Libido Lounge Event Reviews

In a moment of weakness after the Sensual Massage Event I promised Jennifer I'd write about my personal experience as a new member of Libido Lounge.


I suppose the possibility of being posted on her blog was more than my inner exhibitionist could resist.

Yet, at this moment my only thought is why the fuck did I agree? Experiencing a new level of open communication (and great sex with your spouse) is one thing, trying to actually write it down is something else…


New Member Orientation:

Saying we would attend was easy. Making the reservation with Jennifer was easy. Driving to the Libido Lounge was a breeze. Getting out of the car was incredibly difficult… "Shit, what are we doing..." "Maybe we’re early and should just circle the block one more time..." "Who's idea was this again?" "Your perfume is too strong my nose is already burning, need some air…"

Yet, as we approached the front door the most extroverted and charismatic lady I've ever met in my life (that’d be Jennifer) whisked us inside with hugs and encouragement to the point where it felt a bit like the movie Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. The New Members Orientation talk itself was exactly as one would imagine a “first conversation” might be. On the other hand Jennifer is beyond words – OK perhaps I just don't have the finesse of vocabulary required to properly describe this incredible lady. That feat would require the tongue {and mind} of a renaissance writer.

We found the Orientation Meeting really turned into a conduit for my spouse (of 10 years) and I to quite literally blow the door WIDE OPEN on communication. It started in the car and carried on for days after we got home, maybe even a full week... "You'd really like to try that?" "I never knew - right now?" "In that position - where…" "Are you sure you're OK with that?" "Yes please." Wow.


Sensual Massage:

I’ve never been really comfortable with my body, especially in public, but this time I was armed with some sexy new underwear (both the store clerk and my spouse had privately assured me it was sexy, hmmm). Just to make it that much more difficult on myself; I can’t remember actually having been massaged in my life. It’s just not something that I’d ever looked for.

This time it was different. This time it was about opening up my mind, about stepping outside of the comfort zone, getting rid of the usual boundaries in a positive and liberating way. At work I can force myself and introduce my way into groups of strangers, it’s part of my job – but oh, gosh, golly, gee in my underwear – really?

Once at the Libido Lounge someone ever so politely suggested I might want get a soft drink – “Oh, they’re in the fridge”. OK, thanks. Introductions were made and as with the gentle yet firm transition from winter to spring, it became so clear that everyone was very “comfortable in their own skin”. Not in an overconfident kind of way, in fact the environment felt warm and welcoming, so cordial, very polite, very normal people with the ever-present tantalizing knowledge of the touch that was to come… Then there was organization, people, tables, towels, oils, “Who’s first?” Me, um well OK… Followed by the heavenly sensation of blissful touches which absolutely consumed me…. and I was converted for life.

Through a fog of sensation I hear the words, “Look up.” Pardon? I open my eyes to find I’m surrounded by 6 gorgeous breasts, nipples, rings, smiles…. it was not mandatory, it was not asked for, it was a gift freely given by 3 charming ladies and hopefully as graciously received (although I was probably dazed and drooling by this point) Told to close my mouth as my face was smothered... Queen’s lyrics drifting through my mind – is this the real world, or is this just fantasy…

There was a change, now it’s somebody else’s turn. More oil –the tension of anticipation. To touch the person you love with other people, and to touch others along with the one you love - to share, to enjoy, to see a loved one and other people all experiencing pure happiness by touch alone is truly a divine gift.

I’d never experienced anything like this in my life. Participating with a loved one just made it Oh, so much better. The confidence, the intimacy, the trust, the naked truth of others was truly incredible. Food for the soul.

Feedback from New Members

Waking up to email from people praising me, asking to hire me and reserving for Lounge events certainly does start my day with a big ass smile. I do love what I do and it feels so good to know that others can feel my passion and want to be part of it all too.

Hi Jennifer,

We would like to register us both for XXXXX on XX April XX and the Bare All Bowling on May 7th.

We'd also like to schedule a 2 hour private education session with you. The goal is to enhance our relationship & learn some techniques so that we're not complete newbies/virgins at a group event or with a new partner(s). Something about oral sex techniques, sensual play, female masturbation, a bit about group etiquette/negotiating if there's time. Still just a bit shy to attend a "Jack & Jill". Our idea might be a discussion in a private place but we are certainly open to your suggestions as to what works best.


Wanted to send you a heartfelt Thank You. Your discussion during the orientation was so enthusiastic and positive it was a catalyst for both Hanna and I. In the past few days we've had the most open, honest, real communication we've EVER had in almost 11 years of being married.

And Priape - Yes, wow, I went there after work and the guys were fantastic and helpful.

