All Things Sex [2]

The Swiss are now manufacturing a new condom to target the 12-14 year old boys who are sexually active and who find the regular sized condoms to be to large. I'm feeling like this is a bold move, as whatever can be done to make sex safer more accessible to all regardless of age (or size), is sex positive and progressive in my books.

A lovely couple who are Lounge members attended last nights Exploratorium event. They wrote something here about their experience. They are fast become a rather popular unit around our corner of the world. And he's an awesome baker who brings me tasty treats. Yummy.

Licking or rather being licked is certainly a favored activity of mine to partake in when the mood strikes. Nothing more satisfying than a warm tongue between ones lips, flicking in all the right place. You can imagine my delight then when I discovered this a few months back. Partnered or not, oral sex is now available whenever you are.

I have an old pal who can perform self pederasty ( insertion of his own penis into his anus). He does it as a party trick now and again, its mind-blowing to watch. I actually love watching other people see him do this for the first time. He sits on the edge of a sofa, twists his cock around once, pulls it backwards, lubes up his ass, then uses the arm of the sofa to bounce up and down until his dick is inside himself and he's thrusting. Incredible.

In a short while we are off to Paris, Germany and London for a few weeks. It would sure be great if you would send me the names of your favorite adult clubs and sex shops. We plan on making our way to as many of these favorite haunts as possible while holidaying.

All Things Sex

There is a very informative and eye opening article on Pornography circulating right now. You should spend the five minutes it will take to sit back and read it. It's from The Scientist and is titled Porn: Good for us?

Buy this book if you are a parent of a teenager (to give to your young person) or if you are a teen yourself, you'll be forever glad to have read it. It is also awesome reading for the college student, insightful as all hell and sex positive too.

How Women Measure Up. A London store is using mannequins in plus sizes in its store windows. Finally, realistically shaped women. Now if they would stop calling them plus sized and just use them intermixed with other sizes, that would be truly a miracle. Women come in all shapes and sizes ya' know?

The most beautiful word to myself as a polyamorous women, is one few can comprehend. It took me years to understand it, and a few more years to understand how to practice it with an open heart.

D is for Daisy Chain: At Sultry this past Saturday night, there was a daisy chain going on of women. (a group sex activity in which there is a linking of several people by oral connections) How delightful.


HELP ME: I am working on a new class. And I need feedback from a wide variety of people. Email me your opinions and observations on the the following.....

What behaviors do single men have at parties that make you uncomfortable or that make you decide to not engage them in conversation or play? What behaviors do single men have at parties that make you decide to talk with them or to play with them? What would you like single men to know or consider before approaching you for play?

These questions are being asked of single women and couples that play with men.

The new class is being written to support the single guy, so be descriptive and tell me what you've experienced over the years. It is my hope to develop a class that will assist them in reaching their goals more readily, while not offending anyone and achieving success more often.

You can write me at jennifer@libidoevents.com

List of Worry

There are days you simply wished you could erase from memory. Today was one of those unfortunate days where nothing went off as planned and I feel like I accomplished jack-shit.

Currently on my plate a number of things that are pressing.

1. I have an issue with a certain persons behavior and I'm trying to find a suitable way to work through this with them in a short period of time. I hate that this is causing me angst, usually I am able to handle things of this nature fast and with care.
   
2. Putting the baby to sleep is exhausting emotionally - he sleeps well, but getting him to fall asleep is ridiculous.
3. I have to drive the teenager to the airport at 4 AM.
   
4. The contractors working at The Lounge today were close to 2 hours late and as such are no where near finished the job they were hired for. Thursday we go at it again.
   
