Woman Sex

She's a new member at the Lounge and so is her man.

I believe she is eight years younger than I. Her and her man are both super attractive and sharing really great bubbly personalities. From the moment we met at orientation, I knew we would get along well.

They came out to a party.

I took one look at her and just knew that I had to play with her. Without missing a beat I walked towards her loveliness and suggested we do so. She beamed. My insides got all warm and tingly at her delight. After she said yes, I told her she should tell her man of our plans. She listened.

Setting my toys down on the stand next to the rack, I watched her cross the floor towards me. "Take off your dress" I said firmly. She complied and even asked if she should remove her panties or not. I was flattered by the trust in that question.

After I told her what I would not do to her and round about what to expect, I taught her red, yellow and green. Turning her around so her tight ass was facing me I worked her over with floggers, straps and a fur mitt. I concentrated on making her want more of what I was offering.

It worked. As I flogged her ass, I let the tails creep in between her legs, to wrap nicely over her pussy. She writhed beautifully and moaned ever so appreciatively. This was doing much for my libido.

After I had her face I spent time on her breasts and chest. We played for some time before I grabbed the Hitatchi and pressed it onto her clit. That smile of hers grew fast. Her ass was glowing hot from the strikes and her pussy was throbbing - I knew it to be true, without doubt.

After a few minutes I crouched down on the floor and put the magic wand in my lap. Then I told her to straddle me and lower herself onto my lap. The vibrations rocked both of our bodies with a great intensity.

"Fuck me" I said. She followed my command and as soon as I had spoken those words, she started riding me with such passion that it was all I could do not to come unglued myself.

Between my teeth I caught one her nipples and I nibbled on it passionately - she whispered in my ear, "my nipples like it really hard. Bite them." And so I did, ruthlessly.

The panting escalated, her gyrations were strong and consistent and in no time, she orgasm'ed on top of me. Twice I think.

Later on in the evening I looked around to see where she was at. She was mounted on top of her partner and they were fucking like horny teenagers.

I love my life.

A couple of weeks back I was hired to lead a class (this morning) to a group of twenty sexuality educators from Options For Sexual Health. My ninety minute presentation was very well received and I was highly amused that twenty five percent of the class attendees, already knew me. I was called inspirational. The last couple of weeks have been filled with constant accolades for me, it's wonderful to get such positive praise from so many varied sources.

Tonight is Exploratorium at The Lounge --- it should be quite a lot of fun. Plus I do so love being able to catch up with my pals and volunteers at this event. The laid back pace is just right for the new explorers who attend. Jason will be home bound with the baby .... who by the way, is a super cruiser. This child motors along at a fast pace. He is happy, and he is speedy as a crawler.

Joy!

Book Sale

Thousands of books on sale each day. Come and browse through the tables of bargains and treasures!

* All items are cash and carry. Please bring your own bags.
* Materials are sold "as is". All sales are final.
* Prices for regular items range from 55 cents to $2.25 (see below).
* There is a bank machine on the promenade.

Please note, shoppers will not be admitted 30 minutes before closing.

Alma VanDusen & Peter Kaye Rooms, Lower Level, Central Library, 350 West Georgia Street
Thursday, July 8 - 10:00 am to 9:00 pm
Friday, July 9 - 10:00 am to 6:00 pm

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Riding a Bike

Allena gave me a new bike a few weeks ago, so I could drive around town with the baby in tow all summer long. Then earlier today Jason and I went and purchased a a baby stroller that clips onto the bike and pulls the baby along at ground level.

Until this afternoon I had not been on a bicycle in 27 years. The last time I rode a bike, it did not have gears. That is how inexperienced I am as a cyclist. My new bike has twenty one gears and to stop, one does not peddle backwards, rather one utilizes the thumb controls on the handle bars. Very, very freaky.

Jason already had a bike so he was set. We donned our helmets and he quickly gave me a riding tutorial on the street out front of our house, before we began our adventure.