Sincerely

Glen

Tackled by Women

An American woman (who is also a Lounge member) came to Taboo and took a couple of my classes this past weekend. She wrote about being in class and posted her experiences on her own blog.

Check out what the Lesbo has to say about my Masterful Cock Sucking and Wild Sex classes ....

That same Lesbo and another sexy Lounge member M, saw me lay on the stage after class complaining about cramps and exhaustion. The two jumped me, climbed on my person and furiously started to massage my body in an attempt to make me feel better. Though my body still felt like shit, my mood greatly improved after their womanly ministrations - who wouldn't feel awesome being roughed up by hot chicka's?

Request for Participants

My good friend Tim sent me this request and so I pass it on to you.

"Interviews on BDSM as a Therapeutic Method."

As a student at Goddard College I am gathering stories from individuals who have experienced sexual trauma and have, either successfully or unsuccessfully, intentionally used BDSM to cope with, treat, or otherwise re-direct their emotions around the issue. BDSM is a compound acronym referring to Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism among other variants in sexual exploration. For the purposes of this survey it is the term used to account for all "alternative" sexual practices related to the mentioned activities.

This interview is being administered under the assumption that you, as the interviewee, have at some point willingly experimented with spanking, being tied up, tying someone up, role playing, and other related activities that may not be detailed in this interview. If discussing these aspects of your experience is not acceptable please feel free to end the interview now. If not, we will begin with some questions to establish a common understanding and build to more personal questions.

With those willing, I would like to do interviews in person or over the phone as available. I will be making personal trips to the San Francisco, Seattle, New York and other areas to hold interviews if enough participants are interested. Phone interviews will be conducted for those unable or uninterested in attending.

The final purpose of this project is to assemble a collected work of stories and experiences that expresses some of the decisions and feelings involved in the various paths people have taken through this. The presentation will be similar to The Vagina Monologues, Pouring Tea, and other collected oral and written histories.

-Tim Murray tim.murray@goddard.edu


LINK TO TIM'S STUDY

SULTRY Bath House Party - Review

Clean event (March 19, 2011)

Last evening we were at our first event ever with Libido lounge or anywhere else. It was the Sultry bathhouse and it was a lot, a lot of fun. Jennifer is this little package of positive energy, she is present everywhere trying to involve everyone, talking to everyone and she makes everybody feel welcome and part of the fun.

Me and my husband we are in a loving passionate relation. We do love each other and sex is a big part of our relation. We are just a little bit kinky, more boring normal then kinky. We love being naked, we love Wreck beach and we are part of a nudist colony in the States. That was one part of the fun last night; the bathhouse is clean and it was awesome just to shed the clothes and take showers and enjoy the steam, totally, completely naked surrounded by totally, completely naked people.

One of my concerns for last night was that we are 47 and 53 and our bodies are more pumpkin like then god and goddess like; we are fat and old – but fun to be with. I didn’t want to find myself surrounded by young, gorgeous people that will make me feel embarrassed of myself. It was a great mix of people, young ones and not so young ones, good looking and less good looking but everybody treated everyone else with most respect and yes, of course, naughtiness. I looked around me and everyone was involved in some kind of fun: just watching the porn and talking, taking the steam in and this was just the beginning, as the night advanced more naughty games developed and some of the people were engaged in hot fucks while other watching. I was to excited to be able to sit in one place, I wanted to experience everything and thus, the only thing that I comitted to is a blow job to my hubby while listening to the noises of hot sex coming from around us.

So, my three big desires were accomplished: being naked, watch other people having sex and, my fantasy, last but not least, experience a woman’s body. I had this fantasy for a while and I never tried to act on it. My husband is an awesome lover, he loves giving oral and I get the most fantastic orgasms from this. And because I am not selfish I would like to share this pleasure with another woman, I would like to watch B pleasuring her, make her moan and feel the immense pleasure that I do while I kiss her and caress her. It was just a fantasy until last night when I experienced the first taste of it: me being touched by a woman and me touching another woman. Wow! I told B at the end, you, men, are very lucky. A woman’s body is soft and feels like velvet to touch. A woman lips are sweeter than honey. I got to kiss and touch another woman and it was heavenly – I cannot wait to do it again. Hope soon!

The night started with some games that Jennifer made us play: everyone in a circle and soap soap soap. Turn around and soap soap again. That had everyone started. But my most favourite (beside kissing other women – and I kissed at least three, yeah!) was the table game: one woman gets blindfolded on the table and whoever wants to join the fun can do it. I was unsure if I want it or not, like I said I am a virgin of these kind of activities, but Jennifer made me do it and wow, did I was glad I did. Hands everywhere, my legs, my tummy, my breasts – kisses, mmm, sweet kisses. And who was that couple that purred in my ear? that was really good and erotic and arousing, it’s something that I will totally include in my sexual repertoire.

