Army & Navy Show Sale 2011

No April Fools day joke here. I don't laugh about issues this serious.

Mark your calendars now, book time off of work and start saving your money.

Arrive early, really early. Bring your own bags to pack your purchases in. Wear flat shoes and comfy clothing.


It's the Army and Navy Annual Shoe Sale.
The prices are ridiculously cheap for designer names on all women 's footwear.


It starts Wednesday April 27th.


If you want to come shopping with me, drop me an email, it would be fun to go with a posse of women.

jennifer@libidoevents.com

As my Jason knows, I suck dick for shoes. So the next three weeks leading up to the sale are going to be filled with lots of blow jobs.


I'll be there, with lots of money in hand (thanks Jason) and a serious desire to buy shoes.

And for the record, if you want new shoes, you can't blow Jason for the dough. Instead, you are responsible for blowing your own man as my guy will be kinda chafed, and broke.

Virgin Vancouver

SATURDAY APRIL 2, 8:00 - 12 AM
VIRGIN PLAY PARTY
Cost $30 / guests $35 (non members must pre pay)
Reservations: jennifer@libidoevents.com
Open to men, women, couples and singles

Please note that you must also have your $25 cash renewal cost on you if your member number is PRE 825. And your renewal is good for 12 months.

Virgin: adjective without experience of; not previously exposed to:

You may be shy and uncertain.
You may feel hesitant and apprehensive.
You might have never been to a play party before
You may have never even been to the Lounge before.
Perhaps your first time didn't do it for you and you want a “do over”.
You are not sure what to do once you arrive.
You don’t know what on earth to wear.
You want an environment that doesn’t feel rushed or seem to have a theme or ulterior motive.

This may be your first time stepping out to an event or perhaps you've been to a few events in the past, yet still feel new. Come to Virgin, Libido Lounge’s newest event for the newest among us. A place to dip a toe into the waters of sex culture, to have thoughtful conversations and learn about the infinite possibilities of sensuality and kink in your life.

We have invited some of our more experienced members to attend and mingle. They will be dressed as they would for any play party. Talk to them about what to wear, or where they purchased what they have on. They are great people to talk to about different events you may be interested in, or if you dare, tell them what about fantasy. Ask the experienced members your burning questions and follow their lead.

You can wear anything that makes you feel sexy, it can be outrageous or your simplest lingerie. No blue jeans, no business attire please. We want you to feel like you’re out for an evening, not as though you’ve just come from work.

There will be plenty of spaces set up for cozy conversations, intimate areas for making out if you feel bold and a tucked out of the way place for full on whatever you wish. Go for it, dare to frolic and make your wildest dreams come true.

You will find snacks and appetizers on the dining room table. There will be on site (at an additional cost) massage for those who need some help unwinding or just wish to be touched so purposefully.

We ask everyone to arrive before 9:30 PM so that you have plenty of time to mingle and talk with everyone, before the more adventurous take off to play.

Non members must pre pay for their tickets

Community Activism

For a number of years now Libido Events and Libido Lounge has been a paid and proud participant in the Vancouver Pride Parade each August. In fact, I even landed topless in the paper marching in 2008

Volunteer Now with Pride!

It’s not too early to register and become a volunteer for Pride this summer.

Are you looking to meet new people?
Would you like to have a great time and be a part of the biggest LGBTTQ event in Vancouver?

Pride's Volunteer program offers opportunities for everyone. We’ll give you a t-shirt, food and drinks, and even throw an appreciation party just for you!

Sign up online.

~~ The Vancouver Pride Society Team

Pornography vs Art

Uncle_M produces a lot of fetishy images that land young damsels who are dressed pin-up style in rope bondage that then get's photographed.

Uncle_M does not like it when I say he is a pornographer. He says he is a pleasure artist, not a pornographer.

Uncle_M believes that since his models are clothed, that his work is then not pornographic.