I was lucky that Jason hooked the carrier onto his bike today because I had and continue to have a large learning curve attached to navigating myself on a bicycle. Pickle had such a great ride. First we went to Costco, then we headed out on the open road and over a bridge and up a hill.

My thighs burned. And my legs were wobbly. But I did it. It was fun and bicycling constitutes exercise as well.

The draw backs thus far to biking are that the seat really really hurt my girl bits. And the seat kept pushing my clitoral hood piercing way further out of place to even be considered comfortable. My pelvic floor feels bruised and is not at all pleased with the abuse it suffered.

As I see it, if my pussy is going to hurt from doing something I enjoy, then I best be getting some orgasms attached to it too. No orgasms, means either no further bike riding, or a new seat.

Since I enjoy the bike riding and it is far better than jogging, I now find myself in search of the perfect "seat".

Anyone know if they exist and where to buy an infant helmet?

Let me just start of by saying, that this story, is totally true and was sent to me by a good friend and Lounge member. To say my job is critical, is an understatement. Often people don't realize what they do not know, until they meet someone with more information than them.

Interesting story.

This just shows me the ignorance of our youth and why you (Jennifer) talk to Colleges.

My co-worker who I will call Lori is 21. Decides to go clubbing Wednesday and wants to use tampons for the first time but is a virgin. She comes to me for advise. I suggested a wee bit of Vaseline to assist (that’s what I did the first time and it worked). So she does this and reports back that it was perfect but, …. she didn’t know how to pee with it in.

I just looked at her for a moment. She's dead, serious and waiting for me to tell her. Every time she had to pee, she removed her tampon. She asked her friends how to pee with the tampon and no one knew.

I explained that she had 3 holes (urethra, vaginal and anus). She freaked out and said she did NOT have 3.

I politely explained it to her and then showed her actual diagrams and walked her through it all. Seriously, Anatomy 101.

21 yrs. old. None of her friends knew. I was floored. Again, this is why you do what you do.

Vancouver Trans Forum, 3 events

Saturday, July 3rd @ Rhizome Cafe (317 e broadway)
Doors: 7pm
Movie: 8pm
Discussion: 9pm

Vancouver's Trans Forum, in collaboration with Divergence Movie Nights, presents a screening of Screaming Queens: The Riot At Compton's Cafeteria. A film by Victor Silverman & Susan Stryker (2005), Screaming Queens "tells the little-known story of the first known act of collective, violent resistance to the social oppression of queer people in the United States -- a 1966 riot in San Francisco's impoverished Tenderloin neighbourhood, three years before the famous gay riot at New York's Stonewall Inn." Join us afterward for a discussion about the historical relationship between (cis)LGB and trans communities.

Sunday, July 4th @ Rhizome Cafe (317 e broadway)
Doors: 5pm
Movie: 6pm
Discussion: 7:00pm

Vancouver's Trans Forum, in collaboration with Divergence Movie Nights, presents a screening of Transparent. A film by Jules Rosskam (2005), Transparent
focuses on 19 female-to-male spectrum folks' "lives as parents, revealing the diverse ways in which each person reconciles giving birth and being a biological mother with his masculine identity, and through the variety of genders the children use to conceive of their parents." Join us afterward for a panel and discussion about issues affecting trans parents/families

Saturday, July 10th @ Rhizome Cafe (317 e broadway)
Doors: 7pm
Movie: 8pm
Discussion: 9pm

Vancouver's Trans Forum, in collaboration with Divergence Movie Nights, presents a screening of Still Black - A Portrait of Black Trans Men. A film by Kortney Ryan Ziegler (2008), Still Black explores the lives of six black transgender men living in the United States. Through the intimate stories of their lives as artists, students, husbands, fathers, lawyers, and teachers, the film offers viewers a complex and multi-faceted image of race, sexuality and trans identity. That night there will also be a screening of the short film Two Spirit People. A film by Michel Beauchemin, Lori Levy & Gretchen Vogel (1991), Two-Spirit People is an overview of historical and contemporary Native American concepts of gender, sexuality and sexual orientation. Join us afterward for a panel and discussion on issues affecting racialized trans people

$Pay-what-you-can
(all proceeds will go to the Vancouver Trans Forum + Divergence Movie Nights)

The Rhizome's entrance is wheelchair accessible, although the bathrooms are quite small.

