Readying

Shortly I leave for the women's play party. I am sooo excited. Forty six women registered and I have more gear packed than we could possibly ever use.

Wish me luck! Hell. Never mind, I need no luck. In fact what I need is more hands and more time to do all the women things that I want to.

whuhaha, I have a damn blessed life AND occupation

driving Jennifer

Are you attending Friday's Women's Party and driving through or at least by North Burnaby on your way there?

I find myself in need of a ride out to the event only (and not back) and the ride needs to have an available back seat and / or trunk. (I have some equipment that I need to take to ensure a sexy night)

If you can pick me up and have me to the event, by 7:30pm, then please send me an email and lets get things sorted out.

I've already packed my personal party toy bag with a couple of strap-ons, a variety of sensation toys, a few games and of course, bondage gear. I am an eager beaver! Now I just have to figure out what to wear.

I can promise stimulating conversations and my undivided for the entirety of the drive out should you be able to help me out with this.

Thank you.

jennifer@libidoevents.com

Women's Party this Friday

Ladies' Night

Friday September 28th

Dress Code: Lingerie

8 pm - 1 am

WOMEN ONLY play party hosted by Jennifer of Libido Events

This event is for bi-sexual and bi-curious ladies and is designed
to give women the opportunity to explore this side of their
sexuality in a women's only environment.

Door prizes, fun, erotic games and not a man in sight!

No pressure to play ~ just come out, have some titillating
fun & enjoy the fine company of like minded ladies.
Or, perhaps something more.

$35 per lady or bring a girlfriend and both attend for $50
Cost includes non alcoholic refreshments, awesome appetizers & a glass of wine.

Woman owned club with only women staff on this very special night!

All events are held in a spacious yet homey 3000 sq ft club house
located in S. Surrey/N. Delta area.

Enjoy our 8 person Hot Tub or take a Bubble Bath for 2 or 3 in our soaker tub.

Relax in the sunken living room while watching something naughty

on the big screen TV or play an icebreaker game in the dining room.

Get or give a massage or head down to the open play room.

Watch or play...it's up to you!

Private and Open Play Rooms available.

Our club is warm & inviting with a comfortable house party feel.

We are conveniently located off hwys 99, 91, 10 & Scott Road about

40 minutes from DT Vancouver & 20 minutes from the US border.

No pressure to participate just come out and connect
with lots of like minded women.

THIS PARTY IS BYOB

DRESS CODE

NO street clothes allowed once you enter our doors.

Be prepared!

If you don’t bring appropriate gear you won’t be allowed in.

You will be expected to change upon arrival if not already ‘dressed’.

Be creative and let your personality show in your outfit!

If you have favorite sex toys, porn or music, bring them along.

REGISTER NOW

not so vanilla

This is but a simple list of a few of the things that today showcase my life as out-of-the-ordinary

1. I'm wearing a Hanky Panky boobs tank-top, given to me from the business
2. my guy is on the sofa crafting me a multitude of new items for my interactive sex classes
3. earlier I picked up my vulva replica from a women's home where I'd left it the other day
4. in the post box, a consulting offer for sex coaching with a couple
5. I'm booked in to the spa for tomorrow afternoon for some pampering
6. my girl-friend loves my boy-friend, and my boy-friend loves my girl-friend
7. both my girl-friend and my boy-friend love me
8. I've masturbated to orgasm twice today
9. slept till 12:30 this afternoon
10. a bed side table with more than six sex manuals, four personal toys & an absorbent pad
    
11. three bottles of lubricant around the bed
12. one vibrator plugged in to an extension cord (permanently) under the bed
13. the cat has her first "outfit", she looks like a royal princess
    

days end

My dinner appointment went wonderfully smooth. The food was brilliant, the conversation non stop. My companion a man, charming and well spoken.

I even made it home at nights end in time to tuck T into bed, a long standing tradition between us. RC is asleep on sofa, wrapped up in a blanket and sicker than I have ever seen him.

There were two job offers in my in-box today. Both of which I am able to take. It's an incredible feeling to be sought after for my educational series, this has taken years of hard work. Tomorrow I will try to find time to upload the new dates to the Libido Events calendar as well as the October round of classes at The Love Nest.

rest & relaxation

Last night we went to bed together, RC and I. Making love in the dark, me straddled atop him. Exhilarating orgasms, clutching one another to share the explosions. It was really hot, I came...then he came. We fell asleep quietly laying alongside one another in the black of our bedroom. It was 12:30 a.m.

