I've met some one. A person who promises to change the way the world sees me and my pursuits. It's almost everything I could have dreamed of and at just the right time too. A while ago, I went looking for anyone to fill this void, and I came up short. Time and time again I couldn't hand over the stuff as no one was there for me. And now, it appears as though the right person just saw the need and stepped up to the plate.
The last time I so unexpectedly had my needs met was with a girl a number of years ago who stole my heart. She came at me out of nowhere, just as this new kind soul has.
Though I don't expect to love this new person in my life, I surmise ... though prematurely, that I will love what this person does for me.
Tonight is NAUGHTY, our monthly play party. We set up for it the other day when we had some free time. Re-arranging furniture and room dividers for differing events sure beats hauling equipment from our old storage locker to a play space. Having the Lounge has made my work life easier in so many ways. This morning we did our shopping for fresh foods at Costco and everything is now stocked full and ready for the kitchen help to tend to.
I took care of my girly beauty prep yesterday, so later all I need to do is pack my personal toy bag and enjoy a relaxing bath before we head off to the Lounge. I've got an itch and I plan on having it scratched this evening. Lately I've put out a tremendous amount of sex energy on ensuring others pleasure, and well ... later this evening is "my time to get some for me." Even if I have to create it for myself as well. Regularly I'm asked to do things for people, selectively I want to be catered to.
Excuse while I go plan for this ...
Jennifer ... Vancouver's Sex Educator, Sexuality Coach and Activist. The content of this blog is not suited for those under the age of 18. What you'll find here is a written account of my personal journey in sex positive culture both personally and professionally.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Friday, June 13, 2008
Pass The Lube
WILD MONKEY SEX
That is an honest statement about this evenings escapades.
Dang did we ever go at it.
A lot.
Last time this happened RC had been drinking Jack Daniels.
Hey wait a second, he was drinking JD again last night.....
That is an honest statement about this evenings escapades.
Dang did we ever go at it.
A lot.
Last time this happened RC had been drinking Jack Daniels.
Hey wait a second, he was drinking JD again last night.....
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
dumb answer to an easy question
Today was a lovely day, charming in-fact.
I slept in this morning with RC, setting the stage for a relaxed pace for the rest of my day.
My favorite lunch was mine, sushi.
A fantastically surprising find of yet another corset from New World Designs in Gastown in this very unusual color is now in my corset cabinet.
I was one of four sex experts at Rhodes College today, speaking on a panel about sex.
One of my fellow panel members was the esteemed radio personality & dating coach, Daniel Packard. We got to talking after class and he's way cool, more interesting to me than his radio segment had made him appear.
I had to shake my head in udder dismay at one of the other panel members giving exceptionally inadequate health information to the students in the class surrounding safer sex issues. It was incomprehensible her lack of skill at dealing with & answering the questions & subject matter, especially given she is co owner of a little ol' adult store. Shame on her for pimping books on safe sex, rather than answering a question that would have not only empowered the asker of the question, but also empowered and kept safe the future clients of these students. She choose to try and make a buck instead. Pitiful ethics really.
Once home to our nest finally, I cranked up the heat, stripped down to my birthday suit and promptly made dinner for the family. We three ate together and hung out watching TV for a large part of the evening.
Before I said good-night to RC, he laid me out on the bed and gave me a full body rub and a hot stone massage. When I thought it was over, I suddenly felt the tickle of his slick lubed fingers making there way into my wet pussy. As he gently probed into me, my hips became accommodating and the gates parted giving him easy access. The massage had turned sexual. Big surprise. It ended in two massive orgasms. One for me, and one for my guy.
My new iPhone is incredible. It does so much, I'm just now starting to figure out much of what I can actually do with it. Its capabilities are abundant and lucky me its user friendly as well. I'm really loving the gift. Thank you RC for being so, so good to me always. I Love You.
I slept in this morning with RC, setting the stage for a relaxed pace for the rest of my day.
My favorite lunch was mine, sushi.
A fantastically surprising find of yet another corset from New World Designs in Gastown in this very unusual color is now in my corset cabinet.
I was one of four sex experts at Rhodes College today, speaking on a panel about sex.
One of my fellow panel members was the esteemed radio personality & dating coach, Daniel Packard. We got to talking after class and he's way cool, more interesting to me than his radio segment had made him appear.
I had to shake my head in udder dismay at one of the other panel members giving exceptionally inadequate health information to the students in the class surrounding safer sex issues. It was incomprehensible her lack of skill at dealing with & answering the questions & subject matter, especially given she is co owner of a little ol' adult store. Shame on her for pimping books on safe sex, rather than answering a question that would have not only empowered the asker of the question, but also empowered and kept safe the future clients of these students. She choose to try and make a buck instead. Pitiful ethics really.
Once home to our nest finally, I cranked up the heat, stripped down to my birthday suit and promptly made dinner for the family. We three ate together and hung out watching TV for a large part of the evening.
Before I said good-night to RC, he laid me out on the bed and gave me a full body rub and a hot stone massage. When I thought it was over, I suddenly felt the tickle of his slick lubed fingers making there way into my wet pussy. As he gently probed into me, my hips became accommodating and the gates parted giving him easy access. The massage had turned sexual. Big surprise. It ended in two massive orgasms. One for me, and one for my guy.
My new iPhone is incredible. It does so much, I'm just now starting to figure out much of what I can actually do with it. Its capabilities are abundant and lucky me its user friendly as well. I'm really loving the gift. Thank you RC for being so, so good to me always. I Love You.