Uncle _M was on BC Ferries yesterday and he sent me this message

"I'm on the ferry coming back from Victoria and hooked into the wifi on the boat. Did you know that libidoevents.com is blocked as being a porn site while pinup bondage is not? Even the government classifies my stuff as art."

I can just imagine his extreme glee at discovering his website as being viewed as artistic, rather than pornographic. He's never going to let me forget this either.

Women Of Color Wanted

Women of Colour Wanted for Goddess Photography Project

Your beauty does not belong to you. It is a gift that should be shared and shared generously to enrich your fellow human beings, in whatever forms your splendor manifests itself. - Ricardo Scipio, 2010

I am a world-class photographer working on my third book of tasteful fine art nudes.

Goddesses are wanted for this project. Can be any age, race and body type.

Must be willing to be tastefully photographed nude.

Please reply with a recent photograph of your face.

Examples of the work and newspaper reviews will be provided.

Serious inquiries only, please.

Ricardo Scipio ~ photographer
Nycfilmcanada@aol.com
www.Goddessbook.blogspot.com

Tackled by Women

An American woman (who is also a Lounge member) came to Taboo and took a couple of my classes this past weekend. She wrote about being in class and posted her experiences on her own blog.

Check out what the Lesbo has to say about my Masterful Cock Sucking and Wild Sex classes ....

That same Lesbo and another sexy Lounge member M, saw me lay on the stage after class complaining about cramps and exhaustion. The two jumped me, climbed on my person and furiously started to massage my body in an attempt to make me feel better. Though my body still felt like shit, my mood greatly improved after their womanly ministrations - who wouldn't feel awesome being roughed up by hot chicka's?

On Stage Photos - Taboo Day 2

O'Behave in Surrey, a great little adult store, Sponsored my eight classes at Taboo. Here are a couple of photos', the one above is my readying for class and the one below is me right in the thick of a class. There was a ton of video footage shot as well, hours worth actually. I may just publish a wee clip of myself in action, should I get up the nerve.

Taboo Abbotsford Day 1

Shortly Jason will be driving out to Abbotsford where you'll find me teaching three classes this evening at the Taboo Sex Show. If you plan on being in any class of mine, show up early, as my workshop room always ends up as standing room only.

Can't wait to see many of you at the show and remember, small gifts of chocolate are always appreciated. : )

Request for Participants

My good friend Tim sent me this request and so I pass it on to you.

"Interviews on BDSM as a Therapeutic Method."

As a student at Goddard College I am gathering stories from individuals who have experienced sexual trauma and have, either successfully or unsuccessfully, intentionally used BDSM to cope with, treat, or otherwise re-direct their emotions around the issue. BDSM is a compound acronym referring to Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism among other variants in sexual exploration. For the purposes of this survey it is the term used to account for all "alternative" sexual practices related to the mentioned activities.

This interview is being administered under the assumption that you, as the interviewee, have at some point willingly experimented with spanking, being tied up, tying someone up, role playing, and other related activities that may not be detailed in this interview. If discussing these aspects of your experience is not acceptable please feel free to end the interview now. If not, we will begin with some questions to establish a common understanding and build to more personal questions.

With those willing, I would like to do interviews in person or over the phone as available. I will be making personal trips to the San Francisco, Seattle, New York and other areas to hold interviews if enough participants are interested. Phone interviews will be conducted for those unable or uninterested in attending.

The final purpose of this project is to assemble a collected work of stories and experiences that expresses some of the decisions and feelings involved in the various paths people have taken through this. The presentation will be similar to The Vagina Monologues, Pouring Tea, and other collected oral and written histories.

-Tim Murray tim.murray@goddard.edu


LINK TO TIM'S STUDY

SULTRY Bath House Party - Review

Clean event (March 19, 2011)

Last evening we were at our first event ever with Libido lounge or anywhere else. It was the Sultry bathhouse and it was a lot, a lot of fun. Jennifer is this little package of positive energy, she is present everywhere trying to involve everyone, talking to everyone and she makes everybody feel welcome and part of the fun.

