I joined a networking site in the hopes of meeting some new kinky people. Actually to be precise I am looking for on going play partners. Currently I have a lot of people in my world yes, though none are what I desire in a long term casual no strings attached type of relationship.
There of course is a profile section where one can write about themselves and who or what they are seeking. This is designed to inform others about yourself, so in theory only the suitable people should be making contact with you. Or applying so to speak.
Of course it does not always work out as such. Within two hours of putting it on-line, I turned my computer back on and found myself inundated with responses from people wanting to apply for one of the two positions I have open in my life. Flattering, sure. Overwhelming, not quite. Amusing, most definitely. Satisfying, well I'll have to wait and see who turns up out of it all.
Finding the "right play partner" is like finding a needle in a hay stack. It is possible, but it takes much concentrated effort. I'm not looking for a pretty person or even a height-weight proportionate person, nor am I looking for a doormat. I'm looking for that special someone that I share some sort of chemistry with. A trust worthy individual and a person who is responsible for themselves and their own actions and life.
Someone who isn't intimidated by me or my occupation, a person who is strong and supportive. A person accepting of what all I have to offer and not underhandedly working to obtain more from me.
I took some time to fill in my profile, hoping to paint an accurate picture of myself and being clear on what I did and did not want. Funny thing though, some people can't seem to read, or maybe, stopped reading before they finished reading my post and thus missed some critical key elements.
Case in point, women Dominants writing me and telling me why I should serve them. First off, I'm not looking for a women as a Top and second I am not into service with any Top. Another example is the young man who wrote me and wanted me to bottom to him, yet he has no skill set in play yet and is uncertain even of his own boundaries and limits. Goddess knows I am not the women for him, as my well written profile would have told him had he have even read it.
Want to read what I wrote? Here it is
My real name is Jennifer so please address me as such.
Do not call me Ma'am or Mistress, I consider this rude, as I do not have a power based relationship with you.
I will not call you Master, Lord, or even Mistress, as I do not have a power based relationship with you either.
I am an Alpha woman of strong character. I am a switch with a heavy lean towards being Dominant to my chosen play partners.
For point of this site, I am looking for two distinctly different people. This can NOT be the same person. As a switch I have NO interest in switching with a partner, one day being the Top and the next the bottom, No thank you.
What I desire:
An older man (40 years +, so older than me) to Dominate me and use me for his sadism to maximize my masochism. This relationship will be based on BDSM and not sex, I'm not interested in putting out sexually. This relationship will be casual as in "when we play together". However we will have no outside of playtime rules that govern us. You must lead and be creative as I have plenty of experience and wish to not be educating you, nor making suggestions. I can follow very well.
A service oriented bottom to take orders, follow obediently and who wishes to be rewarded with rigorous fun play and a Top who will cherish you and your efforts. This relationship could have some sex play involved in it (reward based), but that really depends on who you are, and what you are looking for. Gender is irrelevant to me, what matters to me is your interest in doing a job well and being able to have fun while doing it. You must follow well and be attentive.
I am an amazing Top who will take you on an incredible journey, I am very skilled at all that I do and am able to create scenes that are both memorable and breath taking all with you in mind.
As a bottom, I am a heavy masochist with well thought out boundaries. I am not into service, rather an exchange of energy, my bottoming for your Topping.
DO NOT write me about either number 1 or number 2, if you do not possess a good sense of humor and the ability to play publicly. You must be of strong character and not shy. All of this is necessary in order to be in my life.
I lead a very public life, as in "I am a professional sex educator and event organizer". I own Libido Events and Libido Lounge here in Vancouver BC and my personal history in local sex culture is rich and varied. I have accomplished much for our community at home and abroad and I am quite proud of this fact.
I have two life partners, whom I love and reside with and am not looking for anyone further to call my family. As a full time mother as well, I have no interest in care taking anyone else.
If you feel you have what it takes to walk into my world, either as a friend or a play partner, I invite you to send me an email telling me about yourself.
ON FRIENDING...
As someone who hosted over 175 events last year alone, I meet thousands upon thousands of people each year. If you wish to befriend me, please send me a note telling me who you are and where we met, or if you hail from my mailing list, are a reader of my blog or perhaps some other avenue.
I welcome knowing YOU.