Monday, June 09, 2008
more from my In-Box
I'm sharing yet more praise from SULTRY this past Saturday. Remembering of course, that each e-mail I receive is actually from TWO people as the event is a couples only one. Which means that the kudos for the event and its happenings is massive and across the board.
You'll be able to understand by the end of the post, why I feel so proud right now!
Read this that I cut and pasted from our Face Book Group ...
And then check this out from someone else ...
You'll be able to understand by the end of the post, why I feel so proud right now!
Read this that I cut and pasted from our Face Book Group ...
This past Saturday may have been the best SULTRY yet, and that’s saying something! It’s always a bit of a thrill to walk past the friendly and polite (but slightly bemused) bathhouse staff, step through the nondescript door, head down the steps and enter another world. Any fear that you are attending the secret meeting of some strange cult is immediately dispelled by Jennifer’s enthusiastic greeting, sporting a smile as big as her strap-on.
While changing in the locker room, we could see a lot of newcomers among the regulars. However, after a few get acquainted games involving whipped cream and suds in the shower room, everyone seemed to be getting comfortable with one another, even before the water guns came out. The truce that followed seemed to involve a lot of very personal contact. Everywhere we looked there were folks playing in twos and threes, fours and mores.
If all that eye candy wasn’t stimulating enough the all-girl circle jerk proved truly inspiring, even for those of us not participating (right, RC?). If you preferred to listen moans, shrieks, sighs and happy cries could be heard throughout the night and sometimes throughout the building.
Steam and suds, passion and play, SULTRY may well be our favourite event. We are certainly looking forward to its return in the Fall. To all the friends, new and old, who made the evening so special, our sincere thanks. We look forward to seeing (smelling, touching…) you again soon.
And then check this out from someone else ...
Sultry was such a good time :) While I enjoy pretty much every Libido event I attend, Sultry now holds a special place in my heart because it's the one event (so far) I have been able to get my partner to come with me to. I've been trying to tell anyone who will listen that they're a blast, I hope to make a few converts by the time fall rolls around...More praise, here it comes ...
I missed out on the shower group scene and the all girl circle jerk - for good reason, I assure you. But wow, lots of smiles in that steam room...
The entire experience was delectable ... playing with all those wet soapy bodies in the shower, kissing in the hot steamy sauna, having my hands and feet massaged by four yummy playmates, having a full body massage from a new friend, watching sexy videos while taking a rest in the quiet room ... WOW!Then this came to my personal account ...
Congratulations Jennifer for creating such a wonderful play space. I'll be back.
This is how one goes about creating a more sex positive culture. Intentionally.Hi JenniferWe just felt we had to let you know just how much fun we had at the Sultry night June 7th. We will be talking about it for a long time to come, also letting all our friends know just what a good time it was.The whole group seemed to be enjoying the fun games as much as we were. This event is certainly suited to all kinds of people especially those that have never been to anything like this before, with its no-pressure atmosphere just some good o'l raunchy fun.Thank you so much for putting on such a fantastic event, we surely hope you will be able to put on these events again later on. In the mean time we look forward to seeing you at some of your other events.We also would like to say its because you are such a fantastic host Jennifer, that's what makes it all work.Thanks, Thanks, Thanks, again.
Elaine & Dan
Sunday, June 08, 2008
from my In-Box
Hi Jennifer.
Larry and I had so much fun last night. (at SULTRY) We really didn’t know what to expect even though we read the blogs about it. We were surprised that everyone was naked when we arrived and that actually helped me get over my shyness about my body.
Larry is a nudist at heart, but until February this year in Cuba I had never been naked in front of anyone except my husband, doctor or nurse. Even then in Cuba I stripped quickly and laid on my tummy on the towel, or ran into the water.
The shower scene was so erotic, I can’t help but get turned on when I think about it. I discovered that I really liked to be touched. You told everyone to have their hands behind their backs to lick off the whipping cream, but I discovered through that, that I really like to be touched. It’s amazing I never really thought about that before until that sensation was taken away. Even the hot wax, ice, knife, skewer, comb and scrubber sensations were great. My favorite of those are ice, knife, comb and scrubber.
We met some very nice people and we are looking forward to seeing them again. We definitely will be at the next one.
Thanks again for our initiation into the scene. We will never forget it.
Lynn
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Thanks for an excellent party Ms. Jennifer - you looked very hot running around with your soapy cock (and when getting oil rubbed on the table) :) You have no idea how thrilled I am at getting Bryan out to these events. Thank you a million times over!
Hugs!
Lorine
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Jennifer,
The first time I met you in person was at a class in March 2006. Ryan and I had been to the Taboo show and somehow we missed you as a speaker. Poking through the website for the show I found a link to Libido Events.
I screwed up my courage and went to the class in downtown Vancouver on a rainy Sunday afternoon. (by myself, Bryan couldn't make it). I was early and my heart was going pit a pat, wondering what the class would be like. I think I told my family that I was going to an educational seminar (Ryan and I weren't living together at the time).
I was very cold, sitting on my chair, waiting for other people to arrive. Jennifer, you were sitting on one of the demo tables with bare legs and I couldn't believe that you weren't cold. You were talking to the others as they came in. It was hard not to listen in on the conversations. I couldn't believe that people had sex at parties, let alone with other people around. I think you brought over a blanket so I could keep warm.
