Night Out

We went out to a party recently and Jason took this photo of the baby and I before we took the little man to the sitters.

My groove has been found again and I am happily enjoying its return.

Working Mommy

Today was day one of the Taboo Show for me. I taught my scheduled three classes and they were jam packed with people. Not a seat left, no floor space either as people filled that up and still more lined the walls standing. It went really well for me, so good in fact that the show owner came to me at the end of the day to tell me that they would be making (my already huge) workshop room even larger for tomorrow. Plus my corporate sponsor O'Behave sold out on the first day of a huge number of the products I highlighted.

After my classes I easily talked with and answered questions to upwards of 90 people. Exhausted as I left the Tradex, and happy with myself for a job well done.

Came home to Grandma asleep on the sofa with Pickle laying on her. It was 10:40, hours past his bedtime and he appears to be really off his schedule. I was fearful this would happen as I am working three 12 hour days and have Jason with me too, so the little guy is surely not going to be giving us the 12 hour sleeps we've become accustomed to. He took one look me when we arrived in and his whole face just beamed with joy. I almost cried seeing that look of adoration.

I have to go to bed now as tomorrow is without doubt going to be more intense and tiring than today even.

If you came out to the show and took in a class with me, it was great to have you there. And that includes you B & G - and thanks for for getting The Lounge that projector screen, you rock!

Butt Sex

Nestled safely in drawers in a storage tower down in my office are all the necessities for pegging.

My favorite dildos fill three drawers.

Sleek. Hard. Thick. Thin. Short. Long. Outrageously huge. Silicone. Heavy. Slender. Intimidating. Curved. Straight. With Testicles & without. Ridged. Bulbous. Textured. Black. Purple. Beige. Red.

The accouterments of course I have in copious amounts.

Silicone lubricant. Condoms. Cock Rings. Water based lubricant. Lube Shooters. Harnesses in spades.

I have an entire playground at my disposal where I can do the deed. Instead, I have visions of catching Jason as he bends over in the shower, or perhaps as he rolls over in bed unsuspectingly.

Nothing like showing someone you love them than with some back door loving.

Sex Education Abbotsford

Ok, after a solid nights sleep and many many supportive emails from those who read here, I feel much better than I did at days end yesterday when I made my last post.

It should be said that the Pickle went to sleep at 10 and slept straight through till 6 this morning. He awoke for a bottle and then went right back to sleep until 9:20 this morning. His sleep schedule is rather incredible and we are grateful because if he was still a serious night waker, I would have lost my marbles by now.


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I am greatly amused that Lady Gaga seems to have outed herself as being gay.


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Today I signed a new contract which is $800 for six hours of work. This certainly made my day brighter.


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The Taboo Show is fast approaching. *tick-tock*

My volunteers are arranged for each of the three days.
My handouts go to the printers tomorrow.
My teaching bags are a quarter packed.
New clothes have been purchased.
Thursday I get my haircut & a manicure and pedicure.
Print media interviews are complete and due out this week.
My mother in law is coming Friday to stay and to look after the Pickle.

Whew -- so much to ensure is in order before I am lost in the joyful sexual empowerment of the masses for three full days.

Head Meet Wall

I struggle. The balancing act of motherhood is taking its toll on me.

The last number of years I have spent working diligently to gain the exposure that has brought me to where I am today in my career. It has been taxing beyond belief yet I managed to pull it off --- most days.

There is a routine to my life that is family, work, work, work, self care, sleep. Family, work, work, work, self care, sleep. Repeat over and over again. I work A LOT.

My new routine is family, care for baby, work, care for baby, care for baby, care for baby, self care, sleep. And repeat.

I find it difficult not to work, at my core is a drive to be on the go and moving forward at all times.

Lately I feel as though I am going no where fast.

It takes so much just to get the simplest things completed. What four months ago what took me ten minutes, now takes upwards of an hour. This makes my head spin.

I miss my pace and I am challenged when it comes to scaling back. My goals are lofty so you can imagine how this all is affecting me.

Being a new mother again is all that I wanted and the little man sure is all shades of awesome.

But I find myself wanting to put my head through a wall some days.

Today I had a To-List of items that really needed to be done. The day started off well and then just turned into a gong show.

