Do you take it? family meeting

This Sunday is family meeting day for my poly family. One of a few days in the year where Allena Bella, Jim and I, sit down together to talk about our family unit and the relationships contained within this unit.

Jennifer & Bella
Jennifer & Jim
Jim & Bella
Jim, Jennifer & Bella
Daddy & little girls
Daddy & Jennifer
Daddy & Bella

and then we talk about the power part of our relationship & the BDSM. Then on to short & long term family goals and finally finish it off by talking about our outside relationships. Because aside from our poly family and our relationships together, we each have a huge capacity for love and sharing joy and to that end, each of us has outside play partners that we have in our lives as well.

With each of us as being such powerful personalities we need opportunity to come together to check in. We lead such amazingly passionate, joyful, fast paced, lives that most people find to be overwhelming in intensity. We each thrive on this intensity and where we are & what we've created in our lives together but there's 3 of us, not 2.

With this info then the communication has to happen many times over, said in different ways for each of us, supported uniquely, pushed just so, brought back in and humbled, remember we're family, we get to do this for one another and because of one another.

With the meeting complete, we should be in just the right frame of mind to be needing a break. So what does our family do to relax after such a long meeting? We go see the notorious The Wet Spots.

We're going to hang out with them at The Wet Spot since Bella hired them to perform a show for The Spot on both Sunday & Monday. The Von Foxies are opening for them, I'm super excited about this as well, can't wait.

A job & family perk is all the cool stuff we always seem to be doing. (remember the long list from the family meeting, again I say to you, perks are necessary)

The Wet Spots (Cass King and John Woods) are a musical sex comedy duo who write sophisticated lyrics paired with sweet, catchy melodies. Their musical repertoire is inspired by the risque satirical songs of Monty Python, South Park, Tenacious D and musical comedy legend Rusty Warren. They are known for their lively shows, which include sing-alongs, spankings, and bawdy sex-ed.

You MUST go listen to this music video Do you take it in the....

Greek

I was famished and without an ounce of energy in me for cooking, I knew it was time for outside help. Picked up the phoned and ordered in Greek food from the local infamous Greek restaurant up the street, a dinner of lamb. It fueled me and hit the spot. The remains in the fridge, a snack perhaps tomorrow.

Tomorrow evening I'm teaching...

Sex Tips From a Bi Sexual Woman
July 6 Thursday
4687 Kingsway Street @ The Love Nest
7:00 - 9:30 pm
$25 cash at door

Clitoral/vaginal/g-spot orgasms, prostate stimulation & orgasm, stroking styles, anal play, sex toys, giving great head, going down on a woman, strap-on sex, creating want and more. Join me, Jennifer, for some frank conversations about her experiences being pleasured by women and pleasuring women.

As a bisexual woman, I'll first share with you what I've learned about women and their sexual wants, desires, and fantasies, then we'll discuss ideas and tricks to please men both in bed and in their heads. I'll reveal my favorite 10 Women-Pleasing Sex Tips and favorite 10 for Men as well. Come away with practical tips to make you into a more confident lover.

my morning

finished packing 45 pounds of camping gear into one checked piece of luggage and one carry-on at 1:00 this morning.

At 4:45 AM the alarm went off, basically shrieking " Get Up Now, Get Up Now!" Both child and I bolted into action.

at 5:20 AM the car was the lone vehicle in the Mc Donalds drive through.

at 5:52 AM we had pulled safely into the airport and child & luggage were left on the sidewalk, while I parked in hourly parking

at 6:20 AM I said "be good, have a ton of fun, bring home a life time of memories and I love you piles."

at 6:21 AM my daughter hugged me, and left for Guelph Ontario with Girl Guides.

at 6:30 AM I was pulling out of YVR

at 7:05 AM, naked again, back in bed, sleeping, soundly

9:00 AM, the alarm goes off and I'm now alone, for days and days....

12:00 noon today I have a 2-hour Private Coaching Session, female domination & spanking as the topics of the day

What a life, I'm blessed and exhausted.

camping & birthday wishes

Relationship and Polyamory Day.

Started out making chocolate chip cookies with Turtles Hot Chocolate replacing 1/4 of the flour and an extra handful of chocolate chips added to the recipe. You'd think I'd be happier with 3 dozen over size morsels of love in my kitchen, right?

