rest for moi

A short while ago, RC left for work. A graveyard shift, which sadly leaves me sleeping on my own. I like the idea of having the whole bed, just not so fond of the alone part.

We had a Member Orientation class from 1-3 and that went smooth. It's so rewarding to introduce everyone to their new space.

Then we had some shopping to take care of. We made a trip to FETWEAR as they are going out of business and the buys are quite good so we wanted to take advantage of this. RC had been in the other day and made himself a few new acquisitions, and wanted to bring me in to see what clothing or shoes might meet my fancy.

Imagine my delight, when I left with a new Cop Costume which fits wickedly and a new red and black shiny vest.


Then we made a return to Ikea to pick up another six identical matching mattress covers. Steal of a deal really and oh so necessary in our business.

There are many opportunities for how I could choose to spend my evening. However, I AM STILL UNDER-THE-WEATHER, and have no plans other than home and sleep.

lozenge anyone?

It hurts to swallow my own saliva, giving head is sadly not happening today. My throat is still store, yet I am not full-blown ill, just under-the-weather.

A couple of days ago I asked a bunch of local kinky folk on a message forum to give me some help. Here is what I wrote to them

I need to rename two of my classes due to a very strict bylaw driven rule surrounding adult materials. And the city in question can not use these two titles in there cities papers or even in their own store windows for advertising purposes.

Cock Sucking: the Hand Job, Blow Job class
Pussy Licking Good

What are some suggested new names given the criteria below?

The titles may NOT list any body part by name directly.

Be very subtle.

And together, we came up with these two new class titles for when I have a more conservative audience.

ORAL: on him
ORAL: on her

I'm really happy with these two new titles and am most grateful for there help with this. Because, being subtle is so not my forte.

baby boom

For the better of my day, I was in bed, alone, either working or napping. Wading through the flood of emails before me, and of course trying to get some necessary sleep for my sick body.

My daughter wrote one of her two mid terms today, she is so smart! I was most proud when she phoned after her exam, with a gleeful tone in her voice, she was feeling confident that she had done well and wanted to share. She promptly came home from school and spent the rest of the day recuperating with me.

RC worked hard all day helping people stay alive, then came back to our nest at the end of the day, feeling on-top-of-the-world from his days triumphs. Tonight was spent watching Gladiator, eating popcorn and taking care of one another.

I've come to the realization that my longing for another child is not going away any time soon. Well, not until RC and I have that baby that just last week he promised me, again. Somehow I get the feeling that having another child is going to further keep me awake.

Zzzzz

Its hitting me now. I am feeling the dreaded long over due fatigue that hits anyone who works on overload for extended periods of time.

My nose is stuffy and my throat feels as though there is a golf ball in it. My eyes are even a little teary. Yuck. I dislike this feeling, and can only hope that it does not progress into anything more.

Member Orientations are going really well. Tonights group was fairly large and all eager to see and hear about our plans all the while checking us out, thus far. Three Life Time Members, and seven Annual Members. New faces as well as old friends. Testament to my activism for sure.

It warms my soul to see the library coming together so quickly for everyone. The donations to it, are pouring in and more keep coming. Yeah!

Jim phoned me today and early next week he is coming up to space to hang art on our walls. His art! Very cool. And I have a volunteer who is coming in to hang the rest of the pieces that have arrived to us from other artists.

Woah, am I ever weary. Friday is a slow day for me, I have plans of working from bed only.

It is time for me to recover and catch some of the rest, that I have been forgoing lately in lieu of business.

LIBIDO LOUNGE IS IN NEED OF A FULL SIZE WORKING FRIDGE ASAP
EMAIL ME IF YOU HAVE ONE OR KNOW OF ONE AT LOW COST
WILL PICK UP FROM THE TRI -CITY AREA
jennifer@libidoevents.com

Random happenings

T was home. From behind a partially closed bathroom door, I hear a low groan noise. Something like...."Aaawwhhh".

I say loudly "what is it?"

My daughter says in an exasperated voice, "THIS is proof that I do not live in a NORMAL household".