Me and my husband we are in a loving passionate relation. We do love each other and sex is a big part of our relation. We are just a little bit kinky, more boring normal then kinky. We love being naked, we love Wreck beach and we are part of a nudist colony in the States. That was one part of the fun last night; the bathhouse is clean and it was awesome just to shed the clothes and take showers and enjoy the steam, totally, completely naked surrounded by totally, completely naked people.

One of my concerns for last night was that we are 47 and 53 and our bodies are more pumpkin like then god and goddess like; we are fat and old – but fun to be with. I didn’t want to find myself surrounded by young, gorgeous people that will make me feel embarrassed of myself. It was a great mix of people, young ones and not so young ones, good looking and less good looking but everybody treated everyone else with most respect and yes, of course, naughtiness. I looked around me and everyone was involved in some kind of fun: just watching the porn and talking, taking the steam in and this was just the beginning, as the night advanced more naughty games developed and some of the people were engaged in hot fucks while other watching. I was to excited to be able to sit in one place, I wanted to experience everything and thus, the only thing that I comitted to is a blow job to my hubby while listening to the noises of hot sex coming from around us.

So, my three big desires were accomplished: being naked, watch other people having sex and, my fantasy, last but not least, experience a woman’s body. I had this fantasy for a while and I never tried to act on it. My husband is an awesome lover, he loves giving oral and I get the most fantastic orgasms from this. And because I am not selfish I would like to share this pleasure with another woman, I would like to watch B pleasuring her, make her moan and feel the immense pleasure that I do while I kiss her and caress her. It was just a fantasy until last night when I experienced the first taste of it: me being touched by a woman and me touching another woman. Wow! I told B at the end, you, men, are very lucky. A woman’s body is soft and feels like velvet to touch. A woman lips are sweeter than honey. I got to kiss and touch another woman and it was heavenly – I cannot wait to do it again. Hope soon!

The night started with some games that Jennifer made us play: everyone in a circle and soap soap soap. Turn around and soap soap again. That had everyone started. But my most favourite (beside kissing other women – and I kissed at least three, yeah!) was the table game: one woman gets blindfolded on the table and whoever wants to join the fun can do it. I was unsure if I want it or not, like I said I am a virgin of these kind of activities, but Jennifer made me do it and wow, did I was glad I did. Hands everywhere, my legs, my tummy, my breasts – kisses, mmm, sweet kisses. And who was that couple that purred in my ear? that was really good and erotic and arousing, it’s something that I will totally include in my sexual repertoire.

It was an awesome experience; totally recommended for the adventurous ones and for the not so adventurous ones. The bathhouse is great, small but clean and it does smell good ( I am very peculiar about smells). It is the best way to have the first experience as part of a group of people involved more or less in touching and sexual activities, because it is clean! Jennifer is awesome, she is a bundle of positive energy and encouragement – she does what she loves and she loves what she does and you can tell. I met people that I would definitely love to meet again. Yes, it was a dream night, an wonderful adventure.

I got me eye on you

Dear Amy,

Our relationship thus far has been largely undefined and this has served us well. I'm really interested in watching how we develop and unfold naturally. You are proving more and more important to me.

I don't do things traditionally and I am slow to warm up, but once I get going, I'm on fire.

Thank you for the gift of you.

MC

Moving Forward

Developing altruism is one of the most powerful methods for countering negative tendencies and destructive impulses.

- Dalai Lama

Follow along now ...

This a short story about a man. Let's call him Ralph.

Ralph recently constructed an email and sent it off to me asking to become a member of the Lounge.

I sent Ralph back the exact same informational email that I send to the thousands of other people who write me each year. Contained within that email is information on booking an orientation, links to read first and a mailing list to sign up for.

Ralph then wrote me back, FOUR TIMES.

His first email to me did not contain the necessary and asked for information. His subsequent emails hitting my in-box, one after another, each one almost identical, but-not-quite.

