour we sat down and gave thanks for our family. All four of us. RC, Allena, the teenager and me. Three chicks and one guy. Three adults and one teenager.
Our lives together are the BEST. Allena, the teenager and I have been together for eight years now, we are close and solid. RC came along two years ago and fit right in to all our lives quickly. As a family unit, we look good together, we get along perfectly, we love, admire, trust, respect and care for each other. As a poly family we have a rich strong past and an even brighter varied future.
We all know love and are good at communicating our own wants and desires, the way we live is remarkable and I only wish that others had the same capability to love with such abundance and truth.
Off to play a family game of Scrabble!
Allena arrived early this morning and came through the door with a smile and bringing much joy. RC and I were already in the kitchen doing prep work for the turkey dinner.
I was making home made stuffing, that is an extra special recipe that I share with no-one, then stuffed it into the dressed bird and put the whole thing into the oven, on slow roast. Our turkey gets wrapped in bacon, and I must say that the bacon does an amazingly delicious thing to ones palate.
We spent the entire afternoon chilling with each other, reminiscing on our years together in relationship and laughing at silliness. RC and Allena may have had just-a-bit of scotch. The teenager hung out with us and our energies gelled so well together, as always.
Dinner cooked beautifully, with no stress or issues, the good china was out and at an early hour we sat down and gave thanks for our family. All four of us. RC, Allena, the teenager and me. Three chicks and one guy. Three adults and one teenager.
Our lives together are the BEST. Allena, the teenager and I have been together for eight years now, we are close and solid. RC came along two years ago and fit right in to all our lives quickly. As a family unit, we look good together, we get along perfectly, we love, admire, trust, respect and care for each other. As a poly family we have a rich strong past and an even brighter varied future.
We all know love and are good at communicating our own wants and desires, the way we live is remarkable and I only wish that others had the same capability to love with such abundance and truth.
Off to play a family game of Scrabble!
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Polaymory and Family
It's almost time, I am eager to see my loves.
RC will be home from visiting his family on the island, in a few hours. He's been gone all weekend and I have missed him so much. It is never the same around here with out him.
Once he returns we have plans on a kinky dinner with a few people we know for an Orphans Thanks Giving meal over at a friends place.
Tomorrow Allena, my girl arrives for our family Thanks Giving. We have not seen her in whole three weeks so this visit is extra special
The teenager, RC, Allena and myself all have plans to hang out, eat and celebrate our family.
Polyamory has afforded me much, and my partners and daughter are all immensely grateful for the abundance of love that has sprung forth from our family unit.
I should get some sleep this evening, because tomorrow will be all about cooking the bird and spending time with all my favorite people.
RC will be home from visiting his family on the island, in a few hours. He's been gone all weekend and I have missed him so much. It is never the same around here with out him.
Once he returns we have plans on a kinky dinner with a few people we know for an Orphans Thanks Giving meal over at a friends place.
Tomorrow Allena, my girl arrives for our family Thanks Giving. We have not seen her in whole three weeks so this visit is extra special
The teenager, RC, Allena and myself all have plans to hang out, eat and celebrate our family.
Polyamory has afforded me much, and my partners and daughter are all immensely grateful for the abundance of love that has sprung forth from our family unit.
I should get some sleep this evening, because tomorrow will be all about cooking the bird and spending time with all my favorite people.
Saturday, May 31, 2008
enjoying life
My day has gone exceptionally well. I've had the fortune of being surrounded today by both of my partners That we were able to wake up together under one roof is kinda cool for us and tonight we have plans to go to a private party. Poly moments of perfection.
In just a couple of hours I'll be with my long time American pals, helping to celebrate a birthday. This year I've been to both Matisse's and Max's birthday soirées and as I have been to other parties with them over the last eight years, I know that I will have nothing short of an absolutely astounding time again.
It's time for me to bathe and primp, and then slide into a sexy little dress with matching purse and gloves that I packed just for the occasion!
In just a couple of hours I'll be with my long time American pals, helping to celebrate a birthday. This year I've been to both Matisse's and Max's birthday soirées and as I have been to other parties with them over the last eight years, I know that I will have nothing short of an absolutely astounding time again.
It's time for me to bathe and primp, and then slide into a sexy little dress with matching purse and gloves that I packed just for the occasion!
Friday, April 11, 2008
on and on , and on
FOR THE RECORD: To everyone who sent me links to books or URLs' on "recovering from your parents, surviving toxic parents" or who forwarded me noteworthy articles on the subject matter, I sure thank you.
Laying in bed, sound asleep next to me is RC. He was just speaking German in his sleep. Very cute, just too bad that I can't comprehend of it all.
Allena, my girl phoned to share some very exciting news earlier. She is coming up to visit shortly AND she is now a Seattle City Commissioner.
Congratulations Bella, I am so proud of you. I knew you could do it, and now that you are there, no one can stop you.
My drive, my understanding of sex culture, so much of it has to do with Allena. And now she has been voted on as being the new commissioner for sexual minorities. Her foray into politics has begun with such success. How could I not follow her foot steps. She is my role model and my love.
We will celebrate this milestone together later this month as she lays in bed with RC and I once she arrives to us. Getting her here is always so welcome and the time just goes so fast. Our lives together have morphed so much its hard to believe we are the same young girls who shared a daddy what seems like eons ago now and have now grown into strong vibrant women.
Tonight is DIRTY GIRLS, our second women's play party! The night starts off with nineteen women registered thus far in my Extended Teasing & The Art Of Fore Play class. The class itself is going to be full and I can't wait to see all the women gathered before me.
I should really go to bed now. Those women will have me on my feet all night long, and some sleep in me now will do me a world of good for later.
Laying in bed, sound asleep next to me is RC. He was just speaking German in his sleep. Very cute, just too bad that I can't comprehend of it all.
