Lovers in Cuba

I am feeling abundantly loved. It is such a wonderful feeling.

In thirty days we leave for Cuba.

We have plans on swimming with dolphins and a night in Havanna.

The resort is simply gorgeous, we've been researching it on the internet and making plans.

I intend on doing a lot of tanning, beach walking and relaxing in a chaise lounger with an umbrella in my icy drink.

Admiring the stunning scenery and with nothing else to do, but soaking it all in as only someone on vacation can do.

Braving travel

Only for family would I awaken at eight in the morning over the holidays. We had a reservation to keep, and by god we did it! We made it to our destination in a timely manner, and the weather did not interfere one bit. Thankfully.

We spent the day far from home, and surrounded by a large group of merry people. More gifts, tons of food, catching up on conversations, and general relaxing. Today was great.

Travel really takes a toll on a person , as does all the food we have consumed. This evening will have us to bed at an early hour, the three of us are wiped.

Flying High

Today we slept in. The teenager awoke us late morning by poking me repeatedly. She had her stocking in hand, and a huge smile on her face.

RC and I sat up in bed and watched her tear into her huge over-sized sock which was overflowing with booty. Photos were taken and we all looked happy and disheveled.

Off to living room we moved next, the presents were spread under the tree awaiting everyone.

We noticed that Santa had drank all the scotch left out, eaten the cookies and fed the carrots to the reindeer. Surprise!

It took an hour and twenty minutes to get through all the paper ripping, gift ogling, present exchanging, trying on of new items and giddy laughter too.

We three, are heading off to Cuba on a family holiday - this is the BEST Christmas gift ever. All of us are super excited - I have never before been to a communist country, it should be enlightening to say the least. We are booked into an incredible resort, with oodles of amenities in Varadero, we also have a day-trip and overnight in Havanna to look forward to. One month until we fly away.

Whatever your December 25 finds you doing or celebrating - I hope you have a good one.

It's Christmas in our house, I am surrounded by family and love and am so very happy.

Enjoy the snow, and stay warm.

Scotch for Santa

This has been quite the day for me. I am exhausted.

Earlier this afternoon I went for a walk through the deep snow, to trek off to the liquor store. What should have been an eight minute walk, in reality took me twenty or so minutes. What a cold ordeal, despite my get-up. Gloves, pocket warmers, cords, knee socks, leg warmers, a hoodie, a vest, a long sleeve shirt, a hat and a long scarf. I was bundled up all cozy.

I don't even drink at all, though my guy needed some Baileys for his Christmas morning coffee so I obliged and set forth to make the purchase.

Then I continued on for another ten minute walk to another store where I bought three large steaks.

Promptly I turned around and walked home. Though on my way shopping the wind and snow was at my back. On my return trip, the snow was blowing in my face and right into me. I was so not impressed.

When I finally saw home, my daughter opened the door and looking at me burst out laughing. Apparently I looked like the abominable snow woman. Scary really and damn cold. I stripped out of my freezing cold clothes and grabbed the hair dryer to warm my legs and dry my soaking wet hair.

Did not take long for me to fall asleep on the couch for a brief nap. I awoke startled beyond belief, by the sounds of crashing snow. The white stuff on our slanted roof became so heavy, that it had slid right off and landed with a HUGE boom onto our porch, it scared me bad, the cat too and the teenager. Wild, it was a large dump of snow.

I put on a robe, gum boots and a hat, then went outside and shoveled the porch - it took me thirty minutes to clear away the snow slide that had happened. Thank you mother nature.

Into the kitchen and I got everything ready to stuff my infamous twice-baked, baked potatoes. 4 large potatoes cut in half and baked, then hollowed. 3/4 of a pound of bacon fried and diced with onion. 3/4 of a cup of cream cheese, fresh cracked pepper, and grated cheddar cheese. Then I put on a pair of latex gloves and stuffed the contents all mashed together into the potato shells before baking them again.

While the baked, I BBQ'd the steaks. After a great family dinner, the three of us are now all in the master bedroom on laptops doing fun stuff and generally hanging out together.