Then this morning I wrote him back exasperated, stating that four consecutive emails is too many for a one woman operation to be answering and that I would appreciate not being inundated with future unnecessary mail. One email should be able to handle our exchange. Well, one email should be able to handle our exchange if he had read what I sent him in the first place.

Then he had the audacity to write me back and tell me if I had given him the information he wanted to begin with, that he wouldn't be bothering me with so many emails. Not true. Had he have read the email I sent him and the links provided, he would have sent me one email with the correct information.

There is a system in place for how we handle new member requests, for handling orientation and for dealing with people who prove challenging.

Step by step. Follow along. If you can't follow me through an email exchange to get you to orientation, then we are not likely to get along. I won't have members at the Lounge that I don't get along with or that don't respect me.


UPDATE:

Ralph wrote me back again this afternoon, stating that he had seen a photo of me and that I am unattractive. Due to this, he won't be joining and becoming a member.

I feel so much better now, knowing why Ralph, a man I have never met, will never bother me again.

Mastectomy

It was supposed to be a lumpectomy and it turned into a mastectomy.

Allena's surgery was yesterday and she was doing well last night at bedtime when I last spoke to her, the drugs had her in no pain and she was coherent too.

The joy in her voice, over getting new breasts due to all of this, was contagious. Get through treatment next and then new perky tits for Bella.

Every cloud has a silver lining right?

Single Male at a Party

A single man became a member this past Saturday at orientation, then stayed on for Cupids Catch our evening play party. I watch the single men differently than others and often ask them for feedback on events as their singular experience is regularly insightful on some level I had not even considered and I find I learn much from them.

K, the guy, is a wonderful conversationalist, and I found myself enjoying speaking to him. In all honesty. I am eager to see some of his art too. Anyways, at nights end, I had asked him to write me an overview of his first experience at a party and at the Lounge. This is what he sent me ....

When I arrived at the Lounge for member orientation, I wasn't quite sure what to expect. I'd heard a lot about it from another member, but being new to the scene it wasn't much comfort. As I walked up to the door, I was nervous - until Jennifer popped her head up from her car, which she had been loading.

"You must be K," she said. "Come on in."

What followed was a night of fun and sexy action. I licked whipped cream off of a beautiful woman, got tied up and suspended for the first time in my life, made a lot of friends and had a wonderful evening. Everyone was decked out in hot gear, from one woman who wore only feather pasties, to Jen's partner J, who wore a mesh shirt and a utilikilt. Everyone looked stunning. Although I didn't play much myself, it was hot just to see all the scenes unfolding around me as the night went on. I lost track of the people I'd met as some went into the sex area with their partners and others, spent with happy grins on their faces, dressed and went out the door into the night. As the night wound to a close, I said goodbye to all the awesome people I'd met and resolved to mark the next Lounge event on my calendar.

The Lounge is a great place, filled with great people. The atmosphere is warm and welcoming, and if you have body image issues - like I do - don't worry, because nobody will denigrate you here. As a newbie to BDSM, it took me most of the evening to figure out the dynamics at play, which is why I didn't play much myself; in the end, though, it's not really the play that mattered, but all the new friends I'd made. I suspect that even though I didn't have sex or do any tying or flogging, there's plenty of all of them in my future.

Thank you, Jennifer, for introducing me to an awesome place and an awesome group of people.

Can this really be happening?

This post is likely going to bounce all over the map, as my head is full of half thoughts twirling round and round.

Saturday was the Lounges Valentines Day party --- and by all accounts the night was epic. Out of town guests, a day of bondage classes and great people made the party as awesome as it was. But the day was long, we arrived to the Lounge at 9 in the morning and left at 1:30 the next morning.

There are more than just clients and attendees that attend our events, many of those present are our friends. And this is exactly why days like today can happen, because its easier to hustle for those you care for.

What was so over the top for us was having to pick up Pickle from the babysitters at 2 in the morning, by the time we drove home and got to bed ourselves it was three o'clock.