Also please note that the Rhizome's kitchen will be open for food and drink during the event!

Stay tuned for more film fest announcements for the week of July 19th to 22nd

www.vancouvertransforum.com
vancouvertransforum@gmail.com
www.divergencemovienight.com

Expert Hand Job

Giving An Expert Hand Job

It's not what you think this about. I'm certain.

Stand at a utility sink with a paint roller in one hand as it rests on the floor of the sink.

Turn on the water and leave it running.

With one hand, firmly grasp the roller while holding it vertically.

With your free hand, wrap your palm around it and squeeze it from top to bottom in long, slow, smooth strokes.

Gently shake the whole package now and again to stimulate the removal of the extra paint.

After repeating the squeezing and pull gesture many times, with warm water running over the roller, a sudden burst will gush out the end.

Stroke fast now, until not one drop of paint is left inside.

You are not finished yet.

Hold up the roller and rinse it off, otherwise when you next use it, you will find yourself with a sticky mess to contend with.

Changes

These last few days have been rather challenging for me. I find myself facing both some family and professional issues that are demanding my attention and making me consider deeply some things I have formerly taken for granted.

Nothing like a slap in the face to rouse one out of the compliant place I've been living in.

The next few days will be spent reassessing my goals and what it is going to take to reach them, should I even still have the strength to work towards them.

What's a girl to do? Except move forward.

Friends Make The World A Better Place

The Lounge was painted today. Finally. And thankfully.

The foyer, the bathroom, bathroom cabinets, and two walls in the main room.

Tomorrow we paint a second coat on, paint the moldings and the kitchen cabinets too.

New equipment over the next two weeks will be added, the projector screen mounted, two partial walls installed and carpet laid.

I arrived today at noon and left at 9:45 at night.

Tomorrow, I'll arrive at 1:30 and hope to be out of there by 7'ish.

I'm exhausted and likely so are all the volunteers who took part. Half of them are returning tomorrow to assist.

We've been desperate to complete these projects and are all thrilled that in not long, most of our plans will be complete.

Daddy and child relationships

It's Father's Day.

Six and a half months ago, Jason became a father for the first time, making today ever so significant for him. That together we created a new life is so important to us as a couple -- it is a dream come true.

Happy Fathers Day my love, you are an incredible daddy and you deserve much happiness.

My own dad? Dead. Gone for years. And it's hard for me to say this, but I have no idea the last time I spoke to him before his death. It had been a number of years. Not the most influential person in my life, yet one of the two people responsible for my having life. So he was important, yet damaging as hell.

I can't say that I miss him my dad. But I can say that I see in Jason and other fathers attributes that I wish my own dad had possessed. No parent can be everything to their child, yet my dad, failed. He failed himself and in that, he failed my brother and myself.

I've called a partner or two Daddy over the years, and its always made the relationship richer and nurtured me in ways that I so longed for.

I call Jason Daddy now and then because I am referring to him as Pickles dad, but not because of a need in me.

It's not my belief that I've outgrown a Daddy girl relationship with my partner. It's just more that I'm so busy being a mommy that finding a way to let myself be that vulnerable again is such a daunting emotional challenge that I am not sure I would ever travel that road again.

It warms my heart to see the love that Jason has for his son and for the teenager. He is the epitome of a perfect Father and I am grateful that we share a life, family, home and love together.

Fantasies Come True at Libido Lounge

A few months back at an event, one of our women members (whom we'll dub as Tanya) shared a wild and out-of-the-ordinary fantasy of hers to a large group of people. Amongst those present, was her husband.

