*** sale ***

This evening while wading through the piles of email in my Libido Events mailbox, I found an email from another Jennifer. A friend of mine and the woman behind local Tickled Pink Toys. Jennifer is having a massive sale on a number of products that need to be liquidated to make room for other stock or different colors of products soon to be arriving to her in time for the Christmas rush.

Knowing that Libido Events loves Exclusive offers and passing on sound education and products, Jennifer asked me to let you all know about the sale. From restraints, smart balls and insertables there is surely something at Tickled Pink Toys for you to be excited about at this sale. Check out the great deals....



blessings

Jennifer
Vancouver Sexpo

caregiving & on the mend

A few days have past and my head still throbs like a bad hangover and my nose is as congested as is possible. When I cough I need to hold my rib cage as I'm in that much discontent. And lest we forget that although a masochist in S/m play I'm simply just a small little girl when I'm this sick and not able to make the shift from cold /flu aches & pains to erotic, good pain, endorphin, thrill-seeking masochistic fun.

With all that said though I am feeling marginally better and able to actually move about now. This morning after returning from driving my daughter to school, I phoned kara on her cell at about 9:05 only to have her tell me that although she had driven all the way in to the city to drop papers off at work, she was now in her car, promptly driving herself home to bed. Sick! Yikes, could I have infected her as well? The decent, loving Top in me says, have you driven past my place yet on your way back home? No, kara replies, I'm still 10 minutes away.

How about you come here and lay on the sofa while I work for a few hours on the computer. sighs, ok, I'll be there shortly

10 minutes later, one sick girl on my door step and so sick that she too used the washroom to hurl in. Twice. Good thing for mouthwash. Off to the sofa she went, where I covered her in blankets, made her tea, and fed her daytime cold medicine. After 4 hours of loving, it was time to pack her up and send her on her way to her home and partner as I needed to head out to do some errands. Not thinking kara up for my errands, it was better to send her home.

Some of the things that I need to do professionally, I need to take care of during school hours, when my child is away. 9:00-3:00 Monday - Friday are when it's easiest for me to do business so once kara was gone I had a few stops to make before picking up my daughter from school.

Off to Safeway, then the bank and now we're back home. I'm at the computer in the dining room working and she is reading a book on the sofa quietly before dinner. I've a beautiful child who is one of those children that other parents and teachers all praise - she's a warm soul, seeking to support those who are most understood or alienated for some reason. Intelligent. A child who favors books, camping and sleeping cuddled up with her mother, I am blessed. I don't believe she is the way she is by accident, it is because of the choices that I made for her before she was old enough to be supported in making her own choices as a girl and as a tween now.

For the division that I keep in my life and have kept for years I am most grateful. My relationship with my daughter is that of a mother and not one that most can even have a scope for how it could look on me. Most are surprised - especially since my daughter, and our home life are so not representative of my activism.

Shortly I'll make dinner, and from the living room the sounds of a child taking first year band with a wind instrument will be heard. Later tonight we'll cuddle up on the sofa and I'll rub her back before bed, then at 9:45 Felicity is due here to help me work through some of the Sexpo's final details before next weeks opening night.

Don't forget to get your tickets early to save yourself money at the door. A listing of where tickets to the Vancouver Sexpo October 14, 15 & 16 can be purchased is viewable here.

Thanks to C from Seattle, Karin and Vicky for your emails of warm hugs, chicken soup and good wishes.

Jennifer

tissues & ejaculator supplies

A box of tissues is on the end table next to me in the living room and used up tissues, rolled in to small wet balls are laying all over the floor. I'm so sick with a head and chest cold that I feel like I'm dyeing and being close to death means that I'm on the sofa, under a blanket, in my cotton 2 piece pajama's with snowmen on them. Apple juice is chilled in the fridge and the bathroom door is open down the hall should I feel the need to hurl again. Lovely visual hey? Both yesterday and today I've called in to work and taken sick days - how unfortunate as I'd hoped to get some extra hours in at my day job before the Sexpo in just a couple of weeks.

The other night I had Doug over for a visit and after watching some TV together on the sofa, I sent him, naked, into the play room to climb up on the gyn table. I played with Doug for awhile, him at my mercy, legs spread in stirrups, naked, on a gyn table, with an electric fly swatter laying across his cock, needles in his chest and BANG was the end result ever hot. Good times were had and I only needed to tell him the rules to our play once and he followed along so well. Rules mean consequences for not following along, but Doug was only rewarded.

When we were done playing and he had finished eating 6 or 8 chocolate chip cookies and some water, we got him dressed again, packed up and heading back to his wife and home.