I said good-bye to RC as headed off to work at 6:30 this morning, then I woke T for school a short while later. With T off to school at 7:30 I promptly put myself back to bed. And I went straight to sleep. Imagine the surprise to my sleepy eyes to see the clock read 1:10 as I awoke this afternoon.

We went for BBQ last night as a family dinner out. Going of course here and ordering a monster size platter of food. The Memphis Feast. So after I woke up, I went to the kitchen and microwaved the remains. Bringing ribs, pulled pork, sausage, brisket & bbq sauce back to bed with me along with a roll of paper towel underneath my arm. Naked and in bed surrounded by computer, two phones, and food, I have begun my day.

This day of bed rest & recovery was so needed after the weekend I had, I am feeling much better than yesterday. Tomorrow I am booking myself into a spa for later in the week. There are three personal body treatments that have caught my eye and I am eager to hand myself over for some long over due body pampering to this studio.

Soon though I will need to vacate my bed and start readying for my evening appointment. A client is taking me to dinner in Gastown. How charming.

Party Memories

The party on Saturday night was truly incredible. With such a packed house, there was a huge range in the attendees of every interest, age and personality. The mix turns out rather fantastically when the numbers are so good, and of course this leads to an outrageous amount of people making connections and having the time of their lives.

I've never in my life run out of gas before, this happened to me personally while driving down to the venue in RC's vehicle....whose gas gauge does not read properly. Once that crisis was smoothed over, it was back on track for me with so much to do.

To the people who brought sheets as donations to the party, thank you so much for hearing my request and acting on it! And to the man, who brought the brand new full sheet set in satin, you sure have made a new friend in me. :)

I played at the party. Well, I had occasion to top a couple of different lovely women. First was a scene where I saran wrapped then vibrated a woman, then leaving here bound, I bent her husband over her, and spanked his bottom to give him a warm welcome to SM play. Then Lisa snagged some of my attention. She was looking stunning all made up, but my plan involved her skirt off and her top gone. I said make it so, and she did. I like my women able to follow instructions, and eager, Lisa was both. And so single-tail in hand, I marked her up for awhile, before turning her to face me and doing a round of pussy spanking. When she started gasping, I hauled her up in both my arms and carried her across the room. Throwing her on some cushions on the floor, we fooled around for awhile longer. We stopped when I was out of breath and she was laughing the laugh of a masochist high on endorphins.

There was plenty of other moments were I was involved in play and sexiness of course, yet I spent the rest of the night doing the social butterfly routine all the while keeping an eye on everyone. The night flew right on by, without a single issue or problem.

At nights end, it became obvious that a room swap is in order for our October party. We are going to swap the sex room and the impact room. Wait till you see what we have in-store for next month. New equipment again as well, two more pieces to satisfy all of our sexual explorers out for the evening and our ever growing list of play equipment.


The Love Nest was our wonderful sponsor for the evening, they donated all of our safer sex supplies, they are the cities finest adult store.


To M. for all your help moving & building equipment, thank you so much, I do value your strength and patience. To RC, I love you. To Deej, you were one fun loving b'day girl. To PA, thanks for taking care of my admin. details, on short notice. To H, thank you for the gift. To J, thank you for the nutritious snacks. Sandi, your gift didn't even make it home with me, it was gone that fast and was so good. And to J & B, the chocolates were great, yummy.

Today RC took me shopping .... a reward for working my butt off on Saturday with 22 hours of work. It could be said that he got me the most decadent shoes I've seen in awhile. Black, lace-up 5 inch heels, with a slim platform. A pair of red satin stockings and another pair of thigh high striped stockings to compliment my new arm warmers, in red & black. We've been talking and I do need a shoe room or cabinet, because storing 70 odd pair of shoes & boots around the house in random spots is wrong on so many levels. It's difficult to even remember what I own and what I am still searching for, a shoe room would make me happy and allow me to display my footwear so more of them can be worn more regularly.

Shoes and boots are the ultimate gift!

afterglow

Too tired to write much. My body is filled with the ache of an exceptionally long day. My mind twirling from all it's working to process. There is a part of me that wants to do the paperwork for this event right now before sleep, but it's not going to happen. Instead RC and I are eating pizza naked in bed together as we decompress from last nights play party and then we are going to sleep.