5. Juggling a 3 month old baby and working full time is not something that I recommend. Being self employed is draining at a time like this, like nothing I can describe adequately.
6. Tomorrow the little man gets his vaccinations. Oh joy, that should be.
7. I was requested today for yet another (print) media interview. The topic is one I am passionate about so I have said yes. They want to do it via phone this week when I have some free ... and quiet time. Good luck eh?
8. There is a large project I have been pondering doing for awhile, and I have finally decided to throw caution to the wind and move forward with it.
9. This month I am teaching at Kwantlen College twice, and at SFU. I need to work on my classes and update them for a "student" audience.
10. Friday I see the Infectious Disease doctor again for a check-up, this is actually making me nervous.
    

Let's hope I can clear my plate sooner rather than later. My head is bursting with thoughts and responsibilities. I need a vacation that's for sure.

Not-To-Be-Missed

FRIDAY MARCH 5
7 - 10 PM
EXPLORATORIUM - a self guided sampler event
$25 member / $45 member couple / $30 guest of a member
A DROP IN EVENT - no reservations required
No Dress Code

Is there an exciting erotic fantasy running through your mind that you have yet to dip your toes into? Perhaps you've tried to tease it out of someone before, but they wanted the shoe on the other foot? Maybe the idea of it tickles your fancy but when you've had the chance to watch it unfold you started to have second thoughts?

Exploratorium is the event where you can step into a new activity and try it on for size for just ten minutes at a time, in a casual but safe environment with skillful, experienced volunteers on hand to assist you. You can drop in all on your own throughout the evening--or bring a friend and be among the first to break the ice. You are encouraged to see all that is available to you: peruse the available activity booths, watch other people as they engage the volunteers in a guided tour before trying it yourself, and talk to people about their experiences over light snacks and beverages. Casual dress is welcome (this evening has no dress code).

Communication between volunteers and their subjects is paramount at this event--you tell us the pace at which you want to sample our smörgåsbord. Partial nudity may be required in order to participate in some of the booths. After all, how else can you experience spanking or a taste of electric stimulation?. Full nudity of some participants (and even a few volunteers from time to time) is not uncommon.

Did you know your skin gets more sensitive to light touch after a brisk spanking? You might find a booth for spanking and caresses on a typical evening of Exploratorium.

Have you ever wondered how someone could get a rush from a temporary piercing? Talk to someone about getting poked and you might find out.

Be erotically kissed or get a blissful body massage from our in house massage woman.

Does the idea of being dominated cause you to be excited and apprehensive in equal measure? There may be a booth for you at Exploratorium, where you can dare yourself to settle the matter once and for all!

No two evenings of Exploratorium are the same. Even the same booth may be attended by a different volunteer the next time you come out to whet your appetite for the exotic. The following is a brief (but not complete) list of common booths featured at Exploratorium to tantalize your senses and pique your curiosity:

- Restrictive rope bondage
- Sexy sensation seeking
- Paddling and percussion
- Flexibility check (with our yoga instructor)
- Erotic massage
- Tickling and light strokes
- Wax & Ice Play
- Suction cupping
- Pressure points
- Knife play
- Electricity play (e-stim)
- Clamping & Pinching
- Single Tails
- Silk Scarf Bondage
- Delicious flogging
- It's a wrap! -- mummification
- Intimate kissing
- Shaving with a straight razor (you pick: genitals? face? somewhere surprising?)

A Quarter of a Year

Our baby is three months old today. Actually he turns three months on the 29th, but since this month only has 28 days and no 29, today is the big day.

He is such a sweetheart. His personality is shining bright these days and we are so thrilled that he made his way into our family. What a joy.

It's tiring beyond belief working full time and having a wee one AND a teenager too. But it is so worth it.

A Full Nights Sleep

Last night our son went down to sleep in his crib at 10:10 at night. I went to bed at 11:15 about an hour later and curled up with Jason for a cuddle and then some much needed rest. Imagine my shock when I awoke at 8:20 in the morning and my breasts were swollen to easily three times there normal size.

Milk was trickling out of one breast and had pooled under my back and the sternum was filled with the white stuff too. The sheets were soaked and I was chilled from the wet spots that were more than damp.