Of course I enjoyed the class and knew that there was so much more to explore sexually. As they say, the rest is history. Of course I told Ryan all about you. We finally made it out to a play party that summer, which is when Bryan first met you. I think you more than exceeded expectations.
hugs,
Anastasia
Saturday, June 07, 2008
Another Apple Product
Earlier around eight this morning, I awoke ready to start my day. My sleep schedule has been off lately and I am getting very little sleep each night, perhaps four or five hours only. This should turn around fairly quickly I hope, but at the moment its a bothersome side effect of my current stresses.
This morning is four hours on the computer catching up on emails and updating various items with necessary information. I am doing this naked on the sofa, with my iBook on my lap and next to me, a rather extravagant new accompanying product.
My phone died recently, suddenly simply refused to turn on. So with my SIM card in hand, I put it back in my original Fido cheap ass, basic generic phone that came with my contract five years ago when I got my first cellular. The phone worked, yet did nothing, it sucked the big one in a HUGE way. And it kept making long distance phone calls to Allena for no apparent reason. Seriously.
Not being a tech savvy woman, it makes me uncomfortable to even think about having to research out the correct products for my gadget needs and then to feel confident enough in my decision to make such a purchase.
I awoke the other morning to RC handing me a new iPhone. We match, we both have one now. It is so pretty. How sweet of him to give me such a gift. Not just the phone, but all loaded up too. All my information is loaded in. My contacts are where they belong. Most of my music. I love the internet capability and web surfing. The camera is awesome. RC even installed iWoman to keep track of my period for me. If I have time, I need to run out later this afternoon and find myself a case for my phone. Must keep it safe.
Tonight is SULTRY our Bath House Event. There are twenty one couples joining us for the party. There is a little bit of work to do this afternoon picking up items that need moved down there, but over all, not much effort is required. Just some time. I am eager to spend time with all our friends and the new people who will be there too. The event is really fantastic.
This morning is four hours on the computer catching up on emails and updating various items with necessary information. I am doing this naked on the sofa, with my iBook on my lap and next to me, a rather extravagant new accompanying product.
My phone died recently, suddenly simply refused to turn on. So with my SIM card in hand, I put it back in my original Fido cheap ass, basic generic phone that came with my contract five years ago when I got my first cellular. The phone worked, yet did nothing, it sucked the big one in a HUGE way. And it kept making long distance phone calls to Allena for no apparent reason. Seriously.
Not being a tech savvy woman, it makes me uncomfortable to even think about having to research out the correct products for my gadget needs and then to feel confident enough in my decision to make such a purchase.
I awoke the other morning to RC handing me a new iPhone. We match, we both have one now. It is so pretty. How sweet of him to give me such a gift. Not just the phone, but all loaded up too. All my information is loaded in. My contacts are where they belong. Most of my music. I love the internet capability and web surfing. The camera is awesome. RC even installed iWoman to keep track of my period for me. If I have time, I need to run out later this afternoon and find myself a case for my phone. Must keep it safe.
Tonight is SULTRY our Bath House Event. There are twenty one couples joining us for the party. There is a little bit of work to do this afternoon picking up items that need moved down there, but over all, not much effort is required. Just some time. I am eager to spend time with all our friends and the new people who will be there too. The event is really fantastic.
Friday, June 06, 2008
One after Another
I am in the midst of undergoing a Major Life Change.
Deliberately timed to be happening right now, by myself and to myself.
It was time that I dealt with something that has been causing me personal angst and money for a few years now.
I'm being proactive, yet it is difficult to feel as though this is supposed to benefit me and not be a punishment or a mistake. (not that I punish myself but wow, what I am doing sure is hard for me and what is being done is of course something no one else could even do for me)
In happier news this evenings Orientation had 25 people pre registered in it. Twenty one people showed up on time and the class got underway. Paper work, ID check, payment, an over view of the facility and all of its amenities and question and answer time with yours truly.
Three woman arrived 45 minutes into the start of the class and we had to ask them to leave as they were to late to suddenly sit in and be able to catch up. (bringing the number up to 24 showing up) We are serious about having everyone arrive on time for this mandatory class. I felt a little sorry for the young girls, because as they explained to me at the door, they had just gotten a $120 Speeding Ticket trying to get to the class on time. Yikes, not good. They will be back for a future orientation thus making them members of Libido Lounge.
As of tonight I have now Oriented 362 individuals at LL and I am so proud. If you have not shown up for the class, you have no idea what you are missing out on. We are the place to be, if you are kinky, sex-positive and interested in exploring sex culture pan sexually.
Be the end of tonight's class, the donations to LL had grown exponentially. That our members want to contribute to the facility their time, products and services is further testament that we are on the right path, and making community intentionally. In the next three weeks, the new items arriving to us will blow your mind and I can't wait to share it all with YOU.
Whenever you can and the sooner the better, get yourself to Member Orientation class and become a member of Libido Lounge. Join everyone else and see what we can offer you. We are BC's Only Sex-Positive Educational & Play Facility. (Member Perks, Discounts, Sex Library, Social & Educational Events and of course, Play Parties to fit the needs of most sex communities)
We rock! Come Join Us! We have space for you and a Member Number too.....
Deliberately timed to be happening right now, by myself and to myself.
It was time that I dealt with something that has been causing me personal angst and money for a few years now.
I'm being proactive, yet it is difficult to feel as though this is supposed to benefit me and not be a punishment or a mistake. (not that I punish myself but wow, what I am doing sure is hard for me and what is being done is of course something no one else could even do for me)
In happier news this evenings Orientation had 25 people pre registered in it. Twenty one people showed up on time and the class got underway. Paper work, ID check, payment, an over view of the facility and all of its amenities and question and answer time with yours truly.