I'll write more in the morning, but in the meanwhile know that we had a full house. It was as always a spectacular night, with no glitches. (ok, maybe a few little funny moments, but I'll share those with you some time soon) I am so happy to be surrounded by such a wonderful sex-positive community.

In the mean time, if you were at last nights party, tell me, how was it for you? Leave a comment.

Play Party - downtown Vancouver

Located in downtown Vancouver at the corner of Hornby and Dunsmuir
Streets for those driving OR easily accessible bus and by Sky Train
as we are one block from the Burrard Street Train Station for those
relying on Transit.

This is your opportunity to partake in carnal
pleasures, meet new friends and watch others enjoy themselves.
Join us...

September 22 Saturday 8:00pm - 1:30am

PLAY PARTY- a sex-positive event

brought to you by Libido Events

The Hornby - 3rd Floor 595 Hornby Street Vancouver BC

Tickets: $25 Woman / $50 Couples & Single Men - pay at door, cash
Libido Events

*No membership required, must be 19 years +

*Life Time Members to Libido Lounge FREE

The elevator doors open into a red-carpeted room lit with light
bright enough to see by yet dim enough to create an inviting mood. A
smiling volunteer offers to check any coats and bags you won't be
needing for the evening ahead of you. Then after making your payment,
you are finally permitted to see what is behind the screen blocking
your view of the rooms and noise beyond.

A full pay bar sits at one side of the main room (you can leave your
credit card with them), which holds chairs and candle-lit tables with
light snacks for a casual socializing atmosphere. Further on, there is
a massive room, 2500 sq. ft set up with BDSM furniture (suspension
frames, spanking benches, tables with anchor points, intermixed with
massage tables and other naughty sex pieces) and beyond them is a
no-voyeurs room for couples only sex play with seven full beds and
1000 sq ft. The space has music piped in and contains a stocked area
of safer sex supplies, fresh bedding, massage oils and cleanup
supplies. Even if you are early, you may see someone already at play
in the rooms -- people here are keen to have fun and make the most of
their night out.

A Libido Events Naughty Party has an atmosphere distinctly different
from a fetish night. It shares the no-streetwear rule: wear your
fetish wear, sexy clothing or even nothing at all (the temperature on
this floor is set to "naked"). No jeans, sweat pants, boxer shorts or
flannel pj bottoms. Dress to impress. However, the main difference is
that sex and kink are not kept separate. You are as likely to see
someone tied to a table and receiving oral sex as you are to see
someone bent over getting a spanking or flogging. Swingers,
kinksters, voyeurs, exhibitionists and people of every sexuality are
welcome. Come see for yourself what a Naughty Party is like.

jennifer@libidoevents.com

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Jennifer's Tips for a Successful Experience at a Libido Events Play
Party

1. Be friendly, make eye contact and introduce yourself to everyone
you meet or sit next to. Smile.

2. Be complimentary of the people you meet, there is an attractive
quality in or on everyone, find it and make that your compliment.
Watch what happens when you make someone feel good about themselves.

3. Keep a respectable distance when watching people play and offer no
comments, positive or otherwise. Make no deliberate eye contact with
people playing, it's a mood breaker that violates others sacred
space.

4. Invite or offer play once to the person youre interested in. If
met by a no, accept it gracefully, dont take it personally and move
on; do not make a request of someone twice. Smile

5. If invited to play by someone that doesnt interest you, be kind,
yet firm, when saying no, and remember it took a lot of courage for
that person to put themselves out there. Smile and be grateful for
the attention.

6. Have no expectations, then what does happen, will be a bonus.

7. Watch whatever you like and turn your back on anything that isn't
of interest to you, but never offer comment.

8. Buy someone a drink or exchange e-mail addresses, make a new
friend, two or three.

9. Thank the volunteers that help make this event possible and make
your experience a positive one. (makes them feel good and helps you
get comfortable talking to people in sex-positive space)

10. If you have a problem with a person, an activity going on, or
understanding something, find a Monitor (wearing a PINK armband) or
Jennifer to help you figure things out.

11. Remember to treat the venue with respect & tidy up after
yourself. This includes putting garbage in the proper containers
supplied in each room. Changing your sheets in the sex room after
using a bed and putting the soiled sheet in the rooms laundry bin.
Spraying down a piece of equipment in the Play rooms after playing on
it; use the sanitizer and paper towels provided.