The fly swatter did go off a number of times on the cock but it was always made better by praise, strokes and extra loving from moi! I can be mean and nasty & still loving and caring.

After Doug had left and night time had fallen, I sent him this email:

Doug,

After this evening's play, I went to investigate what other deviant things I should add to my toy bag now that we know CBT mixed with electrical play is so hot for you. Here is what I found: A Balley Ejaculator

If I save up for awhile I'll be able to afford one. It's a business expense as well so this makes it even more attractive. : )

Your thoughts?

Email cut here to protect privacy

Doug whose writing often makes me laugh, sent this back:

Jennifer,

while I'll admit that this

"Stand away from the animal 6 or 10 feet after gently inserting the probe, and observe the reaction of the animal. Proceed as dictated by the animal's physical movements as the stimuli are applied in rhythm....Not recommended for horses. "

sounds intriguing, I've continued to be amazed by the ways you manage to use just about every toy in the bag.

Wow, needles for play. I'm still kind of wrapping my head around having been on the receiving end of that.

Email cut here to protect privacy

It's time for me to blow my nose again and to take a nap. The only thing missing is a good massage and some wonton soup for this sick woman. I'm still chuckling over Doug and the look of shock that must have washed over his face as he read my email about Farm & Ranch ejaculator supplies. Chuckling hurts my lungs though as I'm so sick, perhaps he should be punished? ; )

blessings

Jennifer
Vancouver Sexpo
Libido Events

Press Release

For Immediate Release.
Contact Jennifer@libidoevents for more information or go to
http://www.VancouverSexpo.com


Vancouver Sexpo, Sex and Sexuality Empowerment Conference
October 14, 15 and 16, 2005

Get ready for the first Vancouver Sexpo, Sex and Sexuality Empowerment Conference (www.VancouverSexpo.com) scheduled for October 14th through the 16th at the Hornby Banquet & Conference Centre 3rd Floor 595 Hornby Street in Vancouver BC. This is not a trade show or a thinly veiled opportunity to sell porn. This is a chance to explore your own sexuality and enrich your sex life. Packed into this weekend is a whole spectrum of workshops, entertainment, shopping, socializing and opportunities for play and for you to gain skills to empower yourself. What sets this conference apart from anything you've ever seen before? The details are what make this a quality weekend intellectually, financially and sexually for everyone.

You get workshops that are intensive in length and interactive, where you come out of them having learned a skill and/or more about yourself and your sexuality. Workshops and presentations include "Radical Ecstasy," an interactive presentation by acclaimed author Dossie Easton; noted sex expert and courtesan Veronica Monet on " Sex Courtesan Style", "Clitoral Revelations" by Terri Ciacci, several bondage workshops by Jim Duvall, a presentation on today's Sexual Renaissance by the Wet Spot's executive director, Allena Gabosch, basic Play Piercing by Elwood and of course several workshops by your host, Jennifer of Libido Events.

And the workshops are just one part of the weekend. Get ready for burlesque dancers to tease; an exclusive film screening of the international award winning movie, Crossing; a massage booth; edible muffs; a body painting booth; kinky and glamour photography and a full on decadent sex positive play party with something for everyone. And make sure you visit Vendors Row, where local and out-of-country shops will have deliciously wicked items to please you.

Attendance at the Sexuality Empowerment Conference is for those 19+ with valid ID. Advance Ticket are $75 per person all inclusive Friday - Sunday events, workshops & play party. Tickets purchased at the door are $90 per person all inclusive Friday - Sunday events, workshops & play party. Sex Positive Play Party Only tickets may be purchased in advance for $20. Tickets may be purchased at the following locations: Little Sisters Book Store located at 1238 Davie Street Vancouver (in the heart of downtown), Fetwear Adult Store 931C Brunette Avenue (Lougheed & Brunette on the border of Coquitlam, New Westminster and Burnaby) and at The Wet Spot 1630 15th Avenue West Seattle, Washington (from Allena Gabosch directly for $75 CDN or $65 US)

Vancouver Sexpo, Sex and Sexuality Empowerment Conference is brought to you by Libido Events (www.libidoevents.com) and is sponsored in part by Tickled Pink Toys, Licks and Lashes, Storm Brewing, Oran Foods & The Triskeli Guild.

mummified

This past week has simply proved that it is possible to do the impossible as I somehow managed to navigate through one hell of a busy schedule. Yesterday though I was able to put aside for 4 hours all of my work that was due and found myself naked on my living room floor.