Allena, my girl phoned to share some very exciting news earlier. She is coming up to visit shortly AND she is now a Seattle City Commissioner.
Congratulations Bella, I am so proud of you. I knew you could do it, and now that you are there, no one can stop you.
My drive, my understanding of sex culture, so much of it has to do with Allena. And now she has been voted on as being the new commissioner for sexual minorities. Her foray into politics has begun with such success. How could I not follow her foot steps. She is my role model and my love.
We will celebrate this milestone together later this month as she lays in bed with RC and I once she arrives to us. Getting her here is always so welcome and the time just goes so fast. Our lives together have morphed so much its hard to believe we are the same young girls who shared a daddy what seems like eons ago now and have now grown into strong vibrant women.
Tonight is DIRTY GIRLS, our second women's play party! The night starts off with nineteen women registered thus far in my Extended Teasing & The Art Of Fore Play class. The class itself is going to be full and I can't wait to see all the women gathered before me.
I should really go to bed now. Those women will have me on my feet all night long, and some sleep in me now will do me a world of good for later.
Saturday, November 03, 2007
Stateside
Good Morning from Seattle.
RC is in the kitchen naked, cooking a scrumptious breakfast for Bella, himself and I.
I am off to teach two classes back-to-back shortly, leaving my partners to spend the day together.
Tonight, the three of us, have a date.
RC is in the kitchen naked, cooking a scrumptious breakfast for Bella, himself and I.
I am off to teach two classes back-to-back shortly, leaving my partners to spend the day together.
Tonight, the three of us, have a date.
Sunday, April 29, 2007
all in a day
Awoke at 10 this morning after returing home from the dungeon party at almost 1:00am, we played hard and sleep was so necessary. RC, Bella and I fit quite nicely in bed together. Fabulous way to wake up on a Sunday, in a cuddle puddle like that.
Then for me a two hour coaching session this afternoon was right following my Women's Dominance class, it was 4 hours of jam packed intense focus for me.
RC picked me up from the Wet Spot in my shiny clean car which he had just finished polishing for me and back we headed to Allena's for some dinner and a much needed shower and rest for yours truly.
Later on we returned to The Spots Try It You'll Like It Party, where much fun ensued. We arrived back home to Burnaby at 10:58pm without a single border delay. Not even tired from the drive, just on top of the world right now.
Then for me a two hour coaching session this afternoon was right following my Women's Dominance class, it was 4 hours of jam packed intense focus for me.
RC picked me up from the Wet Spot in my shiny clean car which he had just finished polishing for me and back we headed to Allena's for some dinner and a much needed shower and rest for yours truly.
Later on we returned to The Spots Try It You'll Like It Party, where much fun ensued. We arrived back home to Burnaby at 10:58pm without a single border delay. Not even tired from the drive, just on top of the world right now.
Saturday, April 28, 2007
playing & teaching hard
Can you believe that I am already in Seattle, settled nicely into Allena's. RC and I made the drive this morning and I just finished teaching two different classes. Butt Sex & Anal Pleasures and Bi Curious? Where to Start For Girls Who Want to Date Girls. Both strong excellent classes, the first mixed gender and the latter women only. I so love my women's only classes and guiding them into and through new topics and ideas.
Tonight we're heading back to The Wet Spot for some play, it's the pan party. I plan on doing a scene with my guy and then spending plenty of time talking with everyone about making donations to the new club.
We're off to grab some Thai food for dinner next. Allena, her boy, RC and I.
My life is charmed.
Tonight we're heading back to The Wet Spot for some play, it's the pan party. I plan on doing a scene with my guy and then spending plenty of time talking with everyone about making donations to the new club.
We're off to grab some Thai food for dinner next. Allena, her boy, RC and I.
My life is charmed.
Tuesday, April 03, 2007
I never even noticed
Today in my mailbox was a small envelope that I'd been awaiting on pins and needles to receive, the contents though minute in size was most valuable to me.
Recalling last week.... RC, the teen-ager and myself sitting at the table enjoying dinner together and the phone rings.
I answer, only because it is Bella. (Allena)
Bella: "So honey, did you lose something last weekend when you were here?"
Me: thinking deeply, "Nope, nothing, why?"
Bella: "Are you sure, because in my bed I found a bead....."
Me: at the dinner table, pulling up my top and pulling my breast free from the bra to exclaim "holy crap, you're right! I did leave something behind." "Wow, thank you for finding it and can you believe it is still straight through my nipple in perfect place without the bead securing it there."
Teenager & RC: looking at my one breast sans bead to hold the barbell in place and smiling oddly at me in shock, laughing at my predicament to one another, while continuing to eat dinner.
Bella: "I found it in my bed honey, likely lost during my birthday celebration."
Me: thinking in my head, I likely lost that during our three-some on her birthday morning wake-up. While saying out loud "can you mail that to me ASAP in a padded envelope so it doesn't poke out and get lost for good this time."
Bella: "Done"
Later after dinner RC taped a piece of medical cloth tape over the piercing to hold it in place till the bead arrived as I didn't want to have to remove it.
The bead came today and is now secured again on to my left barbell where it belongs.
Recalling last week.... RC, the teen-ager and myself sitting at the table enjoying dinner together and the phone rings.
I answer, only because it is Bella. (Allena)
Bella: "So honey, did you lose something last weekend when you were here?"
Me: thinking deeply, "Nope, nothing, why?"
Bella: "Are you sure, because in my bed I found a bead....."
Me: at the dinner table, pulling up my top and pulling my breast free from the bra to exclaim "holy crap, you're right! I did leave something behind." "Wow, thank you for finding it and can you believe it is still straight through my nipple in perfect place without the bead securing it there."
Teenager & RC: looking at my one breast sans bead to hold the barbell in place and smiling oddly at me in shock, laughing at my predicament to one another, while continuing to eat dinner.