It was an awesome experience; totally recommended for the adventurous ones and for the not so adventurous ones. The bathhouse is great, small but clean and it does smell good ( I am very peculiar about smells). It is the best way to have the first experience as part of a group of people involved more or less in touching and sexual activities, because it is clean! Jennifer is awesome, she is a bundle of positive energy and encouragement – she does what she loves and she loves what she does and you can tell. I met people that I would definitely love to meet again. Yes, it was a dream night, an wonderful adventure.

Single Male at a Party

A single man became a member this past Saturday at orientation, then stayed on for Cupids Catch our evening play party. I watch the single men differently than others and often ask them for feedback on events as their singular experience is regularly insightful on some level I had not even considered and I find I learn much from them.

K, the guy, is a wonderful conversationalist, and I found myself enjoying speaking to him. In all honesty. I am eager to see some of his art too. Anyways, at nights end, I had asked him to write me an overview of his first experience at a party and at the Lounge. This is what he sent me ....

When I arrived at the Lounge for member orientation, I wasn't quite sure what to expect. I'd heard a lot about it from another member, but being new to the scene it wasn't much comfort. As I walked up to the door, I was nervous - until Jennifer popped her head up from her car, which she had been loading.

"You must be K," she said. "Come on in."

What followed was a night of fun and sexy action. I licked whipped cream off of a beautiful woman, got tied up and suspended for the first time in my life, made a lot of friends and had a wonderful evening. Everyone was decked out in hot gear, from one woman who wore only feather pasties, to Jen's partner J, who wore a mesh shirt and a utilikilt. Everyone looked stunning. Although I didn't play much myself, it was hot just to see all the scenes unfolding around me as the night went on. I lost track of the people I'd met as some went into the sex area with their partners and others, spent with happy grins on their faces, dressed and went out the door into the night. As the night wound to a close, I said goodbye to all the awesome people I'd met and resolved to mark the next Lounge event on my calendar.

The Lounge is a great place, filled with great people. The atmosphere is warm and welcoming, and if you have body image issues - like I do - don't worry, because nobody will denigrate you here. As a newbie to BDSM, it took me most of the evening to figure out the dynamics at play, which is why I didn't play much myself; in the end, though, it's not really the play that mattered, but all the new friends I'd made. I suspect that even though I didn't have sex or do any tying or flogging, there's plenty of all of them in my future.

Thank you, Jennifer, for introducing me to an awesome place and an awesome group of people.

More On The Matter

If you've not already read my posts as of late regarding special treatment for single men, then this next bit, might seem out of context.

Regarding this post and then the subsequent post that I have now made about Special Snowflakes a woman wrote me with this thought on the matter, here is her email in it's entirety.

Jennifer,

If you want a different perspective on this subject. I causes me concern that some do not appear to understand boundaries or the word no. If they don't understand this prior to being a member, then receiving preferred treatment and being a member still not understand "no" would cause me great concern.

The orientation is there for the benefit of the member taking it and for the safety of others. Everyone has heard the same thing and are all aware of the boundaries and expectations. Someone who doesn't understand boundaries for safety in a sexual environment is scary and would cause me great concern.

You are doing the right thing and I feel safer knowing that you don't allow people to bypass the system.

Lisa

Wet, Hot & Fun

A delightful couple, who are Lounge members, attended Sultry our bath house party last Saturday night for their first time ever. I asked them in the after math, to send me a write up about their experience so others could get a feel for how the event looks.


Thanks P & R, I am very appreciative for your feedback.

Our First Visit to Libido Event's Sultry Bathhouse:



PHYSICAL LAYOUT:


After going downstairs you entered a socializing area. This had the food (home made brownies & cheese wafers, and store bought cranberry crisps, chocolate oatmeal cookies, pepperoni and cheese, fruit tray & water). It also had a TV showing some porn with sound off which people pretty much ignored.

Going clockwise, there is a warmer tiled room with lockers for storing clothes. You can bring a lock and lock up your wallet, etc.

Beyond that there is a pair of even warmer shower areas.

Off of each shower is a sauna 'hot' room. If the door is closed it quickly gets really hot in there.

From the second shower is an area that has 5 or so semi - private beds for sex play. This has a door that leads back to the socializing area. The whole area is old but well maintained and clean. It is so hot that everyone dropped clothes when they entered and stayed naked for the whole party.