NOT

Early this evening I sent out the July Event Announcements to the mailing list and got that task out of the way. Then for the last couple of hours I've been preparing my daughter for camp as she leaves at 6:00 AM Wednesday morning from YVR to Ontario.

Packing her camping gear up has been stressful for us both and we were on one another's nerves through out. This mixed with the fact, that today is the birthday of someone I love and am a part from, has made the day an off one for me. I have some heart ache.

Regrets, sadness and a feeling of loss, what a day. I have such a difficult time with being down, I find it easier to pretend to be happy. Pretending does me no good in the long run and in the short term in denies myself and others the chance to deal with what's really going on, why do I even bother pretending? What am I so scared of?

My child flying across the country with out me. Her independence .

Relationship & love lost. My hurt.

But to those who love and know me, they can tell when I'm faking it. I used to believe in "fake it till you make it". Now I'm not so sure.

Should we show our frailties, sometimes? Never? To those we love as adults. And what about to our children?

Happy birthday to you, I'm hopeful you'll find this. :) I'm sorry I let you down.
hugs & love

soaking in the sun

yesterday was so beautiful that all that I wanted to do was to spend time at the beach with my daughter, SPF 30 and a picnic lunch!

photo courtesy of my 12 year old

Website updated finally.

stagette - cock sucking

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dreams come true

A couple of Sundays past I wrote here about a phone call I'd received that had in it's brief couple of minutes of communication changed my life and activism.

This is what's had me feeling so proud & strong as of late...

For Immediate Release:

New LLC Board Members Elected

The Leather Leadership Conference is an organization dedicated to strengthening the SM/Leather/Fetish community through the development of the leadership skills of community members and fostering a greater sense of connection between and within community groups.

The LLC Board of Directors is composed of nine members and to maintain leadership and continuity, their terms expire on a rotating basis. In recently concluded annual elections, four new members were elected to the LLC Board of Directors.

New members who were elected for 3-year terms are: Jennifer Skrukwa, a sex-activist from Vancouver BC, Canada; Jared Keen, a leather-activist from Arizona; and Alan Levy, an attorney from New Jersey. Jonathan Krall, a sex-positive community organizer from Virginia was elected to a 1-year term. New board positions commence July 1, 2006.

The LLC Board would like to thank Cynthia Wright, Lolita Wolf and Libby Warren, whose terms have now expired, for their years of dedication that served to help shape LLC, Inc. to where it is today.

Join us for LLC-XI in Minneapolis, MN April 20 - 22, 2007
Visit Leather Leadership for more information.

I leave for Minneapolis the first weekend in August to meet with the Local Organizing Committee for LLC in April and for our Annual Meeting. This is already turning into a wild ride.

It's humbling to be part of the very place that works to strengthen community and fostering a better understanding of each segment within it for all. To be elected, wow, this is an activists dream and I'm living it. Go me!!!

it's arrived, it's arrived

Today is the day that my 12 year old daughter graduates from elementary school and crosses the stage to receive her diploma.

I'm already in a dress and my mom is on BC Ferries on her way over for the ceremony.

Yesterday my girl got the best news, she was accepted into the Honors Program at the local high school

AND

She was awarded with 5 service awards for her community and school activism in front of all her peers.

Next week she leaves for 12 days in Guelph Ontario without me.

Times are changing.

As of this afternoon I'll be the proud parent of a high school student.

lucky me

long shot for sure

Some man saw that tonight on my calendar I'm teaching my Cock Sucking class to a class of women, he felt compelled to send this letter to my Jennifer account at Libido Events just a few short minutes ago...

From:
To: jennifer@libidoevents.com
Cc:
Date: Tuesday, June 27, 2006 12:41 pm
Subject:

Hi -

I am a male ..

Just browsing your site as I always do ... and interesting that you have an event in Squamish today for woman only.

I am from Vancouver, not local ..but working here today ... thought I would take a long shot lol .. if your looking for any volunteers for your excersice .. I am good looking young (30) .. pretty good shape...

Thought I would try .. I am not shy .. Let me know if you need anyone ..