Three woman arrived 45 minutes into the start of the class and we had to ask them to leave as they were to late to suddenly sit in and be able to catch up. (bringing the number up to 24 showing up) We are serious about having everyone arrive on time for this mandatory class. I felt a little sorry for the young girls, because as they explained to me at the door, they had just gotten a $120 Speeding Ticket trying to get to the class on time. Yikes, not good. They will be back for a future orientation thus making them members of Libido Lounge.
As of tonight I have now Oriented 362 individuals at LL and I am so proud. If you have not shown up for the class, you have no idea what you are missing out on. We are the place to be, if you are kinky, sex-positive and interested in exploring sex culture pan sexually.
Be the end of tonight's class, the donations to LL had grown exponentially. That our members want to contribute to the facility their time, products and services is further testament that we are on the right path, and making community intentionally. In the next three weeks, the new items arriving to us will blow your mind and I can't wait to share it all with YOU.
Whenever you can and the sooner the better, get yourself to Member Orientation class and become a member of Libido Lounge. Join everyone else and see what we can offer you. We are BC's Only Sex-Positive Educational & Play Facility. (Member Perks, Discounts, Sex Library, Social & Educational Events and of course, Play Parties to fit the needs of most sex communities)
We rock! Come Join Us! We have space for you and a Member Number too.....
Thursday, June 05, 2008
Making An Impact
An entry from the Win A Couples Ticket To SULTRY contest:
Quite cool for me to read others memories, I take much away from these glimpses into others history. There are many more entries inside my In-box, some from people I remember, others from friends, and goodness even a great deal from people that I can't identify by name or email, yet whom I've touched their lives in some way.
Hiso how did I meet you? the first time I did not even know I had met you. it was about 7 or 8 yrs ago at a club you did a bondage demonstration on japanese knots. skip forward about 4 yrs in time and an internet search and the idea for a coaching session for my wife and her best friend came to my mind, you came out to the burbs and expanded my wife and our friends repatoire. plus a second time for a private session.the cool thing is we have or would have bumped into each other, at other things. Sin City a couple of times once at a XXXX dance after that. you ran into my wife at XXXX on 3 occasions (sorry I was out of town or working and she was helping out without me or I would have said hi)
We were down town one sunday and you where teaching at little sister's we saw the latex class dropped in and you were teaching it.Vancouver is a huge city, but the opportunities for someone to grow as a sensual being is small but no matter where we have turned there you are. thanks
T & L
Quite cool for me to read others memories, I take much away from these glimpses into others history. There are many more entries inside my In-box, some from people I remember, others from friends, and goodness even a great deal from people that I can't identify by name or email, yet whom I've touched their lives in some way.
Wednesday, June 04, 2008
tell me a story
Have you wanted to attend our Bath House Event, SULTRY?
This is your chance to win a FREE couples ticket to this Saturdays Party. (you must attend with a date, no singles permitted) It starts at 7:30 and goes till 11:30 pm.
Send me an email to jennifer@libidoevents.com telling me about the first time we ever met face to face. Memories, or rather blasts from the pasts that will warm my heart.
Share with me your story however brief, and the most compelling two will each win a couples ticket.
Contest closes Friday June 6 at 6:00pm. Winners will be notified via email and sent the party details at the same time for SULTRY on Saturday.
Good Luck!
This is your chance to win a FREE couples ticket to this Saturdays Party. (you must attend with a date, no singles permitted) It starts at 7:30 and goes till 11:30 pm.
Send me an email to jennifer@libidoevents.com telling me about the first time we ever met face to face. Memories, or rather blasts from the pasts that will warm my heart.
Share with me your story however brief, and the most compelling two will each win a couples ticket.
Contest closes Friday June 6 at 6:00pm. Winners will be notified via email and sent the party details at the same time for SULTRY on Saturday.
Good Luck!
Tuesday, June 03, 2008
hurting friend
Deej, get well soon.
I am sorry you feel like crap and were in hospital while I was away on the weekend.
You have to get better soon as I need you for events and being sick just is sucky.
To make the process easier, I am sending you love and groceries. Oh, and my man!
Enjoy everything and know that you are cared for greatly.
I may have pointed a few of our mutual friends towards you darlin, primarily because I knew everyone would want to support you as well during this bout of illness. Look for their emails and calls to offer you any help you could need right now.
Our lives together have gotten kinda tight over the last number of years and your friendship means a lot to me and to us. You are an awesome volunteer and a great friend.
I missed not having your G-Spot in class last night, though was glad that J. was able to bring along her vulva and g-spot on short notice and donate it for the evening in the name of sex-positive education.
I'll be calling you again later. And you remain on my order of BED REST my dear! Or else!
I am sorry you feel like crap and were in hospital while I was away on the weekend.
You have to get better soon as I need you for events and being sick just is sucky.
To make the process easier, I am sending you love and groceries. Oh, and my man!
Enjoy everything and know that you are cared for greatly.
I may have pointed a few of our mutual friends towards you darlin, primarily because I knew everyone would want to support you as well during this bout of illness. Look for their emails and calls to offer you any help you could need right now.
Our lives together have gotten kinda tight over the last number of years and your friendship means a lot to me and to us. You are an awesome volunteer and a great friend.
I missed not having your G-Spot in class last night, though was glad that J. was able to bring along her vulva and g-spot on short notice and donate it for the evening in the name of sex-positive education.
I'll be calling you again later. And you remain on my order of BED REST my dear! Or else!
Monday, June 02, 2008
Phone Loathing
The return drive from Seattle to home was smooth and easy, as I drove back. RC was the passenger. The border was a breeze and the weather held out the whole way, of course meeting greatly with my satisfaction.