Bella: "I found it in my bed honey, likely lost during my birthday celebration."
Me: thinking in my head, I likely lost that during our three-some on her birthday morning wake-up. While saying out loud "can you mail that to me ASAP in a padded envelope so it doesn't poke out and get lost for good this time."
Bella: "Done"
Later after dinner RC taped a piece of medical cloth tape over the piercing to hold it in place till the bead arrived as I didn't want to have to remove it.
The bead came today and is now secured again on to my left barbell where it belongs.
Friday, March 30, 2007
public masturbation & housing
RC drove as we went to pick up my daughter from school today, the three of us zipping off to an appointment. Finally a chance to view a 3 bedroom townhouse that we'd been trying to get into see for almost a week. After a quick walk-through it became obvious that it did not meet a lot of our requirements for a luxurious home. This was only the first place to catch our attention, there will be plenty more in the weeks to come. We are searching with a sense of urgency and will most certainly run smack dab into something breathtaking soon.
Came home to find this email in my work account, made me really happy to know this man found something for himself in my Topping class. And enough so that his wife also has felt the impact of his time in class with me.
RC and I were in Seattle last weekend celebrating Bella's birthday with her. What a celebration it was, both the friends only dinner party for 20 at our favorite dinner spot AND the early morning bed time together with the three of us being frisky to bring in Allena's birthday morning with juicy goodness. Allena felt love, joy and good orgasms - I love her so much....that she and RC are so smooth together is not a surprise to me, but none the less is still a relief. We as a poly unit, are handling all of this new stuff so great. It is a period of transition yes, but not bumpy. This is good news.
We (RC, Allena and I) of course went to The Little Red Studio behind-the-scenes private party (post SEAF thank you party for organizers & special guests) on Saturday night, enjoying an evening of hedonistic delights. Somehow I managed to end up on center stage, exposing my flower to the entire place and getting myself off. Trust me when I tell you that my little solo masturbation bit, was on my Dare Card for a game the whole place was playing and that when it came to be my turn it was ever so appropriate. Perhaps you'd have to have been there to understand. It was however, very sexy to have two beautiful models sucking & biting my nipples while I was working my girl bits, trying to pop out a big O before my time was up. RC & Bella were snuggled up & smooching in a plush red velvet booth watching me, be me. I feel so strong when surrounded by such love.
Came home to find this email in my work account, made me really happy to know this man found something for himself in my Topping class. And enough so that his wife also has felt the impact of his time in class with me.
Hi Jennifer,
It was great to meet you and attend you class Saturday at the Wetspot. My 'insatiable bottom' wife said after sex that night, 'you've never looked at me like that before'. As we were talking about the class, I realised how much I got out of it. We are definitely coming to more of your classes, and I've signed up for you newsletter. I had wanted to stick around and thank you, after the class but with time such as it was, and you were thronged. see you next time.
Mark
RC and I were in Seattle last weekend celebrating Bella's birthday with her. What a celebration it was, both the friends only dinner party for 20 at our favorite dinner spot AND the early morning bed time together with the three of us being frisky to bring in Allena's birthday morning with juicy goodness. Allena felt love, joy and good orgasms - I love her so much....that she and RC are so smooth together is not a surprise to me, but none the less is still a relief. We as a poly unit, are handling all of this new stuff so great. It is a period of transition yes, but not bumpy. This is good news.
We (RC, Allena and I) of course went to The Little Red Studio behind-the-scenes private party (post SEAF thank you party for organizers & special guests) on Saturday night, enjoying an evening of hedonistic delights. Somehow I managed to end up on center stage, exposing my flower to the entire place and getting myself off. Trust me when I tell you that my little solo masturbation bit, was on my Dare Card for a game the whole place was playing and that when it came to be my turn it was ever so appropriate. Perhaps you'd have to have been there to understand. It was however, very sexy to have two beautiful models sucking & biting my nipples while I was working my girl bits, trying to pop out a big O before my time was up. RC & Bella were snuggled up & smooching in a plush red velvet booth watching me, be me. I feel so strong when surrounded by such love.
Tuesday, November 01, 2005
treats & seduction
Quite tired this evening after working all day today and being out late last night with my daughter trick or treating. We had much fun trekking from one spooky house to another's front door, collecting treats for over two hours before arriving to her school for an evening display of fireworks. My daughter thinks that it's very cool to be on the playground late at night when it's dark and filled with all her school mates dressed in costume.
Hot chocolate in a covered mug and the rain held off for most of the night, how fortunate were we. I was prepared though with an umbrella with us and a large clear recycle bag to drop over my daughters costume so the paint wouldn't run off of it should it have rained. My daughter was a home made / self made box of Smarties for Halloween and I was my bad self wandering about with little pink horns on my head and flashlight in hand so I wouldn't get hit by a car.
I've been asked out on a date-date by a man. A man who knows all about me, shares none of my pursuits yet admires my convictions and occupation. I find him to be very attractive, we've been friends for a long time and neither of us can deny our attraction to the other. Now that I've been asked out I'm realizing that I want something out of this date.
Seduction, I want to be seduced with language, food, glances, music and him. I'd like to sit back and allow this man to show me a night out with out myself trying to lead the way or direct our path. I'm not talking about submission. We're not going to do any SM play. I'm talking about dating rituals as I know them and I'd like to partake. A movie, a walk on the beach, a scenic drive & picnic, something I've not planned or orchestrated. I'm not there to bottom, be submissive, a little girl, a Top or a Dominant, I'm going to go and be his date for the night.
Later tonight I'll email him back and let him know that next week after I return from teaching at The Wet Spot in Seattle I'd like nothing more than to spend time with him. oOh I am so looking forward to this date - the last time he and I went out, he carried me in arms to his vehicle and to his bed, something that excites me.