NOTE: name and email address was removed to protect this man from the wrath of all the women in tonights class who I'll be sharing this piece of mail with

busy beaver, cock sucking

Ok I must confess to being a tad bit elated. This morning in a private meeting, I was hired by Little Sister's to teach at their store this Fall.

Six 6 classes to be precise, from September through December on Thursday evenings.

Dates and topics are not on the calendar as of yet, but I had to spit the news out as it makes me happy. This is BIG huge news for me and something that I've been aspiring towards for some time.

Then as we finished our bookings I handed over my most recent wish list of sex toys / books and was told that I could have one of everything. Lucky me. :) Deborah Addingtons new book "Play Piercing", new male masturbator sleeve toy and cocks, lots and lots of cocks (ok, dildos) among other things.

This busy little beaver is now sitting naked at the kitchen table typing away with the fan blowing on me. It feels good but it's time for me to make my way down the hall to my room.

Late this afternoon I'm driving to Squamish to teach my Cock Sucking class to a sold out class of women at Trinity Romance Shop. 25 seats filled, now that is awesome!

It's time for me to pack up the equipment and toys necessary to make a workshop of this nature so successful...

FYI - neither dildo or masturbator were words that my spell check recognized this saddens me. What can be done to fix this problem?

Enjoy the sun everyone.

places I spend time as work

What's the difference please between a "bar" and a "lounge"? I've been hired to teach a class in the latter and am trying to plot and plan accordingly. Thanks.

whips & Dominance

it's just after 4:00 in the morning, I drove in from Seattle after a pit stop at Jim's. Border was a breeze, I had actually forgotten that it could still happen that way, without lineups or incidents.

The drive home was really me coming down from teaching the Women's Intensive. We had to cover so much information in those 4 hours that there were only two short breaks about 6 or 7 minutes each. This is the class that I'd been wanting to teach for awhile and I saw after today's class, that we really need a full day if we want to make sure that we cover all of the areas we want to discuss. The wheels are in motion and a full day intensive is to follow. How exciting, a series of classes on
Woman's Dominance.

This morning though, prior to my class, I had a private coaching session as well that lasted 90 minutes. With two classes yesterday and then today's, that's 9.5 hours of educating and empowering for me. I'm feeling drained. Duh, I'm up at what is now bloody 4:23am, yes, I'm drained and tired. (almost)


My email has been broken for longer than I care to admit - it will be a month this week. Oh I'm so pissed off that the mere mention of it could almost send me to tears.

Awaiting me on the computer was an email from a dear dear dear sweet man who graciously and kindly set me up in a whole new mail program. It is good to have friends that have skills and who believe in what I do. Thanks Damon.

I should go to bed now and the reason I've been up so late is that I had to manually enter all of the data from the old program into the new because the Export button was broken. Took me 4 hours and 40 minutes to do it and now it's done. I'm so tired it's incredible and the sun is coming up, I can see the sky line changing already. And all of you are sleeping, missing this magnificent silent morning view.

Did I mention that shortly I'm sleeping with my brand spanking new whip as in just finished yesterday, Joe Wheeler whip and it's RED and all mine. Delivered to me at The Wet Spot this afternoon. More later and perhaps a photo too, I'm so thrilled to own such a beautifully sculpted toy and treasure.

Pride Seattle 2006

Happy Pride Seattle!

What a beautiful weekend here in Seattle for the parade to take place today, how exciting. I had been asked to carry Leather Flag for the Wet Spot but had to decline because of a teaching commitment. What a bummer, it would have been such an honor.

Yesterday both of my classes went very well at The Wet Spot and now today, I'm teaching an Intensive on Women's Dominance. It's a 4 hour class that's from 1:00 - 5:00 and I'm also seeing a client later for Private Coaching.

It's been restful here for me this trip, it was needed.

porn shoot

I'm in Seattle at Allena's enjoying a peaceful quiet night in, sans any relationship partners. Allena is away at an event for 5 days so the place is really all to myself.

Spent today in Bellingham with Jim for a leisurely lunch and an afternoon cuddle beyond compare before driving the final stretch.

Here are a few images from a photo shoot I did a couple of months back with Jim, he gave me the disk today, hence you seeing some samples now.

Enjoy!