My weekend of networking was quite successful, and I am confident that I will reap the rewards of my efforts for quite some time.
Max's birthday party was a hoot! More so because approximately forty percent of the guests there and my self, go back 6-9 years or so. Much of my history in sex culture was solidified & shared with and by people whom had already had more experience than me, when I first started to attend events all over the Pacific North West. Many of thesefolks friends and I go way back now as we share strong memories and experiences that will never be forgotten. Our conversation eluded to characters and situations that were at times "beyond the believable" to those who were not there to witness things we've seen in our time in sex-culture.
Tonight I am teaching my G-Spot & Female Ejaculation class in Burnaby at The Love Nest. I am a little wiped out from the weekend and the drive back but I am eager to get this class over with so I can relax till Wednesday now, and Deviant Dining.
Spending time with Allena was the point of our extra day being south bound, and luckily we managed to squeeze in more time with her as she had time for us. Much, much of who I have become as a sex activist can be attributed to my on going loving and supportive relationship with Allena. She has guided me safely, all the while pioneering her own journey. I admire her greatly and love her with all my heart.
Home feels good right now, it is good to me. For the most part that is. You see, my cellular phone had eleven messages on it and was full when we returned earlier today, hence not having any further room for further messages from others.
The Libido Lounge telephone is full as well, another ten messages awaiting me there and get ready, our home phone had another eight calls on it.
My cell phone is not for use to ask me when the next orientation is, or how to get tickets to an event, or even to ask me personal sex questions. My cell phone is for people who are hiring me and have been directed to call me. All others, are required to send me an email out-lining their request/s and asking things of me there.
The bulk of my work is done on a computer and through email. I do not have the time to phone back 29 different people. Email makes this job very easy for me. Much of what people ask of me is a simple 1 minute cut and paste answer when dealt with in mail, but if we talk on the phone it takes 15-25 minutes of my time per call by the time I shake people off.
I would rather have an In-Box that was exploding with emails, than having to make my way through a mountain of phone messages where people ramble or are simply not clear about their request.
And further it annoys me to no end, people who leave me countless messages on the same topic over and over again while awaiting me to return their call. I get to everyone when I have time. If you want to get a hold of me sooner or you consider your request urgent, then stop trying to reach me through the free public route and book my time privately to meet your needs.
Stop phoning me though and creating copious amounts of work for me that affords me nothing more than a head ache and blurred vision, from reading peoples demands on me and my time.
Start paying for what you want and you'll find that my response is faster, and more specific to you.
I do my best to make my rounds and return all phone calls and emails though this does not always happen. Anyone who contacts me repetitively demanding my time and answers in-depth and for free is not going to hear back from me. One answer, one email. You don't get to use me and not offer me something in return. I only do so much work for others with out pay and then it becomes critical that I balance paid work with all of my donated hours too sex culture and community demands of my time so that I can sustain myself and my business.
My weekend of networking was quite successful, and I am confident that I will reap the rewards of my efforts for quite some time.
Max's birthday party was a hoot! More so because approximately forty percent of the guests there and my self, go back 6-9 years or so. Much of my history in sex culture was solidified & shared with and by people whom had already had more experience than me, when I first started to attend events all over the Pacific North West. Many of these
Tonight I am teaching my G-Spot & Female Ejaculation class in Burnaby at The Love Nest. I am a little wiped out from the weekend and the drive back but I am eager to get this class over with so I can relax till Wednesday now, and Deviant Dining.
Spending time with Allena was the point of our extra day being south bound, and luckily we managed to squeeze in more time with her as she had time for us. Much, much of who I have become as a sex activist can be attributed to my on going loving and supportive relationship with Allena. She has guided me safely, all the while pioneering her own journey. I admire her greatly and love her with all my heart.
Home feels good right now, it is good to me. For the most part that is. You see, my cellular phone had eleven messages on it and was full when we returned earlier today, hence not having any further room for further messages from others.
The Libido Lounge telephone is full as well, another ten messages awaiting me there and get ready, our home phone had another eight calls on it.
My cell phone is not for use to ask me when the next orientation is, or how to get tickets to an event, or even to ask me personal sex questions. My cell phone is for people who are hiring me and have been directed to call me. All others, are required to send me an email out-lining their request/s and asking things of me there.
The bulk of my work is done on a computer and through email. I do not have the time to phone back 29 different people. Email makes this job very easy for me. Much of what people ask of me is a simple 1 minute cut and paste answer when dealt with in mail, but if we talk on the phone it takes 15-25 minutes of my time per call by the time I shake people off.
I would rather have an In-Box that was exploding with emails, than having to make my way through a mountain of phone messages where people ramble or are simply not clear about their request.
And further it annoys me to no end, people who leave me countless messages on the same topic over and over again while awaiting me to return their call. I get to everyone when I have time. If you want to get a hold of me sooner or you consider your request urgent, then stop trying to reach me through the free public route and book my time privately to meet your needs.
Stop phoning me though and creating copious amounts of work for me that affords me nothing more than a head ache and blurred vision, from reading peoples demands on me and my time.
Start paying for what you want and you'll find that my response is faster, and more specific to you.
I do my best to make my rounds and return all phone calls and emails though this does not always happen. Anyone who contacts me repetitively demanding my time and answers in-depth and for free is not going to hear back from me. One answer, one email. You don't get to use me and not offer me something in return. I only do so much work for others with out pay and then it becomes critical that I balance paid work with all of my donated hours too sex culture and community demands of my time so that I can sustain myself and my business.
