Finally

Libido Lounge has now been open
for 1 full month.

YEAH!

Avoiding Gender Bias

The Husband Store

A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:- "You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item from a particular floor or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you CANNOT go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.

The 1st floor sign reads::
Floor 1 - These men have jobs.

The 2nd floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.

The 3rd floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely good looking.

"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help with Housework.

"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"

Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have A Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.


To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives store just across the street.

The 1st floor has wives who love sex.

The 2nd floor has wives who love sex and have money.
The 3rd through 6th floors have never been visited.

Comments on SULTRY

I found this posted on a locals swingers websites message forum. Of course it pleased me, so I wanted to invite you to have the chance to read this as well.

Its wonderful to read things from other couples perspectives.

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WOW! ... Can't wait for the next one..

C and I went to the Libido Events Sultry party on Saturday and had a fantastic time.

I was definately excited to go and experience this new event. I have always wanted to experience a bath house - it has always held an appeal because of its history and seediness and I have heard great stories from other couples about it.

Jennifer organized the entire downstairs area for our group. As you walked, the first room was set up with chairs and TV with porn playing - turn the corner and the locker area room was set up with benches on one side and access to the lockers on the other. Two small tables with snacks and lots of water and pop.

There were three massage tables also in that area, and some nice music playing. Once we changed out of our clothes, we ventured into the cooler of the two steam rooms.

As we got warmed up, the conversation started to heat up. We had some great conversation about lifestyles events etc. Just getting to feel comfortable with everyone at that point.

We left the steam room to cool off, have a shower..

As we were showering, I decided it was time to pay attention to my sweethearts now engorged cock - it was fun to watch the others reactions as they exited the steam room two by two.

At this point, Jennifer jumped into the mix and that started the booby slide in the shower room - she got all the girls sliding their boobies together - and the boys were adding soap to the center of it all to help us with the sliding part.. lol.

As the group started to gather in the shower room, Jennifer suggested we all introduce our coochies.. so we went around the room twice - first the ladies and then the gents. Needless to say, this broke the ice and from that point on there were no more inhibitions and folks went about having fun. Every corner and every room had something sexy going on.

I have to say, after being at lots of lifestyle events, this one was very unique, and tons of fun.

I think Jennifer is hoping to hold the event quarterly, and I for one will be on the list for the next Sultry party!

Kudo's to Jennifer for the Georgia Straight article, and for continuing to forge the way ahead in our kinky world.

Thanks again for a great night Jennifer (and RC)

J & C

Burlesque in Vancouver

Lately I have been a real homebody. Aside from leaving the house to work, I have been spending most of my time home bound. Readying for Christmas and still recovering from public consumption.

Two days ago I happily received a reminder that Friday was the burlesque Christmas show, for local talent, the Screaming Chickens. I really wanted to go. RC and I went and dragged some friends with us as well. They found a sitter, we picked them up, and off we drove together, to The Cobalt on Main Street.

We found over 15o people easily out on this Friday, specifically to see these hotties take it off. Since we arrived half an hour before the show we found upfront and personal seats together for the four of us, making the view of stage, perfect! But with so many people in attendance, I only saw a handful of the people I was hoping to say a warm hello to!

The latest and greatest Taboo Revue show featured singing, dancing and comedy from Melody Mangler, Darla DeVine, Violet Femme, Fanny Fabulous, Lola Lockehart, Bonbon Bombay, April O’Peel, Mad Madam Mimz, Bobbi Whiskey. The night was hosted by Evil Bastard and Bernie Bombay. (I removed the name of the opening comic because his drug humor was offensive and he was the only down side to the whole evening)

It was nice to spend an evening out with friends, in a sexy atmosphere and not have to lift a finger to do anything. No one even looked to me to do anything resembling work. Ok, except to drive them home. I was the designated driver, being the non-drinker and all.

Walnuts, Fame, Fortune and a Laugh

Help! I need 1500 walnuts.

I require the nut whole, in the shell.

They are not to eat, so quality of nut is irrelevant.

And I need them free or very inexpensive.

The project they are to be used in begins for me in the first week of January 2008.

Leads, tips, ideas anyone?



Now for some awesome news.

The Taboo Sex Show hired me to teach eight classes for them in January. This is very exciting for me, and doubles the load of what I taught for them from last year. This is my fifth year working at and for Taboo.

Of course, this does mean, being in the bright lime-light again next month as well. *sighs* The media attention will again be heavy, and the thousands of new people to meet me and Libido Events will be lining up in droves at the opportunity to know more about my work and activism after meeting me on-stage in classes.


To make you laugh at both RC and I, here is a link to something his mother created using our heads. If I didn't laugh out loud daily, I swear, the negativity that I face in sex-activism would eat me alive.