12. Be prepared to talk about yourself in some way and at the same
time, listen to who you are standing in front of. This is for those
that are hoping to play with the person. Smile

13. Treat everyone well. You will want to be known as that type of
person. This will make you more comfortable, thus making others
comfortable with you and opportunities to present themselves.

14. Never touch someone without their full consent & welcome.

15. Adhere to our House Rules posted at the Naughty Party. Smile.

16. If you are a man attending and plan on attending alone, know that
your chances for finding play in any form go up exponentially if you
arrive with a date. You dont need to play together, but arriving
with someone makes you appear safer to others looking at you as a
potential play partner for the evening.

17. Remember that you can attend the next Naughty Party and meet
other new people then. This may be your first party but it's not
ours, Libido Events is not going anywhere. So do not make snap
decisions thinking that this will be your only opportunity, know that
you can meet that person or opportunity here again and nothing will be
lost. [only enhanced with want & time]

18. Libido Events supplies the equipment but you must bring your own
sex toys. Clean up & safer sex supplies along with linens are all
provided.

*bringing your own sex toys means items such as: favorite condoms,
favorite lube, floggers, canes, handcuffs, rope, chains, paddles,
house coats etc

19. Remember Naughty Parties have a dress code of sexy pajamas or
fetish attire, absolutely no street wear of any kind. Those in street
wear will not be permitted to enter. Smile.

20. If you're uncertain of what to wear, try something from this list
of suggestions:

PJ's bottoms, Nighties, Lingerie, Silks, Lace, Bra and Panty sets,
Nude, Sheer, Rope Harnesses, Chaps, Leather, Latex, PVC, Vinyl,
Rubber, Wetlook, Body Paint, Saran Wrap, Liquid Latex, Corsets,
Feathers, Thongs, Stockings, Spandex, Heels, Boots, Cabaret, Tuxedo
Jacket , Uniforms, Smoking Jackets, Kilts, Cross-Dress,
Furry, Vintage, Victorian, Gothic, Gender-bend, Fetish Glam, Porn
Star...or any other risqué costume you can dream up! Dress to impress
and let your own personality shine in your choice of clothing or
costume.

21. Leave your valuables at home. There is a bank machine in the
building (though not on our floor) and the full bar does accept
credit cards. Bring a small tote bag to put your street clothes in at
our coat check once you arrive.

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PLEASE REMEMBER: DONATIONS URGENTLY NEEDED of Clean, Used Double,
Queen & King Sized Fitted Sheets. Bring them to the party and deposit
to the bin at front registration. Thank you greatly they'll go to
really good use as you can well imagine.

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Massage Information

nicole is a local sensual masseuse who is delighted to add some

sensuality to your night. She uses a combination of swedish massage

techniques and acupressure to gently coax the stress out of your
body.

Come get a massage to relax you before you start a scene or to calm

you down afterwards...

1$ per minute or $20 for 25 minutes

**please bring cash, OR there is a bank machine in the building

Want a little bit more? Add $10 to the price of your massage for some

super sexy topless body sliding.

Vendor: Sheet Information

The Sensual Sheet

lingerie for your bed...

Sick of sleeping in the wet spot? Want to turn your bedroom into a

boudoir? The Sensual Sheet, with a reversible satin and fur finish

and a waterproof core, allows unlimited mess-free pleasure in and out

of the bedroom.

Uncork that bottle of champagne, pull out the toy that makes her

squirt, or drench yourselves in massage oil. Whatever your pleasure,

The Sensual Sheet is guaranteed to protect your bed and to make you

feel outrageously sexy!

Price: The Sheet retails for $220.00. This fall I'm feeling playful

so if you come over and love it, make me an offer.

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Hanky Panky Adult Home Parties was founded on the idea that pursuing
sensual pleasure should be fun! We've brought together a large
selection of erotic toy technology and coupled it with a wealth of
sex-positive information. We're here to help you celebrate your
sexuality ~~gone is the shame and guilt~~ bring on the orgasmic
bliss!! I'm pleased to be attending the event this weekend and I hope
you'll stop by the table to say "hi"! ~~~Cheers~~~ Shimmy

Wined & Dined

Last night the guy and I headed over to a friends home for some late night dessert and equipment talk. T & M, sweet sweet couple. Young and of course, just finding their way in sex culture. How cool that I met them a few months back at one of my classes. Now we're friends who plot and plan together.