My daughter is in her bed sleeping right now. Allena is safe in Seattle and Jim is tucked away nicely in Bellingham. Doug is at home with his wife and kara is cuddled up to her fiance in bed. It makes me feel secure to know where those that I care for and love are. We don't need to be together for me to feel connected, I just need to know the basics of where everyone is, how they are with themselves and also with me.
Hot chocolate in a covered mug and the rain held off for most of the night, how fortunate were we. I was prepared though with an umbrella with us and a large clear recycle bag to drop over my daughters costume so the paint wouldn't run off of it should it have rained. My daughter was a home made / self made box of Smarties for Halloween and I was my bad self wandering about with little pink horns on my head and flashlight in hand so I wouldn't get hit by a car.
I've been asked out on a date-date by a man. A man who knows all about me, shares none of my pursuits yet admires my convictions and occupation. I find him to be very attractive, we've been friends for a long time and neither of us can deny our attraction to the other. Now that I've been asked out I'm realizing that I want something out of this date.
Seduction, I want to be seduced with language, food, glances, music and him. I'd like to sit back and allow this man to show me a night out with out myself trying to lead the way or direct our path. I'm not talking about submission. We're not going to do any SM play. I'm talking about dating rituals as I know them and I'd like to partake. A movie, a walk on the beach, a scenic drive & picnic, something I've not planned or orchestrated. I'm not there to bottom, be submissive, a little girl, a Top or a Dominant, I'm going to go and be his date for the night.
Later tonight I'll email him back and let him know that next week after I return from teaching at The Wet Spot in Seattle I'd like nothing more than to spend time with him. oOh I am so looking forward to this date - the last time he and I went out, he carried me in arms to his vehicle and to his bed, something that excites me.
My daughter is in her bed sleeping right now. Allena is safe in Seattle and Jim is tucked away nicely in Bellingham. Doug is at home with his wife and kara is cuddled up to her fiance in bed. It makes me feel secure to know where those that I care for and love are. We don't need to be together for me to feel connected, I just need to know the basics of where everyone is, how they are with themselves and also with me.
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
multi partnered
This morning was busy with office work for hours before Doug even arrived on my door step. On the computer for hours working, studying, answering other emails filled with questions. The count down begins, 30 minutes till he's due to arrive and I've a plan.
House cleaned. Floors, beds and medical table cleared. (we could end up anywhere) Music playing in a couple of the rooms, drapes drawn in every room and the heat turned on.
John Fluevogs, I have a stunning pair of their boots. Knee high with a full length zipper running up my inner calf, the whole boot done in beautiful black leather with white stitching and an ankle buckle. Just like walking on air. They're called Bond boots and I wore them a lot the weekend of the Vancouver Sexpo and have really not had a good polish put to them in some time.
In fact, the last time my boots were done and done well, they were polished by Deb. Deb does the most amazing boot blacking and with her, well I wear my boots and a short skirt, sans the panties. For Deb of course, in exchange for the boot polish and she does an impressive job and enjoys her time spent boot blacking at SM & fetish events. (and looking up my skirt)
Today after Doug found a collar and nipple clamps awaiting him at my front door along with the sound of me at the other end of the house cracking a whip, he gained his composure rather quickly I'd say, then figured out what he needed to do and did it. As he came around the corner into living room, the sight of him with his boot polishing kit between his teeth made me wet. And there I was standing in the middle of my living room, naked-whip in hand and on my feet are my scuffed up pair of stunning Fluevogs.
Can you guess what Doug got to do today? Yup, boot polishing. And some lunch and a visit and then back to our regular worlds.
Then 3:00 pick up daughter from school, then we had to go door to door for 150 houses. Why you might ask would I do this for 70 minutes? Handing out flyers for a fundraiser her Girl Guide group is doing and every family gets to do 150 flyers. And so we decided to do ours today after school as it wasn't raining. Thankfully!
Home to sleep for 30 minutes on the sofa, then do a quick dinner up for my daughter before heading to ready myself for my evening's date with kara.
Left at 7:00 on a dinner date with a very lovely kara on my arm. Both of us dressed for our date, her in new fetish red and black open toed 5 inch heeled shoes and me in a form fitted, slit up one side, ankle length backless dress. kara asked me out on this date and brought a wrapped flower but I drove and carried the umbrella. kara helped me figure out what to order on the menu and she asked me please may I Mistress for a couple of things and I found her head on my shoulder often and her eyes meeting mine looking for more of us.
We had dinner with the BGV group, they are a BiSexual Women's group meeting for social opportunities and much fun. It was the founder Tammy's birthday today, she's 33. Happy birthday to you Tammy, on Friday I'll be 33 and caught up to you.
We celebrated by having a dinner party at a restaurant in New West and had a great time. All of us women and the one token man. The male waiter. Corey and he was cute, young and yup, I had a little fun with him AFTER I tied my cherry stem in a knot with my tongue for his viewing pleasure! Then back to kara who was ready to cuddle more with me and savor ice cream & cake after eating veal with asparagus in a hollandaise sauce with shrimp and pasta.
Drove home with kara in the pouring rain that made seeing the lines on the street impossible even as lightening slashed across the entire sky twice. Pulled in to my building in one piece, although soaked right then I've got to taste kara's sweetness. She looked so sexy tonight and was mine for an evening that was not an event where I was working and waving at her across the room. Sitting next to me and what do we end up doing in the car but necking! sweetness
And then as quick as it all started it HAD to end because
I have a child in my bed awaiting her mom and it's time for me to pull back
say I love you, thank you for the flower and the date. Drive carefully in the rain, it's slick and there's lightening. Her lipstick is completely smeared right across my face, up to right underneath my nose and down to my chin. My lipstick is on her teeth, neck and chin area. Signs of lots of love & passion.