Soon we will all cuddle together and read our traditional book "Twas The Night Before Christmas". Then we will leave some scotch, cookies and carrots out for Santa and reindeer and we will turn off all the lights and go to sleep.

Hope your Christmas eve is blessed and peaceful.

For Paul...

I spent some time today, pondering all that I am grateful for. Today is historically a BIG day in my life and has been for well over a decade. I could give thanks on New Years but it is this day that makes me reflect on my blessings.

1. a daughter that is growing into a young woman: she is wise, worldly, loving, carefree, beautiful, intelligent, crafty and people oriented
   
2. a man in my life for two years now who loves me unconditionally, is handsome, educated, caring, generous and a family kind of guy
3. a woman whose been a constant in my life for over eight years: we are in love, committed and stronger together every year
4. good physical health that has not wavered all year
5. contentment and peace of mind
   
6. a business that is thriving and growing
   
7. a career that is on the climb exponentially
8. plans on a pregnancy and a baby in 2009
9. no debt, not one dollar, zero
10. an upcoming trip to Cuba & another to Disneyland
    
11. a collection of friends that support me whole heartily
    
12. a posse of Lounge Members that are the corner stone of Libido Lounge
13. family ties that are stronger than the year before
14. a new outlook on life that is refreshing for me and those around me
15. substantially huge teaching contracts for 2009
16. no vices (outside of sex and love)
17. a strong drive towards gaining my masters degree in the coming year
18. multi-orgasmic (must give thanks for this)
19. the ability to have outside paid help that makes my professional and personal life easier
    

Visually Stimulating

(one corner of the front main room at Libido Lounge, note that equipment moves for every event)

(me sitting on a chicks face, you can even see my brand clearly)

One Thousand

Three and a half years ago I reluctantly started this blog. I gave it a name, "activist on a mission to initiate change" and made a commitment to write in it with some form of regularity.

I have shared myself under the terms that I originally set forth "A written account of my personal journey as an activist for sex positive culture both personally and professionally."

Today's post marks my 1000'th post, a thousand times I have typed out my truth, my realities, my growth and pursuits.

When life has had me high I have written happy, when I've been bursting with pride I have written proud, when struggling I wrote of my challenges.

When success caught me, I let you know. When I had things to offer you, I gave them.

I have blogged when sad, when tired, when hurt, frustrated, anxious and even when in love.

I have shared my vulnerabilities and my strengths, my joy and at times my sorrows.

I have given this blog photos of my body, and images from my life.

This is a well read blog with a wonderfully huge readership, many people I know make their way here daily to keep up with me, my world and my activism. Others use this as a place to find inspiration, because apparently I am a trail blazer. Strangers find their way to this place through Key Words, and Google.

No matter why you read here, know that you land on my stat counter and I follow where people come from. I have learned so much from you my readers along the way and even more about myself.

Quite some time ago, I removed the comments feature from my blog, making it so people who had something to say to me could do so by writing me at my professional address. The personal e-mails I receive are inspiring, filled with accolades and thanks.

I blog to set an example, to keep a record of the journey that is solely uniquely mine and I am so grateful to be able to be such a source of enlightenment, entertainment and inspiration for so many people.

This blog, is me being true to myself and not allowing others to rewrite history. This place serves as a reminder of where I have been, whose aided me, loved me and who or what has gotten in my way.

Lovers & Love

I have fallen in and out of love a number of times really over the years of my adult life. I have loved men and I have loved women. In truth, I have fallen hard for men with my heart more often then I have for women. Though I have crashed head first into loving women suddenly.

I have been loved by many men, and I have been loved by quite a number of women. I am currently loved by a man and by a couple of women, and I love each of them not in return, but simply because what is, is. It's the basis of our relationships with one another.

My romantic relationships with men, in hind sight I always knew were coming. With women, it's always been a most pleasant surprise.

I have sought out relationships with men, I have never gone looking for a woman to date or be a partner too. Women seek me out, men I have gone looking for. Women I hold at bay, it takes someone special to captivate me. Men I have cruised along for, then pointed at just the right one and said "come here". It works for me, in both directions. I am fortunate in this.