Had to be my Daddy right? No one else could get in so when I heard the key in the lock a chill ran down my all ready naked body. I was on the living room floor a top a plush cream colored blanket with the drapes drawn almost completely to keep anyone from seeing in, yet sunlight flooded through the white shears filling the room with brightness. Trembling, from the slight breeze of the sliding door being open a crack, mixed with chill of uncertainty to the noises coming down the hall, my naked body trembled slightly on all fours, with a back arched just the way I know it's supposed to be. Forehead to the floor and now I can't even see a thing or look up.

Ok, not quite the way it's supposed to be, my arch is wrong. First thing I feel is a warm hand sliding over one of my ass cheeks, then a crisp swat and finally his hand on the small of my back forcing my arch more pronounced, bottom more upturned and legs more spread to accommodate. He's happy finally because I'm being rubbed nice now and the hand that's rubbing me into a happy girl is no longer arching my back for me.

Mummified, except for genitals and breasts you can tell where Jim wanted to focus his attention towards me. Unable to move and bound in black pallet wrap, electricity hooked up between my legs, not to harm me for good SM play but rather to be used as a discipline tool in our play over the day. Told to do something what choice is there, when electrical leads are connected to your most private parts? OBEY. Daddy helped me by doing this for me, isn't he so thoughtful to help take away some of the struggle I have from time to time. It did help me to submit easier. (yup out of fear and I can eroticize this so I was one happy woman)

Then a Chinese 7 star hammer and my breasts & sternum turned pink from the needles over and over hammering me and targeting my aereola and nipples. Jim sat a top me as I was bound and he hammered happily until way more nasty things happened that I'm not up to writing about for public consumption.

HOWEVER, we went through an OBSCENE amount of my lube and my sheets should be burned.

Then the clock said 1:15pm and it was time for me to make us lunch, naked of course, and then to do the dishes, clean up the remains from a half day of serious sex & SM play and put everything away. Asked permission to dress and then got in my car, drove to school to pick up daughter at 3, went grocery shopping and was home by 4:30pm back to Jim.

Work on the computer for an hour, then start cooking dinner for everyone as it's a family night in. Homework, phone calls, house work, computer work and we all just hung out together. We were asleep early last night as today Jim had to leave early to return to the States and I've got a volunteer meeting today to go over the venue set up for Vancouver Sexpo next month.

Everyone should be to me around noon. Until then I'm catching up my Blog and my personal email. And I've got to unpack my bags still from this past Sunday as my toy bags are still packed from my two classes at The Wet Spot and my tasters booth that I ran for them. This is a toy bag that I'm now realizing needs more than put away - it needs sterilized and sanitized. much fun was had

Tickets for next months Vancouver Sexpo both all inclusive and play party only are at Fetwear, Little Sisters and Seattles The Wet Spot.

off to grab a quick nap now before start arriving

Jennifer
Vancouver Sexpo
Libido Events

invested in living well

I'd like to have more time to write, but then I wouldn't have as much time to be living right now. And I'm really invested in living well these days, working hard and long hours, playing vivaciously, surrounding myself with people who share a similar vision, loving from my heart and being loved as a whole person, creating safe space that is empowering and educating others as much as I learn from those I teach.

This statement resonates with me...

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "WOW, WHAT A RIDE!!!!!!"
Peter Sage

Vancouver Sexpo have you seen the line up of workshops, presenters and special highlights at this event? An exclusive movie screening, sex positive play party, kinky & glamour photography, body painting and oh so much more...

TICKETS GO ON SALE THIS SATURDAY

off to have a quick shower as I'm working this afternoon then heading from the day job, straight to teach a private class to the BGV (BiSexual Women's Group of Vancouver) on Erotic Wax & Ice Play then home to be mom again by 10 this evening.

all in a days work

Jennifer
Vancouver Sexpo
Libido Events

where I've been

Been so busy that sleep isn't even a consideration, in fact, the lack of sleep is making me nauseous. How attractive . Yes, it is conference building time in my life and this makes some stress.

Today I volunteered in the morning at the Terry Fox run at my daughters school, she's is grade 7 this year and this is my last year as a parent volunteer in grade school and I'm really wanting to savor the experiences. It was inspiring to see 400 and something children run past me as I stood in my crossing guard sash holding a Stop sign at the corner to keep them all safe. The did it for Terry and they keep running and keep raising money for cancer research all these years later.

Then I went to pick up an out of country friend from the laser eye surgeons in the downtown core. It was a cool feeling to be the very first recognizable person someone sees after laser eye surgery. Had both his eyes repaired, was laying in the recovery room and in I walk saying hello and to collect the poor guy who was a little wonky on Ativan.