And as I look down the hall I could see her head sticking round the corner of the bathroom door as she held up a Tupperware container filled with about eighteen distinctly different *penises, it was all that I could do but laugh and agree.

*the remnants of my Friday night Private Class at a home party out in the Valley - I'm a little behind on cleaning all my dicks :)

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Film Screening: She’s a Boy I Knew, and Q&A Discussion with Director Gwen Haworth

Part of UBC’s Outweek 2008 offering. For more info click here.

Wednesday February 13th 2008

Time: 6pm (Reception) 7pm (Film Screening)
Location: TBA
Cost: Admission by donation

Outweek is pleased to present Gwen Haworth’s award winning documentary She’s a Boy I Knew. There will be a reception before the screening and refreshments will be served. Director Gwen Haworth will be attending the screening and hosting a Q&A discussion after!

Co-sponsored by the UBC Equity Office, Positive Space Campaign and UBC Department of Theatre and Film.

Click here for more information about the film.

drifting away

The industrial park I had pulled into was set along the water of the North Shore. The area is newly developed and great care was taken in how the landscape is laid out. It is, quite nice compared to others. Still I was startled slightly to find my destination on ground level of a three-story building. It looked rather nondescript.

Parking and quickly making a bee-line for the door, as it was freezing. Inside I was greeted warmly and made comfortable quickly. My coat was taken. I was seated. People kept touching me, gently, as they introduced themselves to me. Someone brought me the House Tea. Papers were filled out.

I am taken to another room. They hand-me-over to women, who explain my day to me. Oh-My-Goddesses this is a unique scenario for me. One of them takes me on the Grand Tour. Every square inch of the facility is gorgeous and complete, nothing is left undone in this place of beauty. Where I thought it small in appearance and plain from the outside, the inside gave way to much more than could ever be imagined from just driving by.

When I finally floated out the front door, I was hard pressed to say farewell to the serenity I'd found.

Thank you RC for sending me off on a day of extravagance. From head-to-toe I feel loved and pampered. Friday was a great kick - start to a weekend full of delights.

twitter-patter

Thankfully the dreaded previous month is over and February is underway, and a leap year too. Last year was taxing. Now finally onto a more exciting month and hopefully warmer.

We are hosting a party for some of our sexy friends tonight. Invitations went out three weeks ago. Yesterday the food was ordered. There was a stop today for really nice champagne, and a few bottles of liquor to keep everyone warm and happy.

All we have to do is walk in the door of our own space 30 minutes before our guests are due to arrive. Turn on the lights and heat, and Ta-Da, we are ready for a night of action.

The ease at which we can now hold events is remarkable since we have no moving about of equipment or gear anymore. No more set up teams and take down teams. Work has become a breeze in many ways. The space is gorgeous and everyone is going to be gaga over it.

Our volunteers will be able to relax and truly kick back for the night, and our friends, will be able to hang out with each of us, as we will not be busy monitoring play or working.

The library keeps gaining selections as guests & members bring in donations to our Sex-Positive Lending Library. I am really feeling the love and the community spirit as our opening is made grand by others kindness and generosity.

The new book shelves will be assembled in the next day or two, then our kinky-librarian will be coming in to catalog everything and make the library ready for our membership to access as part of their Member Privileges.

Tonights party couldn't come at a better time as both RC and I need an evening to unwind. We've been working day-and-night lately so this is a real treat to spend quality time with the people in our kinky lives.

Time for me to go and bathe then pack my play-bag for this evenings adventure. I have plans on doing no work, just being present in good-company and sharing it all with RC.

I am eager for everyone to see our efforts.

A Loss

It is with great sadness that I write to tell you that Fetwear is closing its doors.

For those of you not in-the-know, FETWEAR is an adult store located on the Coquitlam, Burnaby, New West borders. Always carrying an excellent collection of niche market BDSM and fetish toys and clothing. A gem of a resource really.


I've known Tracie and Paul, for YEARS now and will miss them and what they've brought to the sex-community.

Sooooo, before they close for good, run on over and pick up some sweet deals. Starting this Sunday, February 3 everything in the store is 50% off.