After three separate times of filling my plate with sweetness, it became obvious that I should stop. There was plenty to nibble on though, while seated enjoying some stimulating conversations.

Then we looked over the new suspension frame and the adjustments that were made it to it. **does naked happy dance** Everyone will love this piece, it is just beautiful and solid as hell.

Today was another story. We left the house at 8:30 this morning and were off and running at full speed right away. By 2:00 we were back home and together we were desperate for a nap. After an hours sleep, it was time to get up. I sent out a notice to the mailing list about this Saturday's Play Party and I did some house clean up.

With only a few minutes to spare I had a shower and then RC and I left to go to dinner. We had been invited over a few days back to K & T's in Ladner, so we made the drive out after stopping to pick up a dessert wine for every one's pleasure. After checking out their in-home dungeon, we made pizzas from scratch. Then sat around eating and shooting the shit for a few hours - all in all, an excellent night out.

We did make a fairly early of it, arriving home by around 11. As T had stayed home from school sick today and just slept, we headed back to give her another dose of Cold FX, some love, and of course to tuck the poor young girl into bed at nights end. She was so happy to see us.


The accomplishments today are items that are going to make YOU all very excited. I've been desperately trying to arrive at this point for quite some time now.

give away

Anyone booking a flight on Northwest / Continental Airlines in the next short while contact me for a $70 amenity coupon due to expire October 31 2007.

It was "awarded" to me after a very painful flight with that particular airline.

Equipment Purchase

Just a couple of minutes ago I made a purchase.

A large purchase.

An item that is for events.

It could be called a piece of equipment.

Did I mention it is large?

And new.

And beautiful.

And will be at this Saturday's Play Party.

Later today, as it is delivered to the storage locker, I will snap a couple of photos and upload them here for you to drool over.

I am very happy right now.

I know that you too will be pleased with this item. This weekend there will likely end up being a line-up of people eagerly awaiting the chance to play on it and it may soon become the favored equipment piece for our party attendees.

blissful life

From 1:00-3:00 RC and I spent the time in bed alone. Then today was family day. Well after 3pm when T returned from school. We all hung out together at home. I had made stuffed peppers from scratch for our dinner, it took me quite some time. Everyone ate heartily.

The house is clean, the fridge is full. We all have our good health.

Life is amazing. This, the result of karma.

I found this nugget of a video, it's been on my desktop for awhile. Seems like a good time for me to share it. Enjoy!

And Yes, it is work safe, no foul language or nudity

I still have TWO VOLUNTEER Positions available
for this Saturday's September 22 Play Party. You would
need to be available between the hours of 9pm and 2:00am
and able to do a two hour shift. You MUST have volunteered
at one of our Play Parties before.

email me jennifer@libidoevents.com

email difficulties

A gorgeous day and my sweetie was up and out with me to enjoy it. Seeing as he was going from a day shift to an overnight shift you can imagine my surprise and delight to be savoring the day alongside him.

We conquered household chores and even ventured out of the house to take care of some business. It makes doing life's not-so enjoyable tasks more enjoyable to not have to do them alone anymore. Sharing the responsibilities with another adult is very freeing on so many levels.

I've had my share of e-mail stress and woes the last two, three years now. I have had problems with my ISP, difficulties with the Host of my website, mail program disasters and an assortment of other absurd web related problems, but nothing beats the most recent screw up.

Blogger, which is the Program I use to publish my Blog, is considered now to be Spam. All of Blogger, not just my Blog.

Read more from my handsome web support guy...

The reason that some of your messages (and replies to those messages) are being blocked is simply because your emails contain the address of your blog. Mail scanners scan your email for links, and then check those links against blacklists. Because Blogger addresses are included in the Spamhaus blacklist, any email you send containing the address of your blog will be blocked by any mail server that uses the Spamhaus blacklist. And then, if someone replies to a message you've sent that includes the address of your blog, their message will also be blocked -- although people whose ISPs are using Spamhaus probably won't receive your messages anyway, so they are unlikely to be replying to a message from you unless it's an old one.

To mitigate this problem rather fast this is what's been created, rather inelegant (quoting handsome web guy), but it works

http://www.libidoevents.com/blogredirect.html

the new link that will go in all my mail- outs. We have a site turn over in November and when this happens, my Blog moves to WordPress (off of Blogger) and will be hosted on the Libido Events and Libido Lounge new sites finally.