Home and in the house, naked under my robe by 10:20 and starting to blog shortly there after while eating the remainder of a bowl of popcorn that was left on the kitchen counter.
Thankfully I love Jim and I know he loves my because today aside from email, we never actually made it to talking on the phone. Once the weekend arrives and my Daddy comes walking in the door I'll be ready to be that girl to him.
night
Jennifer
House cleaned. Floors, beds and medical table cleared. (we could end up anywhere) Music playing in a couple of the rooms, drapes drawn in every room and the heat turned on.
John Fluevogs, I have a stunning pair of their boots. Knee high with a full length zipper running up my inner calf, the whole boot done in beautiful black leather with white stitching and an ankle buckle. Just like walking on air. They're called Bond boots and I wore them a lot the weekend of the Vancouver Sexpo and have really not had a good polish put to them in some time.
In fact, the last time my boots were done and done well, they were polished by Deb. Deb does the most amazing boot blacking and with her, well I wear my boots and a short skirt, sans the panties. For Deb of course, in exchange for the boot polish and she does an impressive job and enjoys her time spent boot blacking at SM & fetish events. (and looking up my skirt)
Today after Doug found a collar and nipple clamps awaiting him at my front door along with the sound of me at the other end of the house cracking a whip, he gained his composure rather quickly I'd say, then figured out what he needed to do and did it. As he came around the corner into living room, the sight of him with his boot polishing kit between his teeth made me wet. And there I was standing in the middle of my living room, naked-whip in hand and on my feet are my scuffed up pair of stunning Fluevogs.
Can you guess what Doug got to do today? Yup, boot polishing. And some lunch and a visit and then back to our regular worlds.
Then 3:00 pick up daughter from school, then we had to go door to door for 150 houses. Why you might ask would I do this for 70 minutes? Handing out flyers for a fundraiser her Girl Guide group is doing and every family gets to do 150 flyers. And so we decided to do ours today after school as it wasn't raining. Thankfully!
Home to sleep for 30 minutes on the sofa, then do a quick dinner up for my daughter before heading to ready myself for my evening's date with kara.
Left at 7:00 on a dinner date with a very lovely kara on my arm. Both of us dressed for our date, her in new fetish red and black open toed 5 inch heeled shoes and me in a form fitted, slit up one side, ankle length backless dress. kara asked me out on this date and brought a wrapped flower but I drove and carried the umbrella. kara helped me figure out what to order on the menu and she asked me please may I Mistress for a couple of things and I found her head on my shoulder often and her eyes meeting mine looking for more of us.
We had dinner with the BGV group, they are a BiSexual Women's group meeting for social opportunities and much fun. It was the founder Tammy's birthday today, she's 33. Happy birthday to you Tammy, on Friday I'll be 33 and caught up to you.
We celebrated by having a dinner party at a restaurant in New West and had a great time. All of us women and the one token man. The male waiter. Corey and he was cute, young and yup, I had a little fun with him AFTER I tied my cherry stem in a knot with my tongue for his viewing pleasure! Then back to kara who was ready to cuddle more with me and savor ice cream & cake after eating veal with asparagus in a hollandaise sauce with shrimp and pasta.
Drove home with kara in the pouring rain that made seeing the lines on the street impossible even as lightening slashed across the entire sky twice. Pulled in to my building in one piece, although soaked right then I've got to taste kara's sweetness. She looked so sexy tonight and was mine for an evening that was not an event where I was working and waving at her across the room. Sitting next to me and what do we end up doing in the car but necking! sweetness
And then as quick as it all started it HAD to end because
I have a child in my bed awaiting her mom and it's time for me to pull back
say I love you, thank you for the flower and the date. Drive carefully in the rain, it's slick and there's lightening. Her lipstick is completely smeared right across my face, up to right underneath my nose and down to my chin. My lipstick is on her teeth, neck and chin area. Signs of lots of love & passion.
Home and in the house, naked under my robe by 10:20 and starting to blog shortly there after while eating the remainder of a bowl of popcorn that was left on the kitchen counter.
Thankfully I love Jim and I know he loves my because today aside from email, we never actually made it to talking on the phone. Once the weekend arrives and my Daddy comes walking in the door I'll be ready to be that girl to him.
night
Jennifer
Wednesday, August 31, 2005
asked on a date at work
At work this afternoon, standing alone in a mind set of work related non sex topics, reading a clip board before a shelf when suddenly next to me is a man. Tall, fit, good looking, dark hair, late thirties, he smiles warmly right at me, brightly, a flash of white teeth and enthusiasm, his eyes meet mine and lock in.
Hi he says. "I saw you last week when you were working here and I'd wanted to ask you something then, but then you left and I thought I'd missed the opportunity as I'd never seen you here before." sighs Now before I can say anything past hello to him, as he just paused for breath here, smiles at me again at which point his eyes light up and he says "I was wondering if I could ask you out on a date?" More smiling and he leans towards me a little and I hear myself say, "I'm so flattered, thank you so much for the kind offer, but I'm already taken. My partner a woman and I have been together for years now and are quite happy."
"Now that we've had this little visit, let me introduce myself I say to him", my name is Jennifer. I extend my hand to shake his as he tells me his name and continues to tell me how much of a struggle it is to meet someone these days and how he found me attractive, different and friendly and thought he'd try asking me out.
How sweet to be asked out on a date and by someone who has no clue what I do in the rest of my life as a sex activist. Very cool, made my day. He took my being partnered to a woman well and didn't bat an eye over it, thankfully. Why did I tell him I was partnered to a woman and not a man you might be wondering.
It goes like this, I prefer at work (at my day job) for being thought of as unavailable and by telling men I'm with a woman, well, word travels fast and I'm left alone for the most part from that meat market. Plus it's not a lie it's the truth, well the actual truth is that I have two women partners.
If I'd told him I was with a man then I would if interested enough in going out on a date with this new man, would have needed to have told him that I practice poly and I'm again not prepared to do that at work.