I woke Jason up and asked him if he had gotten up during the night with the baby. He said no. Jason asked me if I had gotten up to the feed pickle during the night. I pulled back the covers and put his hands on my breasts ... no further explanation was necessary there.

Then Jason said bolt upright, and announced every parents worst fear. "Is he dead?" I chuckled. No, I can hear him cooing in his crib.

We both stared at the clock in our room as we did the math. Our son, who will be 3 months old tomorrow had slept for just over 10 hours straight, without feeding or waking us.

We woke refreshed, recharged and feeling really great. What a memorable day this is.

After being up for an hour Pickle and Jason left for a man day, and I was left at home by myself. You know what I did? I went back to bed for another two hours. What a luxury.

I am starting to come out of the fog that has been the past number of months of new motherhood and serious health issues.

With my PICC line out of my body, the home nurses gone, my infection on the mend and the baby starting to have better hours, my mood is now leveling out and I can see a light at the end of this very long dark tunnel we've been in.

Today has already kicked ass. I am grateful.

Tonight is Sultry our bath house event for couples, and we have plans on fucking like bunnies. Can you say "baby sitter"?

Mockery of the Perfect Penis

So yesterday I made a post about the man who wrote to me about his "perfect penis" and how he has a "gift". I have received numerous responses regarding this letter and they have all been silly and fun.

That post of mine inspired yet another reader to send me this

Hi,

So I’m a relatively attractive almost-28-year-old. I take issue with the recent claim by a relatively attractive 28-year-old, as recounted on your blog, that his penis is perfect. My own phallus has always received positive reviews and I will not ignore a gauntlet thus thrown. If he wishes to engage in a dick-measuring contest with the world, let it hereby be known that he will not be unopposed! The aesthetic qualities of my penis can be substantiated by miscellaneous photography, with and without adhesive googly eyes.

You are also welcome to perform in-person measurements and other examinations and evaluations, as deemed appropriate, pleasant, and/or entertaining.

This is exceptionally funny to me for a variety of reasons.

1. I know the man who wrote me the above email.
2. I have touched the penis of the man above and find it to be noteworthy.
3. I have an actual photo of his penis with googly eyes on it (courtesy of his girlfriend)
4. My friends penis would surely and easily win any contest against yesterdays perfect penis.


Ok, this now concludes me mocking the man who gave me so much to laugh at. Back to regular scheduled programming.

From My In-Box

As you have likely figured out, my email account is one that most people would not want to get near. And for good reason too. People write me about all sorts of personal issues, disclose things they should keep private and ask questions of a very intimate nature.

Most people are clever though and can figure out how to write a request without coming across as egotistical or creepy.

I say "most people" because there is always the exceptions to this rule.

Yesterday a man sent me an email, this is it, in its entirety

Hi, So i am a relatively attractive 28 year old who has become bored with many things in my life. Ever since i started having sex I have been told that I have a gift, some have even said perfect, penis. There are many things in the sexual realm that i stilll haven\'t been a part of and now i feel i am ready to do something more \"adventureous\", i guess would be the word. I don\'t know if this is the place for me, and if not i would appreciate if you could point me in a better direction, but some sort of amateur thing might be what i am looking for. In any event I am interested in your site and what you do and i look forward to further communication....

Now I think I am supposed to in awe of his gift. Because as you can imagine, I've *never* met any other man in life or in email claiming to have a PERFECT PENIS. Wow. Jeez. Really?

I can only presume that this man assumes (incorrectly) that his "supposed" perfect penis, will get him something special at The Lounge.

Yet if he had spent the time to read the Libido Events and Libido Lounge website he would have known that penis attributes are irrelevant to membership and to me personally.

Further if he had read the website he would clearly understand that we are not a porn site, so looking for something "amateurish" with us is also a mistake.

Then he asks me to point him in the right direction. To where? For what? I know nothing about this man.