All clothing, stockings, shoes and boots, adult toys, lubes and lotions, and all BDSM related items. Everything must go, so hurry in before its all gone. All sales final.

931C Brunette Ave., Coquitlam (at the corner of Lougheed Hwy and Brunette Ave., right behind the French Quarter Pub)

Note our new hours:

Monday - Tuesday: closed
Wednesday - Saturday: 11 - 5
Sunday: 11 - 4

Support

My pursuit is not a lonely one.

There are many supporters surrounding me; from working professionals to students and stay at to home parents. Support and allies abound. My friendship, support and sex-positive message has transformed the lives of countless individuals and couples every week, with the numbers increasing dramatically year-by-year.

Some people walk into my life for a coaching session and 2 hours later, leave our time together feeling as though we will forever share a very unique bond. Not quite a friendship, yet we'll call ourselves friends. Because I will have heard you when no others had quite the same before, all the while giving you the support yearned for, yet had likely not even known yet. So practical and so necessary.


Others leave time spent with me, feeling strong enough to venture forth onto a personal journey now with information gained from our time and I will see them in public settings like fetish nights, dungeon parties and other community events as they "come-out" into local sex-positive culture. We acknowledge knowing one another, yet it likely doesn't even come up ever about them being clients, there is just a sudden level of comfort with one another, that hugging upon seeing one another is just so natural.

Couples come to me, naively believing that only one of them needs me, the other is just there to "make the other one comfortable" as we venture forth on our journey of finding them the answers they are seeking. They leave and the three of us are joined as a unit. I helped the one who everyone thought needed me, but I also helped the relationship and that makes the other partner, ever so pleased. I become an ally and someone these people consider a treasured friend.

Others, already self-identified as kinky who haunt local sex events as there evenings out on the town book me on the Hush-Hush to teach them new skills. Skills usually surrounding Dominance and S/m. These people learn fast. They want in and out. It is very different working with some one who already has there style and interests identified solidly yet who has a yearning to learn proficiency in some new art. I applaud those that arrive to me, saying they want more finesse to there play and those who want to create a scene, not just get someone off.
The difference is critical to a memorable experience.

People write to my email address and reveal to me very personal things about themselves and I pick through the information they've given me and try and figure out what this person needs. It takes time to answer the mail I get from people asking questions of me. Over half of these people will never, ever, show up to a party or even a workshop. Yet I give them my time and best direct these individuals to the resources or support they are in need of. These are the people who flock to me when I'm out at events, and Thank Me, for spending the time to personally answer there emails. I never know who anyone is, or what email they are referring to, the numbers are too vast. But I do know this, with support like I have, if I ran for office, I'd damn well win!

Snow Day

Much as I love the big white fluffy stuff, cause it just looks so damn fresh and pretty, I am disappointed that it happened in such quantity that it has left the city in driving chaos. The snow is everywhere and a complete blanket of it. How beautiful. Tonight's class is postponed due to it.

Sorry folks, but for the safety of all, we've decided its just best to stay off the roads until they are clear again.

This is the notice that went out to the mailing list a short while ago....

It is with regret that I write to tell you with short notice, that this evenings class on the G-Spot has been moved to an unnamed future date.

The snow has been a lot in Burnaby, continuing into this afternoon. Both my friend and the evenings class model and myself feel unsafe on the roads right now. If not from the ice and snow, then from the wonky drivers motoring alongside us suddenly veering into our paths. It
seems safest to remain off the roads if possible and we are going to do just that.

This class is always very popular, so of course, it will reschedule, soon. Please come on back and see for yourself what information you can turn into skills surrounding G-Spot stimulation.

Thank you for your patience and your continued interest in my Erotic Arts Curriculum.

The G-Spot Class

Tuesday, which is tomorrow, I am teaching my G-Spot class at The Love Nest right across the street from Metrotown, on Kingsway. I bring along a girl-friend, who becomes our live model, allowing class participants to view her vulva, G-Spot and arousal process.

If you've not before taken this very interesting, well guided class, it's time you attended.