We spent a wonderful afternoon together kissing & flirting, eating Greek for lunch, being carried to the water at English Bay, walking in the ocean, and going to Cupcakes on Denman for sugar treats The weather held and it was a great way to spend 5 hours before dropping J off back to his hotel room and returning home myself.

Hard to believe he arrived from Seattle yesterday morning and his eyes are already repaired. I've got a parking pass to an underground parkade downtown and a room card to a nice hotel suite with an ocean view at the entrance to Stanley Park. I've also been invited to use my room card to gain access to J's room any time day or night during his 4 night stay. He'd welcome me and make me feel at home, he promised.

Hot man, who is a Top and likes SM and rope bondage, 38 years old and friend to both Jim & Allena which makes my dating or playing with him somewhat easier for me as the trust consideration is already built up because I know of him from people I trust and love. Gives him a unique advantage.

And today I stopped off at this little store and found myself a very pink pair of knee high, lace up the front boots in my size. Size 9. And they fit and I WANT them. Want, I hate want, especially when I'm in it. No boots in the cards for today, instead a new black pvc chain thong to keep my girlie bits covered in public settings where complete nudity is frowned upon.

Tomorrow I work 9:30-7 and Jim is coming up for the night, thankfully as I miss him so much. Especially right now, after a date, I'd like to share in person with him what my date was like and with all this conference planning some time spent on his lap would do me and my nerves a world of good.

oh yes, go and have a peek at what has been driving me wild & keeping me up all night

Jennifer
Conference Organizer

episode of Oprah

There is this very handsome man I know named Aidan whose lives in Seattle WA. We've been friends a few years now through community building, activism and sex positive culture. Aidan is going to be on the Oprah show this Friday September 16. Last week I received an email from Aidan about the show, I've cut and pasted most of it here with Aidans permission of course for you to read...

Here is the scoop. My sister Brenda and I went to Chicago in February to film an episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show. This episode was focused on the story of identical twins where one pursues a gender transition (for those who don't know, that would be me). This is of interest to many in the scientific community because of how it challenges commonly held beliefs of how gender is determined. In the past, the debate has focused on whether gender is determined by nature or nurture. This is perhaps too simplistic when one takes into consideration the identical genetic makeup of my sister and me combined with our similar upbringing. Makes one question--Just what the heck happened to Brenda? Love her to death but she is so.....so normal!

Anyhow, we were told this episode would air by the end of last May and it never did. I would have questioned that I had even gone to Chicago if I wasn't drinking my coffee every morning out of my Oprah mug. Just when I resigned myself to the episode sitting in the midst of cobwebs on the "not so interesting" shelf, I received an email from the producer stating an air date of September 16th, 2005.

And here is what I found on the Oprah web site when I clicked on tune in this week, and then hit Friday:

09/16/05 When Your Identical Twin Has a Sex Change (TV-14)
In 20 years, this is a subject we've never covered. Brenda and Bonnie were born identical twiIdentical..but, Bonnie is now Aiden.


Well, well, Oprah and Aidan meet. How exciting is this! Damn this is one show that I'm going to watch even though I'm not normally a TV viewer.

Now I'm off to finish packing my toys & gear for work this evening. I'm teaching Private Parts: Genital Play for the Adventurous in Bellingham WA tonight and am driving down with both kara and Felicity. Three women in one car and a load of genital play supplies, let's hope we make it to the class. ; )

hugs & blessing

Jennifer

work & pleasure today

So what if I work both today and tomorrow from 9:30-7pm! Tonight I'm
going to finish work, drive home quickly, shower and step into some
provocative hot little number then get my tired self over to Sin City
for some fun and action!

I plan on dancing and playing up a storm tonight and would love
nothing more than to run into sexy people all night long that I know.
If you see me tonight, stop by for a hello, it would be
great to catch up a little.

Bringing some toys with me in the hopes of finding a willing er um,
victim, or two or three to play with in the dungeon. And maybe
someone in the building will be gifted at massage because I'd like
nothing more than to lay back on the pool table, a coffee
table or across someones lap tonight to be rubbed down by some
sexy person.

Time to get dressed for work - hope everyone has a good Saturday and look
forward to see you this evening at 23 West Cordova for Sin City.
*remembering that a night out like this is only what you make of it*

hugs

Jennifer

the sit down talk continued

This morning as I was driving my daughter to school I was mentally adding to yesterdays list of things that I talk with my partners about, here is the final list of the major items that spring to mind....

I can not be all things to you, nor am I interested in trying to be everything to you. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If I'm going to take a risk or do something big with a casual partner in my life, as someone I love, I will talk with you about it before hand. Honor me with the same courtesy.