Men have taught me the greatest and biggest lessons in life through love, women have taught me the most profound lessons about myself through love.

I have been hurt by relationships ending, and hurt desperately too. Both men and women have broken my heart.

I know that I have broken a few hearts myself as well.

As I have grown older, and gained more experience in loving others (and being hurt) I have come to recognize the importance of both moving on and of being thankful for the time shared with someone I had a heart connection with.

I miss past loves at times. Though with out each of them, I would not be where I am today, loving how and whom I do today.

Hot Tattooed Babe

Snow.
Snow Snow Snow.
Glorious Snow.

The white flakes were everywhere when I awoke this morning. We went to bed at nine fifteen last night and awoke at nine this morning. Almost twelve full hours of blissful necessary sleep cuddled up together.

Imagine my surprise to swing open the drapes and see the snow had blanketed everything. It brought such a smile to my face. The view was so spectacular that I woke RC up to enjoy it with me.

Seeing as we were up early, we packed up some domestic chores and headed out in the Jeep to complete the tasks at hand. Having him with me always make my day so much nicer, I sure love my man. I was so pleased he had today off so we could spend the time with one another.

We did our errand running, then had a really fantastic lunch out at a sushi restaurant. The roads were quite icy in our neighborhood, and luckily few people were driving on then. With the 4X4 on, we fared just fine thankfully.

While at a pit-stop at our local library RC found a poster on the community bulletin board, it caught his eye immediately. It was an advertising poster for an event happening at Douglas College. One of the models, was a woman we know, her image is the one most prominent on the poster. We were happy to see her hanging there on the library wall, so I took out my camera and snapped a photo of the poster. (I checked with her earlier and asked if I could re post my photo of the poster here on my blog, she said yes!)

(click the image to enlarge, the hot babe on the left is one of our peeps)

Now it is almost time for us to ready for this evenings Deviant Dining event at The Lounge, it's the last one of 2008 and we wouldn't miss this for anything. Let's hope the snow does not scare too many of our members away, many of whom wrote today to inquire if the dinner is still scheduled to happen. Oh yeah baby, we are still open and happy to be hosting everyone for another great dinner.

Reflections of a Woman

1. What did you do in 2008 that you'd never done before?

I achieved a level of educator success and notoriety that I had not even believed was possible.

My clitoral hood pierced in a setting of absolute support.

Ran a sex positive facility as my full time dream job.

2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I did keep my New Years Resolution, though it took me till July to implement it in my life.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

No, but soon someone I am getting to know is going to POP.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

Not yet.


5. What countries did you visit?

Dominican Republic.
The USA.

6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008?

A full time business assistant. More alone time with my daughter. My Masters Degree.


7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

The date in July that I made a huge life change. The date of the US presidential election.


8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Being compensated with the largest check I have ever received for a work project. It left me trembling with excitement.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Not having more of a desire to reconcile long standing family discord.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

No, I am very healthy, unless you count my being fatigued almost full time.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

My new MacBook.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?

A few people: RC's mom, Lisa M, Keith.


13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

No one has the power to depress me. Who appalled me, Marlee Ginter from Komo news.

14. Where did most of your money go?

A new wardrobe, a new beauty regime and sushi. Oh, and a growing teenager! (grins)

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

My daughter being such a grounded teenager who does awesome in everything she touches. My relationship with RC being so secure.

16. What song will always remind you of 2008?

N/A

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

a) happier or sadder? happier
b) thinner or fatter? same
c) richer or poorer? richer in money, opportunities and love


18. What do you wish you'd done more of?

Sleeping. Full body massages. Travel. Loving more.

19. What do you wish you'd done less of?

Looking at my computer screen and answering e-mail.

20. How will you be spending Christmas?

At home, with my daughter and RC. Then on the island with both sets of parents, his and mine.

21. Did you fall in love in 2008?

Yes, I fell in deeper love with RC and found love for myself that had been forgotten about the year before.

22. How many one-night stands?

**Blushes** I will not kiss and tell.

23. What was your favourite TV program?

20/20
John and Kate Plus Eight
CSI


24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?