THE EVENT:


We had fun at the event. Like most play parties, people sex play most with friends and people they've played with before. But at the bathhouse event I found that people were more social / friendly than usual. Perhaps the fact that everyone is already starkers, breaks the ice some.

The first programmed event was when some containers of shower gel were passed around and everyone squirted soap on everyone. Then you rubbed over everyone around you in with hands and hugs. This was a lot of fun. After a while we showered to get it off, and all that soap you rubbed on your neighbors you washed off again. There was a certain amount of sexing going on in the showers.

People visited in the hot rooms. There was a fair bit of sex play going on in there over the evening, with people helping others with licks and kisses. People were also drifting in and out drawing suggestions & slogans on bodies in wash-off markers.

The Saunas are set up nicely, so that someone sitting on the top bench can be eaten out by someone on a lower bench.

People tended to head to the socializing area to cool off and then head back to the heat or the semi-private rooms to play.

My wife's summary was "that the people made the event".

There was also a masseuse giving massages to couples for $$. Jennifer had brought an extra massage table and it was used by people doing bondage and wax play which looked very sexy.

A favorite part of the event for me was the humor bubbling under the surface. People appreciated the absurdity of trying to keep up pretenses. No one was worried about being cool.



SUMMARY:


Like most public events I've been to there was a mix of people. Some people were strongly oriented to them-selves. (Perhaps they get a kick out of people watching.) But compared to most events I've been to (either at Libido or other public play parties), people were friendlier and more willing to chat, suck on nipples and the like. People were very laid back about the "all naked all the time" ambiance and at least with our group, the humor in the background.

We had a lot of fun.

Feedback from Attendees of Classes

Feedback written to me, from three of the women who were in classes with me this past Sunday in Victoria. (I taught cock sucking & hand jobs along with g-spot and female ejaculation)

From Tabetha --

aahhhh....the refreshing language of sex! At the very least, it certainly sounded that way coming from you Jennifer! Attending your classes and hearing your stories were more than just entertaining...especially the one about your daughter being positively sex educated by her parents. That was an empowering for me to hear. It gave me great hope that our children can learn to navigate an ever changing sexscape in basic everyday life...that by learning the appropriate language and developing a healthier attitude to go with it..they are empowered and therefore protected!

Before attending your class on cocksucking....I was not convinced it could give me more knowledge than I already had. I am happy to report that not only was I way wrong....the extra confidence I was looking for came in heaps...,inspired by a few of your combined (cock sucking) techniques...I am so glad I took notes!

The G-Spot Female Ejaculation class was something else! The atmosphere of sisterhood was incredible and inspiring to me...special thanks to your model! Seeing exactly where the her sacred Goddess flow wells out from....was educational indeed!

The spirit of your classes kept pointing us toward creating intimacy and having fun in the moment with our lovers....I enjoyed your classes immensely Jennifer...and I will be back for more! Thank you!

The atmosphere of sisterhood was beautiful.

From Beth --

Jennifer, your relaxed, enthusiastic, super knowledgeable, respectful facilitation was the best. The energy that was created by you and each and every woman in the room was beautiful. Throughout the day I watched you push some edges and give others the space they needed. You created a very safe, fun space for us. And your ability to keep us all on track was freaking amazing.

By the end of the Cocksucking workshop I had become very attached to my little demo model...really wished I could have taken it home with me. :)

The G-Spot workshop...all I can say is WHO KNEW???? My god, women are awesome.

I can't wait for the next workshop and am definitely rounding up a few more friends to come too.

The entire day was an awesome experience. Thank You for empowering me.

From Rosie --

Hi Jennifer, thank you for putting on such an awesome workshop in Victoria this past weekend. The words that come to mind for me were raw and engaging and unapologetically uncensored, lifting the veil of shame and secrecy around women owning their sexuality and giving themselves permission to own it!

My business is XXXX and your workshop cemented for me the reality that this is what I was born to do. This is my passion and reason for being here. I really needed to come to your workshop to "bring it " to the next level and see how that could be done. My main focus is XXXXX with women.

I am looking forward to hearing about how your Nanaimo workshop is going to look! Let me know when this is happening, I'd love to come!

Thanks again Jennifer for the inspiration and the true you!

The End: Personal Ethics

Relationships end, this is inevitable. I'm sure that for most of us, we aspire to have things come to a close on a note that feels positive. Though sadly, this is not always possible.

Ends can be traumatic, they can also be filled with growth. Ends can be sad, they can be also joyous. Ends can be the beginning of something new, or the sorrowful goodbye of something no longer working.