When booking play time and dates with others, I will remember our life together as the priority and everything else as a bonus. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If you say Jennifer absolutely not can I accept you playing or sleeping with this person, then after we talk it over and I understand your rational feelings, I will move forward to someone else. There are enough people in this world, that I never need to put you out, in pursuit of my own pleasure. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Personal notes or gifts between myself and those I'm close to will be kept not locked away, but rather tucked away. You're welcome to see them but they will not be in your face. Honor me with the same courtesy.

The lovers pet names used between us when we're together I shall never use with another partner. Honor me with the same courtesy.

I'll never tell you that you do something just like soandso my other partner, even if paid as a compliment. You are unique and will remembered and talked to as such. Honor me with the same courtesy.

That sex toy we bought together for our use, remains ours, no one else will ever touch it unless we've talked about it before hand. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If an emergency comes up for one of your other partners, you as an ethical partner, I understand must help, in whatever way you can. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Knowing that you juggle more than one relationship, a work life, manage a home and a personal life I accept that sometimes my wants may have to go to the back burner for a short time. Honor me with the same courtesy.

I'll never push you to do something sexually with me that you have no interest in exploring. Honor me with the same courtesy.

If something changes in my life circumstances or other relationships that is "big" I will bring it you right away. Honor me with the same courtesy.

I accept that relationships need not be a life time long to be a success, so when ours is over, if ever, it'll be ok and I can be your friend. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Sometimes relationship mistakes just get made or our guidelines forgotten, I understand it's hard in the beginning and even harder sometimes when lust clouds the judgment. When you make a mistake, tell me right away, so I can forgive you and you yourself. Honor me with the same courtesy.

Jennifer
Poly & Proud

the sit down talk

came home from work tonight and had on my mind some of the things I tell to those I'm looking to date or play with or have as poly & life partners. Here is a small sampling...

After being with someone intimately I'll freshen up or shower before seeing you. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When I have a date I'll tell you with whom, general plans and when I'm returning. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When returning from a date, I'll let you know that I'm safe and if anything else happened that you should know about. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

I will do my best to not surprise you with anything from my other relationships. I'll not fall in love with someone and tell you after I've figured it out. Once I know something to be true for myself, in a relationship of mine aside from ours, I'll bring it to the table so you'll never be caught completely off guard by my stuff. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

No one will ever know of our deep private times, I will never sacrifice us and share those times with any other. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Unless I ask to know one of your casual play partners, then I have no interest in knowing them. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

There will be no romantic phone calls to my other partners in front of you during our dedicated time together. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Kissing so big in today's culture and our community, when we're out together, I will not kiss and suck face with anyone other than you, without your consent. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

After a date of mine and there is a mess left behind; the after math of an afternoon of some sex, bondage, play and passion. You are soon to arrive, I'll go full steam putting everything away before you're arrival, because you deserve a fresh start to our time together, not watching me tidy from something or someone else. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

If I do something in public with another, you will be the first to know from my lips what it was, as you will never be left to hear something third hand. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

The hour we agreed to meet at, shall find me there waiting for you on time and prompt. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

If I need something from you emotionally I'll do my best to articulate it to you directly, maturely and away from others. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Should you ever ask me a question, know that honesty will be what drives my answer. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When times are hard, I'm angry or frustrated with us, I may leave the room to catch my breath but I will never walk away and leave you behind. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

In our relationship together, know that whatever I start with you, I vow to finish. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

To keep you safe I'll not share with others the things we do that I know are hard for you. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

When you have something to say, I will stop and not simply hear you, but actually stop and listen to you. Honor me with the same courtesy please.


You will be treated with respect and regard in public. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

I will not ask you to marry me. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

Whomever loves you, I will keep you safe for and return you to, in good condition. Honor me with the same courtesy please.

good night one and all,

Jennifer
Libido Events

domestic bliss

I've been in a domestic state of bliss this long weekend. Spending precious time alone with my daughter with no agenda and catching up on the zillion of little things that build up and never get dealt with around home.

Sponged the border in my daughters room, hung more photo's down the long hallway, cleaned the porch off, emptied out my car trunk, did laundry, caught up on personal calls and banking, bought groceries and back to school shopped. Cleaned out daughters closet and dresser drawers, made a pot of clam chowder soup from scratch and took some to my neighbor as he'd done me a favor awhile back. Vacuumed the house and cleaned up after the cat that we're looking after right now for kara.

September is In House workshop short for me as I prepare to unveil the Libido Events Vancouver Sexuality Empowerment Conference scheduled October 14-16. My time is so needed to work on the outside classes that I've been contracted to teach for other groups and of course finalizing details for the conference endeavor that between all of that, motherhood and poly partners, I'm done.

