Putting the turn-offs first, here is a list that makes "a potential" no longer on my radar:
- if you are a smoker
- if you have no job
- if you don't practice good hygiene
- if you have no hobbies
- if you have little interest in sex
- if you have little to no interest in BDSM
- if you can't be out about me and my career
- if you dislike children
- if you are a drug user
- if you have poor table manners
- if you are regularly tardy
- if you blame others for your troubles
- if you are unimaginative
- if you don't drive
And now the list of who actually catches my eye:
- you are gainfully employed
- you are tolerant, open minded and sex positive
- you love life
- you find sex and sexuality to be at the center of a relationship
- you are creative and passionate
- you are funny enough to make people laugh
- you own your life and responsibilities
- you are full of surprises, initiative and personally driven
- you have strong family ties
- others find you to be honorable
- you have a career you find fulfilling that meets your needs plus more
- you noticed me, yet didn't try to get in my pants without courting me first
- you are organized, tidy and know how to keep clean your own home
- you can keep plants and perhaps even pets alive
- you believe in ethical non monogamy & are able to practice it