I digress, I know a little about him. Lets see .... he's a 28 year old man, who has led a boring life and who can use email but not read a website. He has a perfect penis and a gift. He is not ego filled, no not-at-all. And he has found my website and email address, oh lucky me and thinks I will be the one to save him from his sexual boredom.


I guess I can count myself fortunate that there was no attached photo of his appendage to his odd email.

Some days I am torn between deleting such emails and putting my head through a wall.

Welcome to my professional life.

Stimulating Events

Three fast approaching events, the first two are only for Lounge members and the last one is for members and the general public alike.

THURSDAY FEBRUARY 25th, 6:30 - 9:00
CUDDLE PARTY
Cost: $25 member / $40 couple / $30 guest of a member
Reservations: jennifer@libidoevents.com
Open to Women & Men

Please note that you must also have your $25 cash renewal cost on you if your member number is PRE 516. And your renewal is good for 12 months.

The evening starts with an opening circle orientation that will set the ground rules, connect us together, make introductions and have some playful games too.
An event where you may indulge the snuggle bunny within yourself. A chance to enjoy Compliments, Cuddles and Caresses, in an environment where sex is not permitted on this one evening.

Massages, flirtatious energy, kind words, big hugs, and gentle stroking. A movie on the big screen and tempting snacks to nibble on.

Be as sensual as you feel comfortable with knowing that everyone must keep their bottoms on. You may remove clothing if you like, but genitals must be kept covered. Wear something comfortable, perhaps your pajamas even!

This event is designed for people of every persuasion, unkindness is not permitted. Everyone is worthy of a hug and sweet murmur.

There is no requirement to hug or cuddle with anyone if you do not wish to.




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FRIDAY FEBRUARY 26th, 7:30 - 10:15 PM
SENSUAL MASSAGE NIGHT
Cost $25 member / $45 couple / $30 non member guest
Reservations: jennifer@libidoevents.com
Open to Couples, Women & Men

Please note that you must also have your $25 cash renewal cost on you if your member number is PRE 516. And your renewal is good for 12 months


Here is your chance to get a sensual massage and to give a sensual massage in a safe environment.

This social relaxing event is open to men and women and is an all inclusive environment. You'll be respectfully touched by people of both sexes.

The evening starts with a short group ritual and then a conversation about group rules around boundaries to ensure each person gets the experience they are seeking. Then we break into groups on The Lounges countless massage tables.

Depending on the number of people attending each person will be massaged for a period of time, before "returning the favor". You may well have two or three sets of hands working you over at some point.

The event is non sexual, your preferences for pressure and massage placement will be honored.

There is no dress code, though wearing clothing easy to remove is most helpful. You may choose to be massaged while nude, or while wearing underwear.

You *must* bring your own towel. Massage oils are provided, though feel free to bring your favorite.

Snacks will be out and subtle music will fill the air.


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SULTRY - couples only bath house event
SATURDAY FEBRUARY 27th, 7:30 - 11:30 PM

Tickets are $80 for General Public couples and non refundable.
Tickets are $65 for Lounge Member couples and non refundable.
Tickets are $10 for Lounge Life Time Member couples and non refundable.
(PAYMENT DUE IN ADVANCE, NO TICKETS AT DOOR)