After the conference is over I'll resume a regular teaching schedule of In House classes/events. In the short term should you wish to hire me as a personal coach or guide in sex positive culture, please drop me an email as I am available for private work.

The advertiser on the front page of the Libido Events web site has changed, go and have look and then click through to see what wonderful products they offer.

Jennifer

PS. check out the new category on the right side of this page, scroll down a bit till you find "Toys In My Box"

the fair & a house guest

While seated in the stands of the Pacific Coliseum to watch the Super Dogs show with my daughter at the PNE - I was struck in my pink cowboy hat by a flying foam paw that was a freebie being thrown up into the stands. My pink cowboy hat being a magnet of course to this paw and fortune, was knocked right off my head and into the lap of the woman behind me. Hands of nearby children are reaching towards me trying to grab the paw, but once everyone sees that the paw has knocked my hat off and now the paw has landed straight into my lap. All hands retreat - the prize is mine.

My hat magically reappears alongside me and I put it atop my head while I'm turning to my daughter who is sitting next to me laughing uncontrollably at my predicament. Stopped laughing pretty quick when she realized I didn't want a foam paw so it was then to become her prize. What a day it was at the PNE for us today and a full day as well. We arrived at the Fair at 11:30 and left at 8pm. Got home and settled just in time for kara to arrive to come by for a visit & a cuddle before she left her cat with us for a week while she and her partner are away on holidays. We've never owned a cat before my daughter & I so this should be quite the little experiment. So far so good, kara is long gone and the cat has slowly settled in over the evening now.

night

Jennifer

asked on a date at work

At work this afternoon, standing alone in a mind set of work related non sex topics, reading a clip board before a shelf when suddenly next to me is a man. Tall, fit, good looking, dark hair, late thirties, he smiles warmly right at me, brightly, a flash of white teeth and enthusiasm, his eyes meet mine and lock in.

Hi he says. "I saw you last week when you were working here and I'd wanted to ask you something then, but then you left and I thought I'd missed the opportunity as I'd never seen you here before." sighs Now before I can say anything past hello to him, as he just paused for breath here, smiles at me again at which point his eyes light up and he says "I was wondering if I could ask you out on a date?" More smiling and he leans towards me a little and I hear myself say, "I'm so flattered, thank you so much for the kind offer, but I'm already taken. My partner a woman and I have been together for years now and are quite happy."

"Now that we've had this little visit, let me introduce myself I say to him", my name is Jennifer. I extend my hand to shake his as he tells me his name and continues to tell me how much of a struggle it is to meet someone these days and how he found me attractive, different and friendly and thought he'd try asking me out.

How sweet to be asked out on a date and by someone who has no clue what I do in the rest of my life as a sex activist. Very cool, made my day. He took my being partnered to a woman well and didn't bat an eye over it, thankfully. Why did I tell him I was partnered to a woman and not a man you might be wondering.

It goes like this, I prefer at work (at my day job) for being thought of as unavailable and by telling men I'm with a woman, well, word travels fast and I'm left alone for the most part from that meat market. Plus it's not a lie it's the truth, well the actual truth is that I have two women partners.

If I'd told him I was with a man then I would if interested enough in going out on a date with this new man, would have needed to have told him that I practice poly and I'm again not prepared to do that at work.

I also practice no false hopes. Lead no one on ever. If I'm here to talk & flirt you'll know the difference with me from when you feel my desire to seduce or fuck you. Say what I mean or what I want always, and do so with honesty & conviction. Be forthcoming about what I have to offer and not offer. Tell who I am, how I love and the boundaries that surround a relationship with me.

Lest we forget that I'm kinky beyond belief and with this fact alone in mind, I should never date anyone at work. Good practice for me.

And further to any of the above, how would I have explained my relationships with kara, Allena, Doug and Jim? ha

Jennifer

finding my groove

Sunday daytime, following Saturday nights Women's Only Naughty PJ Party (hot party, if you're a woman you should have been there) I had Doug come over to help me paint a room in my house. We did it successfully as well, it turned out great, one room, three walls of it, done in vibrant Tangerine. Took us 6 hours to do it from primer to second coat of paint and clean up but it was worth every second we spent painting and every ounce of energy. Plus, inbetween coats, waiting for the color to dry, well I got to have my way with Doug.

Picture a man, in a leather hood, laying on the gyn table in my room - feet up in stirrups and using words like Please & Ma'am a lot. Made for a fabulous afternoon of domestic chores mixed with sex play and I was running on adrenaline at this point as I'd been at the Women's Party the night before till 2 and not to bed till 3.