I also practice no false hopes. Lead no one on ever. If I'm here to talk & flirt you'll know the difference with me from when you feel my desire to seduce or fuck you. Say what I mean or what I want always, and do so with honesty & conviction. Be forthcoming about what I have to offer and not offer. Tell who I am, how I love and the boundaries that surround a relationship with me.
Lest we forget that I'm kinky beyond belief and with this fact alone in mind, I should never date anyone at work. Good practice for me.
And further to any of the above, how would I have explained my relationships with kara, Allena, Doug and Jim? ha
Jennifer
Hi he says. "I saw you last week when you were working here and I'd wanted to ask you something then, but then you left and I thought I'd missed the opportunity as I'd never seen you here before." sighs Now before I can say anything past hello to him, as he just paused for breath here, smiles at me again at which point his eyes light up and he says "I was wondering if I could ask you out on a date?" More smiling and he leans towards me a little and I hear myself say, "I'm so flattered, thank you so much for the kind offer, but I'm already taken. My partner a woman and I have been together for years now and are quite happy."
"Now that we've had this little visit, let me introduce myself I say to him", my name is Jennifer. I extend my hand to shake his as he tells me his name and continues to tell me how much of a struggle it is to meet someone these days and how he found me attractive, different and friendly and thought he'd try asking me out.
How sweet to be asked out on a date and by someone who has no clue what I do in the rest of my life as a sex activist. Very cool, made my day. He took my being partnered to a woman well and didn't bat an eye over it, thankfully. Why did I tell him I was partnered to a woman and not a man you might be wondering.
It goes like this, I prefer at work (at my day job) for being thought of as unavailable and by telling men I'm with a woman, well, word travels fast and I'm left alone for the most part from that meat market. Plus it's not a lie it's the truth, well the actual truth is that I have two women partners.
If I'd told him I was with a man then I would if interested enough in going out on a date with this new man, would have needed to have told him that I practice poly and I'm again not prepared to do that at work.
I also practice no false hopes. Lead no one on ever. If I'm here to talk & flirt you'll know the difference with me from when you feel my desire to seduce or fuck you. Say what I mean or what I want always, and do so with honesty & conviction. Be forthcoming about what I have to offer and not offer. Tell who I am, how I love and the boundaries that surround a relationship with me.
Lest we forget that I'm kinky beyond belief and with this fact alone in mind, I should never date anyone at work. Good practice for me.
And further to any of the above, how would I have explained my relationships with kara, Allena, Doug and Jim? ha
Jennifer
Tuesday, August 30, 2005
finding my groove
Sunday daytime, following Saturday nights Women's Only Naughty PJ Party (hot party, if you're a woman you should have been there) I had Doug come over to help me paint a room in my house. We did it successfully as well, it turned out great, one room, three walls of it, done in vibrant Tangerine. Took us 6 hours to do it from primer to second coat of paint and clean up but it was worth every second we spent painting and every ounce of energy. Plus, inbetween coats, waiting for the color to dry, well I got to have my way with Doug.
Picture a man, in a leather hood, laying on the gyn table in my room - feet up in stirrups and using words like Please & Ma'am a lot. Made for a fabulous afternoon of domestic chores mixed with sex play and I was running on adrenaline at this point as I'd been at the Women's Party the night before till 2 and not to bed till 3.
Doug left at about 4:30 Monday after painting and being done by me! I then had a chance to shower and work on the computer some before Jim arrived for the evening with me. (our last night alone together)
Jim thought he'd enjoy eating his dinner more, if he put his hot bowl on the flesh of my naked stomach. He had me lay a blanket on the living room floor and then he put his dinner on my stomach and he ate his dinner out of the bowl while sitting next to me on the floor watching tv.
When he finally finished eating I found myself bound in hemp rope and unable to move either of my legs as they were tied as columns to one another and spread wide. Nasty fun on the living room floor till I was finally untied and ordered off to the bedroom where we went and I was used till I fell asleep unable to register anything except two things...
1. I was laying in a very wet puddle of girl juice
2. I was exhausted
Jim went home yesterday just before noon and then I headed off to work. The routine of life back again as my daughter returned last night and as such the revolving door of poly around here will disappear until Christmas break now and every other weekend.
Today I'm working this afternoon and then home to be mom full time again. School goes back in next week, the return to our routine will be welcome for me and an interesting transition for my daughter and for those who've grown accustomed over the summer to my availability.
Jennifer
Picture a man, in a leather hood, laying on the gyn table in my room - feet up in stirrups and using words like Please & Ma'am a lot. Made for a fabulous afternoon of domestic chores mixed with sex play and I was running on adrenaline at this point as I'd been at the Women's Party the night before till 2 and not to bed till 3.
Doug left at about 4:30 Monday after painting and being done by me! I then had a chance to shower and work on the computer some before Jim arrived for the evening with me. (our last night alone together)
Jim thought he'd enjoy eating his dinner more, if he put his hot bowl on the flesh of my naked stomach. He had me lay a blanket on the living room floor and then he put his dinner on my stomach and he ate his dinner out of the bowl while sitting next to me on the floor watching tv.
When he finally finished eating I found myself bound in hemp rope and unable to move either of my legs as they were tied as columns to one another and spread wide. Nasty fun on the living room floor till I was finally untied and ordered off to the bedroom where we went and I was used till I fell asleep unable to register anything except two things...
1. I was laying in a very wet puddle of girl juice
2. I was exhausted
Jim went home yesterday just before noon and then I headed off to work. The routine of life back again as my daughter returned last night and as such the revolving door of poly around here will disappear until Christmas break now and every other weekend.
Today I'm working this afternoon and then home to be mom full time again. School goes back in next week, the return to our routine will be welcome for me and an interesting transition for my daughter and for those who've grown accustomed over the summer to my availability.