SULTRY Steam, Sauna, Sex - Couples Only

We make a private rental of an Original Style Bath House in Vancouver.

~~~~~ SULTRY ~~~~~

An evening for the playfully adventurous: Just you, your partner...and twenty-four other couples, locked in for an evening of debauchery. With saunas, showers, play rooms, and massage tables, the stage is set for sensual, sexual, and fun games. Get lathered up with a large number of others in the shower (the lathering is mutual, of course); have a water fight; pair up (or triple up) for intimate play -- or watch other people while they do. Relax in the sauna between activities while Jennifer runs her version of Show & Tell (not quite the game you remember), have a snack or a cold drink, then dive back into the steam for more.

Tickets are first come, first served and are purchased by sending a check made payable to "LL":

Libido Lounge
PO Box 28578
4050 Hastings Street
Burnaby, BC V5C 6J4
Canada

OR

Send an Electronic Money Transfer = EMT, from your banks home page, to my email address jennifer@libidoevents.com

**Once payment is received, the address and other relevant party info will be sent to you. Be sure to include your email address when sending a check, and the answer to the security question when sending an EMT.

* All inclusive: Entrance to the event, finger foods, non-alcoholic beverages, lounge room entertainment, play stations, safer-sex supplies...

* ...Social lounge with TV and refreshments, play rooms (with recovery beds and massage tables), two large shower rooms, two large steam rooms

* You and your partner must arrive and leave together.

* Our own masseuse for couples massages (there is an additional charge of $20 for 15 minutes). Sign up when you arrive!

Disease & Infections

Mondays are notoriously for me a long day that I rarely look forward to. However today as a Monday, is an exception. Thus far my day has been filled with joy.

Let me illustrate three reasons why:



1. Someone owes me a substantial chunk of change and has for quite some time. It finally got to the point where asking for the return on the money was futile. I took the matter to court. And the court ordered in my favor - I won.

The company involved was given thirty days to make payment. The thirty days came and went. I contacted them to remind them that they were now in contempt of a court order. An apology was given.

Two weeks ago, I told them if the payment was not here immediately I would take the matter back to court and notify media sources about their business practices.

This morning a call came that the check will be in my hands this week. This is so long over due, and an issue that I am glad to have out of my life.


2. This morning my Infectious Disease Doctor phoned me to say that my latest MRI results were promising. This translates to the fact that my Osteomyletis is much better and has stopped spreading currently. We are not out of the woods yet, it can flare up again as its a disease notorious for recurrence. But since its obvious growth is no longer visible, my PICC line will be removed this week. This news is incredible.

I can not wait to have a shower, it has been almost 7 weeks since my last one. I am so eager to immerse my arm in water and be done with this rigorous treatment regime, as it has taken a serious toll on not just myself, but the whole family too.

3. The baby has been sleeping in his own crib for five nights now, instead of in bed with us. Last night he slept from 9 till 2, then awoke for a feed. Then he slept till 7. This means that more frequent sex will be happening again as we have our bed back. And last nights sex was awesome. Jason *had* some guilt over the baby being in his own crib now, but after the sex happened he soon forgot about his misplaced guilt.


However as with all positives there is usually a negative. I am off to the lab shortly. With having C-Diff as a secondary infection due to my long term antibiotic use, it appears that the baby now has it. This bug is dangerous and apparently difficult to get out of ones system. There is a new prescription awaiting me, though this time an oral dose and it transfers to breast milk at a 20% rate, so we are hoping that it is enough to alleviate the babies symptoms. Because of this infection, I will continue to see the ID doctor.

Tousled

This is Sunday morning in our household. After a day at the Olympics yesterday we are all exhausted today. The Pickle is 12 weeks old today and in a week, will be three months old.

Tidbits

First things first. A Vulva skirt. Yup, it's true, someone is making these and selling them. And as sex positive as I am you will not find me wearing one of these any time in my life. They are rather odd looking and not something I suspect you'll ever be finding at your local favorite boutique.

We have Olympic tickets to today's Women's Hockey game. China vs. Switzerland over at Thunderbird Stadium at UBC. It's a family day trip and with the weather so beautiful out, I am looking forward to the four of us hanging together all day.

I am working on a new class. And I need feedback from a wide variety of people. Email me your opinions and observations on the the following.....

What behaviors do single men have at parties that make you uncomfortable or that make you decide to not engage them in conversation or play? What would you like single men to know or consider before approaching you for play?