Doug left at about 4:30 Monday after painting and being done by me! I then had a chance to shower and work on the computer some before Jim arrived for the evening with me. (our last night alone together)

Jim thought he'd enjoy eating his dinner more, if he put his hot bowl on the flesh of my naked stomach. He had me lay a blanket on the living room floor and then he put his dinner on my stomach and he ate his dinner out of the bowl while sitting next to me on the floor watching tv.

When he finally finished eating I found myself bound in hemp rope and unable to move either of my legs as they were tied as columns to one another and spread wide. Nasty fun on the living room floor till I was finally untied and ordered off to the bedroom where we went and I was used till I fell asleep unable to register anything except two things...

1. I was laying in a very wet puddle of girl juice
2. I was exhausted

Jim went home yesterday just before noon and then I headed off to work. The routine of life back again as my daughter returned last night and as such the revolving door of poly around here will disappear until Christmas break now and every other weekend.

Today I'm working this afternoon and then home to be mom full time again. School goes back in next week, the return to our routine will be welcome for me and an interesting transition for my daughter and for those who've grown accustomed over the summer to my availability.

Jennifer

misogyny / misandry and love

Misogynist, meaning a woman-hater is formed on the Greek misogunes, from misein, meaning hate, misos, meaning hatred, and gune, meaning WOMAN. It first appeared in written English in 1620 (spelled misogenyst).

In 1980 Sheila Ruth Defined misogyny as a word which "includes the beliefs that women are stupid, petty, manipulative, dishonest, silly, gossipy, irrational, incompetent, undependable, narcissistic, castrating, dirty, over emotional, unable to make altruistic judgments, oversexed, undersexed....Such beliefs culminate in attitudes that demean our bodies, our abilities, our characters, and our efforts, and imply that we must be controlled, dominated, subdued, abused, and used, not only for male benefit but for our own." (Issues In Feminism: A First Course in Womens Studies, 1980)

It was not until 1946 that misandry, meaning hatred of men, from the Greek aner, andr-, meaning a man, entered the vocabulary.

It's important for me to tell you that I'm intelligent, precise, honest, practice privacy and excellent personal & professional boundaries, am clean, skilled at loving myself or finding partners willing to do so with me, rational, strong, independent and willing to take ownership for my own stuff.

Know that Jim thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world and is moved by my commitment and passion towards anything I touch or breath life into. He knows my strengths and encourages me to follow and pursue my dreams and lust. I'm by no means squashed in my relationship here where I give up control, but rather empowered.

No one has the right to control me or my body in any way, shape or form and I'd fight for this right if it was ever taken from me. I can give up the control for a moment or a relationship long, but no one has the right to me. I'm a woman capable of standing on her own and achieving much for my family and for a greater community. Not just things for myself but things for others to benefit and grow by as well. I'm a creator, visionary and a force.

So strong, so strong, oh yes I am! This is who I am, because this is who I've evolved in to being while dealing with life. Strong, proud and independent. Then Jim shows up and there is my submission pouring out of me...it's how I love, atleast in this relationship. Jim doesn't hate me, no no, rather the opposite, Jim, my Daddy, he loves me so much that he dominates and controls me; subdues and uses me for strictly his own pleasures, and controls areas whole areas of my life, self and body. Misogynist?? Nope, sorry wrong answer. Rather a loving BDSM relationship between two mature consenting adults.

Only in my relationship with Jim have I freely given up certain basic rights, privlidges and expectations. It's a gift that I give to him, my trust unwavering and with that, my body. Use me for your pleasure, but keep me safe, god help us both, keep me safe and I'll come crawling back over and over again for more of you if you'll love me in this way. Love me with discipline, rules, regard, respect, a heavy hand and I'll continue to give up that control so you no longer need to take it anymore, it's become a given.

In being used by my partner because this is what we've chosen as our love style, well this is nothing more than a miracle that we've found one another. It's while being used, when my mind has taken the leap of faith necessary to allow this to happen that I start feeling as though I'm being empowered and filled with life fuel. It's over these times that I've come to find my biggest strengths and to know my most ugliest truths.

There is beauty in finding someone to share yourself in this way, I'm fortunate enough to have found Jim and in him love, Daddy and a Sir. Some times the way that we love one another looks odd to others, let's just all remember that there are many different love styles.

Jennifer
who loves a little differently

PS right now my car is packed and I'm heading off to work all day from 11:30-6pm then drive straight to this evenings Womens Only Naughty Party - a sex positive event from 8-1am then home by 3 because Doug is arriving at 10 to help me paint a room in my house for the day!

non-sexist writing

When you call me Miss or Mrs.
You invade my private life,
For it's not the public's business
If I am, or was, a wife.