Catching you up

This quiet period from me on the blog the last month and a bit is the (obvious) result of the abundance of attention both positive, and some alarming, that I have received over the last few months. Most recently, the past couple of weeks.

I enjoy writing on my blog, it was daunting in the beginning, but now, it is a place where I look forward to leaving my thoughts behind. I resent the loss of it, and am slowly planning on returning to writing again somehow.

Regarding all the attention I've garnered as of late: It's all been disconcerting and heavy on my mind. This simple one line confession is huge. I never mention anything personal like that on this blog, this revelation reflects my need to show you the severity of what is going on.

I have retreated from view, as I make some serious decisions surrounding privacy, anonymity, and politics. A first, for me to draw back from something. That something would be the public view of my activism from my blogs perspective, as testament to who I am and what I create. I resent this.

It can be said, that I have needed and spent great numbers of hours already mulling over the matters at hand.

There is still much for me to figure out. The issues are large and matters sadly cross over into my personal family life.

How do I show you (ie the general web population) who I am, be true to my self in my writing, and keep safe my family? This, is my struggle right now.

There are few of you reading this right now, under two dozen.

Any brilliant ideas, amongst you chosen few? (there is only one of you I do not know, and you're a work friend of RC's)

Just to be clear, I have a file, FILLED with email requests from readers who want to become able to view and read these pages again. And the requests, and in some cases demands are continuing on an hourly rate to fill my in box ... the longer the blog stays down.

I knew my readership was and is large, but the onslaught of interest from new comers (due to the GS article), is much more than I am comfortable with all at once. They email me with positive questions, requests and at times hostility for my being "who I am", my in-box is regularly swamped, lately it has become a nightmare of people looking to suck me dry of information.

It is true I am a strong woman and I say that loudly. Though I am no force against vengeful, hateful behavior. It is not in my nature to fight, or war.

I also have only so much in me professionally to give away for free. I have a family, a life and I need, NEED down time.

My activism has grown much larger than I ever thought it could and is now providing me with opportunities that are shaping my future and defining me as a professional today.

There are individuals that have anger about my being seen as a professional. They resent both who I am and what I represent and they had found my blog and were attempting to manipulate my reality.

I am simply the face, the public face for sex-culture, and sex-politics locally to some. My mission of sex-positivity will prevail.

I am not frightened, just rather cautious. And tired of second guessing people and actions.

This is both *hugely* positive for me professionally, and as fucking negative on ones personal life as anything one could ever imagine. The negativity at the hands of people who feel as though that by strangling me, they can make the much larger issues disappear. The upswing, my mission and the goal of our culture is sex-positivity, and it is mainstreaming.

It is humbling at times, to be in this place for me and I find myself short on role models in similar pursuits. I am learning as I go, and would like support along the way especially at times like these. I am crippled lately by the bashing and the weight of this on me.

There are some fights attempting to break out in my world and in order to avoid an all and out war right now, this blog remains locked as I watch and wait.

(Just to ease everyone's minds, this all has absolutely nothing to do with Libido Lounge)

The Georgia Straight

As you can imagine, this is making my knees shake.

Got sex?

Yup, that's right, the Feature Article.

Photo and everything.

Gulp.

Here I go.

loose ends

My day consisted of readying for our trip.

An aromatherapy mineral bath.

Had my hair done.

A pedicure.

A facial.

Then a fantastic dinner out.

I shopped for a swimsuit with no luck. Grr!

Spent a leisurely evening home alone, packing and relaxing.

G-Spot Workshop

This evening over in Delta, to a packed room filled with 16 class participants and two volunteers, was 18 people whom I led on the journey towards understanding both female ejaculation and the G-Spot.

The class was a different sort of group, not as questioning as others in past. Or, perhaps I am just getting better at my job. Tonight's class was quiet though, and intense. Five couples and everyone else singles, including women.

My lovely volunteer was doing her "first" appearance as a stunt vulva for me. She did great and I hope she will help out again in such ways.

keeping track of it all

There are more thoughts and posts rolling around my head right now than I can really keep track of. Here is a sampling of my ponderings...

1. We went to The Kiss Store yesterday, excellent service and what a great sex store. It's a little tucked away, but damn if it wasn't full of tonnes of quality adult products that are usable and not of the disposable variety. Main & Broadway - check them out!
2. I'm the proud new owner of a very menacing and dangerous knife as a gift from RC. It came with a sleek case, has a fixed blade and a glorious "gut hook". Utilizing it in play shall make for a very hot scene.
   
3. A purchase of a Guess open toed pair of shoes in burnt red with a brilliant heel, happened just in time for our trip to the Caribbean next week. They are incredibly sexy.
   
4. Due to said trip next week, I have already started packing my luggage and sorting through my summer clothes to see what I will be bringing with me and what I still need to purchase.
5. I am looking for a driver, with a closed in van or truck, who is able to drive & move equipment for our November 24th Play Party. You get FREE admission to the party for your efforts. Email me for more details and with size of your vehicle.
   