These questions are being asked of single women and couples that play with men.

The new class is being written to support the single guy, so be descriptive and tell me what you've experienced over the years. It is my hope to develop a class that will support them in reaching their goals more readily, while not offending anyone.

You can write me at jennifer@libidoevents.com

Speed Dating Event

Speed Dating for Singles happened at The Lounge tonight. It rocked. The whole event was smooth and successful. And as a bonus, I had such a good time running it. The turn out was fantastic and everything ran like clock work.

By the time I returned home, it was rather late. Jason had the baby up in a sling and the Pickle was already fast asleep. They are so adorable together, my heart just swells with pride.

Now it's my turn to hit the hay. I am so bagged. Curling up with Jason is a well deserved reward at the end of my day.

Osteomyletis

My medical issues are beyond expensive these past few months. I am so grateful to be a Canadian and not owe a dime for all the costs that have been incurred. The fact that health care is a right in this country and not something that puts one into bankruptcy is something that I will forever give thanks for.

This morning was my third MRI in the last twelve weeks. Early next week I should have the results back.

I'm a little nervous and scared, wondering how the infection is playing out through my jaw bone. I want it to be over with, yet hold out no false hope.

Time will tell.

Donna's bad joke

This wife buys a pair of crotchless panties in an attempt to spice up a dead sex-life.

She puts them on, together with a short skirt and sits on the chesterfield.

At strategic moments she crosses and uncrosses her legs ... enough times till her husband says, "Are you wearing crotchless panties?"

"Yes," she answers.

"Thank God for that. I thought the stuffing was coming out of the chesterfield." .

Bra Store??

I need a few really, really good bras.

They need to offer exceptional support for my breasts as they change complete cup sizes all in one day as my milk comes in, then is consumed and gone.

This bra should be available in a few different colors. Not just black, white and beige.

My bras must be sexy and not utilitarian, I need to feel womanly and pretty while wearing it.

I have to go to a store to buy these bras, I won't buy such things on-line.

I want to feel the fabric on my skin before making the purchase, and I need someone to fit me.

I live in Port Coquitlam and do not want to travel all over the GVRD to find what I am seeking.

Do you know of a physical store where I could go to find my dream bras?

Bonus points if the store has a website where I can look over their products first, before making the drive.

Need More Hours In A Day

This morning I was at the hospital lab having more blood work done. These past few months I have been poked more times than I care to remember or even acknowledge.

After my lab work was complete, I headed over for my scheduled appointment in surgical day care. The nurse checked my PICC line site and did a little re-bandaging. The Infectious Disease Doctor came to see me next.

Later this week is my 3rd MRI, and by Monday the powers that be hope to have an answer as to whether or not I need to continue on IV therapy, or if I can go to an oral antibiotic.

By the time I got home, there was a call from my doctor with news that I didn't want to hear.

I've developed a secondary infection in my bowels from the hefty dose of medication I am on. We knew this could happen, as it is a side effect of my meds but had hoped I would not develop it. I have all the symptoms and my labs show I have the infection.

Tomorrow I return to the doctor for another prescription and hope it will clear up this infection.

It seems that though there is a light at the end of the tunnel, that it is a dim and intermittent one.

My week is full of events, medical appointments, running around and complete exhaustion.

Having a baby at 37 years of age, is not the breeze it last was in my early twenties.

Anti-Gay Video (1950's)

This clip was produced with the intention to teach people to watch out for the "too friendly homosexual" as they may try to have sex with you.

I am amazed at how much and yet how little has changed in societal views from the 50's through to today.

Getting Away From It All

Last night we went out and had a delicious family dinner together. Then the teenager stayed in the hotel with Pickle, while Jason and I headed out somewhere special. We were even able to get is some raunchy, sweaty, dirty public sex while away.

Thus far there has been some outrageous shopping as well. I have made more purchases than I planned, but then again the stores here are so different and the chance to buy pretty things doesn't happen often enough for me.

Family Time

Our whole family is far from home. If I told you where, it would no longer be a secret.

We used our passports to get here and I needed a pharmacy/doctor letter to travel with all my gear.

This get away is greatly needed for each of us to recharge and shed some of the layers of stress that have been weighing us down.