Hate, I have no time to hate.

25. What was the best book you read?
I read at least thirty different sex related books and guides this past year. Too many to recount and all equally valuable, entertaining, and um, stimulating.

26. What was your greatest musical discovery?

N/A

27. What did you want and get?

Wanted 500 members at Libido Lounge through Orientation and got them all and then some.

28. What did you want and not get?

Weekends off of work.

29. What was your favorite film of this year?

N/A

30. What did you do on your birthday?
Had dinner out with my man and was adored by friends.

31. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Pregnancy or rather the birth of a child between RC and I.

32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008?

Pulling it all together.

33. What kept you sane?

Alone time at home. Cuddling with my teenager. Love from RC.

34. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Barack Obama.

35. What political issue stirred you the most?

Prop 8 - fuckers


36. Who did you miss?

A long lost friend with cancer.

37. Who was the best new person you met?

Too many to count, our Lounge members continue to amaze me.

38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008.

Keep at it no matter what. Work it, until you achieve it.

Business Survival

The management end of managing our business has grown exponentially, creating copious amounts of work and necessary file keeping.

It's just not about hosting events and teaching classes any more, there is a level of behind the scenes workload that is beyond comprehensible at times. It's costly and it is time consuming.

Keeping up with it all is do-able because we pay people to manage and execute many of the professional tasks that need done regularly. The rest of the items are remembered and tended to because some smart cookie in my life has time-lined everything that I need to do in order for me to care take things in an efficient and timely manner.

WCB is short for Workers Compensation Board and is where we pay into WorkSafeBC for our employees.

GST is now something that we file, because we now make XXX number of dollars and it thus has become mandatory.

This is an up-to-date list of all the support we require to make what we do happen for Libido Events, Libido Lounge, and those that come to us with a need surrounding sex-positive culture.

1. Corporate Income Tax
2. Web Design
3. Accounts Payable
4. General Accounting
5. Legal Assistance
6. Jennifer's Ghost Assistant
   
7. Laundry Services
8. Food Services
9. Shopping (office, kitchen & facility)
10. Event Management & Planning
11. Cleaners
12. Maintenance
13. Guest Educators
14. Volunteer Coordinator
15. Conference Planner
16. Ask Me Anything (will do most anything not covered elsewhere)
    

Dirty Talk

I just awoke from an hour long nap, as I was no longer able to stay conscious. After last nights Naughty Party, then this afternoons Exploratorium event there was not a drop of energy left in me and my ass was dragging. I'm feeling peppier now though.

This wonderful e-mail arrived to my professional account yesterday and it made me feel good both for my own self and also for the writer.

Hi Jennifer!

I had intended to send you a note much sooner, but it is a busy time of year.......my apologies.

I realize that you likely won't remember me, given the number of people you must meet over the course of your week.

But I just wanted to say 'thank you' for your kindness at the orientation I attended November 25. As advertised, it was very interesting as well as educational. And as I mentioned to you afterwards, much less 'threatening' than I anticipated! Not quite sure what I was expecting, but I was also greatly relieved to see that the other people attending were essentially 'just like me', and I sensed that my lack of experience may not be as big an issue as I thought it might.

Becoming involved with Libidoevents is something I really want to do, though it is going to stretch my comfort zone - but that's a good thing!

Anyway, I just wanted to send you a note of encouragement to let you know your courage is appreciated and to thank you for making someone often labelled as 'painfully shy', comfortable.

Looking forward to attending my first event.

Kindest regards,
Lew (member # 494)

Sex Educator Vancouver

The business woman's luncheon was just awesome yesterday. Suffice to say the woman who invited me conveniently forgot to mention that guests have to stand before the entire group and introduce themselves by full name and occupation. I learned this ten minutes before the intro's were started.

There were at least eighty, perhaps ninety woman there, and maybe a dozen of us were guests. I was the eleventh person standing to introduce myself.

Hello ladies, my name is Jennifer Skrukwa and I am a Professional Sex Educator.