This answers many things for me and helps me to understand why so much of my mail was apparently not reaching it's intended destination and clients emails not arriving to me.

With this glitch dealt with, I'm about ready to get back to other more pressing adventures. Like having sex & getting spanked and yes......opening Libido Lounge.

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Waves at David in Calgary!!! Hello, I received your envelope in the mail, I will email you in a day or two. Thank you for thinking of me, I am reminded of you as well from time to time.

Electrical Sex

If truth be told I finally gathered the strength and motivation to get myself out of bed at the ghastly hour of 3pm. Don't get me wrong, I did awake a few times over the day thus far. I woke once to pee, another to answer the phone and once more to check the computer briefly, before heading right back to the world of deep slumber. When RC moved in, with him came a new pillow top bed, sleeping on it is dreamy. Oh how my body and mind need sleep, and again today, the house to myself.

Last night was Rascals and we made it there shortly after they opened. Apparently my ensemble garnished me such compliments as classy and sophisticated. Me thinks this has to do more with the shoes, purse and panties matching in brilliant purple, and allowing one to be noticed rather than melting into the depths of darkness.

Our community has a love affair with black, it is the color that the doom and gloom crowd wear as there staple. I like black, but enough already, I can play and be Dominant or play and bottom and wear pink, yellow, purple, or polka dots, it does not change one bit how I play.

From the moment we walked in to the place, we were swamped in people saying hi, grabbing hugs, giving kisses, making offers of play, it was as always simply overwhelming just making it through the doorway and into the main area through all the people. We had not even put down our bags.

We talked briefly with a few people then I saw an opening. We hit the dungeon floor fast. There was a long low bondage table available that looked just about right for what I had in mind for RC.

Once he was naked sitting up on the table, and I had his cock taped with leads to the tens unit, I started to get excited. He, not so much. He was looking nervous. Time went by fast as it tends to when one is having fun. It didn't take long in the scene for me to feel RC losing control. It was intense physical sensations for him, and in public.

With the tens unit of his perineum and cock, there was still a great amount of sensitive flesh covering his lower abdomen or love trail as some call it. I took that skin and clamped in down with clothes pegs, in two solid rows of eight. Then I closed six more pegs around the head of his cock [the corona] and finally we were ready to start some action.

There is a lot of energy in a 9 volt battery. RC's boy bits found this out fast. I of course quite enjoyed holding the controls to this little box of fun.

I flogged and strapped his back some, but it wasn't cutting it for me. What was missing was his face, I needed the connection with him, to see his journey. Coming back round to face him, I found myself staring in the eyes of someone who was trying hard to retain his composure yet who was losing control of himself fast.

Within minutes of adjusting the dials to pulses not before reached, and my boy was levitated off the table. He went over the top, losing himself to the scene and the moment. Before I even saw what has happening his hands had flown between his legs and he was ripping the leads off of his cock and throwing them to floor.

Triumphant in his feat, the electrical torture ended and what followed was exactly what was needed. (well after I removed all the clothes pegs from him) We packed up our gear, went and caught our breath, then left and drove straight home to bed with one another and a good loving cuddle.

relaxing

A day at home. T is at her dads for the weekend, and RC is at work for the day. A whole day on my own. Aside from packing a toy bag for later tonight and prepping myself for our evening out, I have nothing special on the calendar to complete.

It could be said that I have already celebrated today as being Saturday, by taking a luxurious 2-hour long nap. Then laid out in bed, I pondered greatly the items necessary to pack into my toy bag to give RC a new experience and to perhaps play with some hottie, should someone strike my or our fancy at Rascals later tonight.

I'm off to make us some dinner so we can eat as soon as the guy walks in the door from work. A quick shower and change for him and then straight to the party, since I am already done readying myself. We plan on making an early evening of it, coming home before midnight seeing as someone has to work again at 7 a.m.

I love my guy and my life.

sex activism Vancouver

City Hall is really really making things a challenge right now. And no, I am not talking about Surrey either. It's another City that is grating me the wrong way right now. It's a zoning issue, it's a parking issue, it's the egress, it's the electrical, it's the [insert issue] here type of continuous scenario. Anyways this was the entirety of my morning and left me in a not so happy mood.