Photo Credit: Jim Duvall aka my Daddy

Seattle bound

Before I make the long drive along the I5 into Seattle this morning, I leave you with a couple of photo's from the new space...



there's a double bed in this spacious play room with a glass shower and by the end of summer it will also have a sauna in this room


there is a massage table in this play room with the bath tub

there are 5 other play rooms, a social area, sound system, change area, free parking, private building and all staffed by Libido Events, no outsiders. Yippee.

More photo's when I've got time, right now I'm planning away for the big move to this new space for the Naughty Parties around Cambie and Broadway coming to you starting this Saturday July 22nd.

class review

A number of months back I asked a workshop attendee and regular to write me a little something about her experience in the class. Life had us both busy for the last while, putting to the back burner this task. Then the other day, this arrives to my in box...

Well over a year ago now I first met Jennifer. In a circle of timid
introductions she blazed the way to a way to a more forward and welcoming
atmosphere by unapologetically introducing herself with a string of labels
that she also casually and helpfully defined. Her confidence was rattling
I'd say almost intimidating. But at the same time, I was intrigued.

A few months later I drummed up enough courage to attend one of her oft
recommended classes Bottoming Skills 101. I didn't know what to
expect but my imagination went wild. A mere sapling in the world of kink,
I had heard a lot but had experienced very little. What would the people in
the class be like? Would they know volumes more than I did? Would they be
way more extreme than I was? Would they actually have bottoming
experience to draw upon or like me would they be simply starting to
explore *that* side of themselves.

Upon entering the class room (actually, a dance studio), I saw a small group
of people of all ages some men and some women. The group was small enough
to be in a discussion circle an intimate sphere in the middle of the wide
open dance floor. Jennifer was relaxing and drinking a slurpee, engaging in
chit chat with my class mates. At the hour of class start, she flawlessly
transitioned into class mode with a well placed contact question. Before
long, stories were being swapped. Opinions were being shared. Bottoming
skills were being discussed and honed. I quickly realized most of my
preconceptions were just that. Bottoming wasn't something predefined it
was individual and unique for every person.

As the class wore on, discussion became more and more free and easy.
Jennifer, without fail, bridged silences in the discussion, bringing up new
points and new ideas in the process. Her ideas and information seemed
endless. I wondered how on earth we would ever fit it all into one
evening's class.

And then it was finished.

I was so happy at the end of that class I felt like I took a lot of
information away, but more importantly, I felt like I had finally started to
accept one of the many hidden facets of myself. I was still nervous, but I
had just taken a small tentative step into the rich and diverse world of
Vancouvers sex-positive community. But I liked what I'd seen, and more
importantly, I felt confident that I was not left alone to deal with foreign
and mysterious topics like bottoming. As long as Vancouver has wonderful
resources like Jennifer's Libido Events, I had a resource I could turn to.

I attended Take Charge: Being Dominant in The Bedroom two nights later.
In fact, after such a wonderful bottoming class I wouldn't have missed it
for the world. It was settled. I was hooked.

Now, every time I see Jennifer I am more and more impressed. Her ease and
comfort in the sex-positive landscape is commendable and enviable
something I can only hope at this point to one day achieve. I no longer
find her at all intimidating but I do still find her intriguing. I'm
pretty sure that has something to do with her deep, rich and smoldering
eyes...

by Red

SOLD OUT

the e-mail in my box this afternoon, opens like this...

Hi Jennifer,

Happy Solstice:) Just wanted to drop you a quick line to let you know that the class on the 27th is sold out. Yeah for us!

Aahh, life is great and so is my Cock Sucking: the Hand Job, Blow Job class!


Way to go all the women of Squamish who'll be joining me this Tuesday night at The Trinity Romance Shop.

attention getting

There has been a women whom flirting with has been a lot of fun for me lately. This vixen has for well over a year now flirted back but I wasn't in the right spot in life to do much more with it than simply enjoy the exchange and energy before now.

Lately though, she keeps coming into my radar and well, I love women and she's got the woman thing down just right! Just the way I like it. Curves to hold and a bounty of breast and hair to grab tight or get lost in.