The baby projectile vomited all over me twice and all over the floor twice, with a big fat SPLAT. Instead of napping for his usual hour twice, no such luck, each nap was only ten minutes at best. This was the day he chose to be suddenly clingy, not wanting to be out of my arms. At fifteen pounds he's heavy to haul everywhere. I even had to sit him on my lap when I needed to pee. There was no way that I could not give him what he needed, so instead I gave up on my To Do List and focused completely on him.

Then at bed time, he had a melt down. He screamed for forty five minutes. Unheard of, so uncharacteristic of him. He screamed, I sighed loudly and repetitively. Jason stepped in and finally got the little fellow to sleep. Which of course made me feel like a big ole failure.

Is it so much to strive to be successful in my career, raise two kids (one a teenager & the other four months old), be a wife, run a household, travel, and feel accomplished?

I can do this can't I? Sure I can, if I try hard enough and learn to prioritize better. Surely this is possible. Because if it's not, I may as well give up trying now and save myself the heart ache and disappointment attached to letting go of my dreams.

Let me find the strength to move forward with tomorrow, because today sucked the big one.

Picture Perfect

Thursday I taught a class up at Simon Fraser University to a lovely group of eager students. Wanting to keep baby near, I decided to bring him along. I also brought a friend with me and the stroller, so while I taught she took him for a jaunt around the campus.

While out meandering she pulled out her camera and took some gorgeous shots of Pickle boy. Isn't he handsome?

It's been a real juggling act getting back to work and I am only able to do this because I have so many helpful warm and caring friends and family who make it possible.

We Got It On

Our bedroom light was still burning bright yet the end of the day had arrived and the outside world was quietly dark.

Jason's naked body was next to mine in bed and our flesh warmed one another despite the brisk air in the room.

In hushed voices we spoke, as we dared not wake the baby in the next room who was not yet deep in slumber. We only spoke about our day in brief snippets and between each morsel disclosed we nibbled on one another with fervor.

He looked into my eyes with a hunger and I merely made the suggestion sex would be nice. He rolled me onto my side and as we giggled together, he slid his already rigid cock into my core.

It was sex driven by need. The need to connect. The need to merge as one. The need for a release. The need for love. The need to do for the other.

Later after that point of climax, both weary and satiated, we disentangled ourselves from one another. But not before I grabbed my iPhone and snapped a photo of the position we found ourselves in as it was one we'd not before used.

Then we went to sleep wrapped up in each others arms.

Perception: A Social Experiment

THE SITUATION

In Washington , DC , at a Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007, this man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, approximately 2,000 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed that there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then he hurried on to meet his schedule.

About 4 minutes later:

The violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes:

A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

At 10 minutes:

A 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head the whole time. This action was repeated by several other children, but every parent - without exception - forced their children to move on quickly.

At 45 minutes:

The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.


After 1 hour:

He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed and no one applauded. There was no recognition at all.



No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold-out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100 each to sit and listen to him play the same music.


This is a true story. Joshua Bell, playing incognito in the D.C. Metro Station, was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities.


This experiment raised several questions:

*In a common-place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty?

*If so, do we stop to appreciate it?

*Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made . . .

How many other things are we missing as we rush through life?

Cherry Popping

Last night at the Couples Party I met a woman. There happened to be six of us on the group bed together. She was next to me.

I asked her if she had ever been with a woman before. In a low raspy voice, she replied "no".

"Have you ever touched a woman's breast before?" I was met with another "no", as I moved my body closer to hers.

The index finger of her right hand traced my warm soft breast with great gentleness. I knew that Jason who was between my legs caressing my lips would be greatly aroused by this visual before him.

I swept my finger along her breast and then brushed her pert nipple with quick slight motions. Her groans told me my attention towards her was appreciated.

The woman's husband starting having sex with her as my hungry tongue was licking the sensitive spots on her tight luscious body.

In short order Jason was on top of me and the four of us were all having sex side by side, all the while her and I continued to make out. The couple on the other side of us were now going at it hot and heavy too. The bed was in motion, the smell of sex was strong and it made my head swim in that lustful way I adore.

Jason came with a huge explosion and couldn't stop after that, he just kept going, caught up in the moment. The other woman's eyes rolled back in her head, her back arched and she was captivated by my talking dirty in her ear.

I had rolling waves of pleasure that left me gasping as the man next to me suddenly had the spent look of satisfaction come over him.

After cuddling everyone, I went and fetched a towel to clean Jason and I up. I asked the couple whom we'd been so engaged if they wanted anything .... "water". Upon my return I cleaned my man & I then gave each of them a cup of water much to their delight.