January 29 Tuesday 7:15 - 9:15pm

Finding & Stimulating the G-Spot & Female Ejaculation
The Love Nest 4687 Kingsway Burnaby
$25 per person - Cash, pay at door, no advance tickets
Open to men & women - couples & singles



Are you a squirter or gusher, or aspiring to be? Want to help your
lady enjoy her G-Spot? This is the class for you. Join Jennifer and
one of her lovely woman friends for a hands-in demonstration on
techniques to please for G spot stimulation & ejaculation potential.

You'll learn: Clitoral & G-Spot Anatomy from both an internal and
external view. Choosing a toy or your own hands? Getting you both
ready for the often trans formative experience. When the G-Spot is
stroked, there is often a sensation or urge to urinate.

By learning techniques to both understand then move beyond this urge
many women can experience heightened arousal and for others
ejaculation becomes possible. Tips that are tried, tested and easy to
grasp so you can finally stroke your own G-Spot or that of your
partners.

*Please bring a notebook & pen to class

the remains

This afternoon PA (my personal assistant) came and spent three hours helping RC and I complete various tasks remaining, as well as going over with me the final edits to the Member Packages. Getting this over with will be good for now. I suspect that in a few months, we will be ready to look at doing a rewrite of some of it already as we change and shift over our first year open.

Walked into BestBuy and told the man helping us what was needed. An LCD projector for me to teach with, use for social events and to run movies as background mood to our parties. I am so stoked over this purchase. It cost a small fortune, and yes, we bought the four year extended warranty. It is just so worth it on an item as pricey as this. Yikes! A real hit to the pocket-book, but necessary for what we now have to offer everyone.

Yesterday evening RC set up the projector with much ease and we played a movie across a 9 foot long by 5 foot high white bedroom wall in our bedroom. It was incredible definition, astounding color, brilliant design and only 6 pounds! Remote control, carrying case, the whole caboodle.

The sounds system is in and complete. Oh my god, the speakers just rock-the-place. I mean we have some serious volume and we are fully wired in every room for sound. Not that we need it, but it is nice to know its there. I owe big for this contractor, he wanted no money. No paper trail. Just a sexual trade. I suspect the blow job going down later tonight before bed, is one of a few he will collect over this job well done. Thanks RC.

The To-Do List keeps getting things checked off of it. Unfortunately though, things keep getting re added to the bottom of the list.

365 DAYS

Happy One Year Anniversary RC.

Our connection needs no explanation. This first year of our lives together has been quite memorable. It's due celebrating how smooth we are together: slick between the sheets, on the same page with a nod, sharing air as our hearts beat as one.

You are the most perfect partner for me. I love you and am in awe of the family we have created with such ease, the next part of that journey shares both our genetics.

This next year is going to morph us into a whole new worlds with our goals set so well. Add to that the fact that You excite me and bring great joy to my life daily and my heart beats madly, happily.

Thank you for sharing your love with me for all the days and nights we've known to say "I love you" out loud.