Sunday, June 01, 2008
bondage is the point
Today was about shopping
It could be said that two new dresses found their way into my collection. Ok, and a pair of shoes. And yes, even a few more things, but I won't go in to details.
RC and Allena brought me home a new ride em sex toy, worth $600. I rode it already. It was fun. I have now placed an order for one for Libido Lounge. Yup, it was that good, and I am that convinced. I am a hard-sell and yet this toy just goes beyond all expectations I could have for it.
In just a couple of hours, we are off to an event here in Seattle called Bondage is the Point. It is hosted by The Center for Sex Positive Culture. Allena, RC and I are going together. With rope bags in hand we shall see what tickles our fancy.
I have a gorgeous pair of Steve Madden shoes to put on, along with a dress that will make removal swift and easy should opportunity arrive for me to get naked for some reason or another.
It could be said that two new dresses found their way into my collection. Ok, and a pair of shoes. And yes, even a few more things, but I won't go in to details.
RC and Allena brought me home a new ride em sex toy, worth $600. I rode it already. It was fun. I have now placed an order for one for Libido Lounge. Yup, it was that good, and I am that convinced. I am a hard-sell and yet this toy just goes beyond all expectations I could have for it.
In just a couple of hours, we are off to an event here in Seattle called Bondage is the Point. It is hosted by The Center for Sex Positive Culture. Allena, RC and I are going together. With rope bags in hand we shall see what tickles our fancy.
I have a gorgeous pair of Steve Madden shoes to put on, along with a dress that will make removal swift and easy should opportunity arrive for me to get naked for some reason or another.
Saturday, May 31, 2008
enjoying life
My day has gone exceptionally well. I've had the fortune of being surrounded today by both of my partners That we were able to wake up together under one roof is kinda cool for us and tonight we have plans to go to a private party. Poly moments of perfection.
In just a couple of hours I'll be with my long time American pals, helping to celebrate a birthday. This year I've been to both Matisse's and Max's birthday soirées and as I have been to other parties with them over the last eight years, I know that I will have nothing short of an absolutely astounding time again.
It's time for me to bathe and primp, and then slide into a sexy little dress with matching purse and gloves that I packed just for the occasion!
In just a couple of hours I'll be with my long time American pals, helping to celebrate a birthday. This year I've been to both Matisse's and Max's birthday soirées and as I have been to other parties with them over the last eight years, I know that I will have nothing short of an absolutely astounding time again.
It's time for me to bathe and primp, and then slide into a sexy little dress with matching purse and gloves that I packed just for the occasion!
Friday, May 30, 2008
Sunday, May 25, 2008
remembering a few things
After each big event lately, I see another thing or two that needs purchased still or that I should have made for us. Currently it is obvious that we need three or four bar stools for the kitchen. Today I spent some time on Craig's List scouting ads for stools and hope to have them by tomorrow.
We also need a convection oven, not to cook food, rather to keep appetizers warm and such. The microwave works fine but a small counter top oven would certainly make a world of difference. While out earlier I found the top of the line Black & Decker Convection Oven model that is currently the rave. I shall pick it up tomorrow and check that item off from my wish list as well.
Where do I go to find a bench? I need one that has storage underneath it in some form. Flat top. Cushioned or cushion-able. No back to it. No ends on it. Metal or Wood is fine. Lightweight but very sturdy. One piece. Help please.
There was a man at the was spread eagled, "in his manties", on a bed while secured with four cuffs. We all did delicious things to him, it was his first time to a party and his first time to have the affection and attention of more than one woman at a time. There was nine women at one point all on top of this ONE man.
When one of my girlfriends squatted over his face, with her vulva 1/2 inch from his lips she was laughing as she said " I think this is what he really wants to see". His eyes rolled back in his head he was so over come with headiness, I thought he may pass out from bliss. Another woman was licking his nipples while yet another stroked his inner thighs with her nails just enough to watch his cock twitch back and forth. Someone else was holding his cock while two other women were masturbating on either side of his head so he could just turn his eyes to the right or left and see different pussies, or inhale deeply and smell all of the girl juice that was surrounding him.
We also need a convection oven, not to cook food, rather to keep appetizers warm and such. The microwave works fine but a small counter top oven would certainly make a world of difference. While out earlier I found the top of the line Black & Decker Convection Oven model that is currently the rave. I shall pick it up tomorrow and check that item off from my wish list as well.
Where do I go to find a bench? I need one that has storage underneath it in some form. Flat top. Cushioned or cushion-able. No back to it. No ends on it. Metal or Wood is fine. Lightweight but very sturdy. One piece. Help please.
There was a man at the was spread eagled, "in his manties", on a bed while secured with four cuffs. We all did delicious things to him, it was his first time to a party and his first time to have the affection and attention of more than one woman at a time. There was nine women at one point all on top of this ONE man.
When one of my girlfriends squatted over his face, with her vulva 1/2 inch from his lips she was laughing as she said " I think this is what he really wants to see". His eyes rolled back in his head he was so over come with headiness, I thought he may pass out from bliss. Another woman was licking his nipples while yet another stroked his inner thighs with her nails just enough to watch his cock twitch back and forth. Someone else was holding his cock while two other women were masturbating on either side of his head so he could just turn his eyes to the right or left and see different pussies, or inhale deeply and smell all of the girl juice that was surrounding him.
Saturday, May 24, 2008
Moving Forward
RC and I awoke early today and managed to check off most everything on our To-Do List, though this required hours out of the house and running around at a nauseous speed in the heat.