We sat around and debriefed for a few minutes then I left them alone to bask in the glow of the first time experience together with one another.

Got a truck?

March 26 a Friday and March 28th a Sunday I am in need of someone with a van or a truck to assist me.

I am teaching at The Taboo Sex Show in Abbotsford and need to move some equipment. Friday stuff is coming from The Lounge to the Tradex building where the show is taking place and then back to the Lounge again on the Sunday after the show ends.

Can you help me with this? I can offer you free tickets to the show and gas money.

Drop me a private email to jennifer@libidoevents.com

Discount Please

The Lounge has started it's Interior Design project - and this undertaking is a large one. I am really excited about it and not as overwhelmed as I thought I would be. Likely because a kick ass designer has laid out everything so professionally for us to follow. The end result I can see in my minds eye thanks to her planning, so now the actual work gets started.

With this in mind, I need a couple of things:

1. Walmart has these really cool trees I want to buy. At least 6-8 of them. I need someone who can get me an employee discount. Anyone out there able to do this?

2. ICI is where our paint is coming from. The purchase of this is going to be rather expensive and as such I am looking for someone able to get me an employee or some other form of discount. Anyone able to handle this?

3. Carpet. I am looking for a piece of carpet, and am open to where it is purchased from. However the color is set. Chocolate brown it is. Measurements to follow. Anyone work in or own a carpet store? Discount please?

Timing is critical here. I'd appreciate hearing from anyone able to provide assistance, sooner rather than later. Thank you.

Counting my blessings

You likely can not tell but I am extremely happy at this point in my life.

I am deeply in love with a man who cares for me in a way that I never dreamed possible. Both of my children bring me incredible joy each day. The baby is growing so fast and becoming so animated, it makes my heart swell. The teenager is a mover and a shaker, who is way more mature than her age and who is achieving exceptionally lofty academic goals.

My health after a long battle the last six months is finally recovering from being critical. Career wise, I am working as much as I want, and writing my own contracts that more than meet my needs.

It's true, you reap what you sow.

Taboo Sex Show Abbotsford 2010

I've been on contract with Taboo for many, many years.

At the end of the month is Taboo Abbotsford, March 26th - 28th. They have me teaching a host of classes and like last year, the are giving me my own theater room to do so in.

You'll be able to take in classes of mine in The Libido Lounge Seminar Room. (classes are free to you, your event ticket price of $15 get's you full access to everything)

Come see me.

Play Party & Class Vancouver BC

Two events happening this Saturday at Libido Lounge. Both are open to our members only and to their non member guests. Of course, you'll need to send in your reservation in order to attend.

SATURDAY MARCH 13
7:00 - 8:00
HOT SEX FOR THE UNINHIBITED - CLASS
$10 member / $15 guest of a member
presented by Jennifer
RESERVATIONS: jennifer@libidoevents.com

If you want intense passion and excitement in your sex life you need to take this course! This exhilarating workshop is crammed with Tantalizing Tips And Techniques for you to Keep Your Sex Life Smoldering Hot. This is not a beginners class. This is a class for people who are already good at sex and want to ramp it up to EXTRAORDINARY. This class will improve your sex life dramatically - whether you and your play mate have been together weeks or years!

We will discuss psychological preparation for wild sex and follow with lots of specific oral, toy, and manual techniques, with an emphasis on anal and vaginal intercourse. You will learn sexual positions which maximize your play time and give your partner deep satisfaction. You will discover just how responsive your body can be to certain sensations, which you and your partner can use to heighten your arousal and give you both truly amazing sex.

If you're looking for more sexual excitement, sensual touching tips, burning hot passion, mental foreplay, better sexual techniques, and greater sexual pleasure, then this class is the class for you!

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SATURDAY MARCH 13
9:00 - 1:00 AM
COUPLES ONLY SEX PLAY PARTY
hosted by Jennifer & Jason
$50 member couple / $60 guest couple of a member
RESERVATIONS: jennifer@libidoevents.com

Members May Reserve to bring 1 non member couple of their choosing

A Couples Only Sex Play Party. With music turned up, we swing open the doors to Couples Only and let the good times flow for an entire evening of hot sexy action. Meet other couples to watch, play with, swing with, chat with, cuddle up with and have a wild night out alongside.