Is it possible to be in a place of hurt, loss, grieving, anger and frustration and still act rationally? To still see and care, how we are impacting on another.

How have you ended a relationship in such a way that you honored, respected and payed tribute to, what was once so important?

Ends get a bad rap all the time, tell me how they could be better, please.

Email Me

SUBJECT LINE: Endings

EMAIL: jennifer@libidoevents.com

Let me just start of by saying, that this story, is totally true and was sent to me by a good friend and Lounge member. To say my job is critical, is an understatement. Often people don't realize what they do not know, until they meet someone with more information than them.

Interesting story.

This just shows me the ignorance of our youth and why you (Jennifer) talk to Colleges.

My co-worker who I will call Lori is 21. Decides to go clubbing Wednesday and wants to use tampons for the first time but is a virgin. She comes to me for advise. I suggested a wee bit of Vaseline to assist (that’s what I did the first time and it worked). So she does this and reports back that it was perfect but, …. she didn’t know how to pee with it in.

I just looked at her for a moment. She's dead, serious and waiting for me to tell her. Every time she had to pee, she removed her tampon. She asked her friends how to pee with the tampon and no one knew.

I explained that she had 3 holes (urethra, vaginal and anus). She freaked out and said she did NOT have 3.

I politely explained it to her and then showed her actual diagrams and walked her through it all. Seriously, Anatomy 101.

21 yrs. old. None of her friends knew. I was floored. Again, this is why you do what you do.

Queer Politics

BEWARE

This is part rant, and part questioning. You've been warned.

Input from other people is often what it takes for me to understand concepts foreign to me.

I subscribe to a number of different message boards and forums for sex and alternative lifestyles to assist me in my growth of understanding. New ideas are constantly tossed around and for the most part, I can wrap my mind around them with relative ease.

But lately, there is something that I seem unable to comprehend, despite investing much time and patience to learn more about it.

It's about majorities and minorities in life, and more specifically in sex culture.

I see this often and it baffles me to no end. And yes, I do understand the whole privilege thing.

What's happening is one of the minority groups in our community, the *queer population is demanding their own events. Exclusive space and parties just for them. And it's been proposed that they can exclude anyone they don't know, or who does not fit into their definition of what queer is.

Now the majority is upset. This would include the (perceived) heterosexuals, cissexuals, bi sexuals, outlaws, intersexed, androgynous, trans and all those who prefer to not be labeled. And, those who fear not being accepted by this exclusive feeling queer group.

How is it that a group (that is a minority one none-the-less) feels ok with the notion that they can not only exclude others but also call that non discriminatory?

When specifically if the heterosexuals decided to hold a party only for those who have sex with the opposite sex, that the minority would not be "up in arms" about the disparity in this.

Pansexual (open to anyone regardless of gender, orientation or play style) parties are meant for all.

How can one group be so damning and put so many people in a box surrounding identity and sexuality as to exclude them based on how they present themselves or how they label themselves?

We need to find ways to foster inclusion for all. Yet if the queer community wants to segregate themselves from everyone else and declare themselves so radically different that they require playing and socializing away from all who are different, how can this be achieved?


How can this group of queers, cross pollinate to gain understanding, new friends, allies and support if they don't get their kink on with the rest of us?

The queers are saying that they don't want to be watched or judged by anyone who does not share their label whilst playing. For the most part, the majority are not judging ... I've been watching them for years. In fact, I see more judgment on play styles and identity from the queers to everyone else.

There seems to be this notion that queers perceive themselves as so radically different that they must be given their own space.

Each grouping of people is unique and truly faces its own challenges. And for as long as we continue to find reason to not see our similarities as sexual outlaws, we will forever face judgment from both the outside vanilla world and from our fellow kinksters.

We should be working towards a common goal of acceptance, tolerance and respect. As it stands right now, all I am witnessing is a lot of slurs, some bashing, untruths, fear and negative outlooks. Not very promising at all.


Why can't the queers party and socialize with everyone else? Why is it ok for the queers to act bigoted towards anyone not the same as them and not be called on it by others? Because they are the minority, they get a "get out of jail card" for their behaviors, however misinformed. Not.


Further what gets my goat, (no I don't own a goat) is that it is most often than not this very group of people that wants their own events, that also expresses their inability to pay for it. Like really, who pray tell is going to foot the bill? Are people really so clueless as to what it costs financially to host a party, let alone to lease a space where such things could take place? To pay for all the items necessary to have a party run safely, well equipped, with heat, lights, drinks, food, equipment, music .... the list goes on and on.

Groups that are successful from my standpoint are ones where they stand on their own two feet. They do not demand that others around them do things to keep there ideas afloat, they don't whine about something not existing, they set about creating it.