Fast forward to just a short while ago and one of our members who was at "the big disclosure" contacts me. It seems her fantasies fueled his desire to make a contribution to the cause. He has built a piece of equipment to meet the requirements of Tanya's fantasy and he wants to donate it to The Lounge.

Her fantasy is to be on a "lazy Susan" of sex. Something that can spin her round and round whilst she orally pleasures many, many men.

Well this item, this accoutrement now exists. It is tucked safely into the Lounge and is being debuted this Saturday night at the Couples Only Play Party, then again at Jack & Jill on the last Monday night of the month.

If you wish to play on it feel free. But not before Tanya gets the first go around.


Not only will this woman's fantasy come true, but so will many others peoples now be brought to fruition.

I'm excited to see the lazy Susan in use.

Queer Politics

BEWARE

This is part rant, and part questioning. You've been warned.

Input from other people is often what it takes for me to understand concepts foreign to me.

I subscribe to a number of different message boards and forums for sex and alternative lifestyles to assist me in my growth of understanding. New ideas are constantly tossed around and for the most part, I can wrap my mind around them with relative ease.

But lately, there is something that I seem unable to comprehend, despite investing much time and patience to learn more about it.

It's about majorities and minorities in life, and more specifically in sex culture.

I see this often and it baffles me to no end. And yes, I do understand the whole privilege thing.

What's happening is one of the minority groups in our community, the *queer population is demanding their own events. Exclusive space and parties just for them. And it's been proposed that they can exclude anyone they don't know, or who does not fit into their definition of what queer is.

Now the majority is upset. This would include the (perceived) heterosexuals, cissexuals, bi sexuals, outlaws, intersexed, androgynous, trans and all those who prefer to not be labeled. And, those who fear not being accepted by this exclusive feeling queer group.

How is it that a group (that is a minority one none-the-less) feels ok with the notion that they can not only exclude others but also call that non discriminatory?

When specifically if the heterosexuals decided to hold a party only for those who have sex with the opposite sex, that the minority would not be "up in arms" about the disparity in this.

Pansexual (open to anyone regardless of gender, orientation or play style) parties are meant for all.

How can one group be so damning and put so many people in a box surrounding identity and sexuality as to exclude them based on how they present themselves or how they label themselves?

We need to find ways to foster inclusion for all. Yet if the queer community wants to segregate themselves from everyone else and declare themselves so radically different that they require playing and socializing away from all who are different, how can this be achieved?


How can this group of queers, cross pollinate to gain understanding, new friends, allies and support if they don't get their kink on with the rest of us?

The queers are saying that they don't want to be watched or judged by anyone who does not share their label whilst playing. For the most part, the majority are not judging ... I've been watching them for years. In fact, I see more judgment on play styles and identity from the queers to everyone else.

There seems to be this notion that queers perceive themselves as so radically different that they must be given their own space.

Each grouping of people is unique and truly faces its own challenges. And for as long as we continue to find reason to not see our similarities as sexual outlaws, we will forever face judgment from both the outside vanilla world and from our fellow kinksters.

We should be working towards a common goal of acceptance, tolerance and respect. As it stands right now, all I am witnessing is a lot of slurs, some bashing, untruths, fear and negative outlooks. Not very promising at all.


Why can't the queers party and socialize with everyone else? Why is it ok for the queers to act bigoted towards anyone not the same as them and not be called on it by others? Because they are the minority, they get a "get out of jail card" for their behaviors, however misinformed. Not.


Further what gets my goat, (no I don't own a goat) is that it is most often than not this very group of people that wants their own events, that also expresses their inability to pay for it. Like really, who pray tell is going to foot the bill? Are people really so clueless as to what it costs financially to host a party, let alone to lease a space where such things could take place? To pay for all the items necessary to have a party run safely, well equipped, with heat, lights, drinks, food, equipment, music .... the list goes on and on.