Some clapped, there was a low whistle, smiles spread across their faces and many were nodding happily. Within minutes we were networking with tables of eight women. It did not take long for them to come for me. No joke. They had so many questions about what I teach, who I am and how I move in the world. It was immensely gratifying and a huge relief to have their approval. I had passed the first hurdle as I saw it.

By the time the second networking session broke out, there was a number of women I needed to get to, and spend a few minutes with. I loved it, and the woman who brought me, was so right. I do belong with those women, they are my people. Professionals, women, responsible, successful and mature. I brought a large stack of business cards and handed out every last one of them.

We ate like Queens, the food was scrumptious, as it was a massive buffet. I was asked to do a presentation for them in early 2009, and I am so eager to do this. How very encouraging. I was called an eloquent speaker, told I was bold and progressive and a number of "older" women shared with me that their group needed my energy and knowledge.

I am very happy to report that as of next month, I become a full member and shall continue on my merry path of networking and educating.

Imagine my surprise to know two other women there. One from an interactive class I taught a short while ago, and another whom I have known for a decade. Our crossing paths was amusing to say the least.

I walked out of the building with a woman who called my name, then told me that she believed touch is so very important to our happiness and survival. I agreed. She asked if she could hug me, and I said of course.

It was a wonderful experience and I am so glad that I stepped outside of my box, and again am expanding my personal community of friends, allies and supporters.

The women that I met I am eager to know better, they were all so very interesting.

Women On Top

Sad news indeed. Beauty and activist Bettie Page died yesterday. I found this statement regarding her passing, on the home page of her website...

With deep personal sadness I must announce that my dear friend and client Bettie Page passed away at 6:41pm PST this evening (Dec. 11 2008) in a Los Angeles hospital. She died peacefully but had never regained consciousness after suffering a heart attack nine days ago.

She captured the imagination of a generation of men and women with her free spirit and unabashed sensuality. She is the embodiment of beauty.

Statement by Mark Roesler, business agent for Bettie Page

Dec. 12 (Bloomberg) -- Bettie Page, the 1950s pinup girl whose natural looks and risque fetish poses triggered a cult following four decades after she turned her back on modeling. The life of Bettie Page.

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I am restless, everyone here at home is sound asleep. I find myself unable to shut down enough to get rest, and so I write.

Later this morning and into the afternoon I am lunching with a prominent group of individuals. A business woman's networking luncheon that I am about to become a member of. Kind of sexy in theory. Kind of tummy tossing in truth. I have three differing outfits chosen and dependent on the weather, I will choose the most suitable. A large group of women who own their own businesses and are successes in their chosen fields of expertise - fitting that I join them, yes.

Life has taken so many unforeseen turns these last couple of years. I have matured and learned so much, no longer the practical life skills of coasting by, now I am on the climb to mastery of business entrepreneurship. Constantly a student and always open to meeting new opportunities head on, my efforts have challenged myself constantly and though I struggle, I always, eventually come out on top.

I need to remember to reward myself for a job well done and time invested to arrive here. I work hard, and lately have overlooked how much it takes a toll on my soul, my family and my friends. Rewards are good, because when I am happy and looked after, I have more energy to invest in myself, my family and friends. This is a huge lesson and one I should remember to act on with more regularity.

SALE: Memberships & Gift Certificates

Tis The Season for gift giving and with this in mind Libido Lounge and Libido Events have a few special opportunities for you to take advantage of to make your gift giving easier. These are time limited offers. We are proud to be able offer you such a great deal and savings to celebrate the holidays and want you to join all the others with the elite status, of Life Time Membership.

Any person currently holding an annual membership to Libido Lounge can upgrade it to a Life Time Membership for only $1350.00 This is a savings of $150.00 and certainly worth considering. With a Life Time Membership you may attend any future Libido Lounge party or social event for only $5 for life.