6. I am looking to own some stanchions. Two or three sets. I do not want to buy them on-line if possible. My preference is to find and purchase them local to me, and ideally even used. Does anyone have any idea where I would find these here in the Vancouver, Lower Mainland area?
7. A new friend "Martin" showed up in class with me bearing this thoughtful gift. I can't wait for the chance to lay on the beach and read it shortly.
8. The vulva project is underway. There is a large, yoni being designed for me right now, and I can not wait for the chance to show everyone once its complete.
9. PRE Travel Must Attend To's: Manicure, Pedicure, Hair Dyed, Find & Purchase Swim Suit
10. Write the 2008 Libido Lounge calendar. Then get it in-on line.
11. I was just interviewed for a very intriguing article, and believe I lent much to the subject. Once it appears in print and on the web, I'll point you towards the piece in case you hadn't run across it already by then.
    
12. The Creme Piedes from L'Occitane En Provence is simply a spectacular product. I picked some up the other day and the whole family is using it with wonderful results.
    

Big Day

Yesterday was a big day for Libido Lounge. The last pieces of paper work were finalized making our upcoming opening even more of a reality for me.

The next couple of weeks will be rolling on by with lightening speed as for part of this time, I'll be away in the Caribbean on holidays, then returning to the last days of readying before opening our doors.

There is much to accomplish still, though all the shopping is done. It's just the details remaining at this point and they will make you fall in love with what we've created.

Libido Lounge members can expect a mail out from me shortly, filling everyone in on where we are at now after our unforeseen absence this past summer as we battled legal and ethical issues both from the general public and from within our own local sex culture.

Exciting news on my bold move of Kiss My Tiara to Surrey City Council and on "Stink" our new lounge campaign will also be announced in this mail-out. Watch for it.

REGISTER NOW

Later this week, on Thursday, you'll find me in Delta at Club Eden teaching Finding & Stimulating The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation in their wonderful facility.

This class has a live model and we do a demo on the g-spot and female anatomy lesson, it is worthwhile to take this class, if you have not before.

You MUST pre register to get the address and to be included in the group. Singles and couples are welcome.

See you there.

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Finding & Stimulating the G-Spot & Female Ejaculation (with live demo)
Venue: Club Eden, Delta, BC
$45 couple or $25 per person includes tour of facility
Register: clubeden@clubeden.ca (exact address given then)

Are you a squirter or gusher, or aspiring to be? Want to help your
lady enjoy her G-Spot? This is the class for you. Join Jennifer and
one of her lovely woman friends for a hands-in demonstration on
techniques to please for G spot stimulation & ejaculation potential.

You'll learn: Clitoral & G-Spot Anatomy from both an internal and
external view. Choosing a toy or your own hands? Getting you both
ready for the often trans formative experience. When the G-Spot is
stroked, there is often a sensation or urge to urinate.

By learning techniques to both understand then move beyond this urge
many women can experience heightened arousal and for others
ejaculation becomes possible. Tips that are tried, tested and easy to
grasp so you can finally stroke your own G-Spot or that of your
partners.

*please bring a notebook & pen to class

what a life

Last night was craziness. We had more fun than imaginable. Between an enormous house party and the insanity at the fund raiser, we were more than spent by the time we put our weary heads to bed finally early this morning.

Some time soon though I am going to write about Rock Star status, and the treatment I get at times, that makes me feel like one. It is a post that I've been toying with for some time.

In other news, RC took me shopping today, and I left Nordstroms with the most incredible pair of Seven Jeans. They make my butt look spectacular and the fronts of my thighs look like I am ten years younger. I just may be hooked now on the most expensive pair of jeans that I've ever owned and how they look on my body.

Next a trip to a quaint jewelery store, to find the perfect pair of earrings and matching bracelet in red stones. The service you get in US stores while shopping is so professional that it saddens me to have to return to the service neglected stores here in Vancouver.

We were back home by 7:00 this evening, feeling good about our weekend and happy to have our Christmas plans firmed up as well.

Sleep is next and required at this point in order for me to function again.

Stateside

Good Morning from Seattle.

RC is in the kitchen naked, cooking a scrumptious breakfast for Bella, himself and I.

I am off to teach two classes back-to-back shortly, leaving my partners to spend the day together.

Tonight, the three of us, have a date.

Out of Town

There are a great number of items on the agenda for today.

Like, readying for my weekend trip to Seattle to stay with Bella. Oh how I miss her so much.

I've also got three classes to teach at The Wet Spot which have been on the calendar for months, which individually require that I pack specifically for each.