Off to get my toes painted again at the mall. It really is an indulgence. They look super pretty which makes me happy. And after my morning, this was an excellent choice of a pick me up.

Then off to pick up T. from her Orthodontics appointment and her exciting day at a Leadership conference up near Metrotown. We hung out together for the next few hours tackling life's necessities. Once home, I packed for my evening class and jumped into the shower to to refresh myself for the night ahead. It was a day certainly running on a close clock.

Class was a blast. I was in my own neighborhood, teaching a basic sex education class to all these new-to-me women. They were in age from 26 - 35 I believe. Two were married, a couple were mothers, the rest were not. A wonderful giggly group of women. Everyone wanted to learn general sex info and also they shared a theme of wanting to get more knowledge on achieving orgasm faster and more intensely. We just blew through two and half hours of information so fast, that I ended up staying late as the women were just starting to warm up, as I was packing up.

This class, unlike so many others I teach, was truly a very basic and general sex education class. One that the contents of, belong in a Grade 10 mandatory sex class to all pupils, both boys and girls. Every adult woman, should know and be able to identify her own genitalia by naming each piece with her own fingertips. Sadly so many adult women do not even know the correct words to identify their vulva's with, let alone to pass on the proper language to their own children. It is a tad bit disheartening to me as a mother to hear another mother say, that at 3 her daughter is too old to be seeing her father naked because she might ask questions about his boy parts. I am fairly sure she was talking about "the penis" so I did not ask for clarification. I find it equally heart wrenching that for many women their sole orgasmic experience with their vulva is that which their own partner gives them, and that is if they are even that fortunate.

I've been empowered surrounding my sexuality for a long time now, and in control of my own pleasure. For this has been one of the greatest gifts of my adult hood. Blissful orgasmic ecstatic pleasure at my own hand. Not at the hand of a lover, no other person involved. My being able to make love to me. With a toy, or my own hand. I have it in me, to do this for myself. Not by fluke. Not by accident. But because I took responsibility for it, for my own bliss. There came a time when I couldn't rely on another, when I needed to know how. There came a time when it was important enough for me to really get to know myself.

I spread my legs before a mirror many moons ago now, years in fact, and started learning the correct words for my girl bits. With this knowledge I gained strength. I passed this strength on to T, she won't be one of those women spreading her legs for some partner in her adult hood and being reliant on them for her both a glimpse of what she may look like down there as well as her pleasure. No, she like me, will claim her own! This is a legacy that is so important for me to bestow upon her.

I wish all parents would give their children the gift of sexual knowledge, it's power. Teach your children what's between their legs, teach them the difference between the sexes and celebrate this information together. Living in shame of one's genitals, or even showing them at home or asking questions about them, that is just a breeding ground for ignorance, further shame, exploitation potential and a growth stunt in sexual development.

And society wonders why young people [hell, adults in general] make mistakes when left alone with own another, their own idle curiosities about sex and their bodies. Everyone wants to feel good and most people don't even know how to go about it. Or if they do know how to give themselves pleasure, they are so limited in what works for them by preference, or worse, what is morally acceptable to them that the options are sparse. The people I meet in classes are starved for information, so much so that they don't even realize that to answer their questions, you have to explain to them first the unique names of each of there genital complexes and other concepts that are foreign to them as well.

This is my job, sex-positive activism.

Naked Pirate Girls

There was a group of women here at the house for the last few hours. Tonight was the kinky clothing exchange, gossip and girl time evening that had been on the agenda for the past few weeks.

We ate and talked.

We giggled and tried on fetish gear.

Drinks were served by RC in my new monogrammed apron, it is also how he greeted all the women at the door.

Kat was trying on a pirate top so I put on her head my pirate hat that I brought back from Disneyland last October.


It was good to catch up with friends.

grabbing my pillow

I am exhausted.

Sleep is the obvious answer though not the long term solution. Life keeps getting in my way.

RC spent today down at Wreck beach. I spent today at home, working.

In five minutes it is my plan to announce...

"Good Night, I am off to bed."

In search of...

I need a driver and a vehicle. A big closed in cube truck.


You will need to be available on Saturday September 22 for about 90 minutes.


You will also need to be available on Sunday September 23 for about 90 minutes.


There is a generous bonus for the person who assists us with this project.


Please contact me immediately with your name and contact info.


jennifer@libidoevents.com