A Couples Life Time Membership is currently $3000.00 and we are also having a special deal on these, making them only $2600.00. With a Couples Life Time Membership you may attend any future Libido Lounge party, social event for only $10 per couple for life. (or $5 per
person)

Any person not holding a membership yet to Libido Lounge, may still buy the Life Time Membership/s at these special rates, though your membership will not become active until you complete the mandatory member orientation class. (you'll need to pay the $40 membership fee - this is a one time fee attached to the class)

Members and non members alike, if you have been considering private sex coaching work with Jennifer, we have had some beautiful gift certificates made up in time for the Christmas season. Excellent as stocking stuffers indeed or a treat for yourself for the long sought after appointment you've been lusting after. The gift certificates are in denominations of $100, $125, $200, $250 and $300 each.

These special rates and offerings are available until December 31 2008, after which Life Time Memberships will no longer be sold.

Starting in 2009, with the "stop sale" of Life Time Memberships, we will then start selling All Inclusive 1 year Memberships at the rate of $700.00 per person, or $1300.00 per couple. Gift certificates have a 2 year expiry date on them.

Upon sending in your payment for either Life Time Membership you will receive a lovely envelope detailing your purchase, and of course, suitable for gift giving. Your gift certificate comes in a Christmas envelope all ready for you to use yourself or to hand to that special
someone in your life whose been wanting or needing some sex positive education or support.

Checks for Private Coaching work are made out to: Jennifer Skrukwa

Checks for Life Time Memberships are made out to: LL
Our mailing address is:

PO Box 28578 4050 Hastings Street Burnaby, BC V5C 6J4, Canada

*Be sure to include your mailing address and to whom you would like the certificates addressed.

Happy Holiday Season to each of you. Know that we adore counting you among our friends, and we look forward to continuing to serve you as BC's Sex Positive Resource. You are... a valuable part of our sex positive community and for that we are grateful.

Anal Intrusion

A few things that have gotten me rather excited in the last couple of days, let me share with you...

This bit of news about a new vaccine is very promising and looong overdue. Hooray for pioneers working towards the common goal of a therapeutic vaccine to inhibit the spread of HIV. Finally.

The *new* member forums are just-about-complete and will open the beginning of January on the Libido Lounge website. A place for our members to chat with one another privately, post photos, stories and personal ads. Forums where no bias exists, tolerance is the order of the day and inclusiveness is mandatory. Forums that are well moderated, yet giving our members free reign to be themselves and pursue further knowledge and play opportunities amongst themselves.

We are now at 515 Lounge Members as of last nights orientation. An excellent number, and one that I am really damn proud of.

Our final ever sale of Life Time Memberships terminates at months end, and a number of people have stepped up to take advantage of this great offer. $1350 = events for life. (only a $5 charge per event exists for kitchen & laundry) My last couple of deposits to the bank have tickled my fancy beyond belief, we are heading in a wonderful direction and one that makes me not only proud, but our members as well.

Our family Christmas plans have all been sorted out and I have let go of any guilt associated with this festive season. I can only be in so many places at once, and due to this small, very real fact, we will be enjoying three different Christmases each in differing weeks. I am super excited about being home for a change and not on the road, it is an awesome feeling to know that we all won't be frazzled silly this year seeing everyone at once. Travel plans have been made and booked and the turkey is in the freezer. We are so ahead of the game this year.

And finally, what next makes me happy lately. I've had the chance this last while to really settle into my partnered relationship with RC my love, and my role as an experienced educator. Each of these gives me immense pride. I feel strong with my man, and as though we can conquer anything. We communicate so well together and it's hugely comforting to feel so safe and loved. My job affords me great friends, hours of my choosing, travel benefits, a business that is thriving, opportunities to interact and know amazing people and a paycheck that is more than I ever could have hoped for as an activist. I have created my own success and am able to enjoy it with my partner, daughter, friends and volunteers. It is liberating to have done this for myself.

Once this Sundays Exploratorium event is over, I am almost done work until New Years eve, only a couple of events left.

CONTEST: WIN A NIGHT OUT

This Friday night is Dirty Girls, Libido Lounges monthly women's play party. Our events are open to members and their guests only, we are not a public facility, rather a private members only club.

If you would like to attend Dirty Girls, we would love to have you for a one time entrance without your having a membership and needing to do orientation.