Sex, Sex Machines, Bondage, Slap & Tickle & Social Time

Our massage girl will be on site providing her sensuous erotic massages at $20 for 15 minutes. Sign up when you arrive.

Open to Couples Only, same sex included of course. Bring your own toys and towel.

++Our Sex Machine the Monkey Rocker will be set up as will the Sybian, with attachments on sale, they range in price from $25-$90 CASH and once you buy it, you just continue to bring it back to LL so that you can ride each and every visit on your own personal insertable. The ride is free, it is the attachment piece you must buy. We have a number in stock, both singles and double insertables.

The kitchen will have snacks aplenty all evening long.

Dress Code: No street clothes, No business suits. No blue jeans. No running shoes, No athletic wear. No camouflage pants. No flannel robes. No sunglasses and No face masks.

Morsels

Happy International Woman's Day.

I'd write more but my day is committed to running a booth and teaching a class at Kwantlen's Health and Wellness Fair in Surrey.

NEED: I am looking for someone who works in a store or industry that sells fabric in massive quantities. (bolts) I need a really good price/ discount / deal so I can place a huge order. Can you get me a great deal? Drop me a line and let me know: jennifer@libidoevents.com


NEED: I am looking for someone who works in a store or industry that sells fake plants... trees to be precise. I need a really good price/ discount / deal so I can place a huge order. (about 14-16) Can you get me a great deal? Drop me a line and let me know: jennifer@libidoevents.com

All Things Sex [2]

The Swiss are now manufacturing a new condom to target the 12-14 year old boys who are sexually active and who find the regular sized condoms to be to large. I'm feeling like this is a bold move, as whatever can be done to make sex safer more accessible to all regardless of age (or size), is sex positive and progressive in my books.

A lovely couple who are Lounge members attended last nights Exploratorium event. They wrote something here about their experience. They are fast become a rather popular unit around our corner of the world. And he's an awesome baker who brings me tasty treats. Yummy.

Licking or rather being licked is certainly a favored activity of mine to partake in when the mood strikes. Nothing more satisfying than a warm tongue between ones lips, flicking in all the right place. You can imagine my delight then when I discovered this a few months back. Partnered or not, oral sex is now available whenever you are.

I have an old pal who can perform self pederasty ( insertion of his own penis into his anus). He does it as a party trick now and again, its mind-blowing to watch. I actually love watching other people see him do this for the first time. He sits on the edge of a sofa, twists his cock around once, pulls it backwards, lubes up his ass, then uses the arm of the sofa to bounce up and down until his dick is inside himself and he's thrusting. Incredible.

In a short while we are off to Paris, Germany and London for a few weeks. It would sure be great if you would send me the names of your favorite adult clubs and sex shops. We plan on making our way to as many of these favorite haunts as possible while holidaying.

All Things Sex

There is a very informative and eye opening article on Pornography circulating right now. You should spend the five minutes it will take to sit back and read it. It's from The Scientist and is titled Porn: Good for us?

Buy this book if you are a parent of a teenager (to give to your young person) or if you are a teen yourself, you'll be forever glad to have read it. It is also awesome reading for the college student, insightful as all hell and sex positive too.

How Women Measure Up. A London store is using mannequins in plus sizes in its store windows. Finally, realistically shaped women. Now if they would stop calling them plus sized and just use them intermixed with other sizes, that would be truly a miracle. Women come in all shapes and sizes ya' know?

The most beautiful word to myself as a polyamorous women, is one few can comprehend. It took me years to understand it, and a few more years to understand how to practice it with an open heart.

D is for Daisy Chain: At Sultry this past Saturday night, there was a daisy chain going on of women. (a group sex activity in which there is a linking of several people by oral connections) How delightful.


HELP ME: I am working on a new class. And I need feedback from a wide variety of people. Email me your opinions and observations on the the following.....

What behaviors do single men have at parties that make you uncomfortable or that make you decide to not engage them in conversation or play? What behaviors do single men have at parties that make you decide to talk with them or to play with them? What would you like single men to know or consider before approaching you for play?

These questions are being asked of single women and couples that play with men.

The new class is being written to support the single guy, so be descriptive and tell me what you've experienced over the years. It is my hope to develop a class that will assist them in reaching their goals more readily, while not offending anyone and achieving success more often.

You can write me at jennifer@libidoevents.com

List of Worry

There are days you simply wished you could erase from memory. Today was one of those unfortunate days where nothing went off as planned and I feel like I accomplished jack-shit.