This is an email exchange between us, the only thing changed, is her name. These emails follow her attendance at my women's Only Naughty Party a few weeks back where she got to witness me in action wearing a strap-on. She'd emailed a post party thank you and made mention of seeing me & my cock as being a highlight to her evening. I sent this back...

Mental note:

Sophie brought up my strap-on in a positive light. Must investigate this further in future.

Wonder if she's into slow anal fucking with simultaneous g-spot stim?

hhhhmmmm

This is what she sent me back....

Jennifer, Jennifer, Jennifer

You sent this to me four days ago now....and its been on my mind for pretty
much all of those four days...so much so that it has been my solo play
scenario of choice not once but twice in that time.

And...yup....now I'm blushing. I think I'm off to go at it a third time...

Hope your weekend was wonderful! Hugs to you...


Sophie

My most recent addition to our email Hot Talk, which is in fact making me hot and bothered just typing this...

Yes, Sophie

Only after you ask, will you receive...

my cock nestled in your rosebud... rocking you slowly to oblivion...

while my fingers circle your engorged g-spot and stroke that gush of warmth out of you, over and over again...

as you cry out from the sudden pounding of my cock...

sending you spent, into shudders, laying in the crook of my free arm

isn't it great to have friends that are lovers and lovers that are friends?

Jennifer

graduation dress

I drove my daughter to the mall and was prepared to buy her almost any dress of her hearts choosing. The dress is to be worn to her Grade 7 Graduation Luncheon, not the ceremony, but the catered luncheon which is parent free.

In the entire mall there was nothing that made my child happy and still leave her looking like a 12 year old girl and not a woman.

We came home disgruntled and she went through my closet with gusto. Can you believe she found something? She's wearing one of my dresses, in fact, the one I'm wearing in the photo below.




It's so hard to believe that at 33 years old, I have a 12 year old daughter graduating elementary school AND wearing my clothing now!

conversations at an SM party

snippets of conversation from my evening out last Saturday night...

Me, with a smirk: Hey Jenn, I have a little something of yours, something made of silicone...

Jenn, with an inquisitive smile: "Hmm...like what could it be" she says while twirling a little in her French maids outfit and perfect hose.

Me: Like your Jack Off Pad

Jenn, happily: So you've got my Jack Off Pad, I knew someone took it and I couldn't figure it out. Glad it's you whose got it, now it all makes sense.

Me: (thinks to myself, this is surreal that she's happy that I've found her missing Jack Off Pad, two women discussing a male masturbation toy)

Note: her date standing next to her, looks both pleased and somewhat perplexed. It's ok though, I can't really care what he thinks. He's standing next to her in shiny black pvc pants and out of the crotch is hanging a large orange stuffed Nemo. Yes, folks, you read right, a large stuffed Nemo. He kept stroking Nemo while wondering aloud if having a stuffed Nemo would require more, or, less lube for sex.




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Me: I pick YOU. I pick you. You came walking in the door and I took one look at your soft, young, vibrant self and it must be you that I play and connect with this evening. So, would you like to play tonight?

Traci: Yes, sure I'd like that a lot. [big cheesey grin on her face]

Note: we've played together before, so this wasn't a first time

Me: I'm going to drag you by your hair across the floor out to the play area

Traci victim/friend: No, we can't do that, the flowers in my hair are real and I don't want to damage them.

Me: (thinks to self, this is surreal, she's going to let me toss her around and do some pretty intense SM play on her but I have to be cautious of the flowers in her hair. Ok then! Sheesh, the things I agree to so I can hurt pretty girls.)


Fast Forward now by 90 minutes

Scene: Jennifer and Traci are laying together utterly spent, Traci has had an orgasm, cried out in anguish and pleasure, exposed herself to new cruelty and allowed herself to know bliss in public at this woman's hand.

Laying around us, in no particular order are:

a black leather strap, her corset & shoes, nipple clamps, a vibrator, fur mitt, 2 lite pink canes, a red heart paddle leather sided & fur, solid oak paddle, wartenburg pinwheel, leather flogger with long falls, latex gloves

Note: the flowers, even in all the tossling, wrestling and tickling on the floor and there was much of that going on, but the flowers lived on. I considered that to be a test of my Topping abilities for the evening. Would the flowers survive, intact? And they did, I passed the test.