This offer is only open to non members.

To Win: send me an email to my private email address, telling me why you should be chosen as the very lucky recipient to this wonderful offer. One to two paragraphs at most. Deadline for submission is Wednesday (today) at 6 PM. The winner will be notified via email by 11PM and all further details sent along at that time.

my email address: jennifer@libidoevents.com

Here is the write up on Dirty Girls just to give you a little peak, a tease if you will....

Imagine your best sleepover pajama party when you were younger. Without pajamas. When you arrive at the venue you will step inside a place where the cares and the stresses of the day are left at the door. The lighting is soft, the colours are soft, the carpets and furniture are all soft. (The girls are soft too)

The best part about a DIRTY GIRLS party is that it's a light, fun, carefree evening where almost anything and everything goes; a place to explore your voyeuristic or exhibitionist side (or both). If you're just at the beginning of your adventurous journey, it's a great place to dip a toe into the water and decide if you want to dive in deep or wade gently into the shallows. You can be naked as the day you were born, decked out in lace, satin or silk, wrapped in leather, shiny and sparkly in glitter, or festooned in feathers. Choose something that makes you feel beautiful, because by the end of the evening it will be pulsing through you. Beauty. Softness. Laughter. Joy.

No two women are the same and no two DIRTY GIRLS parties are the same. Some are filled with happy shrieks of girls being flogged & caned, some with the soft murmurs of an appreciative audience to a girl practicing her best pole dance. There will surely be massage oil at some point, and the chocolate fountain might well be bubbling in the kitchen. Anything is better dipped in chocolate.

The big room is surrounded by sofas, edged by a suspension frame, perfect for working on rope bondage or suspension techniques. The dance pole in the center of the room is a great place to practice that stripper dance you've been dreaming about. The medical table has the potential to bring a happy ending to an internal examination. There's a Sybian sex machine for those feeling like going for a ride, a Monkey Rocker, a Fuckzall, a massage chair, many massage tables and a hot stone kit to relax with.

A DIRTY GIRL'S party is a feast for all the senses. Delicious appetizers, fragrant candles and massage oils, giggles and whimpers, touches as bountiful as you might desire or none at all if you're merely a contented voyeur, and pretty girls of all ages, shapes and colors everywhere.

It's like a secret sorority with no particular pledge and no particular uniform. The only expectation is that you leave your inhibitions at the door and venture boldly where no man has gone before. It's a girl thing. Try it. You'll like it.

Kinky Pleasure

A long hot bath with bubbles in the middle of the afternoon today was justified today. I've spent thus far, five hours awake in bed, with computer on my lap and the phone next to me as I set about tending to business.

I'm involved in a bondage fetish photo shoot next week and having been lining up other models, themes and clothing. The work going in to this is a lot and I'm confident that the final outcome will be sure awesomeness.

Sunday is Exploratorium, our BDSM sampler event and working out the schedule has been relatively easy to do this time round. We've hosted the event enough times now that pulling it together is rather straight forward, thankfully.


RC's mom emailed yesterday. She reads my blog, for those of you not in the know. A brave woman indeed.

*** Hi Mom good to know you keep up with us both. ***

Anyways, her email was of a matter relating to Christmas, and then she dropped the bomb. She had (obviously) read the post the other day about RC's new PA piercing and how that all had gone down. She was a-tad-bit-concerned about his penis, and perhaps his sanity. So Mom, know that he's in great physical and emotional health and his penis though not healed yet, is most certainly happily on the mend.

With little effort on my behalf, I nailed down some major sponsorship for an upcoming project today. This is a major milestone for me, career wise. I am now working at a level that I have aspired to for so many long hard laborious years. The road now has become so much clearer, easier to navigate and rewarding. I work alongside, for and with incredible people and entities, it really is a privilege.

Girls Love Sex

Today being a Monday, I spent it catching up on domestic items left untended over the weekend. I wrapped some Christmas presents, cleaned the kitchen, put away toys from Saturdays party, made phone calls, straightened up my home office and made a list of To-Do items that will take me the rest of the week to accomplish.