Tonight's Guest List is rather impressive, both in numbers and in the whose-who aspect of it all. I am looking forward to this lot of Members partying together for sure.
The new door bell is now installed, with huge thanks to RC. We will no longer have to staff the door, rather now just listening for the bell to go off and sending some one to answer to it.
In other news, I am looking for a Graphic Designer who can cartoon me. Someone to make a cartoon image of me suitable for web and print. Are you this person and able to do this job in the next week or two? If so please make contact with me and we'll discuss particulars.
Tonight's Guest List is rather impressive, both in numbers and in the whose-who aspect of it all. I am looking forward to this lot of Members partying together for sure.
The new door bell is now installed, with huge thanks to RC. We will no longer have to staff the door, rather now just listening for the bell to go off and sending some one to answer to it.
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In other news, I am looking for a Graphic Designer who can cartoon me. Someone to make a cartoon image of me suitable for web and print. Are you this person and able to do this job in the next week or two? If so please make contact with me and we'll discuss particulars.
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If you have a FaceBook profile and either are a friend of mine OR a member of Libido Lounge, would you please friend me "Jennifer Skrukwa". Then if you are a Member of LL, I will subscribe/join you to the secret FaceBook page that keeps our members connected with one another.
If you have a FaceBook profile and either are a friend of mine OR a member of Libido Lounge, would you please friend me "Jennifer Skrukwa". Then if you are a Member of LL, I will subscribe/join you to the secret FaceBook page that keeps our members connected with one another.
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I need to make all the signs for the Lounge. Professionally laminated signs with instructions regarding cleaning, equipment use, cell phones & cameras, safewords and house rules. This is over due, and I am so tired of the tacky photocopied signs, I want 'em shiny and slick now.
I need to make all the signs for the Lounge. Professionally laminated signs with instructions regarding cleaning, equipment use, cell phones & cameras, safewords and house rules. This is over due, and I am so tired of the tacky photocopied signs, I want 'em shiny and slick now.
Friday, May 23, 2008
Tidbits
The Attendee List was rather large. We had nineteen people attend this evenings New Member Orientation class, it was a very busy night. Plenty of items to discuss, tours to do and paper work to complete. Our Member base is growing exponentially and I couldn't be more pleased.
The chance to sit back and view others as they see Libido Lounge for the first time makes me proud and ecstatic. People love the space when they see what we have created for them and are thrilled themselves to be able to share it with us. It always flatters me when some one is caught off guard by how easy it was for them to walk in our front doors and feel welcomed safely, right away. I work hard to do all of this.
Every B.C. Adult and Child will receive a one-time only cheque for $100.00 each for the climate action dividend (from last year’s government surplus). If you filed an income tax, you will automatically get the cheque late next month, but you have to apply for your kids.
Here’ is a link to the form.
FOR SALE: 2007 Kia Rio 5, Grey Granite colour, 5 speed manual transmission, Convenience Package - Power locks, Power windows, Heated front seats, Air conditioning - purchased for extra $4,000 - Paint/Interior protection package - Sealen on paint - 5 year warranty - fading paint, bird droppings, car wash residue protected & Fabric guard - 5 year warranty - stains will be removed or seats replaced - purchased for extra $2,000, owned for just over 1 year - 28,000 kilometres still under warranty
PRICE $15,900.00 O.B.O
The chance to sit back and view others as they see Libido Lounge for the first time makes me proud and ecstatic. People love the space when they see what we have created for them and are thrilled themselves to be able to share it with us. It always flatters me when some one is caught off guard by how easy it was for them to walk in our front doors and feel welcomed safely, right away. I work hard to do all of this.
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From today's Province News PaperEvery B.C. Adult and Child will receive a one-time only cheque for $100.00 each for the climate action dividend (from last year’s government surplus). If you filed an income tax, you will automatically get the cheque late next month, but you have to apply for your kids.
Here’ is a link to the form.
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My friend Trish is moving out of country, and so she is selling her car.
THIS IS HER AD.
CONTACT: trishakastelein@hotmail.com
My friend Trish is moving out of country, and so she is selling her car.
THIS IS HER AD.
CONTACT: trishakastelein@hotmail.com
FOR SALE: 2007 Kia Rio 5, Grey Granite colour, 5 speed manual transmission, Convenience Package - Power locks, Power windows, Heated front seats, Air conditioning - purchased for extra $4,000 - Paint/Interior protection package - Sealen on paint - 5 year warranty - fading paint, bird droppings, car wash residue protected & Fabric guard - 5 year warranty - stains will be removed or seats replaced - purchased for extra $2,000, owned for just over 1 year - 28,000 kilometres still under warranty
PRICE $15,900.00 O.B.O
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Work Photo
This photo was shot of me at The Abbotsford Taboo Show just a few weeks back. I had a lot of fun and received a wealth of praise for bringing my positive sex education series out to the bible belt; the very city in which I grew up and went to school.
The blue speckle corset is just phenomenal, and fully boned. The craftsmanship is awesome and the color is unique, it makes me smile to just see a photo of it. Thank you to Beth, who made the corset custom to my body specifications and desires. You did such a breath taking job.
Monday, May 19, 2008
Air Conditioning
Reflecting a little in the quiet morning of the house, on the last day of this long weekend it's hard not to be rattled by all the happenings.
Friday was Wreck ..... a get naked with my partner and hang out down at the beach enjoying the weather, ocean and one another kind of day. Despite using sun screen SPF 30, we each managed too much sun on various spots on our bodies. Not at all pleasant to have ones skin hurting, I actually had to ask RC to hold me by the hips when we were in bed fucking, cause quite frankly, it was causing me great pain. And NOT of the exquisite variety.