Jennifer
Thursday, August 25, 2005
info & partner sharing
Last night I worked Privately with a couple in their home for a few hours. As this was my second time being hired by them so it was a smooth and easy evening of discussions on Dominance & Power along with suggestions as to how to put it into actual play for themselves.
Being a guide for others and sharing what I know is my passion, it's how I give back to a culture and community that has blessed me with so many gifts. Sharing myself and knowledge & guiding others without shame, but rather with joy and passion, is what makes me so attractive to others I hear both personally and professionally.
Sitting naked at the computer Blogging before I need to head to work from 11:30-6pm, then I'm off to have dinner with a friend. I'm off to meet Doug's wife for dinner.
It's good poly practice for me to have a relationship with my partners significant other and in this case, it's a wife. She's a really cool woman whom I'm enjoying getting to know better over time. How amazing is it, that she allows me the privilege of playing with her husband in BDSM and permits us our relationship? WOW, lucky woman I am and tonight is my chance to thank her again and to check in with her as sharing your partner is a big deal and needs to be honored in my world.
ah, and only because it's funny do I share this, but my dear friend J, phoned me at 10:50 last night for a booty call. Normally I'd kill someone for phoning me at home so late at night and especially for something as hedonistic as a booty call, but with my daughter away on holidays, I found the whole matter hilarious. Although I declined the invite, we did set a date to get together with one another. Happy Birthday to you today J!
Sometime late tonight when I get home it will be time for me to start packing up for this Saturdays Women's Only Naughty PJ Party A Sex Positive Event.
Time to get dressed as my day job is the only job that I have that requires me to wear clothes. Go figure!
blessings
Jennifer
Being a guide for others and sharing what I know is my passion, it's how I give back to a culture and community that has blessed me with so many gifts. Sharing myself and knowledge & guiding others without shame, but rather with joy and passion, is what makes me so attractive to others I hear both personally and professionally.
Sitting naked at the computer Blogging before I need to head to work from 11:30-6pm, then I'm off to have dinner with a friend. I'm off to meet Doug's wife for dinner.
It's good poly practice for me to have a relationship with my partners significant other and in this case, it's a wife. She's a really cool woman whom I'm enjoying getting to know better over time. How amazing is it, that she allows me the privilege of playing with her husband in BDSM and permits us our relationship? WOW, lucky woman I am and tonight is my chance to thank her again and to check in with her as sharing your partner is a big deal and needs to be honored in my world.
ah, and only because it's funny do I share this, but my dear friend J, phoned me at 10:50 last night for a booty call. Normally I'd kill someone for phoning me at home so late at night and especially for something as hedonistic as a booty call, but with my daughter away on holidays, I found the whole matter hilarious. Although I declined the invite, we did set a date to get together with one another. Happy Birthday to you today J!
Sometime late tonight when I get home it will be time for me to start packing up for this Saturdays Women's Only Naughty PJ Party A Sex Positive Event.
Time to get dressed as my day job is the only job that I have that requires me to wear clothes. Go figure!
blessings
Jennifer
Sunday, August 21, 2005
waxing purple toes
Let me tell you about my Saturday afternoon...
I had this date with this really attractive woman that I love. Let's call her my bottom, kara.
She was dressed as I asked her to be, in a skirt, sun hat, bra and pantiless. (accessible) Me in a dress and a hat as well.
Strolling through the Vandusen Botanical Gardens in Vancouver for hours hand in hand, we had such a lovely day together with no where particular to be and no agenda other than spending time with one another. We paused and spread a sheet and lay in the shade eating a picnic lunch and talking together while looking out at a sea of foliage and brilliant colored flowers so tall they blocked others from seeing us completely sitting on the grass floor.
Wandered over to the waterfall that was so stunning we had to sit and pause on bench to appreciate the view. (and to fondle one another) Walking further past lawns that are immaculate so immaculate here that it makes you wonder what little people with gardening tools must come out at night to create this wonder.
Finally I settled kara on to another bench later in the afternoon, next to a pond with pink and white lilies floating in it and turtles swimming amonst the lily pads as the hot afternoon sun was shaded behind very tall tress. Put a blindfold on her so she wouldn't know what was about to happen and then pulled her sun hat down so no one could see her face. Remove her shoes and put her feet on the sheet on the bench. On my knees next to her, I kiss her cheek and light the candle in my hand. She knows nothing, yet can hear the lighter I'm sure.
kara loves to have her feet covered in wax so......I took my candle and in the middle of the park with people walking by, blindfolded her while sitting next to the pond, I slowly covered her toes covered in purple paint in paraffin wax. Dripped some all over her feet, down her ankles, made it splatter and watched her body move to the heat of the candle wax and to the want that was building up in both of us. We played with the hot wax for a good 20 minutes before our little impromptu scene ended. What fun, I am a very lucky woman.
I should spend more Saturday afternoons lost in the bliss of a partner and so should you!
Jennifer
And for those of you environmentalists, don't worry, we did not leave the park floor covered in wax, we removed it from her feet with a scrubbie and put it all on the sheet, rolled it up, then I brought it all home to dispose of it myself.
I had this date with this really attractive woman that I love. Let's call her my bottom, kara.
She was dressed as I asked her to be, in a skirt, sun hat, bra and pantiless. (accessible) Me in a dress and a hat as well.
Strolling through the Vandusen Botanical Gardens in Vancouver for hours hand in hand, we had such a lovely day together with no where particular to be and no agenda other than spending time with one another. We paused and spread a sheet and lay in the shade eating a picnic lunch and talking together while looking out at a sea of foliage and brilliant colored flowers so tall they blocked others from seeing us completely sitting on the grass floor.