Then this evening I headed off to The Love Nest and taught to a great group of students my fantastic Tie Me To The Bed Posts Please class. It was a wonderful evening and everyone left with a host of new skills.

All you women who are interested, Friday is Dirty Girls, our women's only play party. Reserve your spot now, and come check out what an amazing event this really is. The women are incredible and the chance to play is around every corner, we have everything you could possibly want when it comes to pleasure.

My new piercing appears to be healing nicely and I am most pleased with this fact. Though a little bothered by the fact that I have not been able to masturbate since Saturday afternoon. Given that my favorite tool to stimulate myself is RC, and his penis is out of commission, it is a strong desire of mine to get off. I figure I can hold off a few more days then I'll just have to attempt an orgasm with my old friend, The Hitatchi!

I have started to update the calendar with our January offerings. Make sure you check it out, and mark your calendar with the events, you'll be wanting to attend.

Genital Piercing Oh My

Five different people were pierced last night at Libido Lounges Dungeon Players Party.

1. a man had both his nipples pierced

2. another man had both his nipples pierced and the frenulum under his tongue split with a scalpel

3. one woman had her clitoral hood pierced

4. I had my clitoral hood pierced

5. RC my guy got a PA, the head of his penis through his urethra pierced

The night was beyond intense, and Elwood did a great job handling all the holes and people he poked.

The energy level in the place, about blew the roof off.

I can not believe how mind blowing the whole experience was. The night was one that will not be forgotten by any one who attended.

After care was required for everyone pierced and everyone who witnessed the acts.

WOW.

Holy Fuck.

We got late home and were so high on endorphins that neither of us could sleep. This morning we are both smiling, alive and the shock has worn off. Neither of us are in pain, though RC is peeing blood, which is rather normal.

Out of all the piercings and slicing that happened, by far, the most deeply emotional item to witness was the PA piercing. With out going in to a lot details, RC won the award for having the most guts and enduring the most. His PA piercing was done in a way that Elwood had never ever done before, and well it's fairly safe to say the man will never do again. It was profound the agony, the noise, and the length of time it took, my poor guy was in shock, pale as a vanilla ice cream float and his lips were blue. That today he is smiling, happy and filled with color, does wonders for my maternal desire to care take him.

First up was P a beautifully handsome guy who had both his nipples done first and it was super easy for him. Two piercers were at the party and so they did both nipples simultaneously, he glowed afterwards and floated out of the room.

Deej, volunteer extraordinaire, had her clitoral hood pierced and she was a real trooper, she sucked it up and went through with it quite fast, and as the second person pierced in the evening too. She is still recovering from having both nipples done two months ago - something RC and I took her to have done.

Then T a ruggedly good looking man, climbed onto the gyn table, and with his wife holding his hands, he had both his nipples pierced too. He seemed so stoic, and all went super well for him, thankfully.

Then it was RC's turn, and his cock was prepared for the onslaught. He trembled, understandably. I was at his face, kissing him and rubbing his cheek, one arm firmly over his chest. When he was pierced finally and it was over from beginning to end, everyone standing watching was done as well. This piercing sucked the life out of everyone there. Even poor Elwood needed to recover from that extreme period.

I was up next and laid out to get my clitoral hood poked. It was difficult to lay still for, and apparently I was a bit Dominant and aggressive to Elwood and everyone else present. It took me some time to find my groove, and when I had almost found it, suddenly the needle slid through and the big part was over. Getting the jewelry in was a small challenge because I came emotionally unglued, just-a-bit. Two men held me down while Elwood completed the task and then the deed was over with, thankfully.

Finally P, came back in the room and stood very very still, while Elwood took a scalpel and over and over again sliced the tongues undersides bit of skin wide open to prepare the man for a split tongue. To be completed some time in the future.

Not a usual Dungeon Players Party for sure. Thank God too, as I couldn't handle a party like that regularly. Today is all about recovery. Good food, no stress, little to do and napping.

That both RC and I are out-of-commission sexually at the same time is very beneficial. Thankfully the healing process is fast for genital piercings and we can soon resume our sex antics.