Currently on my plate a number of things that are pressing.

1. I have an issue with a certain persons behavior and I'm trying to find a suitable way to work through this with them in a short period of time. I hate that this is causing me angst, usually I am able to handle things of this nature fast and with care.
   
2. Putting the baby to sleep is exhausting emotionally - he sleeps well, but getting him to fall asleep is ridiculous.
3. I have to drive the teenager to the airport at 4 AM.
   
4. The contractors working at The Lounge today were close to 2 hours late and as such are no where near finished the job they were hired for. Thursday we go at it again.
   
5. Juggling a 3 month old baby and working full time is not something that I recommend. Being self employed is draining at a time like this, like nothing I can describe adequately.
6. Tomorrow the little man gets his vaccinations. Oh joy, that should be.
7. I was requested today for yet another (print) media interview. The topic is one I am passionate about so I have said yes. They want to do it via phone this week when I have some free ... and quiet time. Good luck eh?
8. There is a large project I have been pondering doing for awhile, and I have finally decided to throw caution to the wind and move forward with it.
9. This month I am teaching at Kwantlen College twice, and at SFU. I need to work on my classes and update them for a "student" audience.
10. Friday I see the Infectious Disease doctor again for a check-up, this is actually making me nervous.
    

Let's hope I can clear my plate sooner rather than later. My head is bursting with thoughts and responsibilities. I need a vacation that's for sure.

Not-To-Be-Missed

FRIDAY MARCH 5
7 - 10 PM
EXPLORATORIUM - a self guided sampler event
$25 member / $45 member couple / $30 guest of a member
A DROP IN EVENT - no reservations required
No Dress Code

Is there an exciting erotic fantasy running through your mind that you have yet to dip your toes into? Perhaps you've tried to tease it out of someone before, but they wanted the shoe on the other foot? Maybe the idea of it tickles your fancy but when you've had the chance to watch it unfold you started to have second thoughts?

Exploratorium is the event where you can step into a new activity and try it on for size for just ten minutes at a time, in a casual but safe environment with skillful, experienced volunteers on hand to assist you. You can drop in all on your own throughout the evening--or bring a friend and be among the first to break the ice. You are encouraged to see all that is available to you: peruse the available activity booths, watch other people as they engage the volunteers in a guided tour before trying it yourself, and talk to people about their experiences over light snacks and beverages. Casual dress is welcome (this evening has no dress code).

Communication between volunteers and their subjects is paramount at this event--you tell us the pace at which you want to sample our smörgåsbord. Partial nudity may be required in order to participate in some of the booths. After all, how else can you experience spanking or a taste of electric stimulation?. Full nudity of some participants (and even a few volunteers from time to time) is not uncommon.

Did you know your skin gets more sensitive to light touch after a brisk spanking? You might find a booth for spanking and caresses on a typical evening of Exploratorium.

Have you ever wondered how someone could get a rush from a temporary piercing? Talk to someone about getting poked and you might find out.

Be erotically kissed or get a blissful body massage from our in house massage woman.

Does the idea of being dominated cause you to be excited and apprehensive in equal measure? There may be a booth for you at Exploratorium, where you can dare yourself to settle the matter once and for all!

No two evenings of Exploratorium are the same. Even the same booth may be attended by a different volunteer the next time you come out to whet your appetite for the exotic. The following is a brief (but not complete) list of common booths featured at Exploratorium to tantalize your senses and pique your curiosity:

- Restrictive rope bondage
- Sexy sensation seeking
- Paddling and percussion
- Flexibility check (with our yoga instructor)
- Erotic massage
- Tickling and light strokes
- Wax & Ice Play
- Suction cupping
- Pressure points
- Knife play
- Electricity play (e-stim)
- Clamping & Pinching
- Single Tails
- Silk Scarf Bondage
- Delicious flogging
- It's a wrap! -- mummification
- Intimate kissing
- Shaving with a straight razor (you pick: genitals? face? somewhere surprising?)

A Quarter of a Year

Our baby is three months old today. Actually he turns three months on the 29th, but since this month only has 28 days and no 29, today is the big day.

He is such a sweetheart. His personality is shining bright these days and we are so thrilled that he made his way into our family. What a joy.

It's tiring beyond belief working full time and having a wee one AND a teenager too. But it is so worth it.