XOXOXOXO

No Surprises

~~~GULP, GASP ~~~

I still need a LCD projector, in the next couple of days, before our opening. Where to find one is the challenge! You my dear readers, must have some leads, please?

Thankfully we have found our new stereo system and pick it up tomorrow. I was to be in Seattle this weekend, but the plans changed, sadly as I just can't leave home or business right now. Tis good though, as it means I now have the time to accomplish the rest of my To-Do List.


I hired contractors this time round to do ALL the internal work that needed done with the business. And now in the final hours before our membership comes through our doors, there has been a nice quiet committed group of friends rallying around here to help us with the last bit of arranging.

It has been a long time in my life, since I was surrounded by drama. A few years back I had someone in my life who regularly rode the dramatic "emotional roller coaster of life." The best way to explain this person is "Theatrical" as was the constant "Help Me / Save Me" of this partner. I vowed when that relationship was over, to never be involved again with anyone picky or anyone princess like or anyone who needs to create scenes/drama to feel important or loved again. Ever! (this burden has proved tough to shake as well)

Tomorrow is my One Year Anniversary with RC. Our life is beautiful, as is our love. For those of you who know us as a couple you know what I mean when I say it is remarkable that we found one another, as our fit, is Perfect.

Sad, but true & funny

It is no surprise that I get emails that read a-little-odd from time to time given that my profession is sex work. This letter takes the cake. It fact, he should get a very special hat for coming up with this piece of work.

Hi Jennifer,

I'm interested in throwing a party at my place 2 bedrooms but I was hoping you could help me with some suggestions and guests (5 couples)? Would love it if you could help :) Let me know if you have the time to plan and hopefully set up a party!

btw. I will be a single male as this is going to be a secret....sshhh :_

Thanks in advance, Andie

Andie

Your email is rather strange. It reads as though you are ordering "take-out". Including guests. I have never received such a request before.

If you want to attend an adult event, then do so. There is nothing stopping you, so long as you are 19 years of age.

But whatever it is you are trying to create through contacting me, just know that you can't buy it. And if you really want such a scenario to ever take place, you are going to need to come out of your shell to meet the couples themselves. Because that is how you get people back to your place for a party, you hand pick your own guests.

Don't think that I would bring my friends, supporters and allies to the private home of someone no one knows.

I am not even going to start on the rant, that it sounds as though you want my services-for-free. So, not going to happen. I don't just throw parties, I am creating culture and am a professional.

By the way, "Would you like fries with your order?"

Subscribe to our mailing list so that you can find a suitable event, where you can meet other like minded people, and hopefully form some friendships on your own.

Orientation Time

Member Orientation: An Introduction to Sex-Positive Culture
$40 yearly basic membership dues

The Intro to Sex-Positive Culture is a mandatory orientation that all potential members must attend before joining. It is designed to introduce the broad range of experiences & services available at LLC. The orientation provides attendees with a history of sex-positive culture in Vancouver and the PNW, then reviews some of the expectations and etiquette expected at our events. Orientations also include a question-and-answer period so that attendees can get any questions answered as well as meet our staff and volunteers.

A Membership Form must be filled in with your Legal Name and dues paid at start of the class/orientation.

Please note: Orientations are restricted to people presenting picture ID showing that they are 19 years old, and older.

Turned off

We hit bed early last night, the whole family. Thankfully too, as lately we have been on overdrive getting things taken care of. With RC on four days on right now, and 12 hour days, he is ready to finish his last day of work tonight, which is a graveyard. I was awake though at 6:30 this morning as there was much for me to accomplish today.

I've been asked lately in email, why I removed the comments feature from my blog posts. I turned that feature off, not because I do not not care what people have to say. Rather, because for people who have something to say about my blog contents, then they can either tell me in person or share with me in an email to my personal account. It is my preference to hear from people via this manner of communication, rather than through a comment on Blogger.

jennifer@libidoevents.com


Next, I need a fridge. It would be ideal to find a black one. In good-working-order. Full size. Free or cheap. Can pick up. Anyone got one? Or know where to find one? It is for the kitchen in Libido Lounge, where everyone will be getting their drinks from for years to come. Donate a fridge, help a community out.

I need to purchase a sound system and a video projector system as well this week. Critical. Something moderately priced. Easy to install. Any ideas my friends, leads or tips on where I should be looking to buy these items? Or how about what brands are best or which to say away from. I am not so literate in the world of technology, so your help is greatly appreciated.