Sunday we were up early, as we had a day trip to Tulalip, Washington. Our destination, reserve land, and the home of a wise man. Allena had chosen her tribe and called upon us to join her in a special Sweat to offer healing before her surgery. It was memorable and in all honesty, I learned many things that I am not quite yet ready to articulate. Maybe one day, I'll write about what it looked like to be present for such an event, but not now.

I would do anything for Allena, go anywhere for her, topple over anyone in her way, move mountains and cross borders to get to her, reach out and drag her towards me if she needed me, and even give her parts of myself --- we are fam-ily. We drove home along the I5 talking about living and our families plans for life. At 11 last night we pulled into our driveway, absolutely positively spent.

By the time we visited with the teenager who was baking cookies, and the car had been unloaded, all we could do was to crawl into bed. Jason pulled me in tight, his breath almost becoming my own as I inhaled his scent and basked in the glow of his loving support. We are both done in.

Today I recover from the weekend and gather my emotions to support Allena Tuesday as that's her surgery day. Oddly enough the last couple of days, everywhere I look there are signs of what we are journeying through. The breast cancer emblem is everywhere, commercials filled with optimism and joy are on television and I have to say, that there are countless stories of hope. And in that I find strength.

More On The Matter

If you've not already read my posts as of late regarding special treatment for single men, then this next bit, might seem out of context.

Regarding this post and then the subsequent post that I have now made about Special Snowflakes a woman wrote me with this thought on the matter, here is her email in it's entirety.

Jennifer,

If you want a different perspective on this subject. I causes me concern that some do not appear to understand boundaries or the word no. If they don't understand this prior to being a member, then receiving preferred treatment and being a member still not understand "no" would cause me great concern.

The orientation is there for the benefit of the member taking it and for the safety of others. Everyone has heard the same thing and are all aware of the boundaries and expectations. Someone who doesn't understand boundaries for safety in a sexual environment is scary and would cause me great concern.

You are doing the right thing and I feel safer knowing that you don't allow people to bypass the system.

Lisa

Cancer Sucks

It wasn't my news to tell, yet I have known for a short while now. Last time we were in Seattle a couple of weeks back, the day we arrived, my partner Allena was scheduled for a breast biopsy. Jason cooked us all dinner the night she returned from her first procedure and we sat around at her place with Pickle, loving one another as family does during such stressful times.

When Bella called a few days later I knew as soon as I saw her voice messages on all my phones.

Allena, the love of my life, has cancer.

This Sunday we will be in a Sweat on a native reserve just outside of Seattle, as a friend of ours is hosting this magnificent ceremony to honor her.

Allena may be the one that is sick right now, but we are all going to fight the cancer together.

I am sad that a woman so beautiful, strong and vivacious has been hit with this bitterly ugly disease and that in turn it is changing how our world looks so fast.

Damn it.

Good Morning and a Happy Day

Adult Sex Classes Victoria BC

This is an incredible opportunity for a small group of women to gather for an information packed day of learning in a supportive environment. If my last (sold-out) events in Victoria are any indication of interest in sex education with me, I'd have to say, you should really get your tickets sooner rather than later if this sweet deal piques your interest.

Women's Erotic Skill Development - Victoria, BC
Sunday February 27 2011
11:00 AM - 5:00 PM
presented by Jennifer of Libido Events & Libido Lounge

6 hours of learning
10 women maximum
$125 for the day
coffee, snacks and water provided
bring your own lunch

.5 hour = Developing a Language for Pleasure
.5 hour = Communicating Desires
1 hour = Orgasms for women
1 hour = Butt Sex & Anal Pleasures
1 hour = Sensation Building & Seeking
1 hour = Being Dominant In The Bedroom
1 hour = Kinky Sex 101

Tickets are pre-purchase only, non transferable and non refundable.

Private upscale venue with full amenities in downtown Victoria.

First Come, First Served.

To arrange payment, or to ask questions, write: jennifer@libidoevents.com