Then someone comes along and offers the physical space for this group of people to create a group and its moaned aloud, that it has to be basically free or low, very low cost. And that even if the event were created, then likely it would not even be enjoyed because of to many unknown dynamics. Talk about being pissy. Wanting something, whining aloud about it, yet doing nothing to support its emergence even when given the space and encouragement to do so. This is so contrary to being proactive that it is simply baffling.

It feels selfish, and at it's very heart, also discriminatory.

What do you think?

*the queer population I refer to is not "all queers", rather a group of louder spoken ones whom are in my sphere.

Survey

A friend sent this along to me, and I in turn promised to post it.

Dear Jennifer

Our lab focuses on matters of human sexuality, particularly lovestyles that are socially stigmatized or sometimes excluded from academic study. I am a poly/kink community member and activist, and strive to increase awareness and decrease stigma within academia. For this study, we are looking at how safer sex practices (such as partnermnegotiation and prophylactic use) varies across a variety of lovestyles. The data will only be seen by myself, Dr Conley (the University of Michigan faculty member directing this research), and various research assistants in the lab. We don't ask for any personal information, the survey is completely anonymous.

For more information on Dr Conley's work and on the study itself,
please visit her faculty profile page.





Here is the survey, go ahead....fill it in.

Sexual Prowess

It takes a lot of skill, thoughtfulness and effort to be a good lover. Most anyone can screw or fuck someone, but to be a lover requires a finesse, a dedication to the "art of loving."

Over the years it has become painfully obvious to me through watching others engage in sex and listening to people discuss their sex lives, that so many are not completely satisfied with their intimate time. They crave more, yet do not have the vocabulary or the skill set to teach another how to please them.

People want exhilarating sex, they want to be caught up in the throes of passion and to feel the wild rush of euphoria wash through their body that only happens when sex is spontaneous, engaging and varied.

Anyone can do the same techniques time and time again, and we all know it then gets boring and predictable. It may get you off but it sure is not rewarding, nor bonding, nor toe curling or earth shaking.

Many people I speak to want to be considered great lovers, either by their relationship partners, or their one night stands. They want to be revered as excellent lovers and they want the delight that comes from being able to give their partner their undivided sensual attention.

Are you a lover who is caught in a rut, unsure how to create new and memorable experiences between you and your partner? You can fix this without grave difficulty, you just need the willingness to explore some unfamiliar territory, be willing to listen and able to spend more time creating that hunger within your hunger.

Are you a lover with something to share, even the simplest single suggestion is valuable here.

Here is what I need from you.

Drop me an email to jennifer@libidoevents, with the subject line "Lover". In the email tell me if you are a man or a woman and whether or not you make love to men or women.

Then tell me your favorite sexy techniques you engage in as foreplay, mental play or sex play to wow your partner.

I am *not* looking for sex positions, rather for ideas on how you ensure your partner is well taken care of sexually as a whole body experience during your play time. Give me examples.

You can also tell me what you have enjoyed having down to you that has made your intimate time all that more special and spectacular.

I am currently working on a special project and this information will go along ways to ensuring a vast number of people will become more thoughtful and proactive lovers.

Remember, what goes around, comes around. Share your tidbits and help make bedrooms across the country happier and more orgasmic.

Girl on Girl Masturbation

One of Libido Lounges women members who attended Jack & Jill this past Tuesday wrote about her experience at the event with another woman. With her permission, I post her writing here for your reading pleasure.

I love vulvas. I find them a very attractive feature of any person I wish to pursue, either romantically or for casual sex play. I like them light, dark, wideset, tight, petite, flowery, hairy, stubbly, smooth, pierced, tattooed, and unscathed by any needle. I also find healthy self-regard very enticing in addition to confidence and the ability to communicate effectively about what one wants.

While thinking about all these wonderful things tonight, I smiled and giggled part-way across the room at the woman who shall now be known as Cookie. Other people talked about what they found attractive in a partner until Cookie raised her hand and disclosed that she was in agreement with virtually everything that had already been said. I watched her as she spoke of a "queer energy", which in itself seemed to her to be a misnomer, for which she lacked a better concise phrase. Shortly thereafter, she and I started making hand signals and smiling at each other. It was officially decreed by the time the light conversation group dispersed that I would be fisting Cookie tonight.