Like all plans so far were not enough we are attending two very different unique events on Saturday night together. One being a dress up fund raiser dinner and auction, the other a fancy shmancy house party amongst many many friends over at Max & Matisses.

I bought a new dress just yesterday for Saturday evening and can't wait to wear the extravagant little number, along with the stockings I found to complete my outfit.

Contrasting Emotions

Someone I know has been given an opportunity that makes me feel jealous.

This is an emotion I am not all that familiar with. Not even one I experience often.

And a circumstance that although I do not want, its acclaim I do.
This person is not close to me, though we know one another.
Our paths are similar, though different.
I am much more dynamic, engaging and rising.
This person is washing out on many levels.

What bothers me right now, is that I am unsure if I should just

A. march right out and create the same opportunity for myself
OR
B. await my turn, for what is inevitable

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In other news. ...I mentioned the other day we were perhaps going to take a holiday to Cuba. Turns out I misspoke.

We are all officially leaving for the Dominican Republic in two weeks. The three of us are taking a family vacation together.

I am super excited. With so many activities around the resort and out-trips easily accessible, we are sure to have a memorable trip.

But a nine hour flight? Eeeww.

Todays it was 32 degrees, I don't mind the plane ride so much now knowing the temperature.


Time to air out the suitcases!

think before you write

An e-mail found in the depths of my In-Box. It annoyed me.


i am a sub. male and a vergin at 64 i have since i was young seen women as being more powerful than men my grandmother was afraid of men and i was to so i ran to women for protection so i need your help seeing women as stronger i am not happy being a guy but i am not gay i worship boots and know they should be licked clean please get back to me

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Dear vergin,

Your email really bothers me.

You have asked nothing of me, then asked that *I* respond to you.

About what?

I almost hit delete, then thought a small response might be better.

You've given me no name to address you by and used no punctuation in your entire letter to me. Or lets just call it what it is, a run-on sentence.

Your e-mail is a waste of my time as my in-box is constantly filled with respectful people asking intelligent questions of me.

Think about what it is you want from me, before you contact me next. Then ensure you articulate it to me, in easy to read English.

Thank you, have a nice day.

Jennifer

Kinky Costumes

There was a costume contest where we were at. One of the categories, was for the Most Vanilla.

I went as a Vanilla Baker, hence my taking a swig of my bottle of vanilla.
and I won the prize for "most vanilla" costume.....a butt plug!

RC made his whole costume himself with fabric, a sewing machine, pattern and some creativity...he also made my bakers hat. What talent.

Reminiscing

Being accustomed to being a spoiled princess as a regular matter of course it was even an extra special treat to receive some of the gifts that made their way to me for my birthday this past weekend.

Decadence along with personal pampering attention from a place of beauty & tranquility. There a number of treatments that soon will be lavished on my body leaving me soft and feeling beautiful in my own skin. A luxurious day spent here will leave me as a puddle of a woman.

Shoes, shoes and yes, more shoes. It would be improper for me to say just how many pairs, but enough to get me through an entire year in style. Yes, that many.

Custom made paddles, three of them. Stained naturally and a set, two of them anyways, I am eager to use them.

Something small and pretty in a little green box. Treasures that were most pretty and needed.

Money (and lottery tickets), my parents feel like that is an acceptable gift.

Flowers. Well, two dozen stunning red roses that is. They are still exquisite looking in my living-room.

Many wonderful cards, e-mails, letters and short phone calls with friends.

The cake was so grand. I mean GRAND. WOW, did T ever make something superb. Belgian chocolate and a massive double layered, iced Adult cake. Photos to follow shortly. (M & T please forward them to me)

and much much more. To write more, would be to reveal how spoiled I truly am. So not going to happen.

Rumor has it that next month we will be in Cuba as well! Right before the Lounge opens officially.

Busy and happy birthday for me and life continues to be grand.

Kissing Class Squamish BC

KISS ME LIKE THIS-- an interactive couples class

We're once again proud to present Jennifer of Libido Events to facilitate our first erotic workshop of the season.



Kisses are at times tender, endearing, sexy, suave, teasing and sophisticated. From the subtle, the pre coital to the full on public display of affection variety, this class will ignite some passion between your lips and in your relationship.



You and your partner will be guided through an awakening of oral delights. You'll be shown how to deliver a multitude of kisses and given tips to interpret smooch reactions and read body language. Learn to be the recipient of kisses as well as how to differentiate and master many lip locks to have your lover feeling everything from teased to toe curling pleasure from your intimate lip touch.



We encourage you to check out this event. Jennifer is a fantastic host, and it'll make for a romantic evening with your special someone in an open, and caring environment!



**please bring a large blanket and two pillows to class.



Date: Tuesday November 27th
Cost: $50 couple
Venue: Trinity Romance Shop @ 38155 2nd Ave. Downtown Squamish


Phone: 604-892-2266