Wandered over to the waterfall that was so stunning we had to sit and pause on bench to appreciate the view. (and to fondle one another) Walking further past lawns that are immaculate so immaculate here that it makes you wonder what little people with gardening tools must come out at night to create this wonder.
Finally I settled kara on to another bench later in the afternoon, next to a pond with pink and white lilies floating in it and turtles swimming amonst the lily pads as the hot afternoon sun was shaded behind very tall tress. Put a blindfold on her so she wouldn't know what was about to happen and then pulled her sun hat down so no one could see her face. Remove her shoes and put her feet on the sheet on the bench. On my knees next to her, I kiss her cheek and light the candle in my hand. She knows nothing, yet can hear the lighter I'm sure.
kara loves to have her feet covered in wax so......I took my candle and in the middle of the park with people walking by, blindfolded her while sitting next to the pond, I slowly covered her toes covered in purple paint in paraffin wax. Dripped some all over her feet, down her ankles, made it splatter and watched her body move to the heat of the candle wax and to the want that was building up in both of us. We played with the hot wax for a good 20 minutes before our little impromptu scene ended. What fun, I am a very lucky woman.
I should spend more Saturday afternoons lost in the bliss of a partner and so should you!
Jennifer
And for those of you environmentalists, don't worry, we did not leave the park floor covered in wax, we removed it from her feet with a scrubbie and put it all on the sheet, rolled it up, then I brought it all home to dispose of it myself.
Friday, August 12, 2005
flat tire and menstruation
This morning I had a hugely important meeting at 10 and so at 9:15 I'm driving out of my parkade and down the street for a whole block before things start feeling bumpy and weird. Pull over to the side of the road, get out and check the trunk, thinking it hadn't been closed properly and was banging, but oh no, couldn't and wouldn't be something that easy.
Then a Canada Post man walks by smiling at me at points to the front tire passenger side and says "lucky you, it's only flat on one side" and continues walking. No, really? Is this really happening to me? Oh yes it is and it's going to be a long day, I can tell.
A low level panic call to kara & Doug and between them, they convinced me that I was capable of changing my own tire. Flagged down some nice young man to help me with the jack because I could not figure out where on the frame to put it and so he showed me and then jacked me half up, then asked if I'd be ok, on my own for the rest and I of course, replied "Why of course, and thanks for stopping to help me." I'd never changed a tire before let alone used a spare. I'd no idea it was so tiny but thankfully I had one. And I did it succesfully, I changed my tire and tomorrow I'm going to go and get it repaired or replaced. If it's not one thing it's another.
The tire incident started my day and my day ended with my getting myself a really cool fishing rod case so I can take my canes out in it and have them not get damaged. This makes me happy as I've got some wonderful canes that need protecting when not in use.
And I did mention menstruation right? I have my period, yup the most natural thing in the world that happens to me monthly and it's here, and it started last night. I'm not using a tampon, nor and I using any pads in any form, I am not using a cup either, who knows what I'm using to deal with the flow of blood then? I don't buy feminine hygiene products any longer, I only use this ???
When my mother asks me what I want for my upcoming birthday I am going to tell her BCAA.
Jennifer
Then a Canada Post man walks by smiling at me at points to the front tire passenger side and says "lucky you, it's only flat on one side" and continues walking. No, really? Is this really happening to me? Oh yes it is and it's going to be a long day, I can tell.
A low level panic call to kara & Doug and between them, they convinced me that I was capable of changing my own tire. Flagged down some nice young man to help me with the jack because I could not figure out where on the frame to put it and so he showed me and then jacked me half up, then asked if I'd be ok, on my own for the rest and I of course, replied "Why of course, and thanks for stopping to help me." I'd never changed a tire before let alone used a spare. I'd no idea it was so tiny but thankfully I had one. And I did it succesfully, I changed my tire and tomorrow I'm going to go and get it repaired or replaced. If it's not one thing it's another.
The tire incident started my day and my day ended with my getting myself a really cool fishing rod case so I can take my canes out in it and have them not get damaged. This makes me happy as I've got some wonderful canes that need protecting when not in use.
And I did mention menstruation right? I have my period, yup the most natural thing in the world that happens to me monthly and it's here, and it started last night. I'm not using a tampon, nor and I using any pads in any form, I am not using a cup either, who knows what I'm using to deal with the flow of blood then? I don't buy feminine hygiene products any longer, I only use this ???
When my mother asks me what I want for my upcoming birthday I am going to tell her BCAA.
Jennifer
Thursday, August 11, 2005
fate and kara
As I was driving home from work this evening along Parker Street in Burnaby a route I usually don't drive my car crested the top of a hill with my window unrolled for the fresh air. The radio's got 96.9FM playing and I hear my name called out loudly, even over the music, in a feminine voice as I'm motoring along at 50 km/h the wind carrying it to my ears. Quickly I look in my rear view mirror, shake my head as I'm startled to see a little red car so familiar that it makes my hear skip a beat, screeching to a halt and I honk happily over and over to acknowledge that I see her, kara that is, as I pull over to the side of the road and watch her pull a u turn and then pull up behind my car.
Out jumps my girl, lands in my arms and we somehow manage to sneak 5 minutes of loving into our day with one another. Bonus time. I got to sit on her hood in my short black skirt and kiss her and make cars honk. It was fun, it was silly, it was spontaneous, it was fate, it was necessary. Damn it was good to see her, the smile on her face and in her eyes as she pulled up to me.
Poly allows me this opportunity and relationship. This is love.
Jennifer
Out jumps my girl, lands in my arms and we somehow manage to sneak 5 minutes of loving into our day with one another. Bonus time. I got to sit on her hood in my short black skirt and kiss her and make cars honk. It was fun, it was silly, it was spontaneous, it was fate, it was necessary. Damn it was good to see her, the smile on her face and in her eyes as she pulled up to me.
Poly allows me this opportunity and relationship. This is love.
Jennifer
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