We flirted a little longer before I grabbed a pair of gloves and told her it was ladies' choice for a place to play. She chose, very wisely, the gynecological examination table in a small semi-private room. I positioned myself between her very long legs as I lovingly played with her vulva in my hand and her nipple in my mouth. In short order, and while a vibrator pulsated on her clit, one penetrative digit turned into two, then a whole hand as I closed my fist and pushed it inside her. My tongue hanging out and my heavy guage tongue stud seeking her most sensitive regions, I let her fuck my face and my fist simultaneously. Cookie couldn't help herself--her mouth open, perfect tits shaking, legs quivering, and the loudest moans she could produce projecting into the air. The small room filled silently with male witnesses and the smell of Cookie's cum. My hand turned inside and my thumb knuckle mercilessly forced orgasm after orgasm from her g-spot. I turned my hand again, her whole body gyrating around my hand, and turned the back of my hand in circles around her g-spot.

When it came time to pull away as gently as possible while she enjoyed the last orgasm from vaginal fisting she would have of the evening, we moved in perfect harmony and she showered my entire upper chest and torso in her cum. But Cookie wasn't finished.

After re-hydrating herself and blowing up a small inflatable pool, Cookie laid an absorbant surface down on a seat and the pool in front of her. Using nothing more than a cleverly designed dildo, she pumped and squirted while the curious looked onward. A unanimous "wow" was politely uttered by four onlookers after every orgasm. I threw down a blanket for myself in front of her and pulled out a pink glass dildo. After thrusting it in and out of my vagina while I watched her bring herself to orgasm again and again, I felt an inclination to give my whole self over to her in that very moment. Being careful to add extra lube to my glassware, I slowly inserted it into my ass. No sooner was I rapidly thrusting it in and out than I was already reaching for a second toy to vibrate against my clit. Cookie being my sole focus, I felt myself open wide and spill a small flood at my feet for her.

Following my washing up, I observed Cookie and the hostess of the evening discussing Cookie being double-fisted. The hostess offered me a choice between which hand I would play in this delicious scheme, and I very ambitiously stated I would put my best effort into fisting her in the ass. Cookie got up onto a table on all fours, the hostess slid alternating parts of her hand into and over Cookie's vulva, and I inserted one finger at a time in her ass until my whole hand was inside her again. The hostess left us to play, and I explored the sensation of this new extraordinary place I had just been introduced to. Cookie sucked on many gorgeous sets of tits while she backed her ass further onto my hand. At the appropriate moment, I once again extracted myself from deep inside her.

Cookie quickly grabbed an attachment for a manual fucking machine and bounced into the appropriate room while I grabbed handfuls of miniature cookies and cracker sandwiches. Watching her thrusting back and forth on the rocking machine, I felt an overwhelming impulse to ride her until I came all over her again. I approached her and placed my feet around one of her legs. Pulling on her hair, kissing her sweet lips while she squirted all over my foot, and masturbating while she licked my stomach, I felt something incredible building up inside me. Soon, she could see it, and inserted her fingers to draw it out. I continued making my own contributions until I gushed down her arm and all over both of our legs.

Never before had I imagined, even in my wildest dreams, that I could feel so free to express myself in so many ways with any person. In her arms or with my arms thrusting my hand into her, I feel truly in touch with my sense of self as much as I am in tune with her body. In these moments, through these experiences, the rest of the world dissolves away. I am truly able to embrace my real self.

Boundaries & the creation of

Without doubt, I am rather skilled at creating boundaries that keep my family life and my personal life drama free.

It is a challenge though for me to create and maintain professional boundaries due to working within such a highly charged environment of uniquely diverse people.

There always seem to be unusual circumstances, or more than meets the eye going on. This in turns means what I would not permit to be around me personally by way of issues, can at times be present at work.

The creation and maintaining of good boundaries is what keeps one safe, sane and enjoying life.

When do you draw the line and create absolutes?

How do you tell someone in a professional context that they are not welcome in your world? Do you explain why?

I want to be fair on the one hand, and I also want to be tolerant. Yet I refuse to feel taken advantage of, or as though someone is attempting to squash me. Business or not, it is my responsibility to ensure I continue enjoying my profession with out resentment towards people or situations. I certainly don't need any one persons business dollars enough to permit them to cross my boundaries.

So advice on the boundaries questions would sure be appreciated.

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A couple from yesterdays orientation wrote about the experience. Check it out.

Anothers view

I receive a lot of e-mail, and am regularly overwhelmed in keeping up with it all. The topics are business, personal, disclosures, requests for assistance, critiques and of course praise.

I have written about my pregnancy a fair bit over the last five months, specifically because it is the greatest influence in my life these days and as such ruling most things.

A reader of my blog whom I have corresponded with before, wrote me today to say he had written a little something about myself. I found it heart warming to read his blog post about parenthood and so I thought I would share it with you.