If you are an Erotic Artist and you would like to have your art hung on our walls, for sexual explorers to admire, I suggest sending me an email ASAP expressing your interest. There are beautiful newly painted walls, waiting to be adorned with your sex positive imagery and individuals waiting to see your art.

Happily, later this afternoon I have an announcement that I get to make which is long over due to my family and friends. Although I do not feel indebted to those close to me, I have a strong sense of wanting to make them all feel very appreciated. What I have to offer should bring a smile to every ones face. I sooo much enjoy being the bearer of great news.

Life is happy, isn't it? And only what you make of it. Live in the past and you'll be haunted. Live for tomorrow, and you will never understand being present. Live in the moment and you get to experience life at its best. Make no excuses and blame no one. Personal responsibility is the key to happiness in my corner of the world.

Dining at the Y

For those those of you looking for more information on Pussy Licking, tomorrow night I am teaching a public class on the subject. It is open to men & women, couples and singles.


January 22 Tuesday 7:15 - 9:15pm
Pussy Licking Good

The Love Nest - 4687 Kingsway Burnaby
(directly across from Metrotown)

$25 per person: cash, pay at door, no advance tickets


From the silky caress of your warm wet tongue lapping her labia,
you'll soon feel more powerful and in control and she'll know you've
got her pleasure in mind.

With using but a few of the tips and techniques that Jennifer will
demonstrate and share in this class you'll come away more confident
in your cunnilingus and inspired to share what you've learned.

Of course we'll discuss a woman's arousal process and her clitoral,
vaginal and G-Spot anatomy to empower you with maximum pleasure
giving information.

*please bring a notebook & pen to class

Inspired her to Squirt

So I have been getting a fair amount of email due to my Taboo Show, stage classes. All complimentary and enough to make a girls-head-swell just-a-little. It's nice. But no where near as flattering as receiving an email that reads just like this....

Jennifer!! I hope you remember me...my name is sonya we met at taboo at your ejaculation class...although you met soo many people that day! hehe I'm the girl who wants to volunteer I have great news!! I LEARNED HOW TO EJACULATE!! Seriously i've been trying soo hard and i've finally done it! At your mini class at taboo you said something that really made sense to me you said that many times girls think they have to pee but when they run to the washroom nothing comes out! So that happend to me...I ran to the washroom and nothing came out I came back determined to get it out and honestly...i never expected it to be so much lol It wouldn't stop it was like friggin fountain down there! Now im on my way to safeway to rent a carpet cleaner! I made a mess!! I'm still in shock!! It felt a lot different than I anticipated...the whole time it was cumming out I thought it could be urine just cause there was SO much and it looked like a stream! I hit the mirror 4 feet across the room from me! But I smelled it and stuf and it's 100% not pee. I guess the feeling of it isn't so much of a huge orgasm while it's happening, but I feel incredibly relaxed and happy now Does this sound accurate? Anyway just thought i'd let you know that one of your classes educated me to the point where I can actually do it to myself ;) Thanks so much!!! Your enthusiasm in the class was amazing and I can't wait to start volunteering and promoting your classes!! Sonya Wow, I feel pretty special right now, and I've made another woman friend. Sonja is a squirter, and You can be too! Thank you for sharing with me, your joy and success. Keep the flood gates open, and breathe. (and for you reading at home, the girl who has YET to have a g-spot orgasm, know that they feel different for each woman as does the amount of fluid released)

Down The Rabbit Hole

There are two tradesmen here working, they shouldn't take too long this afternoon. The three of us were at Home Depot just a short while ago. New light fixtures, hinges for a kitchen cabinet, moldings and wood for a door, all final details really. There is so little left now to take care of.

The sounds of the saw cutting the remaining pieces, certainly fill me with immense pride. Both guys are humble hard workers, and good friends too. A joy to have such people in my life helping to bring to fruition such a grand vision.

It is next time for the art to hit the walls, and the greenery to fill in the place. I'm contracting a few different artists to exhibit there work here on a rotational basis. Some where in the next week, the last of the framed art will be arriving and hung, and before this happens I hope to have made it to a plant store to find at least three or four different trees for in here.

RC is at work today, he will be home tonight around 7:30 or so. I will be waiting for him, all dressed up in provocative clothing. Dinner will be almost ready. Scotch poured and his robe hung next to the shower.

On my mind the last while, has been the playful memory of one of our early dates together. RC was blindfolded, naked and laid out on his living room floor. I was crouched next to him on the floor, with a crock-pot filled with hot melted wax plugged into the wall.

With wide strokes from my paint brush, I swept dripping heated wax across the exposed body of RC. He gasped repeatedly, but not once said stop. He just laid there, moaning, with his cock engorged, standing strong and upright. Between the wax on his body in strokes, drips and splashes, he soon was encased in layer upon layer of sensation seeking wonder.

I surmise that tonight will involve more wax, nudity and sex as part of our weekend of debauchery.