Groups that are successful from my standpoint are ones where they stand on their own two feet. They do not demand that others around them do things to keep there ideas afloat, they don't whine about something not existing, they set about creating it.

Then someone comes along and offers the physical space for this group of people to create a group and its moaned aloud, that it has to be basically free or low, very low cost. And that even if the event were created, then likely it would not even be enjoyed because of to many unknown dynamics. Talk about being pissy. Wanting something, whining aloud about it, yet doing nothing to support its emergence even when given the space and encouragement to do so. This is so contrary to being proactive that it is simply baffling.

It feels selfish, and at it's very heart, also discriminatory.

What do you think?

*the queer population I refer to is not "all queers", rather a group of louder spoken ones whom are in my sphere.

A Caning

This past Saturday was a class and a party at the Lounge. A work night for me. (kind of)

The class was on Fire Play and it was very well received -- there was a great group of people gathered and Larry the instructor did a kick ass job. Not only did he teach the subject matter in an easy to comprehend way, but he also demoed exceptionally well, thus giving a number of volunteers a taste of what it is like to be lit on fire for erotic purposes.

Dungeon Players, our BDSM party followed the class, and the turn out was fantastic. There were plenty of really cool scenes taking place everywhere one looked. And most everyone present played, this makes me very happy. Virtually every piece of equipment was in use and the social area was brimming with great conversations and happy people.

And ..... get ready for it. I bottomed. To a big, mean, man, with sticks. I did. We had prearranged a play date together.

I took off all my clothes, aside from my sexy pumps and laid my body out on my front side and surrendered. It was an experience I had been longing for, for awhile. He hit me with all different sized canes. Stingy. Sharp. Hard ones. Thuddy ones. Processing of the energy and sensations took my body less time to adjust to, than it took my mind. I mean really, it has been awhile. The mean man worked me over well and as he wound down the scene, he massaged me. Very, very cool indeed.

When everything was over, and I sat up, he and I talked. Seeing as though the experience was good for both of us on many levels, we decided to play together again. One-day-soon. The plan? For him to beat me up and take me down. Large heavy floggers. Rough housing. Heavy handed.

I'm excited just writing about it.

Now all he and I have to do, is to align our calendars again.

What's most cool about all of this, is that Jason was there as it happened. Cheering me on and wishing me a good time.

I love my life.

Want to volunteer?

On Wednesday June 23rd a group of volunteers are gathering at The Lounge to work on some projects.

If you are a member and have excellent carpentry, painting or fix it skills and are available on the date in question, we would sure appreciate your assistance. Bonus points if you have and can bring your own ladder, painting supplies or tools.

Would you drop me an email if you are available so I can fill you in on more details.

This is a working event, we will be socializing, but this will be happening as we WORK. We want to complete a specific list of tasks so we can move on to other things.

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Also, I am looking for three (3) very large chandeliers. Any ideas on where to find these used and inexpensive? Or do you have one in your garage you are no longer using that we can come pick up? The three don't need to match, but of course, each must be in good working order.



Thanks!

Mens Sex Classes Vancouver

I have been working really hard lately to complete a four part new series of classes for men only.

This is the finished version of the first and second classes. #1 is already on our calendar to be taught on Tuesday June 29th to men-only and class #2 is the second class being taught on Thursday June 24th.

1. Toys For Boys

Many men assume that sex toys are only to be used on women -- happily this is no longer the case. These days there are a wide variety of products available to tease, please and make male pleasure so much more fun to achieve for the novice to the more experienced lover.

For a great number of men using a toy as an enhancement is not a thought they have previously entertained. Though by the end of this informative class, you will have discovered a few new products that you must acquire.

We will cover solo toys, toys to use with a partner and toys that are enhancers. Come learn about what creams, potions, powders, lubricants, rings, masturbators, plugs, hand held devices and other accouterments can do for your sex life.

You'll be blown away with heightened orgasms and sheer delight at the end result from using many of these products.