Read on ...

Taking Suggestions

Currently I am writing some new classes and have a couple of ideas for additional ones which are unique and topics not generally taught all that often. This makes me excited to have new selections to make available as part of my curriculum.

I am however still looking for further ideas and topics to be included into my regular repertoire.

Here is a current list of the classes I teach, the list is actually not updated and so a few of my classes are missing. However after looking it over, do you see any holes?

It would please me to no end to receive suggestions from you my dear readers on new subjects that you think I should be offering or could offer that would interest you while meeting your needs.

Write me: jennifer@libidoevents.com


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Tonight was deviant dining and did we ever have a fantastic meal with everyone who came out, great food for sure. More couples than singles this time round, it is always different each time we host this twice monthly event.

The conversation were hot topics for certain: removal of male pubic hair, people who write anonymously on the internet, swingers rules and the evolution of sex culture. We had a riot laughing and sharing stories and perspectives, join us for the next dinner on Wednesday May 20th.

Now we are home and packing more boxes, the big move is fast approaching.

Vibrators & Lubricant Abbotsford

After nine hours of sleep, I'm awake again to face another day.

Taboo Day Two starts for me in a couple of hours.

This email was awaiting me as I turned my computer on. Making a positive lasting difference in the intimate lives of others is what I strive for.

My wife and I really enjoyed your seminars tonight.

You have a wonderful way of making everyone feel comfortable.

We attended both and came away feeling excited about we learned.

We're planning to try some of your technique suggestions Saturday. I'm looking forward to the bullet and lubricant you recommended and that we bought.


Thanks for being so genuine.

G & S

If you've got some time available this afternoon and can get out to the Fraser Valley, stop by the Abbotsford Tradex at the airport, take in the show and come see one, or all three of my sexy inspirational, informative seminars too.

Drug Consumption in BDSM

Yesterday was a photo shoot at The Lounge where another model, myself, a rigger and a photographer gathered for just over three hours to snap bondage images together. The young hot model T and myself go way back, making it a real pleasure to be tied up with her for the camera.

We struck some awesome poses and had numerous great laughs over moments between photos. All good clean fun for two girly girls who love bondage and one another. My man arrived a short while into the shoot as he stopped by following his work day. It was helpful to have him there, he acted as a Fluffer and and as a general helper to the models and the rigger.

We got home at a decent enough hour for me to spend a short while on the computer before bed. There is a currently a debate going on-line over drug & alcohol use at public BDSM events. (NOT AT LIBIDO LOUNGE) I of course am anti drug & booze use at said events, both for attendees and for those that over see the play that happens in such facilities.

Can you image playing in a BDSM context in a facility where the monitors in charge of watching over everyone and their scenes are stoned on marijuana? How absurd and how thoughtless. Would you want to take direction from a stoned person? Message me your thoughts would you.

jennifer@libidoevents.com

Here are some of the idiotic statements people have been throwing around...

1. Some may think that pot smoking near a club sets a bad example,* and some people may think is sets a good example of openness and tolerance and acceptance of all people.*
2. Why is caffeine (a potentially dangerous mind altering chemical) readily available at even the strictest no tolerance fetish nights but someone who leaves the event to indulge in their substance of choice is demonized?
3. There is nothing unethical about smoking marijuana or playing while under the influence.
4. I know myself and my drug limits really well, because I'm working with them constantly. I know how to monitor my chemical state and know when I'm capable of play and DM'ing.
5. I agree with XXXX that DM's should not use alcohol or pot before their shifts, but I think afterwards is fine in small doses.

It really is laughable and disturbing at the same time that some people think that playing while high is acceptable. I could keep cut and pasting dumb statements from others, but I've not the time for this.

What I am interested in is this.

Do you think that monitors at BDSM clubs who are using drugs should be permitted to oversee the safety of others?

Would you feel comfortable and safe walking into a BDSM facility and seeing others smoking up out front, or in their cars and then entering the building and smelling the ripe smell of marijuana on others?

Apparently my stance on this is too harsh for some, which is fine by me, as The Lounge runs on the premise of NO DRUG USE EVER, by anyone.

In our year of our operation we've had one event with alcohol and it was new years eve. If you wanted to drink you could, however only four drinks, served by us, and you were given drink tickets. We knew who each person who drank was, what they drank and the potency as their were NO mixed drinks. We also served a huge amount of food and each person upon entering that night had to relinquish their vehicle keys. So, to reiterate, 0.005% of our events in 12 months of operation have had a measurable and track-able alcohol consumption.

Thanks for playing along and I do want and value your feedback.


jennifer@libidoevents.com

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