Before reading our rules for what makes our relationship work, know that we have created these rules to compliment us as a couple and to keep us safe based on knowing ourselves well and plenty of deep honest discussions. The rules are agreed upon by each of us, together we have come up with the frame work needed to allow us the freedom to explore others sexually.
Our rules are subject to change and have shifted over the years. Currently they are .....
- No surprises. No telling the other something after the fact. Everything is straight up from the get go. (the only surprises we like are gifts)
- No bringing anyone home for play. This is our nest, it belongs to our family and not outside relationships.
- No discussing details about our children.
- Practice safer sex at all times, no exceptions.
- Time with others happens only when our relationship has had it's needs met first.
- No missing important home events for a date.
- We do not need to meet the person our partner is dating / having sex if we don't want to.
- Emotional availability to outside play partners is slim at best.
- Having sex with someone is different than being polyamorous with them.
- No involvement with drama queens / kings.
- No dating someone who likes to talk about their conquests publicly.
- If we ask to know something about one anothers dates, the information will be made available without debate.
- Details on what one does with others is not necessarily always wanted - ask before you share.
- Before telling someone (whom your dating) that you love them, you must first come home and tell your partner. (see rule #1, no surprises)