Anon, quoted in Miller & Swift The Handbook of Non-Sexist Writing

info & partner sharing

Last night I worked Privately with a couple in their home for a few hours. As this was my second time being hired by them so it was a smooth and easy evening of discussions on Dominance & Power along with suggestions as to how to put it into actual play for themselves.

Being a guide for others and sharing what I know is my passion, it's how I give back to a culture and community that has blessed me with so many gifts. Sharing myself and knowledge & guiding others without shame, but rather with joy and passion, is what makes me so attractive to others I hear both personally and professionally.

Sitting naked at the computer Blogging before I need to head to work from 11:30-6pm, then I'm off to have dinner with a friend. I'm off to meet Doug's wife for dinner.

It's good poly practice for me to have a relationship with my partners significant other and in this case, it's a wife. She's a really cool woman whom I'm enjoying getting to know better over time. How amazing is it, that she allows me the privilege of playing with her husband in BDSM and permits us our relationship? WOW, lucky woman I am and tonight is my chance to thank her again and to check in with her as sharing your partner is a big deal and needs to be honored in my world.

ah, and only because it's funny do I share this, but my dear friend J, phoned me at 10:50 last night for a booty call. Normally I'd kill someone for phoning me at home so late at night and especially for something as hedonistic as a booty call, but with my daughter away on holidays, I found the whole matter hilarious. Although I declined the invite, we did set a date to get together with one another. Happy Birthday to you today J!

Sometime late tonight when I get home it will be time for me to start packing up for this Saturdays Women's Only Naughty PJ Party A Sex Positive Event.

Time to get dressed as my day job is the only job that I have that requires me to wear clothes. Go figure!

blessings

Jennifer

private class & daddy time

Last night I taught Sex Tips From A Bi Sexual Woman at the studio and then drove straight home to Jim who'd driven up to spend the night the night here with me. We cooked steaks and corn at 11:00 at night, then crawled into bed and made love till 2 in the morning. Our schedules have been so full as of late that we've resorted to snatching time however and whenever we can get it together.

We rolled out of bed this morning awhile ago now and not without complaint on my behalf. I love sleeping with my Daddy and being cuddled up in his warmth is intoxicating for me and so pulling us apart is often difficult as I hang on tight and make known my displeasure. (ha, it's the little girl in me) I've already cleaned up the bins and toys from last nights class and gotten Jim well on the road to Olympia. This afternoon I work, then this evening I'm teaching a private class.

I was contracted a week or so ago to teach a 3 hour class on Women's Dominance / SM 101 to a woman privately in the city at her home. The class went great and she got a lot out of it and now this evening, I've been hired again. This time, she and her partner have hired me and are going to see me as a couple to explore, female submission and male dominance.

Since I work this afternoon till 6pm I will be driving straight from work to my evening appointment and returning to a home and bed all to myself. Daughter still away on holidays and no poly partners in sight, my bed will be my own tonight. The questions that remains is "what time will I actually make it into bed and away from the work in my computer?"

Jennifer

smart balls for the vagina-review

What follows is a Product Review

Looks so innocent, almost like a stress ball that goes in the palm of your hand and you squeeze. But no, these are Smart Balls, coated in elastomer which is an inert,
hypoallergenic rubber that's safe and nonporous and they get covered in a layer of lube and slid up into the vaginal cavity where they'll stay nestled away as long as you want to enjoy them you lucky woman you!

My Smart Balls came in yellow and pink and are covered in subtle grooves that make even the simple act of insertion fun to draw out and toy with. Pop in one and slide it back it out, pop another in and grab the cord and tug. Tug, again and again and again, not hard enough to pull them out, just hard enough to make them wiggle and please you.

Two balls connected slightly and each containing a smaller ball inside designed specifically to allow the balls to constantly be in motion & rolling silently while we're moving about, thus giving way to a heightened sense of awareness to our pelvic interior and their delicious movement. What a lovely feeling of fullness and movement roaming your insides for an intimate massage with the Smart Balls.

Subtle, so subtle you can wear this to work and easy to remove with a simple pull cord when your done with it. The cord is covered in hypoallergenic rubber that makes cleaning simple and drips non existent.

This month Tickled Pink Toys has these Smart Balls on for $34.95 Canadian

Tickled Pink Toys ships within 2 business days for in-stock items with 90% of orders shipping within 24 hours of order placement.

Shipping Information: Standard shipping within North America is free for orders over $100. They offer flat rate shipping of $10 within North America for standard shipping of orders under $100, plus express courier service of $20 within Canada, and $40 to the USA.

enjoy your pleasure seeking,

Jennifer
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