Saturday was Costco shopping, right as they opened for Business Members at 9:30, I was there and loading up a cart. Zooming through the warehouse towards the exit with everything purchased from my list, and a few more add-ons because hey, it's Costco, and their selection and pricing is quite attractive. My bill was less than I had budgeted for and I was feeling good about how my day was going thus far.
Got to the Lounge, and brought all the groceries in, which was a feat in of itself, all by myself. Stocking up the fridge, which by the way, we got a new one of. A newer white model that is already well in use. As I was finishing filling the cupboards with snacking items I realized how unbearably hot it was inside the facility.
I decided to turn on the lights finally in the place, and the air conditioning so I could run about and set up for the evenings event. A large number of women are about to converge on the Lounge at 7:30 for DIRTY GIRLS, our play party.
The A/C would not work. It won't come on, it is only blowing hot air. Not something the place needs more of. Especially since we have no windows that open it is imperative that there be cool air, cold air. But Nothing.
OK so I finish setting up for the evenings party, turn off the lights and head back home to my computer and files. Locating a repair company can't be that hard right? Wrong. Every entity I found was charging outrageous over time rates on a scorcher of a Saturday, which was of course our long weekend. This was beyond anything I was capable of dealing with.
Professional help came early today, thanks to the Property Management Company and fixed the sucker so it blows cold air again, and not stifling heat.
At times from the outside looking in, I am sure my life looks so flamboyant, happy and stress free. I just wanted to pay homage to the fact, that my life sucks from time to time as well, and that I too have stresses. Usually I choose to forge on and keep the sucky news to myself, this time I shared it with you all.
Good news is now we have our kick ass Air Conditioning System in perfect working order, and ready for a HOT summer of partying and exploits.
Friday was Wreck ..... a get naked with my partner and hang out down at the beach enjoying the weather, ocean and one another kind of day. Despite using sun screen SPF 30, we each managed too much sun on various spots on our bodies. Not at all pleasant to have ones skin hurting, I actually had to ask RC to hold me by the hips when we were in bed fucking, cause quite frankly, it was causing me great pain. And NOT of the exquisite variety.
Saturday was Costco shopping, right as they opened for Business Members at 9:30, I was there and loading up a cart. Zooming through the warehouse towards the exit with everything purchased from my list, and a few more add-ons because hey, it's Costco, and their selection and pricing is quite attractive. My bill was less than I had budgeted for and I was feeling good about how my day was going thus far.
Got to the Lounge, and brought all the groceries in, which was a feat in of itself, all by myself. Stocking up the fridge, which by the way, we got a new one of. A newer white model that is already well in use. As I was finishing filling the cupboards with snacking items I realized how unbearably hot it was inside the facility.
I decided to turn on the lights finally in the place, and the air conditioning so I could run about and set up for the evenings event. A large number of women are about to converge on the Lounge at 7:30 for DIRTY GIRLS, our play party.
The A/C would not work. It won't come on, it is only blowing hot air. Not something the place needs more of. Especially since we have no windows that open it is imperative that there be cool air, cold air. But Nothing.
OK so I finish setting up for the evenings party, turn off the lights and head back home to my computer and files. Locating a repair company can't be that hard right? Wrong. Every entity I found was charging outrageous over time rates on a scorcher of a Saturday, which was of course our long weekend. This was beyond anything I was capable of dealing with.
Professional help came early today, thanks to the Property Management Company and fixed the sucker so it blows cold air again, and not stifling heat.
At times from the outside looking in, I am sure my life looks so flamboyant, happy and stress free. I just wanted to pay homage to the fact, that my life sucks from time to time as well, and that I too have stresses. Usually I choose to forge on and keep the sucky news to myself, this time I shared it with you all.
Good news is now we have our kick ass Air Conditioning System in perfect working order, and ready for a HOT summer of partying and exploits.
Sunday, May 18, 2008
Sex Pleasure & Sex Changes
The photo that you see here, is the image of a women's mind during orgasm. Science says it is during orgasm that her mind is the most quiet. After looking at the photo a few times over, I still see and feel as though my head explodes during orgasm.
The Orgasmic Mind: The Neurological Roots of Sexual Pleasure
Achieving sexual climax requires a complex conspiracy of sensory and psychological signals—and the eventual silencing of critical brain areas.
Click on the photo to go and read the accompanying article, its from the esteemed Scientific America.
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There is an up and coming (to the mainstream world) notorious (to anyone on the journey of transitioning & their supporters) clinic in Montreal (yes that is in Canada for you Yankees) transforming people into the individuals they have always known they were.
In the last five years alone, I have had six friends change the outward face of their gender identity. Another three pals are on the verge of embarking on the process in the next year or so too. Both M-F (4) and F-M (3). And the age range of the people I know seems to be around 23 years to late thirties for those fully transitioning: Hormones, Surgery, Counseling and Life Re-Ordering.
This is a fascinating article and worth while read (on sex positivity) from CBC News.
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The other day my man showed up at home with a present for me. A Wanachi! Get yourself one, especially if you are as fond of the Hitatchi Magic Wand as I am. This toy comes in at a close second: its easier to hold and manage, smaller to get into tight places, flexible head, multiple unique speeds, more quiet as its battery operated and available in range of colors.
Did I mention the fact that its waterproof as well? Well, it is. And for those of you concerned about the product its made from, know that is is Phthalates Free , and powered by two simple AA batteries.
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