2. How Not To Be The Creepy Guy - For Men Only

At every party I attend or host there is inevitably a very nice man who comes off to at least a few different women, as the lonely creepy guy to stay away from.

There are certainly ways to draw women in and there are even more ways to send them running.

In this class we will cover the top things that men do however subconsciously that turn women off and ensure you do not get the attention you are seeking.

Mens awkward advances can be the very reason that you never get any further with the ladies.

This class will support you in social scenarios but more importantly it will give you positive feedback on how to handle yourself in sex play space.

Spare Any Change

For five years and two months now I have been religiously writing here on my blog regarding my personal life and my professional pursuits.

I have shared myself to give others another perspective on sex positivity, sex work and the joys and tribulations of being a lone woman working in these genres.

It is my hope that you have laughed, cried, learned new ideas, questioned some of your own view points and values, been inspired to try new things and been a better more enlightened person due to reading along here.

You've seen photos of my real self and shared in my journey as an educator, activist, partner, kinkster and mother.

So after these five years, I have gone ahead and put a Donate Button, done through Pay Pal on the upper right hand side of this blog.

I spend my valuable time writing and if you spend any length of time reading here and would like to offer me a token of generosity for my efforts, there is now a way for you to do this.

And now back to regularly scheduled programming.....

workload

I have been exceptionally busy this past week or so. And as such I want to apologize for my lack of entries here. Soon enough I'll find the time to sit down and really put some thought into posting again -- in the mean time, I am jotting down notes on things I want to remember to write about.

There are a number of big projects that are requiring me to invest in them at this moment, so excuse me while I go take care of business.

Sex Events in Vancouver

We host an extraordinary number of different events each and every month at The Lounge. Some of these are more popular than others, and a number of them we have perfected so that they are always well attended.

Examples of a few of our events that are hot, popular and recurring ...

Exploratorium is a our sampler event, where, by dropping in attendees have the opportunity to sign up for an try a vast number of selections from the erotic arts. This event is enjoyed so much for everyone that a percentage of members show up every couple of months to partake since the booths offered change each and every month.

Deviant Dining is our potluck dinner event, and a drop in evening at that. Attendees just bring along a precooked entree item to add to the food table and the 24-30 people that show up all sit around lively dinner tables and eat while getting to know one another better. Each month we offer a different erotic dinner experience for entertainment to change things up a little bit.

Jack & Jill is our monthly masturbation offering and it happens on a Monday evening for two and a half hours. By far it is our most unique event and the average attendance is 25+. Women & men as singles and plenty of couples all gather for a 45 minute conversation on a different sex topic every month, then the lights go down and people start putting on live shows, jacking & jilling, riding sex machines and assisting one another to achieve orgasmic relief.

Couples Only Sex Party is our every other month offering to our members. Well attended at around 30-40 people gathered to meet others to have sex with, swap with, watch, have sex alongside and schmooze.

Dungeon Players is our BDSM themed party that we offer every other month. 24 - 45 people is the norm for this event. It is a niche offering and as of June we are now pairing this event with an educational offering each month that it is offered. This month we have scheduled a fire play class open to all to experience.

SULTRY is our couples only bath house party, at an off site rental facility. Sex, steam and sauna. An evening of wet debauchery celebrated 8 months out of 12 with anywhere from 36-50 people attending - plus an in house masseuse.

Sensual Massage Night is where 20-45 people arrive to have the opportunity to receive a massage from 2-4 people and to give massages as well. We put everyone into small groups where you will remain for the event. It is an erotic treat to have so many hands working you over all at once. People are respectful and kind, and you get the type of massage you ask for. Heated oils, massage tables, serenity sounds of music and fresh fruit. It is a night to remember.

You should really become a Libido Lounge Member, so you too can take part in all that we offer.

Measured Growth

So yeah, he is cutting his first tooth and barely batting an eye over it. And he is almost, crawling. This week in his little world is huge for him at 6 months and 11 days old.